Dr. Rashi Bijlani

She may be finding pleasure by talking to her. You ask her if she wants to marry you and then take a wise decision after analysing all aspects and discussing with her.

I think your mother needs help because her reactions to routine situations and happenings of life are not normal. Also I feel she has some problem related to her own personal life like marital or work related and that's why she is reacting. Relax she has no problems with you, its unintentional. Firstly you sit down with her (and please avoid blaming her for her reactions) and ask her how she is, give her a nice hug and talk to her about her daily routines, house work life and relationship with your father and other relatives. If you can not handle this then connect an expert in relationship/Psychotherapist for a talk with her. You may connect me or anyone nearby either online or in person. She will be alright once her stress is managed and relief measures are in place.

Relationships are based on trust. Talk to your husband openly and confess with him if you are at fault. Promise him that it will not repeat in future. In a marriage nothing should be confided. This will lead to misunderstanding. Make effort to show your love to him. Make him feel that your husband is very important in your life. Build confidence.

You cannot lose your memory at this age but because of your age your hormones may be still settling down. It normally takes two years depending when all this started. You can do nothing about it now but just bide the time and be responsible. At your age there may be a lot of distractions going on that may be the cause of the problem. Even so there are some things to do that will alleviate the situation, if you followed them meticulously. If you are under some stress, there will be difficulty remembering. So if you handled stress better, you will certainly improve. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is rested well to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. So, catch a good 8 hours of sleep every night. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out, if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. You may also meet with a counselor to take care of the stress related emotions, and then you will fare better too.

You may be under some stress from the last two years and have not dealt with it as yet. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory (of which you say you have no problem) is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly.

Hello, try to control your mood swings and keep the stress at bay! take homoeopathic medication - schwabe's bacopa monierri 1x/ thrice daily and kali phos. 6x/ once at night - take them for 4 weeks. Management: there are few yoga poses which helps in calming your mind and relieves stress. Exercises: practice shavasana or corpse pose as it looks like a dead body. If practiced correctly and with full efforts, can relax every body part, relaxing not only the body but also the mind: spread the legs one to two feet apart, the toes are turned outwards, the heels facing each other, a comfortable distance apart. Bring the arms a little away from the body, palms turned upward. Relax the neck and allow it to turn to the side if it is more comfortable. Close the eyes and focus the attention on the body, breathing normally. Begin focusing each body part and relaxing it, then moving on. Keep the mind focused on relaxation, the breath should be normal. Relax the whole body. (the mind and body are deeply connected. If the mind is occupied by thoughts and worries then the shavasana will be unsuccessful. Therefore one has to acquire the stability of the mind along with the stability of the body.) anuloma involves inhaling through both nostrils together and exhaling each breath alternately between the left and right nostrils. The thumb of the right hand is used to manipulate the right nostril, while the pinky and ring finger are used to control the left nostril. There are many other poses of yoga like balasan, setu bandha sarvangasan, uttanasan, garudasan, savasana, triconasana, viprita karani, marjaryasana, dhyana, bhujangasana, anulom-vilum, pranayam, etc. But first learn these under a qualified yoga-teacher as many poses are prohibited in certain diseases or medical conditions! another stress-buster can be getting involved in any of your hobbies (may be a childhood hobby which you used to enjoy a lot!) - dancing, singing, painting, listening to soothing music, playing musical instruments, etc.

Get your vision checked if not done already. Wear spectacles according to your vision and your problem will resolve. If it's persistent consult again.

Dear lybrate user. I can understand. At your age, memory problems like amnesia, dementia etc are not common. Many young people are having problems with memory. These problems are either they are too busy or due to anxiety and stress. Busy people use organizers or employ a personal assistant because they can't remember every task. You need to understand this. If you still say, you are having memory problems, we need to check your memory using memory test. If you want more of my help in this regard, please contact me. Take care.

Hi priya ,u should focus for your aim. Keep doing work hard and smart work too. Be calm relax do yoga always be happy n feel motivate you will get your goals n achieve definately. Good luck for future.

You have to forget the past and think positively . Try meditaion and yoga. For medication you can consult me in this iste

Hello, loss of memory, lack of concentration may cause due to stress, anxiety, over pressure of work, insomnia, malnutrition, some sort of serious diseases. Be, stress free, first. Go for meditation to reduce your stress, nourish your neurones to calm your nerve down to restore your memory, back. Tk, plenty of water free from contaminants to eliminate toxins &'regulate your metabolism to absorb protein, vitamins, minerals, energy & other important substance essential to upkeep, repair & energise the body, preventing constipation. Tk, easily digestible diet on time avoiding gastric disbalence which may produce negative feelings. Tk homoeo medicne: @ anacardium 30-6 pills, thrice orally. @ five phos 4x-4 tbs, thrice a day. Avoid, junk food, alcohol, nicotine, tk care, i'll love your feedback for further, follow up, please.

To improve memory, it's important to destress often by way of exercising, relaxing, meditation, holidays, playing sports, dancing, playing music etc. Whatever suits you and relaxes you. Also eating brain healthy foods to help the brain think clearly, remember and reproduce at the right time. For this you will need to stop junk foods like maida, high sugar and fatty foods, processed foods, cold drinks. Brain healthy foods are good quality proteins, omega 3 fatty acids in fish, poultry, eggs, vegetables and fruits. Nuts and oilseeds are a rich source of this. Your brain also needs vit b 12 to function well. Make sure that you have enough of this in your diet. If you have any stress in life and don't get good sleep then you will tend to forget. Counselling is an excellent way to work through your stress and learn coping and managing skills, tips and techniques and feel more confident and in control of yourself and your environment.

Dear lybrate-user, You seem to have a sexual fetish. It is not a serious illness by itself unless you feel compelled to act on your fantasy. That would be a problem. Also your fantasy seems to cause you guilt and you are not comfortable with it. I would also need to know how this is affecting other areas of your life. CBT (cognitive behaviour therapy) should help you overcome your problems. Kindly consult a psychiatrist for CBT regarding your fetish. Several treatment sessions could be required and a close follow up is essential till you overcome the problem. As such consulting a local doctor is advisable. However for your information I've been able to help one patient based in the US who had similar problems and who could overcome it with help from me. He is now happily married.

Yes, you are right that from inside you could be ruining yourself. You have to take some action and move heaven and earth to get him out of his habit or face divorce. This may sound harsh but this is called tough love. You will be encouraging the addiction and his gradual wasting away of his life. You have to be firm with him. If you continue in this relationship without acting on it, you will be responsible for the negative outcome that is guaranteed. In fact, you are considered a co-dependent and will have some issues related to his addiction as an enabler. He needs to be admitted to an institution for at least six months and resolve his addiction. You can get his parents involved if he does not listen to you. As you admit there is nothing in this marriage for you, and if you continue to accept this lifestyle you could become depressed and may suffer a breakdown. Act fast and effectively.

Hello, take Rhus tox 200 Ch , 5 drops once daily. Alpha MP , 15 drops with hot water twice daily. Revert me after 7 days.

Dear , you must be able to distinguish between mental disease and mental disorder. Your problem is a mental disorder. Not a mental disease. These mental disorders are usually treated with a combination of medicines and other means like awareness, meditation, psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. I think two or three counseling sessions and psycho therapy techniques should solve your problem.

You can use ginseng power, grape juice, vitamins a, c & e content foods, ginger and water whenever you craving for smoking.

You have to quit cold turkey because the body and mind will torture you endlessly while attempting reduction in smoking. The tobacco tar in cigarette smoke lines your lung with huge patches that make that portion dysfunctional. Your oxygen carrying capacity is jeopardized, and breathing is impinged. But dont be discouraged because it is not too late even now to reverse all the ill-effects of smoking. I dont know what other organs could be damaged but do go for a thorough medical check up to assess the effects of your abuse. Regarding improving your lungs, do a lot of aerobic exercise breathing through your nostrils only. Then there are a lot of deep breathing exercises in yoga which you can learn too. Deep breathing cleanses your system and lungs and restores it to good health. Deep breathing uses the 80% of the lungs which are not normally used in normal breathing and even when exerting yourself. The greatest effect is in the lungs because this substance is processed through the respiratory system directly through the lung surface. When quitting, you must take one day at a time; though you must give up all smoking at once, and promptly. If you look too far ahead you will get discouraged and will give up. If you sit and count the number of days you have given up, that will also focus too much on achievement. You must focus on the here and now, on that day to be precise. After all quitting is not that easy due to many factors. So even if you fail one day, you must try and try again. Very few people succeed in their first attempt. Your persistence will eventually pay off. The urge to discontinue is hampered by many factors but the worst of them is the conditioning. In fact these conditions can exist all through the day unlike other addictions. But your desire to want to stop is the most important factor. It is important to find out about the ill-effects of smoking to have a reason that alarms you about continuing in the habit. The information is really scary but true and you must remind yourself about this every day. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heart beat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. So you must avoid it like the plague: it is just very bad medicine for you. In fact it is highly toxic too. You will need to stop smoking or consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. You may also take hard candy or chewing gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine gums and nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may also join smokers anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i. E. At least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Heres a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest.

Dear, you are already 57. The check ups you should receive are blood routine, lipid profile, blood serum creatinine, blood sugar levels fasting and after food, ecg, lung function test, stress test and thyroid tests. The given tests are general. According to your condition, the physician could prescribe for some other tests. Please consult a md (medicine) physician. Take care.

You are going through grief, which is normal after loss of a loved one. Time is the healer for the emotional and behavioral changes, however if your depression is severe enough to affect you in a significant manner, kindly consult a psychiatrist for short term antidepressant medication, depending on the complaints.