Dr. Rathi

NEGATIVE THINKING? DON'T DESPAIR, IT CAN BE CHANGED
When a person has been through difficult times like abuse, anger, fear, anxiety, alcoholism etc. In their lives, Often their mind starts having frequent negative thoughts and images which might say that “this the way life is and i cannot ever succeed in life and be happy”. The truth is that everyone has positive and negative thoughts as its normal. But some people tend to believe them as the universal truth and don’t see beyond the limiting nature of these thoughts. Such people will be fearful to make any changes in their life and often feel stuck in situations. They may experience an overwhelming amount of confusion and anxiety, which can be very detrimental in their wish to lead a satisfying and meaningful life.
For the person with social anxiety disorder (SAD), a social or performance situation may elicit thoughts such as "everyone can see how anxious I am" or "everyone is judging me". These thoughts often occur so automatically that the person is not aware of his pessimistic thinking.
People who are clinically depressed may experience bad thoughts more intensely, and view them as evidence that they are worthless or sinful people. The suicidal thoughts that are common in depression must be distinguished from negative thoughts, because suicidal thoughts can be dangerous.People who are depressed typically think in a biased, negative way. They have negative views of themselves (e.g. `I'm no good'), the world (e.g. `Life has no meaning') and the future (e.g. `I will always feel this way')

Negative thoughts like these have several characteristics. They are:
1. Automatic: they just pop into your head without any effort on your part;
2. Distorted: they do not fit all of the facts;
3. Unhelpful: they keep you depressed, make it difficult to change, and stop you from getting what you want out of life;
4. Plausible: you accept them as facts, and it does not occur to you to question them;
5. Involuntary: you do not choose to have them, and they can be very difficult to switch off.

Thoughts like these can trap you in a vicious circle. The more depressed you become, the more negative thoughts you have, and the more you believe them. The more negative thoughts you have, and the more you believe them, the more depressed you become. The main goal of cognitive therapy in counselling is to help you to break out of this vicious circle.

BECOMING AWARE OF YOUR NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
The first step in overcoming negative thinking is to become aware of your thoughts, and of their effects on you. Negative thoughts make you feel bad - anxious, sad, depressed, hopeless, guilty, angry. Instead of being overwhelmed by these feelings, you can learn to use them as a cue for action. Notice when your mood changes for the worse, and look back at what was running through your mind at that moment. Over the course of a few days, you will become more sensitive to changes in your feelings, and to the thoughts that spark them off. You may well find that the same thoughts occur again and again, because negative thoughts are repetitive in nature.

TYPES OF NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
1.MENTAL FILTER: When we notice only what the filter allows us to notice, and we dismiss anything that doesn’t ‘fit’. Like looking through dark glasses and saying that everything is dark and gloomy, not seeing that its actually sunny without the glasses on. Anything, which is more positive or realistic is sieved, ignored, dismissed or we make excuses for. Eg. A change in job means more problems.
2.MIND READING: We assume what the others are thinking about us and decide that they see us as a dumb and stupid person. Eg. My boss thinks that I am not capable
3.PREDICTION: believing that we know exactly what is going to happen in the future. Eg. I am going to fail this test.
4.COMPARE AND DESPAIR: We tend to see only the positive aspects of other people and in comparison, we see only the negative aspects of ourselves. Eg. My colleagues are so knowledgeable and skilled, whereas I have just started my career. Surely, the boss will favour them!
5.CRITICAL SELF: Putting ourselves down, blaming ourselves for situations and events that are not totally our responsibility. Eg. My son failed because I didn’t sit down with him to teach him.
6.SHOULDS AND MUSTS: Thinking or saying “I should”, “I must” puts a lot of undue pressure on us, setting us up for unrealistic expectations from self or others and may not be in touch with reality. Eg. I must always agree to what my father tells me to do.
7.CATASTROPHISING: Imagining that only the worst can ever happen if something doesn’t go our way. Eg. If I lose this job, then I will never get another good job.
8.EMOTIONAL REASONING: Sometimes, we tend to get swayed by our emotions and take decisions based on them, not realising that the emotional reaction is not in scale with the reality. Eg. If I am feeling bad, then it must be really bad. Or if I am feeling anxious, then I must be in danger.
9.MOUNTAINS AND MOLEHILLS: maximising the negatives or minimising the positives in any situation. Eg. The last time I went to the toilet, i slipped and fell... I will slip and fall every time I will go to any toilet.
10.JUDGEMENTS AND EVALUATIONS: Making judgements about events, ourselves, others, or the world, rather than describing what we actually see and have evidence for. Eg. My friends are always critical of the way I look and behave. They have never liked me for anything.
11. BLACK AND WHITE THINKING: believing that something or someone can only be good or bad, right or wrong rather than seeing anything in-between or “shades of gray”. Eg. My husband has never taken care of me and he’s always listening to his mother.
12.MEMORIES OF THE PAST: based on the experiences of the past, which were traumatic, we decide that we are in danger in the present, causing distress in the present. Eg. My boyfriend cheated on me, now I will never date again...all boys are like that.

Don't despair, if you find that you have many of these thinking patterns. Most of us have them. Remember, that these are just thoughts and they can be managed. By being observant, we can learn to challenge them and create more optimistic and helpful styles of thinking, which will elevate our mood and reduce stress and anxiety.
Counselling is a safe space where you can discover your negative thoughts, challenge them and modify them to suit your current needs and environment. This can help you to get more out of your life making you feel more in control, accomplished and satisfied.

Feel free to message me on personal chat for any questions and appointments. I do face to face and skype sessions too.

Such medicines increase appetite and helps in gain weight but has lots of side effect on health so its strongly advised to avoid such medicines. You can take Ayurvedic medicine for induce appetite and Do other health practices also like Regular exercise for muscle building Healthy, balanced and high protein diet. Take proper rest.

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How do you know that you have fat deposition. Obesity is not always related with fat deposition it may due to gas also, so get in touch with well qualified acupressure therapist near you and get the treatment.

It's safer to consult doctor and explore cause of your tachycardia I.e. fast beats. For tachycardia, yogasans help better than gym exercises. Practise shavasan and pranayam. Moderate exercise is also good.

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Hello lybrate User- hair fall and pimples both are associated with poor diet and daily schedule. Try this ayurvedic tips- a) Avoid fast food and go to bed before 10 pm. B) increase dairy products in your meals. C) Use Nili bhringadi hair oil daily and decrease the usage of shampoo as minimum as you can. D) Take Tab Arogya wardhini vati 1 Tab twice daily.

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Common cause of lack of sleep or no sleep (Insomnia ) is functional elements, psychological condition, and that need to be treated some time counselling could be helpful

I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.

Hello lybrate user hdl is protective lipoprotein for cardiovascular diseases. Meaning by which having a good hdl level is protective in itself but the reverse is not true. Many people have this misconception that having a low hdl level will harm them in some way. But having a low hdl level means that you have less protection it doesn't mean that you are at risk. Not having protection versus being at risk are two very opposite things. As you pointed out that your ldl level is 119. The optimum level for anybody is less than 100 and in case of diabetics the level should be less than 70. Having a high ldl level is indeed indicative of risk. Ldl is the bad cholesterol, it needs to be curbed. For this purpose either you can make diet adjustments or you can take medicine.

Hi. Dark circles can be temporary (means happens after any recent or chronic diseases or underlying medical condition, insufficient sleep, nutritional deificiency, working long hrs. on computer, lack of rest, stress/ tension, etc.) which can be improved by fixing the underlying cause or the problem or can be inherited from your parent's genes which can't be treated or cured! Management: Eat healthy and on time. Avoid junk. Drink plenty of water (as dehydration can cause dull or patchy skin). Sleep well. Wear anti-glare spectacles while working on computer. Reduce your stress/ tension through yoga, meditation or any other excercises (it not only improves your blood circulation, but also reduces the production of stress hormones by the body as well as increases happy hormones in the body). Use sunglasses regularly and not to forget to apply a thick layer of Bakson's Suncare Sunscreen liberally, 20-30 minutes before stepping out in the sun and apply the same again after 3-4 hours if you have exposure to sunlight for long hours. Take homoeopathic medicines - Cina 1M/ one dose daily at night for 10 days. Schwabe's Alfalafa Tonic/ 1 tsp thrice a day daily for 20 days and revert me back about the condition. Apply Bakson's Under Eye Cream twice daily (in morning and at night) and Medicynth's Whitch Hazel cream and Bakson's Under Eye cream twice - in morning and at night daily.

Pimples/ acne vulgaris is a chronic inflammatory skin disease which develops due to blocking of the hair follicles in skin. For pimples and to remove scars take following med. Berberis aquifolium q. X 14 days 20 drops twice in water. Use berberis aquifolium oin any company also drink plenty water. Have green vegetables. Stop oily food. Avoid night watching. Wash face with medimix soap 2/3 times per day. Contact me after 2 weeks.

Hi. Let me you about hairfall. In layman's language, hairfall can be divided into 2 types - temporary hairfall and permanent which is called 'Hairloss' rather and leads to bald areas of smooth and shiny surface. In temporary hairfall, hair grows back again from the same hair root, but in case of permanent hairloss, because of formation of DHT (Di- Hydro -Testosterone) around hair root it gets choked up which subsequently affects the blood supply to the hair and thus hair root is lost forever. Many factors are responsible formation of this DHT or hairloss- hereditary, post-illness/ ailment, post-delivery, post- chemotherapy, nutritional deficiencies, hormaonal imbalance, insufficient sleep, sudden loss of weight, stress/ tensions/ excessive anger any other underlying diseases, etc. Take diet rich in protein like non-veg., eggs, pulses, legumes, sprouts, nuts (sp. walnut and almonds), iron-rich food like green vegetables, also take flaxseeds, green tea, soyabean, fruits, salads, etc. Take proper 6-9hrs of sound sleep. Give up the habit of smooking and excessive alcohol intake. Avoid junk food and any kind of beverages (tea, coffee, aerated drinks, cold drinks, etc.) Avoid canned/ tinned food or food that contains preservatives (eat fresh ones). Avoid vigorous exercises or any supplements provided by the gym! Regular exercising is also one of the important point, but should be done under some good, qualified yoga teacher or instructor for proper guidance; it also releases the stress/ tension in the mind and the body and keeps you FIT and YOUNG!! Take homoeopathic Rx - Schwabe's Wiesbaden 200/ twice a day for 1 month and revert me back. Also, use Schwabe's Arnica shampoo and Hair Growth oil regularly as per the condition of your scalp (minimum 3 times a week). (N.B.: With the help of homoeopathic medicines, we can only prevent further progress of the hairloss, means it will get arrests in the present condition in case of progressive baldness).

Homeopathy can pass small calculi up to 8 mm and also can prevent from recurrence. Drink plenty water. Have some exercise.

Yes, you can donate blood, it is not bad and cannot effect the health. Your hemoglobin level should be 11.5 to 14 mg, so you can donate blood.

Mr Ayyaz, overflow incontinence is a condition of faulty bladder emptying, which leads to bladder being overfilled and it overflows(leaks). This needs catheter insertion and later treatment of the underlying condition. Please be clear of what problem you have. If kidney swelling has disappeared, thats great, but just confirm with a followup scan. None of this has anything to do with protein intake or building muscle.