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You should both go to a counselor and then a sexologist to get some guidelines as to how to go about foreplay. Men do not like being told that they are not satisfying the woman, so his reaction can be understood but not supported. Make him feel less threatened before suggesting a counsloer for the help you require. Many times men tend to go for the kill with the physical part of sex and forget that women take a longer time to get aroused and need certain stimulation to ideally enjoy the complete experience of orgasmic peak. With some education both of you will stand to benefit and will enjoy your conjugal relationship wonderfully for a long time.

Your level of self-confidence can show in many ways: your behavior, your body language, how you speak, what you say, and so on. Look at the following comparisons of common confident behavior with behavior associated with low self-confidence. Which thoughts or actions do you recognize in yourself and people around you? So here are our three steps to self-confidence, for which we’ll use the metaphor of a journey: preparing for your journey; setting out; and accelerating towards success. Step 1: Preparing for Your Journey The first step involves getting yourself ready for your journey to self-confidence. You need to take stock of where you are, think about where you want to go, get yourself in the right mindset for your journey, and commit yourself to starting it and staying with it. In preparing for your journey, do these five things: Look at What You've Already Achieved Think about your life so far, and list the ten best things you've achieved in an "Achievement Log. Perhaps you came top in an important test or exam, played a key role in an important team, produced the best sales figures in a period, did something that made a key difference in someone else’s life, or delivered a project that meant a lot for your business. Put these into a smartly formatted document, which you can look at often. And then spend a few minutes each week enjoying the success you’ve already had! Think About Your Strengths Next, use a technique like SWOT Analysis Add to My Personal Learning Plan to take a look at who and where you are. Looking at your Achievement Log, and reflecting on your recent life, think about what your friends would consider to be your strengths and weaknesses. From these, think about the opportunities and threats you face. Make sure that you enjoy a few minutes reflecting on your strengths! Think About What's Important to You, and Where you Want to Go Next, think about the things that are really important to you, and what you want to achieve with your life. Setting and achieving goals is a key part of this, and real confidence comes from this. Goal setting is the process you use to set yourself targets, and measure your successful hitting of those targets. See our article on goal setting Add to My Personal Learning Plan to find out how to use this important technique, or use our Life Plan Workbook to think through your own goals in detail (see the "Tip" below). Inform your goal setting with your SWOT Analysis. Set goals that exploit your strengths, minimize your weaknesses, realize your opportunities, and control the threats you face. And having set the major goals in your life, identify the first step in each. Make sure it’s a very small step, perhaps taking no more than an hour to complete! Start Managing Your Mind At this stage, you need to start managing your mind. Learn to pick up and defeat the negative self-talk which can destroy your confidence. See our article on rational positive thinking Add to My Personal Learning Plan to find out how to do this. Further useful reading includes our article on imagery Add to My Personal Learning Plan – this teaches you how to use and create strong mental images of what you'll feel and experience as you achieve your major goals – there’s something about doing this that makes even major goals seem achievable! And Then Commit Yourself to Success! The final part of preparing for the journey is to make a clear and unequivocal promise to yourself that you are absolutely committed to your journey, and that you will do all in your power to achieve it. If as you’re doing it, you find doubts starting to surface, write them down and challenge them calmly and rationally. If they dissolve under scrutiny, that’s great. However if they are based on genuine risks, make sure you set additional goals to manage these appropriately. For help with evaluating and managing the risks you face, read our Risk Analysis and Management Add to My Personal Learning Plan article. Either way, make that promise!

Avoid bending in front. Postural correction- sit tall, walk tall. Apply hot fomentation twice daily. Extension exercises x 15 times x twice daily. Bhujang asana. Core strengthening exercises. Back stretching. Do the cat/cow stretch.

It is completely understandable that you had a big trauma losing both your family members in the same year, i. E. 10 years back 2006 but if you continue to feel depressed then you need help with medicines along with counselling. So consult a psychiatrsist for medications and therapy. Also you may follow general suggestions - do not stay alone - spend time with family and friends and people whom feel comfortable with. - do not keep your feelings to yourself talk them out - eat healthy, avoid smoking and alcohol, have a good sleep at night - exercise daily, do deep breathing exercises, yoga/ meditation for relaxation consult online for any further queries and assistance.

Anti depressant medication should be continued for at least one year. Due to depression there occur some chemical changes in brain. Antidepressant medications may reverse this change, which may take many months. After about a year of stablization if there was none relapse of illness, medicines may be gradually tapered before stopping it. So, my advise is to continue medicine as advised.

Get your thyroid hormones and other blood tests done to rule out medical causes for this hairball and skin quality change. Consult a psychiatrist for the needful and get relived.

Hi. Ignore that. Try busy in work or with family. Be busy in study. Some time some movies can depressed the mind. Avoid stress. It happens some time.

If this is what is going on, there is definitely concern about her intentions. But as you can understand we cannot go on mere speculation without specific evidence. If she is merely enjoying talking to her colleagues, even if they are males, there may be an element of innocence in all this too. How do you rate your relationship with her apart from all this? If there is a good rapport and physical intimacy, then she may be seeking some extra attention that may not be forthcoming from her relations with you. It is possible that you may be neglecting her too and this might drive her to other people seeking love and affection. You must look into this aspect and genuinely consider what I am saying to fulfill that lacuna to perhaps change all this drama. If on the other hand there is something of substance, you could find out very discretely from her contacts whether they know anything. You could also snoop on her and listen to conversations to see whether they verge on the infidelity angle, because of her suspicious behavior (normally I would not recommend this but since you are saying that she is behaving like she is cheating on you and talking in this suspicious manner, I am proposing this). You may also both go for marital counseling and get a professional involved to fairly and objectively enquire into your suspicions. Your final option would be to engage a detective agency and use their services to either confirm that she is being unfaithful or that it is all mere paranoia, jealously or suspicion. That way the truth will come out and that will give you options about which way you want to proceed thereafter.

Very good question, by the meditation we can balance body, mind & sole. Consantretion is the byproduct of meditation, if you try to constret on mind it will not possible. Meditation means think one thing continually.

You have to decide it for your self as per your convenience and take mininmum of seven hours of sleep

Dear lybrate user. There are no short cuts. Physical exercise is the key. Quit smoking and alcohol consumption, cut sugar intake, to bring down total cholesterol, triglycerides etc you have to increase good cholesterol. Good cholesterol is available in plums, grapes, purple cabbage, eggplant, and raspberries to your diet. Plus eating more fruits and veggies (in addition to whole grains) will increase your fiber, which has been shown to help control overall cholesterol levels. Take care.

This combination is OK, no problem in this combination. Dose trifluoperazine is also OK, not to worry. It is also safe in diabetes and asthma. If you have not any symptoms on this combination than its OK. Continue same. Follow regularly to psychiatrist.

Hi, Kali bich 30 4pills to be sucked thrice a day for 30days You must include salads in your diet and drink plenty of water (3-4liters /day) minimum Avoid spicy and fried food

Take Tablet folvite 5mg once a day for six months and tablet vitamin D3 60000iu once a week for six months and supine position or left lateral position is the best position for sleep

Hello, cold usually happens to weather/ season change/ exposure to particular allergen. If you have symptoms like sneezing, running nose, blocked nose, headache, may be mild fever, please follow - 1. Adequate rest, proper sleep, and healthy diet is the key treatment to cold/ coryza. 2. Drink lots of fluids and eat homemade food. 3. Drink hot beverages (tea/ coffee) to relieve nasal congestion. 4. Take steam inhalation carefully by steam inhaler twice a day for 2-3 days 5. Blow your nose to sniff mucus out. 6. Take steamy shower. Steamy showers moisturize your nasal passages and relax you. 7. If you have sore throat, do warm saline gargles 2-3 times a day till relief of symptoms. 8. Sleep with an extra pillow under your head. This will help with the drainage of nasal passages. 9. Take tablet levocetrizine 5 mg tablet once daily after food for 3 days, 10. In case of associated headache, bodyache, mild fever, or sore throat, instead of levocetrizine, take tablet sinarest one tablet 3 times daily after food for 3 days. Headache could be because of various reasons. Your headache could be due to stress/fatigue/tension or it could be an indication to another type of headache called migraine. Since the exact cause of your headache and symptoms are not known, I would advise the following - 1. Try to take rest for 1-2 hours. 2. Distract yourself from tv/ computer or anything that puts a pressure on your eyes and head. 3. Keep yourself stress free. 4. Try to take adequate sleep. 5. Take tablet paracetamol 500mg after taking food.

Alcohol deaddiction is not a cakewalk...it takes time as well as a battery of measures...both pharmacological and behavioural...to tackle bodily and psychological symptoms. Rather than taking random medicine please go for a psychiatric consultation so that the severity of withdrawal could be assessed and immediate steps could be taken.

Hello Sumedh, Write down the tasks you want to accomplish/ do every week on a piece of paper, Stick it on your wall (at home). When you are able to accomplish/ do the desired task rate your performance with stars (1to 5)- 5 stars being excellent performance and 1 star being poor performance. At the end of the week give yourself a small treat or gift, like going on a lunch with a good friend, buying yourself a thing that you need and so on. Hope this helps.

Hi. There are 2 major reasons when you overeat - emotional eating, or compulsive eating (binge eating)! Over time, compulsive overeating usually leads to obesity. Obesity, in turn, causes numerous medical complications, including: Type 2 diabetes Gallbladder disease High cholesterol High blood pressure Heart disease Certain types of cancer Osteoarthritis Joint and muscle pain Gastrointestinal problems Sleep apnea Management: -Manage stress. These may include exercising, meditating, using sensory relaxation strategies, and practicing simple breathing exercises. -Eat three meals a day plus healthy snacks. -Avoid temptation. Remove the temptation by clearing your fridge and cupboards of your favorite binge foods. -Stop dieting. The deprivation and hunger of strict dieting can trigger food cravings and the urge to overeat. -Exercise. Not only will exercise help you lose weight in a healthy way, but it also lifts depression, improves overall health, and reduces stress. -Instead of snacking when you're bored, distract yourself. Take a walk, call a friend, read, or take up a hobby such as painting or gardening. -Get enough sleep. Medication: Take homoeopathic medicine - Silicea 30/ thrice a day for 3 weeks and Cina !M/ once daily at night for 1 week. Revert back.

Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today.

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