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Dr. Dutta Ray

Psychiatrist, Delhi

Dr. Dutta Ray Psychiatrist, Delhi
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Dr. Dutta Ray is a renowned Psychiatrist in Bapa Nagar, Delhi. She is currently practising at Sanjeevan Speciality Hospital in Bapa Nagar, Delhi. Book an appointment online with Dr. Dutta Ray and consult privately on has an excellent community of Psychiatrists in India. You will find Psychiatrists with more than 41 years of experience on You can find Psychiatrists online in Delhi and from across India. View the profile of medical specialists and their reviews from other patients to make an informed decision.


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How to increase concentration? My exams are near and I am not able to concentrate, I am worried I want to score good marks.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
Dear student for concentration and memory try following things on a daily basis and you will see positive results. Concentration is a mental skill that you can develop. There are two ways to improve your concentration: first, raise your brain's natural ability to concentrate. In other words, increase your attention. Second, adjust the environment around you to make concentrating easier. To improve your concentration takes a little time and effort, but it can be worth it. In my personal experience with students. This can make noticeable improvement in a relatively short time. Ideas for daily concentration-boosting habits include: mindfulness meditation - many studies confirm that 20 minutes of meditation or more per day improves concentration and attention span. Focusing on your breathing, known as mindfulness meditation, is one of the simplest way of meditation. Start with ten minutes in the morning and ten minutes before bed. Proper sleep -i am sorry to say it. Pulling all nighter will not help with your grade. Unless you are getting sufficient restful sleep, you are not going to be as mentally focused as you could be. Brain game -. The more you use certain skills, the more they are reinforced in the brain. So it makes sense that playing concentration games and games that require you to focus will improve your concentration ability. You need to be consistent in this. Play for about 10 to 20 minutes each day. Have fun, and get the benefits but remember not to spend more than 20 minutes a day. Your goal is to improve your concentration and not the score in the game! eat healthier - your brain needs the proper nutrients to allow you to focus. Eat more vegetables and fruits and avoid consumption of junk food as much as possible. Lot of research has now proven that sugar is very harmful for our health. Reduce sugar and refined white floor in your diet as much as you could. Exercise is helpful in both reducing stress and increasing focus. At-least 20 minutes a day would go a long way. Optimize your mental state & environment in addition to building the habits described above into your daily routine, also adjust your environment and your current mental state to improve your concentration when studying. Create a study spot. Your brain loves routine. Create a place where all you do is study. An obvious choice is a secluded desk of some kind, but the trick is to make sure you only study in that spot. Studying in bed is a bad habit, for example, because your body is trained to want to sleep once you get into bed. Remove distractions. Turn off the ringer on your phone and take other steps to prevent interruptions. Don't study with the television on or with talk radio playing. Some studies have shown that soft instrumental music (no vocals) can help improve your concentration. Block background noises. If you have to study or work in an environment where it is too loud (classroom or open space) or too quiet (such as at home or at a library) you can get easily distracted by outside influences. With the right amount of background noise you can actually block out distractions and enhance your creative thinking. Use time boxes. Set a time limit when you need to study new material. For example, let's say you want to read one chapter in a book (and remember it). Decide in advance that you can have 45 minutes to read the chapter, and 15 minutes to review it. Set a timer to keep yourself honest, then pace yourself to keep within the allotted time. Stay motivated with rewards. If you see studying as burden, it's hard to concentrate. One way to stay motivated is to set up a reward system. Tell yourself you have to earn that hour of watching your favorite show later in the evening by first completing one hour of intense studying. That way, even if the material is dry, you have the reward to look forward to. Take a break every two hours. You mental energy will begin to decline after a long period of study. So every two hours or so, take a ten minute break. Walk around, eat a light snack, or just stare at the wall to relax your mind. Concentrating is the first step to learning anything new. It only makes sense that if you improve your concentration, your memory will improve also. If you want to learn how to study effectively and need help making a balanced study habit you could contact me for 60 to 90 minute audio consultation and I will be able to make one for you hope this helps wishing you very best.
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What's are the activity doing by doctor in cognitive behaviour therapy in obsessive compulsive disorder? Please advice

BHMS, MD - Alternate Medicine
Homeopath, Nagpur
OCD's are neurotic disease where cognitive behavioral therapy has got limited role because the person is not in the position to overcome his obsessive behaviour and thoughts. Here in controlling his obsessive thoughts, homoeopathy can relieve a lot, then only the benefit of CBT can be reaped. But both the things are equally important. You can avail our package for psychiatric disease
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I am 19 years old male I hate everyone who is close to me: friends, relatives and even my parents and sometimes impulse arises to hurt them badly, physically, mentally I don't understand what to do. So I remain very much tense these days.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Your hate is probably related to some deep rooted anger that you are carrying from your childhood. It is probably being provoked further by a spurt in the production of the male hormone testosterone, which generally has a two-year duration. After that it will subside and stabilize. Discuss with your parents whether they are aware of anything that might have provoked this anger from your childhood. Then either by yourself or along with your parents do meet with a counselor and discuss the same. The counselor will educate you about emotions and help you develop skills to express your anger in appropriate ways. You need anger management classes but you also need to know of its origins. Exercise is a very good way to expend the energy of anger, so that it is under some control. But it still needs to be expressed. With regard to expression, it is better if you just spoke about it and gave it vent. No physical action of violence is acceptable and definitely you should not treat your parents to any kind of aggression. Even if your anger is justified, violence is not the way. Finally, if you are a spiritual person, it is possible to hand over your anger to God to deal with it for you: it works really well.
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I lost somebody close last year and since then very feel depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please help me.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
I lost somebody close last year and since then very feel depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please ...
Nobody but only you is to suffer--------life must go on------everybody face such problems in some part of their life but it doesnot means that all feels depressed-----------------you should lead from the front and be strong as there is no space for weak people in this world-----------------so be brave and for sometime take the help of below given homoeopathic medicine----- homoeopathic medicine-------------- alpha ts (wilmar schwabe india) drink 20 drops in 20 ml fresh water 3 times daily for 15 days.-------- bramari pranayam daily------------
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Suffering From Mental And Physical Stress? Try Homeopathy

Homeopath, Jaipur
Suffering From Mental And Physical Stress? Try Homeopathy

For the past two centuries, Homeopaths have concentrated on the interconnection between psychology and physiology. It has been known for long that Homeopathy has no side effects on a person's overall health and thus, it should be implemented in curing mental and physical stress. Mental stress may result from a person's coping skills. You may respond to stress in a wrong way and this further complicates your situation.

You may fail to control your instinctive reactions. Medications in Homeopathy can actually remedy disorders regarding stress management. In many cases, it has been noticed that a physiological disease has a psychological impetus to itself. For instance, people falling under the 'Type A personality' category are more susceptible to heart problems. Their heart problems can be serious enough to make them undergo bypass surgeries. 

An operation can be avoided, if only reasons behind problems at the surface are understood. Patients belonging to the 'Type A personality' category can suffer from 'hurry sickness' with symptoms like bouts of anger, impatience, aggression and hurriedness. These factors together enhance the risk of having heart problems later in life.

The following medicines tackle disorders without any side effects:

  1. Homeopaths advise you to take Aconitum napellus to reduce physical stress. Aconite napellus is known to treat problems such as a dry mouth, an irritable skin, a pounding heart and so on so forth. This can even cure problems resulting from a traumatic episode in past.
  2. Another Homeopathic medicine prescribed to deal with anxieties about future is Arsenicum album. If you have fears about your safety, about certainty or about what future has in store for you, this medicine can help you out.
  3. The medicine Phosphorus is known to treat fears of being alone. Many people are afraid of being alone. They need company all the time. Phosphorus also tackles common fears, such as fear of thunderstorms, fear of the dark or fear of ghosts for that matter.
  4. People facing anxieties about health or anxieties about death often evade sleeping at night. They hallucinate and see apparitions. Mental stress therefore, leads to physical stress. Kali- arsenicosum is one Homeopathic medicine to take care of such problems.

Homeopathy as an alternative branch of medicine, which comes to your relief without causing other bodily problems during the course of treatment. Hence, to fight mental or physical stress you must try out Homeopathy.

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How can I increase my memory? I forget things after some time. Please suggest me.

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
Hello, take, anacardium 30-6 pills, thrice a day. * take, plenty of water, * your, diet be easily digestible. * go for meditation. Report with your progress.
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My brother is loudly shouted every time. His problem's 15 year's. Please help me.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Please consult a psychiatrist and give medicines. A scream is often an instinctive action, with a strong psychological aspect, like fear, pain, surprise, joy, anger and others.
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I'm suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder what to do sir now I'm using pantoprazole, nitrazepam, escitalopram shall I use these medicines or stop or take another tablets can you suggest sir.

Psychologist, Delhi
Please first visit a psychologist and get psychological testing done to confirm if you have ocd or ocd like symptoms. If it is ocd, you will be cured by medicines but in case reports reveal you have ocd like symptoms, then psychotherapy is the cure, medicines will not help much. Psychotherapy is treatment given by talking and a psychologist is the specialist who treats psychological problems without medicines.
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I frequently forget things. I have really bad memory. If my family asks me to bring few things among them I forget few things. I Do not have presence of my mind. I feel I'm abnormal.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
7 Ways to Remember Anything Research-based strategies to boost your memory and keep it strong 7 Strategies for Remembering 1.Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2.Find a way to leverage your visual memory. You'll be surprised by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3.Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical. 4.Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. 5.When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6.Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. Suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study—afternoon appearing to be the best. 7.Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night after you've studied but the day, you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam.
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My cousin is studying in 8th standard. He is always having the habit of biting nails even if the nails was not there he is biting his skin even the nails in the foots too and I used to see him that he is always like something in a depressed state. I am really worried about him nowadays.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, Guidance &Counselling, B.A., Psychology, Pharmacy
Psychologist, Madurai
My cousin is studying in 8th standard. He is always having the habit of biting nails even if the nails was not there ...
Nail-biting behaviour may be one of the symptoms of anxiety. Spend some quality time with him. Let him speak about his frustrations, anger, resentments, fears or any other negative emtions from his school, social and family lives periodically. Try some yoga&meditation techniques from a qualified yoga teacher who can design for his age. These may help him reduce his anxiety levels. Apart from these, there are some behaviour therapeutic techniques which can be useful if given by a psychiatrist/psychlogist.
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Sir, I am 29 years, my husband died before 4 months, I have two kids, I am so disturbed, I cant forget him, so can I speak to him through the way of hipnatism, please I request you to reply for me.

Master of Clinical Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Psychological Counselling
Psychologist, Pune
It is very natural to feel emotional pain in such situation. Give time to yourself to heel and recover from this trauma. Avoid to be alone. If you are able to help and support yourself, you will be able to support your kids. They are going to learn these coping skills from you.
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I'm just depressed all time help me, I'm 31 years male past 6 years I have this problem because of shit loved a one girl, she not worried about anything she just enjoying life she got married 5 times different guy, but I am not able to change like her, I'm always thinking her I can't able to concentrate another work, and I spoils my career no job, I'm lonely feel no one like me, what I do, I went outing but also I remembering my days fun with her that place, were ever go I am just thinking him, why it's happening to me? please help me, in scientifically possible to format our brain to get fresh mind.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I'm just depressed all time help me, I'm 31 years male past 6 years I have this problem because of shit loved a one g...
The end of a relationship often feels like the end of the world. After all the time and energy you have invested in it, it is very painful when it gets over. Keep in mind that life is full of ups and downs; nothing is permanent. The pain you feel today will go away with time. Give yourself time to heal. Give time, time. In the meanwhile don't isolate yourself from your friends and family. Confide in someone you are comfortable with. Make a list of life goals, and plan how to achieve them. Relationships are an important part of your life, but they are not everything. Spend time with those close to you, indulge in some enjoyable activities. Keep yourself busy. Slowly you will see that there is a lot to life. However if you are feeling suicidal, consult a psychiatrist immediately. Don't wait to feel worse.
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I am 58 suffer from insomnia prescribe good sleeping pills was depressed for 8 years, was in a rehab for 3 years. What should i do?

Psychiatrist, Bangalore
I am 58 suffer from insomnia prescribe good sleeping pills was depressed for 8 years, was in a rehab for 3 years. Wha...
Dear lybrate-user, your history of being depressed and in rehab home for few years suggest that your problems are more than insomnia. Insomnia itself may be due to depression or other conditions. It is better to treat you as a whole person rather than prescribing a sleeping pill.
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I feel very depressed, anxiety, irritable bowel syndrome and sleep problems. Can't pay attention. I can't concentrate on studies. Currently my doctor gave fluoxetine 10 mg and etilaam 0.5 mg,librax and zolpidem when difficulty in sleep.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I feel very depressed, anxiety, irritable bowel syndrome and sleep problems. Can't pay attention. I can't concentrate...
YOu may have to add or change the drugs if these are not useful.. 5 Ways to Fight Depression If you feel depressed, it's best to do something about it — depression doesn't just go away on its own. In addition to getting help from a doctor or therapist, here are 5 things you can do to feel better. 1. Exercise. Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day — or dance, jog, or bike if you prefer. People who are depressed may not feel much like being active. In addition to getting aerobic exercise, some yoga poses can help relieve feelings of depression. Two other aspects of yoga — breathing exercises and meditation — can also help people with depression feel better. 2. Nurture yourself with good nutrition. Depression can affect appetite. One person may not feel like eating at all, but another might overeat.. Proper nutrition can influence a person's mood and energy. So eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and get regular meals (even if you don't feel hungry, try to eat something light, like a piece of fruit, to keep you going). 3. Identify troubles, but don't dwell on them. Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression. When you know what's got you feeling blue and why, talk about it with a caring friend. Talking is a way to release the feelings and to receive some understanding. 4. Express yourself. With depression, a person's creativity and sense of fun may seem blocked. Exercise your imagination (painting, drawing, doodling, sewing, writing, dancing, composing music, etc.) and you not only get those creative juices flowing, you also loosen up some positive emotions. Take time to play with a friend or a pet, or do something fun for yourself. Find something to laugh about — a funny movie, perhaps. Laughter helps lighten your mood. 5. Try to notice good things. Depression affects a person's thoughts, making everything seem dismal, negative, and hopeless. If depression has you noticing only the negative, make an effort to notice the good things in life. Try to notice one thing, then try to think of one more. Consider your strengths, gifts, or blessings. Most of all, don't forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal. If you are happy with these answers please click on "useful” link so that I can know my efforts are not wasted. If you want more clarifications or prescription for medicines consult me on this site to ask me directly and not in open questions session
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Hello doctor, am under too stress. I want to clear my problem as soon as possible. I could not take any decisions because of this issues. Am married. But my family side no support. My husband was took care of me well. Now am 4 months pregnant. When I got confirmation about my pregnancy my husband feel happy. But at the same time he forced me to get my parents support. But they ignored me. Then after, he was silent. He was good to me. 20 days back his college friend started to msging to him. Day and night full chat. I told him to maintain timings. She too married and have 2 kids. But her personal family life is not good. She was his ex lover. But due to family reasons he rejected her. In earlier I did not take serious. But is sensed something going bad. I just checked his msges. They both wanted together. She literally made him to drag towards her. Because she needs love. He got mind distraction. His past memories made him to chat and he too started to move towards her. I keep on discussed with him smooth manner. Because am pregnant I should not be in much depress. And also I do not have support. So I was keep moving smooth with him. Yesterday, night she msged to him. I got too wild and I msged her to stop her msg. She immediately called him and ask about my place. Previously, he stayed in paying guest till arrange a house. So I think he maintain that he is living in paying guest. Because he do not want to loose her. And loose me also. After my msg he behaved very violent to me. He kicked me backside. Now am having slight pain in my stomach. He beated me very badly today morning. He forgot that am pregnant. He feels that his lies came out. But he covered up something to her. Now I do not know what he is going to take decision. And I do not know what am going to take decision. But my intension is not scolding her. I thought of control her msges. Because she came in between, he slipped suddenly. Human mentality will change anytime. But their conversation is like husband and wife. She is living australia. She having nice money. So she booked tickets to india to meet my husband. So what to predict regard this meeting? I can not even imagine if anything happen physical. But when ever I ask regard her msg. He told something to me. But he msged some other thing to her close. So please doctor advise me. What to do regard this.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Hello doctor, am under too stress. I want to clear my problem as soon as possible. I could not take any decisions bec...
There is hardly that can be done on a doctors part to resolve your personal issues with your husband. From a doctors perspective I would suggest you to maintain your calm. Being stressed all the time and reacting to his alleged actions is not going to sort things out. You both need to talk ina constructive way, preferably in front of a counsellor, who can be a family friend or so. Pregnancy is definitely a stressful state of mind and body and women tend to have issues of anxiety and depression even without any interpersonal stressors in their lives. If you feel you are unable to handle the stress and anxiety consult a psychiatrist in your vicinity.
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Hello doctor... I am from delhi.i want to ask that When I wake up in the morning I feel pain in my whole body .what could be the possible reason behind this.Also these days my body temperature become low.its 97.3 celcius.please suggest me the best solution.

(MRCPSYCH-UK), MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
You could be suffering from Fibromyalgia or Depressive illness. Kindly consult a Psychiatrist or a Neurologist for your illness.
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I am suffering from stress.How to overcome from it?

PhD (Psychology), MSc Psychology, MS
I am suffering from stress.How to overcome from it?
Dear, Stress is simply a reaction to a stimulus that disturbs our physical or mental equilibrium. In other words, it's an omnipresent part of life. A stressful event can trigger the ?fight-or-flight? response, causing hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol to surge through the body. A little bit of stress, known as ?acute stress,? can be exciting?it keeps us active and alert. But long-term, or ?chronic stress,? can have detrimental effects on health. You may not be able to control the stressors in your world, but you can alter your reaction to them. I need to know, what are the causes with which you are stressed? Once you know the reason, you will be able to adjust with it with some tips and tricks. Please let me know the details. Take care.
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I am 25 year old. Its since 4 years I am feeling depressed. The constant thoughts are running in my mind. Like songs , and what if this will happen, death of family members what will happen then, and songs, all are running constantly. Sometime I think heartbeat is high, sometime I think that my body looking weird. I can not stop myself. Sometime I think that should I do this which is wrong or not but and somehow I stop myself. Please help me. It looks like when I will be cured then world will change. Old memories, childhood memories, or past incidents comes into mind. What to do . I can not sleep a sound sleep. When I wakeup it look like I had not slept. What to do.

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
I am 25 year old. Its since 4 years I am feeling depressed. The constant thoughts are running in my mind. Like songs ...
Please do not fight with it, your fight is giving the momentum to this you should realize that its your thought which are telling you that something bad may happen and it is thoughts that tell you to get a solution. Making you run round and round. You can take following bach flower remedies, available at leading homeopathy pharmacies. Mimulus, white chestnut and rock, honey suckle. Mix two drops each in some water. Have it for 3 times for 6-8 weeks.
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Did They Live Happily Ever After?

Partners in Health
Multi Speciality, Gurgaon
Did They Live Happily Ever After?

We look around at our friends' marriage and often conclude that their marriage is better than ours. No wonder we turn to self-pity mode for not being to lucky to have a happier and exciting relationship. Who knew the love shall fade away! Where is the harmony and intimacy we always dreamt of ??

Why does romance not last? When we need someone to love and more importantly to be loved. All success, a seven digit salary, and big cars, nothing. nothing lets us feel content unless we have someone to share it with. Probably you have been married for years and have lost the romantic spark you had. And you look back and start analysing, where, what, when and how things went wrong?

And blame game starts; you curse circumstances and try to justify your actions

Ritikaa and Mehul fell in love at first sight. Despite family resistance they married. After a few months, they were arguing for small things and wondering why did they have married. Dr Radhakrishnan is a scientist married to a pathologist; he is looking from separation from his wife after 26 years, though he is not seeing anyone else.

Suchitra and Prakash married ten years ago, they divorced after two years of their marriage. They don't have kids. There were no obligations but they reunited four years back and divorced again, but still the relationship is not broken.

Do happy couples exist??? Heartbroken Alok who is just 32 yrs old, asked me with teary eyes - I earn 4 crores a year, but I feel lonely, unloved and dejected!

Every day I listen to stories of heartache! And my belief in the power of love and affection is growing many folds.

Marriage is more than being a room partner! Not only marriage but any relationship is like a plant, we need to nurture it to blossom. Every marriage faces its own challenges at different time and for different reasons. We need to consciously work on it but with ease.

No marriage is boring or perfect! It's about how do we respond to our marriage.

Every couple has to face common issues related with adjusting with new families, career balance, baby plans (in some cases), spending, eating, hygiene (bathroom etiquettes) habits of spouse, interest and hobbies, gender specific responsibilities and of course money matters.

Let it be anything . .Assertiveness is key to success.

Watch your own actions:

  • Are you imposing thoughts and actions on your spouse: you have imagined a world, and are trying to move things as per our own wish?

  • Are you expecting without explaining to her/ him: you might be soul-mates, but don't forget that no two people can be the same. Explain your expectations but don't put conditions to get it accomplished. Allow your spouse to take her or his call.

  • Are you respecting differences in opinion- disagreement is not disrespect for your views and opinions. It's about perspectives (based on pre conceived notions)

  • Are you reading your spouse's mind and assuming? Stop assuming, ask but be assertive, use appropriate words, tone and pitch.

  • Are you giving some room for mistakes?  Give people some space to make mistakes, forgive them and self too. Communicate if something bothers you a lot.

  • Are you judging by actions not understanding intentions? Relax! Before you make opinions and decide you can't take it anymore. Sometimes your spouse is completely clueless and unaware about your mind.

  • Are you trying to bridge the gap between your spouse and your parents? Relationships are very one-to-one. Never try to bridge the gap between them, you shall end up being a sandwich and will spoil your relations too. Let them grow their own relationship.

  • Communicate clearly and explain your expectations about money matters - involve your spouse in your financial planning, it's a way to generate trust between you and spouse and it helps to work on budgets and spending habits.

  • Express clearly about sexual needs and desire. Physical intimacy plays a very important role in marriage. Seek professional help to sort things out before you think you are incompatible.

  • Make a choice not a sacrifice (otherwise you shall expect your spouse to repay it in the way you want).

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How to overcome from depression?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
You are so young and having depression could mean that there is something serious bothering you. You must meet with a counselor and then under that person? s guidance you may choose to seek psychiatric help. The combination is ideal to combat this condition. This is the only condition were you are required to literally do the opposite of what you feel like doing. Depression makes you want to withdraw, lie down, sleep, become lethargic, slow down, make you too lazy to even think etc. So when I suggested doing the opposite, you will need to fight this disease. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, and wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, eat more of proteins and vegetables, attend yoga classes etc. Watch a lot of sitcoms on tv or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. I hope you can find someone to love and be loved too. Whatever happens please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three things, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in god to alleviate your sufferings.
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