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Hi I'm 26 years old male and for some reasons i'm stopped talking to others, even if I like to talk to others i'm simply ignoring to talk. Please suggest me how I can come out of this?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
It seems that you are scared to talk to people. The desire is there but the fear is crippling you. You need to meet with a counselor to deal with this fear and learn how to express the feeling as well as to reach out. Are you afraid that you may not speak well, or that your ideas are not that good, or that people will judge you, or that they will find out about how poor you are intellectually, etc? these are unnecessary dialogues you have and they are not true at all. When people are in conversation, we are listening to information and how you present the same. You are very harsh on yourself and have decided, for some reason, that you are not good enough. Start talking to people at home first, particularly children, and slowly grade up to older teens and then to adults, as you build confidence. If you prepare and rehearse the conversation you are likely to have, you will do very well when you actually do it. Now there is no guarantee that whatever you prepared is going to be the exact conversation but since you are prepared most of the conversation will go according to script and the rest will be easy to handle because they will be minor deviations from the main course. You could attend the toastmasters club, and go for conversational skills courses too. Good social practice will eventually see you through. Nothing will happen, if you are passive about this. Besides it is bad manners; and additionally people will misjudge you thinking you are a snob and you have an attitude, if you don't speak to people!
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I have habit of chewing tobacco (pan prag) for the last 30 years Please advise me how to stop it. I tried several times but in vain. I am helpless. My age is 56.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If it is Pan Parag and gutkha products, they are both very dangerous. I am so glad that your intention is to quit these habits. There are no guarantees about stopping one’s addiction. But that does not mean we should not keep at it, over and over again until we succeed. Both are tobacco products and therefore, have addictive components to them. It may feel like you can’t stop but that it really not true. If you do not try, then it will never happen. You must try and try again until you succeed. The problem with addiction is that you have two products which are both conditioned to various events in your daily life and as such it will make it difficult but not impossible. You could work with an addiction counselor to help you process the rehabilitation. It is important to first find out about the ill-effects of tobacco use to have a reason that alarms you about continuing in the habit. The information is really scary and true. The nicotine in tobacco stimulates the heartbeat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. So you must avoid it like the plague: it is just very bad medicine for you. In fact, it is highly toxic too. You will need to stop consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. Nicotine also reduces the erectile capacity of your penis to hamper satisfying sex. You should start vigorous exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. You need to replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. You may also take hard candy or chew gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the tobacco drive reduces, substantially. Both will help but I am inclined to favor the gum because it is an oral habit and it will occupy the mouth just as though you were still chewing tobacco. When you want it will be easier to give up the gum. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-users for some time i. E. At least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit consuming Pan. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest.
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Hlo I wanted sharp my mind please tell me some solutions I am studding in bsc but I can't meditation in study.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician, Alappuzha
Research-based strategies to boost your memory and keep it strong 7 Strategies for Remembering and sharp mind 1.Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2.Find a way to leverage your visual memory. You'll be surprised by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3.Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical. 4.Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. 5.When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6.Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. Suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study—afternoon appearing to be the best. 7.Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night after you've studied but the day, you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam.
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Hello doctor . the remembering power of my mind is very less. If I learn one thing and then another after some time the first washes out from my mind. And this is very harmful for my study. So I want to gain my remembring power of my mind. So please tell me something effective.Thank you doctor.

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Practice yoga and meditation. You have to stop worrying about it, start concentration on your schedules and try repeat in your mind once at least. And recall frequently if you wish or follow a diary with plan for the day/ thing to do/ learn. Once you try this frequently you will remember better. Keep up up physical health and mental rest fully frequently. Practice mental relaxation and breathing exercises.
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Sir I am a 25 year old boy. Is there any sideaffects of smoking marijuana? I smoke 4 marijuana cigarettes per day.

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
Dear, please make a strong decision to win over this bad habit of marijuana. It is proved that intoxicant like marijuana is very harmful. Marijuana is very bad.
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Sir I am suffering from homosexuality pls give me any solution to avoid boys and I want feelings on girl s.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Sir I am suffering from homosexuality pls give me any solution to avoid boys and I want feelings on girl s.
Since you are young, do not be fooled by the orientation right away. At this age and due to many factors both environmentally and naturally, you could be driven into a choice that appears natural but is only in that guise to distract you from what is suppressed. So wait for some time and see if this is your true leaning and then you can pursue it. Talk to a sexologist too and get the full understanding of sex and sexuality; which is physical primarily for the former and the latter incorporates femininity and masculinity. There are some beautiful subtleties that need to be grasped and when you are in the full know of these aspects, your decision could be in the right perspective. There are many factors that may have influenced this gay mindset. It could be due to genetic factors; mixed parenting roles between mother and father; an over-bearing father/mother; you may have cultivated the drive when we are all in that phase between 7 years to 14 years when we tend towards homosexual contacts with our peers as a social adaptation; You may have had gay exposure at some time in your life; you may have had too much of male exposure during a considerable part of your life; You could have cultivated more of anima than animus and vice versa depending on the role you have identified with; and it may happen because of some social development when you may have found it easier to relate to boys than to girls. These are some of the reasons that I can think of right now. If you do not like it, don’t just resist it because that will make you want it more. Instead talk to a sexologist and understand these orientations and get some education on sex and sexuality to know what your urges are all about. Then he could propose some measures to take to cultivate your heterosexual drives instead. In the meantime, do spend time with girls and learn to enjoy their company and to respect them overall. If you indulge in the thought of your attraction towards boys it will trouble you no end. Just let it be there but cultivate healthy relationships with them and spend more time in female company. In time you will be able to appreciate your leanings towards girls more. If you wish you may go for hypnotherapy too.
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I think I have lost some memory or a center in my brain which controls understanding has slowed down. Can't keep a control over how I feel. Are blood pressure levels responsible for this? I feel either I have a psychiatric problem or a health problem.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I think I have lost some memory or a center in my brain which controls understanding has slowed down. Can't keep a co...
You could have both in the form of stress. Stress is a memory buster. Even so you can do the following as meticulously as possible for the best results. You are young and if you implement my suggestions, you will carry good memory far into your future. Additionally there are these left brain exercises which are tremendously useful, if you need them, you will need to contact me on my private domain. But here goes for the other things that can be done with great success. If you are under some stress, there will be difficulty remembering. So if you handled stress better, you will certainly improve. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is rested well to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. So catch a good 8 hours of sleep every day. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. Recently they have discovered that moderate consumption of red wine and peanuts do help. You may also meet with a counselor to take care of the stress related emotions, and then you will fare better too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine.
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I love my girlfriend ALOT BUT I THINK SHE IS CHEATING ME BUT NOT SO SHE USED TO BE FLIRT WITH MANY BOYS BEFORE AFTER OUR RELATIONSHIP WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER AND ONE DAY MY MOM CAUGHT ME TALKING TO MY GIRLFRIEND AND SHE IS TELLING ME TO LEAVE HER But I love her WHAT SHOULD I DO DOCTOR ITS HURTS AND AM THINKING TO GET SUICIDE.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
You are only 19 years and you have a long time ahead. So you leave her and study ell to get settled in life and you will get a partner of your choice in future when the time is ripe.
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Fertility: Nicotine Changes Sperm, and Not for the Better

MBBS, DGO, MD, Fellowship in Gynae Oncology
Gynaecologist, Delhi
Fertility: Nicotine Changes Sperm, and Not for the Better
Men who smoke are less likely to make a woman pregnant than nonsmokers, and the more they smoke the worse their chances are, a new study finds. According to doctors, men trying to have children will benefit if they smoke less. Women have chemical receptors to nicotine on their eggs like those on sperm so, they said, smoking is likely to lessen ‪‎fertility for them, too.
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Hello! Muje Aisa lag raha hai ki me bahot depression me hu and loneliness feel ho raha hai, I want to tell you in details before 2 years me ek relationship me tha and family problems ke Karan mera breakup ho Gaya so me apni girlfriend ko bahot miss kar Raha tha but me dusre relationship k liye ready tha so me koi acchi ladki dhundh raha tha Sir Maine bahot try kiya ki koi a6i ladki mil jae me vesa flirty boy nahi hu so itni jaldi impress nahi hoti ladkiya but it's being 2 years me koi ladki dhundh hi nahi pata and Aisa nahi hai ki me poor hu ya uneducated hu is reason se I am studying in BE IT and looks me medium and middle class family se hu ,but mujhe nahi pata ki mere me kami kya hai, me girls se a6e se hi baat karta hu, respect bhi karta hu, care bhi karta hu but it goes fail! ,Muje andar se failure mehsoos ho raha hai and last 1-2 month se in reasons ke Karan me depressed ho Gaya hu! And at night overthinking k Karan muje headache bhi rehta hai! Kabhi kabhi muje lagta hai ki mera luck hi nahi hai, but I don't know proper reason I hope you will help me as a solution Maine ku6 din pehle apna Instagram and fb account bhi delete kar diya but koi fark nahi pad raha ,I still feel depressed and feels like ki suicide kar lu 😫 please help me.

Hello! Muje Aisa lag raha hai ki me bahot depression me hu and loneliness feel ho raha hai, I want to tell you in det...
Firstly set your priority in life. Girl friend or career ?than focus on your qualities. Set goals. Involve in physical exercise .write daily diary. After a week talk to me.
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Hello. My age is 24 years and I am a student of CA final and I have failed in my exams 5 times and I am very much disappointed due to this. My problem is that I can't concentrate properly on my work. Even when I sleep at night my mind keeps on thinking or sometimes sings a song and continuously repeat the same and I can't sleep properly. I am facing this problem from last many years. Due to this I can't study properly and also it is affecting my work at office. Please tell me if I am suffering from any mental problem and also suggest me some treatment to overcome the same.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Hello. My age is 24 years and I am a student of CA final and I have failed in my exams 5 times and I am very much dis...
I can give you health tips. If you feel excessive sleep or tiredness/ head spinning or vertigo like feeling you have to make sure you have no anaemia or hypothyroidism by doing a blood CBC & TSH and inform me directly 10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings. If you find answer helpful please click on “helpful” tab for knowing my efforts are useful CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs. If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards. If you need help you can consult me I this site.
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I am a 27 year boy, I am jobless right now, I am very talented person as my colleagues used to say but my interview never goes good, does any medicine exists which can I take to increase my confidence, I really need that, please help me, Anything you advice me is highly appreciated, thanks.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
You have to speak confidently and clearly with knowledge in short, crisp and impressive way. You have to create an impression on him. There are many courses which prepare you for interviews and find them in your area.
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He is a boy by birth, but his traits are like girls, he is facing bipolar disorder also. His girlfriend has left him, he is going through some mental problems, we did consult psychiatrist on that basis but it seems like only strangling can now help him. He is not able to sleep as of nightmares of that girl. He is serving himself with pills to be stress free. Now we are searching for some good doctors who can help us.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , your friend is bi-polar according to you and is now depressed. You should consult a psychiatrist near to your home town because he will need follow up medical care. Please consult a psychiatrist near your home town. Take care.
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Can a psychologist through oral dialogue as well as guiding factors for clearing mind imbalance of an alcoholic addicted youth?

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), Masters in psychology counselling
Psychologist, Hyderabad
Definitely mind imbalances can be cured with counselling psychology sometimes it may take more sittings that depends on patient's condition.
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I need to understand why people always think and get depressed when they get downgraded Also want to understand how to over come.

MA - Clinical Psychology, P.G. Diploma in Guidance and Counseling, BA In Psychology
Psychologist, Mumbai
I need to understand why people always think and get depressed when they get downgraded Also want to understand how t...
Positive thinking and being optimistic is very important in life. With this one should have motive in their life. That will push person to starv for better tomorrow. One can lift themselves by starting meditation or counselling if not able to help ownselves. For further assistance please book appointment online here.
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I am 55 years male and suffering from depression due to excessive guilt last 20 years. I am on allopathic treatment from last 15 years and presently taking lamitor OD 200 mg, zovane 40 mg, clonil 25 mg, qutipin 25 mg sizdon .5 mg but I am not feeling that I am completely free from the depression.

Masters in Clinical Psychology & Certified Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Practioner, Certified Neuro linguistic programming Practioner, Masters in Clinical Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Child and ADolescent Counselling
Psychologist, Pune
I am 55 years male and suffering from depression due to excessive guilt last 20 years. I am on allopathic treatment f...
Guilt is good. Yes! Guilt actually encourages people to have more empathy for others, to take corrective action, and to improve themselves. Self-forgiveness following guilt is essential to esteem, which is key to enjoyment of life and relationships. Yet, for many, self-acceptance remains elusive because of unhealthy guilt – sometimes for decades or a lifetime. Guilt may be an unrelenting source of pain. You might hold a belief that you should feel guilty and condemn yourself – not once, but over and over – or guilt may simmer in your unconscious. Either way, this kind of guilt is insidious and self-destructive and can sabotage your goals. Guilt causes anger and resentment, not only at yourself, but toward others in order to justify your actions. Anger, resentment, and guilt sap your energy, cause depression and illness, and stop you from having success, pleasure, and fulfilling relationships. It keeps you stuck in the past and prevents you from moving forward. You may feel guilty not only for your actions, but also thoughts: For instance, wishing someone pain, misfortune, or even death; or for feelings, like anger, lust, or greed; or lack of feelings, such as not reciprocating love or friendship, or not feeling grief over the loss of someone close. Although irrational, you might feel guilty for the thoughts, attributes, feelings, and actions of someone else. It’s not unusual for people to feel guilty for leaving their faith or not meeting the expectations of their parents. People often judge themselves based upon the blame or false accusations emanating from others, which they believe to be true. For example, a woman projects her self-centeredness onto her husband and accuses him of being selfish. He believes it, not realizing it is she who is selfish (attribute). She might blame her insecurity (feeling) on him, claiming he’s flirting, uncaring, or indifferent. A man might blame his anger (feeling), or mistake (action) on his partner, and she believes him and feels guilty. It’s common for codependents to take the blame for others’ behavior, because of their low self-esteem. A spouse might accept her husband’s blame and feel guilty for his drinking or addiction. Victims of abuse or sexual assault frequently feel guilt and shame, despite the fact that they were victims and it’s the perpetrator that is culpable. When it comes to divorce, those initiating it often feel guilty, even though responsibility for their marital problem is shared or was primarily due to their partner. Guilt should be distinguished from shame, where you feel inferior, inadequate, or bad about who you’re verses what you did. When irrational and not absolved, guilt can lead to shame. Shame isn’t constructive. Instead of enhancing empathy and self-improvement, it has the opposite effect. It leads to greater self-preoccupation and undermines both the self and relationships. If you already have low self-esteem or have issues around shame (most people do), it may be difficult to concentrate on what it is you feel guilty about. However, this is necessary in order to get past it. Rationalizing or brushing it under the rug to avoid self-examination may help temporarily, but not achieve self-forgiveness. Alternatively, beating yourself up prolongs guilt and shame and damages your self-esteem; while, accepting responsibility and taking remedial action improves it. Here are suggested steps you can take. I refer to actions, but they apply equally to thoughts or feelings you feel guilty about: 1. If you’ve been rationalizing your actions, take responsibility. “Okay, I did (or said) it.” 2. Write a story about what happened, including how you felt about yourself and others involved before, during, and after. 3. Analyze what were your needs at that time, and were they being met. If not, why not? 4. What were your motives? What or who was the catalyst for your behavior? 5. Does the catalyst remind you of something from your past? Write a story about it, and include dialogue and your feelings. 6. How were your feelings and mistakes handled growing up? Were they forgiven, judged, or punished? Who was hard on you? Were you made to feel ashamed? 7. Evaluate the standards by which you’re judging yourself. Are they your values, your parents’, your friends’, your spouse’s, or those of your faith? Do you need their approval? It’s pointless to try to live up to someone else’s expectations. Others’ desires and values have more to do with them. They may never approve, or you may sacrifice yourself and your happiness seeking approval. 8. Identify the values and beliefs that in fact governed you during the event? For example, “Adultery is okay if my spouse never finds out.” Be honest, and decide which values you agree with. 9. Did your actions reflect your true values? If not, trace your beliefs, thoughts, and emotions that led to your actions. Think about what may have led you to abandon your values? Notice that you hurt yourself when you violate your values. This actually causes more harm than disappointing someone else. 10. How did your actions affect you and others? Whom did you hurt? Include yourself on the list. 11. Think of ways to make amends? Take action, and make them. For example, if the person is dead, you can write a letter of apology. You can also decide to act differently in the future. 12. Looking back, what healthier beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and actions would have led to a more desirable result? 13. Do you expect perfection? Has this improved your overall well-being? Perfection is illusory and a manifestation of underlying shame. 14. Would you forgive someone else for the same actions? Why would you treat yourself differently? How does it benefit you to continue to punish yourself? 15. Remorse is healthy and leads to corrective action. Think about what you’ve learned from your experience and how you might act differently in today. 16. Write yourself an empathic letter of understanding, appreciation, and forgiveness. 17. Repeat on a daily basis words of kindness and forgiveness from your letter, such as, “I’m innocent,” “I forgive myself,” and “I love myself.” 18. Share honestly with others what you did. Don’t share with those who might judge you. If appropriate, talk about what happened in a 12-Step group. Secrecy prolongs guilt and shame. Realize that you can forgive yourself and still believe you were at fault, just as you might forgive someone else even though you think the person was in the wrong. You can regret what you did, yet accept that you’re human and make mistakes. Perhaps, you did your best, given your circumstances, awareness, maturity, and experience at the time. This is a healthy, humble attitude. If you have any further queries feel free to contact. Regards, Sukanya Biswas.
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I can't concentrate on things around me. I have memory problems. I can't recall things. And whenever I try to recall things my brain feels drained out as if it burst.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello, take anacardium 30, 5 drops once daily for 10 days. Bacopa monnn. Q, 10 drops with water twice daily. Do meditation for half an hour in the morning daily. Revert me after 10 days.
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I am thinking over about myself. I want to do something but I unable to do that. I am very much worried about this situation.

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
I am thinking over about myself.
I want to do something but I unable to do that. I am very much worried about this si...
Hello, tk homoeo medicine: @ ignatia 30-6 polls, thrice a day, orally. @ five phos 6x-4tbs, thrice a day, orally. Tk, plenty if water. Go for meditation to reduce your stress. And calm your nerve to make you normal. Ensure, sound sleep, for 7/8 hrs, at least. Tk, care.
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Depression - Medications Play a Key Role in Treatment

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, MBA (Healthcare)
Psychiatrist, Davanagere
Depression - Medications Play a Key Role in Treatment

What are antidepressants and mood elevators?

Often depression or mood changes are caused by the imbalance of neurotransmitters in the brain. Anti-depressants or mood elevators are medications that are prescribed to patients with depression to alleviate their symptoms. Anti-depressants are not solely used for the treatment of depression, it is also prescribed in other psychiatric conditions which includes anxiety disorders, social anxiety disorders, obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), dysthymia (mild chronic depression) etc.

With time, the use of anti-depressants has been on the rise. Although, anti-depressants do not cure your depression, it relieves the symptoms of the same. Anti-depressants come in various types. The first one you try may not benefit you; however you must consult your doctor and find the right choice of medication for your condition.

Anti-depressant adherence
Non-adherence to anti-depressants can have major consequences on your health. It also majorly contributes to the under treatment of anxiety and depression in maximum cases in the population. The reasons why people do not comply with their therapy or treatment are various; forgetting to take the medicine being the primary one. Other factors that contribute to non-adherence of anti-depressants include-

  1. Fear of addiction
  2. High cost of medications
  3. Fear of drug-induced sexual dysfunction
  4. Delayed onset of action of the medication
  5. Poor instructions and protocols given by the doctor
  6. Fear of side effects

Adherence to the medication with proper guidance from the doctor has seen to decrease the symptoms of depression in the patients, leading them get back to their normal life. Under-treatment of depression can become fatal. If the depression escalates, suicidal tendencies can follow. Apart from these, suddenly stopping the medication has been associated with withdrawal symptoms which can get fatal in severe cases. In recent times, depression has become a common problem with the rise of fatalities caused by depression. As important as it may be to consult a doctor to get your symptoms diagnosed and get the right treatment, it is of equal importance that one adheres to the therapy and abides by the guidelines.

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When I got frustrated I smoke weed. I feel relaxed for some time isn't it good for me.

BHMS
Homeopath, Ghaziabad
Not at all. Please try to avoid this habit. You will not be able to leave this instantly but you can overcome gradually.
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