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Dr. Neelam Kumar Bhora

MBBS, Doctors of Podiatric Medicine (DPM), MD

Psychiatrist, Delhi

50 Years Experience  ·  1200 at clinic
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Dr. Neelam Kumar Bhora is a popular Psychiatrist in Friends Colony, Delhi. He has been a practicing Psychiatrist for 50 years. He is a MBBS, Doctors of Podiatric Medicine (DPM), MD . He is currently practising at Bohra Neuro Psychiatric Centre in Friends Colony, Delhi. Book an appointment online with Dr. Neelam Kumar Bhora on Lybrate.com.

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MBBS - Sawai Mansingh Medical College, Jaipur (SMS College), - 1967
Doctors of Podiatric Medicine (DPM) - Ranchi University, - 1970
MD - Ranchi University, - 1972
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Delhi Psychiatric Society
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I am 35 years old past 6 years I am suffering from panic attack like fear of death. please give some examples to overcome.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am 35 years old past 6 years I am suffering from panic attack like fear of death. please give some examples to over...
Having panic attacks for so long you could be quite disturbed and need to meet with a counselor immediately. On that person’s advice you may have to meet with a doctor and get on medication if so advised. Even so you must continue with the counseling to develop coping mechanisms to face the daily challenges of life. Because you are not handling fear well, you tend to over-react to normal fear with abnormal panic attacks. Then your panic reaction, which is fear based, irritates you easily and gets you angry. In other words the anger/irritation is an escalation over the fear. This is not advisable and it is happening because you are not dealing well with the panic. Anger is a cover-up feeling for the fear, and people may mistakenly respond to the anger whilst the scare remains unresolved and it may also increase because of the discomfort you have caused to others with the anger!!! About the issue itself: Do you know if this is a family trait, or is the family by anyways less to socialize, or have you had any problem with fear because of some family or childhood experience? Have you ever been embarrassed in public by someone that it has left an indelible mark in your personality? You can take the answers to these questions to a counselor and resolve the same. Any way you must deal with your fear of people and it will be the best solution to your problem. You need to change your perception of the fearful stimulus then you can change your response to the fear. The first one is the best and will preempt the need for the second. If you are already far gone into the reaction mode, then you need both responses to counter the attack. The way we see things in life (like half empty or half full glass) is very dependent on our attitude. Attitude may have developed over many years but fortunately can change in a matter of sustained choices made and acted up on now. Accordingly you choose to see things as either threatening or as an opportunity. The opportunist will be positive and work with the situation to make good out of it. The individual who sees it as threatening, will, out of fear, try to avoid/run away from the situation or react with anxiety. Yes, self-belief does impact it too, but you can see that prior to that, perception will tarnish the belief system too. Here, you can see that all the resolution lies in just changing your perception/attitude, even if it is against odds. Changing your response, despite the perception, is building up of your reserves and resources to handle any contingency that life throws up at you. And life throws up situations quite regularly and heavily. In the meantime do some confidence building exercises by attending a personality development course, public speaking skills course (I suggest you join the Toastmasters Club), work out at a gym to build good self-image, and join social events to practice your skills. Surprisingly many people are often in the same boat as you, and so you are not alone. The very people you are intimidated by may be afraid of you too, though not to this extent!!!! There are three important developments to have to make an autonomous personality: Awareness, intimacy and spontaneity. If you are super aware or too conscious of yourself, it will affect the intimacy and spontaneity. Although your problem is now directly to do with intimacy, you can see that they are all connected. Go and work on these matters with a counselor for this level of panic reaction to disappear from your life for good.
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I have smoked for 18 months. N my age is 16 so can I recover my lungs complete as it was previous.

MBBS, MD (AIIMS, Gold Medalist), Diploma in CBT (UWS, Glasgow)
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Yes, it is good that you have decided to quit early. 18 months of smoking obviously causes damage depending upon the number of cigarettes smoked per day, but much of the damage can be reversed if you quit now. Best of luck!
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How should I deal with depression. Its been over 4 years now. And my state of mind is still there in the past. Any suggestions regarding this?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
How should I deal with depression. Its been over 4 years now. And my state of mind is still there in the past. Any su...
My guess is that you are probably not going for counseling in tandem with the medication. If I am right then please start counseling immediately and avail of the help you need to handle the daily challenges and stresses of a person in depression in order to cope with them effectively. Being in depression your sleep patterns will often get terribly disturbed. In fact I will not be surprised to know that your natural biorhythms will also be skewed up. The natural wake up cycle for the human is between 4 and 6 am. Many people who are depressed do not adhere to this regimen and the whole day can then become so out of sync that you will suffer jetlag-like stress and will not ever know about it. Do get back to the natural rhythm soon. You can follow these simple rules too: Have a good night’s sleep by going to bed early, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love: find someone to love and to love you back. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive everyday and learn to be contended with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly.
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I've Photosensitive Epilepsy. I've been treating with gabapentin 300mg bd for 2 years It doesn't work well Please tell me what should I do.

AUTLS, CCEDM, MD - Internal Medicine, MBBS
General Physician, Faridabad
-Medical treatment in form of sodium valproate is available to reduce the sensitivity in PSE, -avoid situations in which u might be exposed to stimuli that trigger seizures and/or take steps to diminish ur sensitivity (as by covering one eye) if unavoidably exposed. These actions together can reduce the risk of seizures to almost zero for many PSE patients.
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Because of some personal reasoning I have suffered from moderate anxiety for 6 months and after that 3 years of mild anxiety when I was a teen (from age 15 to 19). After the anxiety I lived happily for 7 years but after 7 years I have again suffer 2 months of moderate and 10 months of mild anxiety because of some reasons. Now I am fine but I have heard constant anxiety causes hippocampus to shrink and now I am worried about my brain that does It has shrinked. I feel my memory and other functions are normal. Please tell me is it possible that after nearly 5 years of anxiety my brain didn't shrinked if yes then why it didn't shrinked.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Because of some personal reasoning I have suffered from moderate anxiety for 6 months and after that 3 years of mild ...
Hi lybrate-user, traumatic experiences can shrink the hippocampus in those who don't recover. You have anxiety disorder which has not been left untreated. You have sought treatment and lived a happy life without medication also. Whenever there is some stress it can trigger the symptoms again. Don't overthink about shrinkage of hippo campus. You are functioning normally and thats what matters. Please take psychotherapy from a psychologist to relieve the fear and manage anxiety. All the best. Consult for same.
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I'm feeling as if I should run away from my place & stay at any jungle in middle where nobody can listen me & I'll be alone totally & I want to go to top of the mountain & scream as loud as I can & when I go angry I feel as if I would kill someone I start making planning to kill even of my mom & dad & I'm completely not knowing what is right & wrong at that time & sometimes I become absent as if my partner says something & I don't know what she is saying & I go angry very easily.& always I get fear of cancer & dangerous diseases. What do I've? what should I do?

BHMS
Homeopath, Surat
I'm feeling as if I should run away from my place & stay at any jungle in middle where nobody can listen me & I'll be...
Practices meditation and prnayama will help you. Start writing your thoughts in paper your diary so that your internal feeling will come out. Whatever the thoughts just write down. In night start writing your positive thoughts in a diary, start the incidences of the day from which you get happiness. And start homeopathic treatment or bachflower treatment. Be patience with treatment and be confident of yourself. You will be perfectly alright. No need to worry. Take care Dr. Nikunj gupta.
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Dear, sir I am a mbbs student. My problem is mind is always forgetful. How to solve.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Your brain is like a muscle. You need to exercise it regularly. The exciting thing is that you don’t have to be a millionaire to increase your brain capacity. All you need to do is invest a little time to regularly train your brain. So what can you do? Here are 10 simple ways you can increase your brain power and improve your intelligence! 1. Do something new When you experience something ‘new’ you actually ‘stimulate’ your brain! Don’t get stuck in a rut doing the same old things – the only way to change the structure of your brain is to do something new. This creates new neural pathways, increasing your intelligence. You could take a new route to work, try a new recipe for dinner, or even a new form of exercise – mix it up! 2. Exercise regularly It’s been proven that regular exercise helps to increase brain function and enhances neurogenesis. This means that every time you exercise you are creating new brain cells! Get off the couch and get moving! Your brain will thank you for it :) 3. Train your memory How often do you hear people say “I wish I had a better memory!’ Yet no-one does anything about this! If you discipline yourself to memorise phone numbers and other important numbers (passport, credit card, insurance, driving license) you will start to see a marked improvement in your memory 4. Be curious Instead of taking everything at face value, get into the habit of questioning everyday things/products, services that you come into contact with. By being ‘curious’ and questioning everything, you force your brain to innovate & create new ideas. Curiosity may have killed that cat, more importantly it created super important things like electricity and computers! 5. Think positive Stress & anxiety kill existing brain neurons and also stop new neurons from being created. Research has shown that positive thinking, especially in the future tense, speeds up the creation of cells and dramatically reduces stress & anxiety. Try and get a handle on negative thoughts and make an effort to replace them with positive ones. 6. Eat healthy Our diets have a HUGE impact on brain function. Our brains consume over 20% of all nutrients & oxygen that we consume – so remember to feed your brain with the good stuff! (i.e. fresh fruit and veg & plenty of OMEGA 3 oils found in oily fish) 7. Read a book Reading relieves tension & stress (brain-cell killers) because it’s a form of escapism. Research has also shown that using your imagination is a great way to train your brain because you force your mind to ‘picture’ what you are imagining. Reading is a great way to trigger your imagination! 8. Get enough sleep Sleep is like a mini detox for the brain. This is when your body regenerates cells and removes all the toxins that have built up during the day. Get to bed between the hours of 9pm and midnight to benefit from the most effective hours of sleep! 9. Ditch the GPS Gone are the days of map reading! Sat Nav may have made our lives easier, it has also made our brains lazier and less efficient at the same time! Go back to the old school and use a map to navigate every now and then (this exercises the part of your brain responsible for understanding spatial relationships). 10. Ban the calculator Remember back at school when we were taught to use our brains to do simple sums like times tables?! It’s incredible how we now rely on devices like smart-phones and laptops to calculate really simple equations. Resist the urge to work things out using an external device – and use the device you were born with – your brain!
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My friends wife, age 60 is suffering from dementia. Can it be cured or checked by homeo treatment?

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Vadodara
Hi, yes there is complete curative treatment for this problem without any side effects, you can contact me personally so that we can start with detailed case taking.
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How can I rid off from smoking And what are the side effects of sudden stop of smoking.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You must try and try again. Very few people succeed in their first attempt. Your persistence will eventually pay off. The urge to discontinue is hampered by many factors but the worst of them is the conditioning. In fact these conditions can exist all through the day unlike other addictions. But your desire to want to stop is the most important factor. It is important to find out about the ill-effects of smoking to have a reason that alarms you about continuing in the habit. The information is really scary but true. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heart beat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. So you must avoid it like the plague: it is just very bad medicine for you. In fact it is highly toxic too. You will need to stop smoking or consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. You may also take hard candy or chewing gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may also join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here’s a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world – you can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest. You will get easily agitated and develop a short fuse. If you used a nicotine patch a lot of these withdrawal symptoms will cease.
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My wife aged 47 years is suffering from depression (i doubt) need counselling please help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My wife aged 47 years is suffering from depression (i doubt) need counselling please help.
She must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that she meets with a doctor she must do so and cooperate to her utmost. Please visit these professionals along with her parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because she could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest she does the opposite of what this depression makes her feel like doing (actually, not doing): she will need to fight this condition and you will need to give her a lot of support. She must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer herself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose herself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in her life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If she did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate her sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use her own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, she needs to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get her out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate her, all the hard word must come from her, and her cooperation with that person is very critical for her success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what she has. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please get her to cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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I am having trouble with controlling my emotions, trust issues aslo I used to have anger management issue as a child, I somehow managed to control it but not it's also resurfacing. I get agitated quickly.

MBBS
Sexologist, Mumbai
I am having trouble with controlling my emotions, trust issues aslo I used to have anger management issue as a child,...
Hi lybrate-user, Getting easily agitated and angry is not only troublesome for you, but harmful for relationships. Your underlying cause can be unraveled by a competent counselor/doctor. Do not expect that with time this will disappear on its own. It can only aggravate with time. Either meet a counselor personally or at least seek consultations on phone at the earliest. Best wishes
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Tips to Deal With Ocd

M.D Psychiatry , DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Tips to Deal With Ocd

OCD or Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is an anxiety disorder, which can be indicated through obsession, having pervasive thoughts or thoughts, which may upset you, having certain compulsions, and practicing certain rituals, which may help to control or manage your obsessions. It is a disorder, which cannot be cured, but can be controlled with the help of treatment. Mostly, OCD is considered to be a lifelong disorder. It often circulates around the fear of germs or sickness and around keeping order and maintaining patterns. A person suffering from OCD can often be extremely annoying. Hence here are a few tips you can use to deal with OCD:

1. Understand OCD: The first step towards dealing with OCD is to know what you have to deal with. Gather as much information as you can about OCD and also read up about how you can overcome it. You need to know the symptoms of OCD so you can identify the disorder. Almost everyone suffers from OCD at one point of their lives. Hence, it is extremely important to understand OCD in order to treat it.

2. Work with your compulsions: Do not get petrified about your compulsions if you are planning to overcome your OCD, instead work with them. Try not to encourage their development. If you are worrying about whether you have switched of the lights, try and develop a mental picture of you doing it. If you are able to get a clear picture, then you have, otherwise you can go and switch it off. Another option is to maintain a list where you tick off the activity once you have done it so that you don't have to worry about it later on. 

3. Maintain a journal: Maintaining a journal will help you curb your fears and negative thoughts. Write down all your obsessive thought and reflect on how they are affecting you and whether they are worth your worry or time. Gradually you will see that you are able to control these thoughts and will be able to push away any negativity which comes along with them.

4. Remind yourself about the good in you: Make this your regular practice. Do not undermine yourself, instead make yourself feel good. This will help you to get over the fact that you have done something wrong in your daily activities (like not turning the gas off when you actually have) and that wrong is going to harm people.

Chronic OCD will require therapy and medical assistance. Hence if you are able to detect the signs at an early level and are able to adopt the above measures to control it, then going to a doctor might not be necessary.

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Hello doctor, does binaural beats will help to overcome depression? I want to focus on work an be alert.

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Hello doctor, does binaural beats will help to overcome depression? I want to focus on work an be alert.
Dear Abhishek, By itself binaural beats may not help fully. But along with Venlift 150 mg, it may help to further becoming alert. However no harm in trying it. You can try other treatment like rTMS and cognitive enhancement therapy.
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Sir just I am asking to local Dr. to how to increase a memory power gives tablet name is Xantrin. It's really working In increase memory power?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, welcome to lybrate. Memory and mind power depends mainly on three aspects. Understanding, storage and recollection. To understand what you are studying, you must be able to be attentive or concentrate. Concentration is possible when you are interested in that subject. Creative way of learning can help you concentrate and understand easily. When you are able to understand and concentrate, it is stored within your brain. If you read more and more it will be store in long term memory. Third part is retrieval. Whenever you want to retrive what you learned and stored, your brain gets the request, searches the database and retrieves the information for you. The retrieval may prove to be difficult if you are anxious, stressed, worried or tired physically or mentally. Retrieval is more easy when you are relaxed and healthy. Brain needs nutrients to keep itself sharp. Fruits, vegetables and dry fruits provide much needed nutrients for your brain. Include at least one fruit in your daily diet. Physical exercises, entertainment, hobbies, relaxation, memory games like sudoku etc help keep your memory sharp and active. Take care.
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1) I'm very much depressed due to not clear C.A. Exam thought pass in all subject but short in aggregate. 2) I'm B.com (H) passed with distinction but un- employed due to C.A. Degree. What should i do?

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Delhi
1) I'm very much depressed due to not clear C.A. Exam thought pass in all subject but short in aggregate. 2) I'm B.co...
Lybrate-user, you should not lose heart in not able to clear your ca exams. Failures are always stepping stone to success. You have to either work doubly hard for next attempt or look at alternative career/ degree options in consultation with family or friends as you feel convinced. Life may have its up and downs but take it in stride and work harder.
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Sir I am suffering from throat infection since 3 years. I have consulted with many doctors. But there is no improvement. By profession I am a teacher and I have to speak every time. May be this is the reason of problem. I feel itching and irritation in my throat every time. Can you advice me something.

BHMS, DEMS
Homeopath, Pune
Sir I am suffering from throat infection since 3 years. I have consulted with many doctors. But there is no improveme...
Common cause of an itchy throat then is dehydration which causes the throat to become dry and hoarse as the body can no longer produce mucus. The obvious solution to this dehydration is to drink water. Similarly other behaviours can strain your throat – such as shouting loudly, singing loudly (and using incorrect technique – and snoring. Some medicines (antidepressants among others) and smoking which coats the throat in tar .
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Respected Doctors, I am seeking for a great support from all of you. My husband age about 31 yrs, Height 5.6 inches, Weight 86 kgs, he consumes alcohol every day around 360 ml and meet (Chicken, beef and other oily junk foods like bhaji, Gobi Manchurians etc.) as well. Tried advising him by me and family members and taken him to de-addiction center still he is very determined not to stop. And tried giving him de-addiction powder of 3 tins without knowing still no development in his habits. Some more health issues he is facing details given below: # He is having BP – 140/105 pulse & cholesterol around 400, no sugar. # His legs are getting swollen by evening (His working style is sitting on chair at one place around 8 hrs), Lots of leg, neck, back pain is too much every day massage is required to legs at least to sleep. # His tummy also very big like a pot. Face and other body parts are also looks bulky even though he wont do any exercise and sit’s at one place after reaching home immediately starts drinking and sitting in one place he wont move little as well. There will no movement at all to the body. # he will not like to go to hospitals as well if we try to ask him, then we are unable to face his scoldings and not able to take as well to hospital. My request is to advise any medicine which will stop carving to consume alcohol, since he is very determined not to stop so that I can mix in his food consumption or any other source. Due to his addiction family happiness is drained out and relations between family members are also slowly vanishing. Request you to kindly advice the best solution I will be very thankful to you.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Respected Doctors,

I am seeking for a great support from all of you.
My husband age about 31 yrs, Height 5.6 inches,...
You have all my sympathies and I am very concerned that your husband has not reached what we call, ‘Hitting Rock Bottom’ as yet. To me his Rock Bottom seems to be death i.e. only death can stop his addiction! Anyway do not despair as yet and you may attempt the following and see how it works: I know you have tried a de-addiction center but he should not have been released if he was not ready. So in this attempt, he may be taken to another de-addiction center that are stricter and will also have follow up treatment and AA meetings for him to compulsorily attend. There is a medicine called disulfiram, which only the doctor can prescribe and it is very powerful that even if he attempts to drink a small quantity, he can have serious reactions that may sometimes entail hospitalization. You have to monitor his intake of the medicine and keep a close watch on him. He also has to go for regular counseling for at least three years! Apart from his health he will also affect the family and all his children will carry genetic factors for alcoholism. If he is into business or working, he will soon not be able to continue and he will go into financial ruin. He will lose all his friends and become ostracized by his society. He will lose his dignity, self-esteem, self-confidence, and become a misfit. He will also lose his sexual capacity, liver function, heart function, kidney etc. Now it is difficult to give up because he has become addicted to alcohol and has a lot to do. Under such circumstances it is best that when you admit him into a de-addiction center that you let him stay there for at least 6 months and after that attend counseling with a professional. The consumption of antabuse has to be carefully monitored to see that he not only consumes the medication but is also avoiding alcohol. Ultimately, it is his will power and the support that he receives from the medical fraternity and his close and dear ones. He must also learn to substitute and deal with the oral need, a rigid value system, the script issue, and of course take a look at all the genetic factors to plan a strategy not to get into what is called ‘cross addictions’ i.e. another form of addiction that may appear alright but is in fact as bad as the primary addiction. The center or hospital and the counselor will advise and guide him on several measures and precautions he will need to take to stay with his resolve. Even after the rehabilitation he must attend AA meetings and continue this support for a long time. The family will also need to attend some sessions and go for Al-anon meetings for their co-dependency issues. He cannot be treated in isolation because the family has gotten used to his drinking and have made some unhealthy adaptations to somehow cope. The children will also have to attend meetings to work out their issues because of the father’s habit. In fact, they are all suffering from the Adult Children Of Alcoholics Syndrome (ACOAs), which in effect means that they are genetically predisposed to alcoholism or can have cross addiction problems and that they will have similar traits of the abusing alcoholic but in a milder form. There are special support groups for them all over the world. Should they touch or indulge in alcohol or any addictive substances or behaviors, they could also become full-fledged addicts themselves. Now you should not give up on him but neither should you harass him. Be continuously after him and in the end you will succeed. His medical condition warrants a very strict course of action. In case he is not cooperative, then there are some centers that will come and pick him up when he is totally drunk and take him by force. They will however need to get written permission from you and the family.
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Hi I'm a male I always think of looking handsome and good looking and look fair and handsome so that girls look at me and I girl comes after me but I feel or get depressed that I'm not good looking and handsome or fair looking please tel me or help me wat should I do or please help me with this.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi I'm a male I always think of looking handsome and good looking and look fair and handsome so that girls look at me...
It is wonderful if you are fair and handsome but character development is more important. In fact, if you are selected on the basis of your looks, you are to be pitied because that relationship will not last. Looks can be temporary in durability: looks fade away and is too dependent on the beholder's view. Even when you look for a suitable girl, do not base it on her looks alone. Very little of compatibility is based on physical attributes. There are five areas for consideration: the physical, emotional, mental, social and the spiritual. You need to focus in all these areas to be truly appealing to a girl. You must learn to carry yourself well, dress well, speak well, and be a cheerful person. Your education is going to reflect in your behavior and speech: develop them instead. Improve your values and your outlook in life, and above all improve your character. These are prevailing features that a girl will continue to love and admire for a long time!
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I am 28 yr women. I have a 8 yr old daughter. My husband always fight with me and my daughter's behavior also changed what can I do?

M.D,Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Amritsar
Go for couple counselling. Discuss your issues with eacb other. Go for outing on holiday. Have good physical relation.
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