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Delhi University
Post graduate in counselling psychology
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    Enjoying a prolonged beautiful marital life over the decades might seem unrealistic to many people, people believe with the passing of time husband and wife cannot be the same way as it was in their first 6 months of marriage. But that is not the truth when people maintain their cars, they get it serviced once in 6 months or in a year, so that the wear and tear caused by running the car every day, get fixed. Much like cars that get eroded, scratched and dented from constant use, relationships can also show wear and tear over the years. So how do you know if your marriage has hit a rough patch or it's something more serious and require a professional help?

    Shivani Mmisri Sadhoo, an eminent marriage counsellor, south Delhi shares the signs that you might need professional help to rejuvenate your marital life.

    1. There is a decrease in intimacy with your spouse and there is a sudden change of sexual attitude. Either the absence or sudden decrease can be a signal of danger. Most couples feel that when there is a loss of intimacy, there are problems. While this is true, it is also important to be mindful of a sudden increase in sexual activity of your partner. If all of sudden your partner starts showing too much interest in sexual activities, that you feel is sudden and not that normal, it could indicate that he/she is experiencing the feeling of arousal that is not originating from his relationship with you.

    2. When communication between couples weakens, it starts a situation where both or either of the partner holds on their view or opinion with a fear that a discussion might escalate to a fight. It is the time for the couples to seek professional help, else the situation may simply degrade with each passing day.

    3. Disagreements over money are one of the top reasons couples find themselves in conflicting situations if your spouse keeps you in the dark about family finances or feels the need to control everything related to money, it may be time to speak up. If your spouse objects your need to discuss the same or takes your opinion for granted, it's time to see a counsellor.
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    Today all of us are on social media and every day within minutes we come know how our friend's new car looks like, where they have gone for a vacation, how was their last night's party, how they look in their new hair style etc. No doubt social media give us an absolute sense of what is happening in our friend's life but have you ever asked yourself how many friends out of the list of hundreds or thousands, could you count on in a crisis?

    Psychologist Shivani Misra sadhoo says that a relationship can genuinely be nurtured with face to face interactions, hugs and with real chats and outings. Although social media does allow us to interact with man people at the same time, but these online connections usually don't translate into stronger social bonds of close friends.

    Social media may help to slow down the natural rate of decay in a relationship quality that would set in once we cannot readily meet our friends face-to-face. But no amount of social media will prevent a friend eventually becoming'just another acquaintance' if you don't meet them personally from time to time. Hence, if you really value your friendship and want to experience the best life experiences that real friendship can offer, then don't depend on facebook and twitter, go out with your friends, go to their places and put more efforts to have face-to-face interactions with them so you can grow old along with your friends.
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    Parents are the most precious gifts god has given us because of them we are today, what we are. Then why sometimes, couples face challenges to maintain healthy relationships with each other's parents. Sometimes these relationship differences turn so sour that it destroys marriages and relationships. Let us see how in-laws can destroy relationships and even marriages so you can check on these matters at the beginning.

    A. When the in-laws attempt to be too intrusive, especially, in joint families, when parents forget to allow their daughter-in-law and their son to spend a good time with each other. Generally, in today's hectic life where both the couples works or one of them works, few minutes prior sleeping is not enough to blossom a relationship.

    B. When one partner allows his/her parent to decide their life's decision, remember your husband or your wife to have their own views especially if they too are involved in the decisions.

    C. When in-laws assume that they should be always heard: The times are changing so are the situations and challenges to deal with them now vs 20 or 25 years back.

    When husbands fail to understand that his wife needs his support to adjust or solve relationship issues in the family. Many times the husband avoids the situations, leaving his wife alone to fight the war.
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    There are people who feel lonely but are alone and there are those who choose to be alone but are not necessarily alone, i. E. Surrounded by people. So what make us feel lonely? is it just isolation from social life or one can be lonely in the midst of all social activities? today psychologist shivani sadhoo answers some of the interesting facts and mind factors behind being alone and being lonely.

    First understand, loneliness is a universal human emotion, yet it is both a complex and unique to each individual. It is commonly described as a state of solitude or being alone but in reality, loneliness is a state of mind. This state of mind causes people to feel empty, alone and unwanted. People who are lonely often crave human contact, but their state of mind makes it more difficult to form connections with other people. Loneliness as per psychological definition is not necessarily about staying and living physically alone, instead, it is the perception of being alone and isolated that matters the most. For example, a newly joined office employee, who has difficulty in making friends and making himself/herself noticed, might feel lonely despite being surrounded by hundreds of office mates. Similarly, if a girl or a boy finds it difficult to express his/her pain, fears, feelings through verbal expressions, i. E. By talking, he/she might feel alone among a group of friends who would be all talking about themselves and would consider this person to have no trouble in life. Loneliness has a wide range of negative effects on both physical and  mental health. Some of the health risks associated with loneliness includes:

    Cardiovascular diseases and strokes
    Depression and suicide
    Alcoholism and smoking
    Progression of alzheimer's disease
    Generally, it's very difficult to recognize if someone feels lonely and sometimes even the sufferer doesn't recognize for the whole life that he/she was lonely deep inside. One can cure loneliness:-

    By first identifying themselves that they suffer from loneliness.
    By realizing themselves that loneliness is a hazardous condition and they should fix it.
    If the person suffers with difficulties to express themselves to others, lacks effective communication skills, feels shy and stressed in social gathering then its advisable to take a help from experts.
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    Confidence is a child’s passport to a lifetime of positive mental health, social happiness and long-term academic & professional progress. In other words self-assurance and self-esteem during childhood can be termed as the foundation for every child to lead a positive life and to get well prepared for the future.

    However, in today’s demanding academic structure, it is not easy for a child to maintain a good confidence level, from competing nursery admission to weekly school tests, today’s child goes through numerous examinations, almost every day in his/her life and he/she is being judged both at home and outside. According to child psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo, oral communication alone by parents is not enough to build confidence in kids, she shares some important parenting tips that will help parents in this area:

    1. Allow your child to make decisions:

    When your child gets the chance to make choices from a young age, he/she will build confidence in their own judgement. Just consider the age of your child and set their decision-making parameters accordingly. Like, you may ask your 4 years old son or daughter what he /she would like to have in breakfast, an omelette or fruits or chapattis, instead of asking a broad question like “what you will have in your breakfast”, which they will likely to give you an answer either from their imagination or from their list of yummy foods (generally cake, chocolates or junk food).

    2. Avoid always rescuing your child

    For parents, the desire to prevent their child from getting hurt, feeling discouraged, feeling upset or making mistakes is natural, but when parents intervene, say if the parents go to their child’s school and pressure the cultural teacher to take their child in dance team (which he/she was not selected) then parents are doing something which is not right.
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    Life can never be 100% perfect and we do pass through emotional and mental setbacks, time to time in the form of failed relationships, loss of jobs, negative health events etc. These events are unavoidable, but sometimes we may get emotionally stuck to such an event to such an extent that we end up losing many things in the process. For example, post-breakup a person who keeps on holding the pain may develop a low level of concentration, low on confidence, become irritable and may lose his/her job or friends who matter to them. So how to overcome pain from failures, rejections and losses in a conscious process and not by uncertainty?

    Here are some tips you can use or suggest to your loved ones to overcome failure, loss or rejection and regain their normal living:

    1. Make yourself remember your goals in life: you may have faced a break-up or job loss, but there are other priorities in life too like your parent’s happiness, you friend’s happiness, your career and they don’t deserve your ignorance or your ill behaviour.

    2. Failure is not the end of the world: Remember failures and losses too help us to grow and understand life in a better way.

    3. Try to spend more time with your family and friends. During a relationship, we reduce the time we used to spend with our parents and friends. Post breakups make up for the past loss.

    4. Don’t shy away to consult an expert: if you find your sadness getting uncontrollable and it's not stopping, no matter what you try or do, then consult an expert immediately. Counselling always helps you to get back in your life.
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    1. Avoid thinking about the people who has hurt you

    Another person’s hurting words and actions can certainly trigger sad thinking and feelings but remember over thinking on those words will lead you nowhere. Putting your energy to think another people’s actions and behaviour, on which you have no control, can lead you in a state of sadness, self-compassion and hopelessness. Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests on such conditions when another person hurts you, remember yourself that you have no control on another person’s actions and mindset, be it good or bad. So don’t waste your time or energy thinking about the incident. Instead of that, focus on inner conversations, self-analysis and put efforts to improvise things in your life and its goals.

    2. Embrace optimism in your life:

    Often when people get hurt they explain things to themselves in a pessimistic way. AVOID that. Remember very often pessimistic thinking approach leads to self-isolation, depression and withdrawal. What is required rather - being optimistic, try to adopt a way of thinking like, “the person talked to me roughly, did I wrongly intervene in his/her personal space? , I should take care of this next time”, or “something might not be right at that person’s end and his/her rough behaviour is an outcome of that situation”. Such kind of thinking style will always help you to become a better observer of life and will improve your interpersonal skill and the way you handle yourself.

    3. Friends and relatives VS Telephones Mobiles and computers

    Sitting in front of TV, Mobile and laptop screen for hours reduces brain stimulation. Remember humans are designed to do whole body movement, to move our muscles that stimulate our cerebellum, which in turn stimulates our cortex. So tell yourself if you want to be happy in life, then choose family outings, relative visits, friend gatherings, exercises over TV, mobile and PC.
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    5 Proven ways to introduce fitness into your child's life

    In the day and age where technology turns your child into a couch potato, introducing fitness into his/her life can be a real challenge. These trends have slowly given rise to obesity, diabetes and high blood pressure in children- diseases that they were never touched by. So it is very important to introduce fitness into your child’s life, now more than ever.

    1. Get involved: It is known that children learn more by example than by instruction. Do fun activities yourself like swimming, playing basketball, going on long walks and take your child along with you. Start small, by doing this at least once a week, and then increase gradually. Not only will this encourage your child to be more fit, it will also create a deeper bond between the two of you.

    2. Introduce fun activities: Structured activities such as a sport are great ways of introducing your child to fitness. Enrol your child for some routine sport classes, particularly team sport. This way your child learns essential values such as team spirit, fair play, competition and practice. Plus, it’s a great way to stay in shape.

    3. Make exercising fashionable: Children these days are fond of doing things that are ‘in’. Some may want to swing the bat like Dhoni, while others may be more interested in learning Hrithik Roshan’s dance moves. Let your child decide what he wants do according to his style. Celebrity examples can act as motivation.

    4. Use fitness as a reward: If you just force your child to go out and play, then chances are you’d be giving rise to resentment and resistance. Don’t use exercise as punishment, make it a reward instead. For instance, treat your child to a break from homework by encouraging him to play ball for half an hour. This strategy might make him/her enjoy the physical activity to the fullest.

    5. Let your child take charge: Allow your child to decide what he wants to do in the hours after school rather than you deciding it for him/her. He may decide to cycle, go on a hike, and go for a long run. Letting him/her decide, give away the control over the situation to make him/her more inclined to follow a routine. For younger children it is best for you rationalize their choices.

    If you would like to consult with me privately, please click on 'Consult'.
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    Music for Stress Management

    There are times when you are either too stressed or too pained to feel good about anything. Stress from hectic work schedule and daily life gets you and makes you prone to health issues or feeling depressed and lonely. The resultant extreme mood swings take over your life and you are no longer in control!

    One very effective and interesting way to beat the stress is to switch on some Music!

    Research has proven that soothing music such as classical instrumental pieces seem ‘melodious’ to us because of the calming wavelengths that they resonate at. These sound waves produce a sense of harmony and well-being in our minds. As we listen, these sound waves ease out our ‘stress’ and relax the nervous system. Stress is your worst enemy and the only way to live life is to enjoy every moment of it!

    If you would like to consult with me privately, please click on 'Consult'.
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    Habits That Kill Your Confidence
    Have you ever wondered about a situation in life– when you went to an important meeting or interview, well-prepared, still you fail to give a confident handshake or a smile, conveying an unnecessary bad impression? These incidences may indicate that you are suffering from lack of self-confidence, deep down in your surface.

    Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares that the best way to develop self-confidence is not to act confident or to depend on mental diversions but to get rid of the unhealthy mental habits. Here are some unknown habits that can kill self-confidence:-


    Being perfectionist can act both for and against the person. It can improve life skills like ability to scrutinize, revise and to maintain mental alertness for a task on the same time too much of perfectionism can develop conditional self-esteem. People tend to like themselves when they do well and they forget that nobody can do well, all the time.

    To combat perfectionism, person should try to get rid of the “shoulds” and give themselves credit for trying. They should stop seeing mistakes as a disaster and should try to focus on the bigger picture and find more compassionate ways to view the situation.


    Some people develop a mental habit to look at life through the lenses of failure. Such a mental habit acts like a self-fulfilling prophecy. The person may start to act in an insecure manner that doesn’t inspire the confidence of potential bosses or customers, or they may start do a careless job because they know their work isn’t good anyway. To overcome a mind-set of failure the person needs to start accepting that every new opportunity in life is a fresh start and it holds a chance to learn from previous mistakes and act differently.

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    Sooner or later, everyone passes through sadness, loneliness or grief, when the person goes through a difficult phase of life. Most of the time the person continues to function, knowing in time they will feel better and things would be fine. But what if the feelings of ‪#‎sadness‬ linger on, interferes with work, sleep, relationships?

    How do know ON TIME that you are suffering more than sadness? Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares some ‪#‎early‬ ‪#‎signs‬ of ‪#‎depression‬:-

    1. YOUR ‪#‎BODY‬ ‪#‎WEIGHT‬ ‪#‎CHANGES‬. When you witness a significant weight loss or weight gain —a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month.

    2. YOUR ‪#‎FEELING‬ OF ‪#‎HELPLESSNESS‬ & ‪#‎HOPELESSNESS‬ CONTINUES: When your feeling of helplessness and hopelessness continues for a longer period of time and no matter how hard you try (outing, reading, eating) it comes back. It’s a sign that you should immediately check with a ‪#‎counselling‬ ‪#‎psychologist‬ or a ‪#‎mental‬ ‪#‎health‬ ‪#‎expert‬.

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    Effective Parent to Child Communication Tips - By Child Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo

    An effective parent to child conversation can shape the child’s listening, speaking and understanding capabilities whereas an inefficient communication can lead to numerous issues in later years likes like–not listening to their parents, emotional and psychological distancing from parents, teenage problems etc. The way parents speak to their kids and to the people around them show the kids how they should talk back to their parents.

    Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo in her practice has found parents generally use three different ways to communicate with their kids. The first one is in an aggressive way. These parents frequently yell and convey punishments. Their children respond in many different ways, mainly they feel fearful, yell back and ignore their parents’ constant orders. The second form of parent and child communication commonly seen is a passive form. These parents mutter soft, cautious words and tones to their kids. Unfortunately these parents are so passive that sometimes when they are pushed to their limits, they suddenly turn their communication into an aggressive tone.

    The third way parents can communicate with their kids is in an assertive way, which is the most effective way to communicate with kids at all levels. An assertive way of communicating is firm, consistent, clear, positive, warm and confident. Communicating with kids in an assertive way is a real skill yet it shows your kids that mum and dad know what they’re going on about and to listen.

    Psychologist Shivani shares today some of the tips of how parents can talk assertively with their kids so they listen to them and build a healthy listening and understanding capabilities.

    1. Try to use positive language– avoid saying “no” or “don’t” to your child, as much as possible. There is no doubt that if we say “Don’t drop your glass of milk” or “Don’t drop the flower vase, I will slap you” your child has that image and thought imbedded in their mind and more times than not, they will drop the glass!

    Instead of telling bad circumstances and their bad consequences, try to use words that you want them to do, like “Hold onto milk glass carefully, your glass is very special”. This requires some thought and practice but it will help your child to become thoughtful and more aware about his surroundings

    Also never use words that ridicule the child like “you make me feel so ashamed in front of the relatives”, or “you were a bad boy today”. Such language achieves very little rather they develop a feeling of worthless in the child. Positive and kind words help the children to develop confidence, happy feeling and behave better, encourages them to try hard and achieve success.

    2. Raise your volume carefully and appropriately – remember when you use volume of your voice appropriately for the majority of the time, raising your voice in an urgent situation will not be ignored. The child will sit up and take notice of his/her mother or father because it doesn’t happen all of the time. How to use volume of your voice appropriately? Here is the check list:-
    a. In situations when your child turns emotionally charged, yell at you, never compete with them. Wait till your child calms down and then talk to him/her clearly and express your points firmly with confidence.

    b. Never yell from another room, like telling your child to switch off TV from kitchen. This gives the impression that you’re busy and not too serious. Rather walk into the room, join your child for a minute or two and waiting for the commercial break and then ask them to switch off the TV. This will model respectful behaviour in your child and your child will more likely to listen to you as they will know that you really mean to switch off the TV (without your yelling).

    3. Express reasons – generally, children activities that parents perceive dangerous or wrong may be perceived as amazing or innovative by the child. Telling your child not to do this or that may subconsciously raise question in their mind that my mother always say ‘NO’ to things that I enjoy doing. Hence it is advisable to express the importance of following an instruction to the child. Like instead of telling your child, “don’t jump on the sofa” you can tell them, “people fall from sofa if they jump on it and if you fall on the floor you will hurt yourself”. Communicating with kids in an assertive way is a real skill yet it shows your kids that mum and dad know what they’re going on about and to listen
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    Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo today finds the most common cause of couples seeking relationship counselling is Infidelity. Infidelity can create havoc in a beautiful relationship- it commonly signifies a crisis in a marital or in a pre-marital relationship, some can repair the damage done; turn an infidelity into an opportunity for growth and reconnection. And some can’t, the loss of trust being irreparable for one, the continued anger and blame becomes intolerable for the other

    So what leads to affairs?

    1. Emotional
    Generally the most commonly cause of infidelity is a sense of emotional disconnection from a partner. The person committing the infidelity will often describe having felt unappreciated, lonely, and sad. These emotions can often lead to the secondary feelings of anger and resentment. Emotional roots can lead to affairs both emotional and physical in nature. An emotional affair may start off looking like a friendship, but over the time, the level of intimacy increases and more personal information, especially that relating to dissatisfaction and unhappiness in their primary relationship, can become an integral part of the dynamic.

    2. Physical relationship
    In some case, infidelity is caused by unsatisfied physical relationship. A poor sex life phase post marriage generally caused from many factors like – professional work pressure, commitments towards children, childbirth environmental factors etc.
    It’s important that in such case, both the partners should communicate openly with each other, take deliberate time out for their schedule for a romantic getaways or for a warm dinner. In such a situation partner should value their relationship more than their personal desires, feeling, and physical requirements.

    3. Perceive affairs as quick fix
    Many a time people perceive affairs as distractions, partners go for affairs to kill boredom or to add spark forgetting that it may become a “quick fix” but will definitely bring long-term consequences no matter they agree or not.

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    We all want to live happy and fulfilling lives - it's a natural part of being human. The question is how do we cope with all the times when happiness seems out of reach and life is just downright difficult?

    Our society tends to equate happiness with success, so it can be hard to admit when things are not going as well as we would wish. This is particularly true when we are dealing with stress. Who wants to admit that they are feeling overwhelmed and under pressure, or that sometimes they feel so anxious and worried that they don't know how to get up in the morning?

    To try and keep ourselves on track we tend to push ourselves to keep going and act as if everything is fine, even when it is not. However, in order to do that we need to do a lot of pretending - starting with ourselves - and the easiest way to keep up the pretence is to distract ourselves from whatever it is that is causing us all the stress in the first place.

    So we go shopping, open a bottle of wine, eat a big meal, or check out facebook - we each have our own particular way of comforting ourselves when we are hurting.

    Try recognizing your stress

    What if we did the opposite? what if we allowed ourselves to lean into the places where it hurts, where things are uncomfortable? not to lean in so far that we fall into despair but just far enough that we get a clear idea about what is going on.

    Then maybe we see that the row we had with our partner only sprung up when it did because we were completely over-tired and stretched. Or the boss we feel is tormenting us is actually completely panicked at the thought of being demoted at the next management overhaul.

    In other words, when we try and protect ourselves from stress we can actually make things worse by avoiding taking a clear, realistic look at what is happening and getting stuck on what we think is happening. When we do this we are working from habit, rather than looking at each situation freshly with awareness and compassion.
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    How to talk to your Son about Periods?
    Imagine yourself in a situation; your son will reach his puberty in next couple of years and you want him to reach this critical age with complete understanding of how a man and woman’s body works. This is not an imagination, but most of us either have already faced this situation or will going to face it in future.

    Shivani Misri Sadhoo, an eminent psychologist in Delhi, today’s shares her tips on how to talk to your son about periods.

    First you should start a direct conversation with your son; don’t run in circles, tell him about periods and patiently answer all his questions. Be as straightforward as you can. You can start your conversation like:

    1. In your school you have seen older boys, their voices sound heavy like your father’s. This happens because when boys grow up they pass through a phase where lot of physical changes take place, both inside and outside of the body. This phase is called puberty.

    2. During puberty a boy’s voice change, hair grows in his facial and genital region. Just like that, when girls hit their puberty they start menstruating.

    3. Just like birds, mammals including humans come from an egg which is inside a girl’s body. The egg develops inside a girl every month though she doesn’t necessarily get pregnant every month. When the girl doesn’t get pregnant, the egg passes out of her body with some blood.

    4. When a girl menstruates, her body sheds the lining of the uterus along with an unfertilised egg and it flows from the uterus to the cervix and out of her body through the vaginal opening. This whole process is called menstruation or periods.

    5. A girl bleeds every month for around four or more days depending on her menstrual cycle. Yes, your mother goes through it too till a certain age.

    6. For hygiene girls use sanitary pads, which absorb the blood. Hence, the pad is placed near the cervix covering the vaginal area.

    7. During periods, some women might feel discomfort or pain in the lower abdomen area; others may feel a slight discomfort.

    8. It is not something to be embarrassed by or something you should make fun of. It is very normal. It is a sign of a girl being healthy. Not getting periods on time is very unhealthy, and might prove to be a big medical problem.
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    Are you a 'What-If' person? Kill anxiety in 4 easy ways

    Thinking about dangers and risks is a normal phenomenon, it helps us to stay alert and to become a good problem solver. It’s only when worrying gets out of a person’s control, it turns into a problem. If a person is constantly preoccupied with “what-if " and keeps imagining worst-case scenarios, worry actually turns into the cause for high pulse rate, insomnia, poor mental and physical health.

    Here are 4 simple steps to cope with anxiety and worry.

    1. Breathing technique: The first thing to do when you get anxious is to take deep breath. Deep breathing is a powerful anxiety-reducing technique because it activates the body’s relaxation response. Try slowly inhaling to a count of 5, filling your belly first and then your chest, gently holding your breath to a count of 5, and slowly exhaling to a count of 5 and repeat several times.

    2. Accept that you’re anxious: Remember anxiety is just a feeling, like any other feeling, by reminding yourself that anxiety is simply an emotional reaction, you can start to accept it. Acceptance is critical because trying to eliminate anxiety often worsens it. But accepting your anxiety doesn’t mean liking it or resigning yourself to a miserable existence. It just means you would benefit by accepting reality as it is – and in that moment, reality means 'anxiety' you are feeling.

    3. Question your worries. When people are anxious, most of the time their brains start coming up with all sorts of unrealistic ideas, which most likely will never occur. To avoid unnecessary worry, one should ask himself / herself a few questions like:
    - Is there a reason to believe something is wrong?
    - What evidence is there that something is wrong?
    - If the worst possible outcome happens, what would be so bad about that?
    - What are the options I can use to handle the situation at hand?

    4. Focus on right now: When people are anxious, they are usually obsessing about something that might occur in the future. It is important that when a person becomes anxious, he/she takes a deep breath and pay attention to what’s happening right now, around them. Even if something serious is happening, focusing on the present moment will improve your ability to manage the situation.

    If you would like to consult with me privately, please click on 'Consult'.

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    You may image or you might already have experienced this situation - one unfortunate day your best friend or co-worker or your partner tell you something insulting, hurts you, screams at you and you forget that moment that they might be suffering from a momentary mood swing or they might have miss-understood you and YOU DON’T WAIT and insult them back, scream back at them – risking, weakening or even destroying your relationships.

    Relationship counsellor Shivani Sadhoo suggests that when we are under anger attack from our loved ones, the first instinct that works for us is – either to fight back immediately or getting shocked or surprised how to react – these two reactions generally make the situation worse.

    The right thing one should practice is MINDFULNESS. That is building the ability to judge and understand the crisis situation first and then react accordingly. Here are some simple steps to improve your interpersonal skills and to save your valuable relationships in the time of a fight.

    Identify your impulse that precedes your anger response.

    When you get angry the moment prior reacting to our anger our body shows some impulse, i.e. sensation that rises up through our body prior launching anger reaction—these impulses are like - rapid heartbeat, feeling heat in your ears , raising your voice, clenching your jaw (different people have different kind of impulses). When you can pick up on these warning signs, you can give yourself time to make a deliberate choice. At that moment, you are practicing anger management.

    Control the impulse.

    The goal is to keep your body and mind in control if you're quick to fight, give yourself a time-out: shift your focus on your body instead. Concentrate on feeling the heat beneath you, then take long deep breaths from your diaphragm; try inhaling through your nose on a count of two, holding till six and exhaling through your mouth on seven.

    Accept extreme anger is wrong

    Many of us believe the expression of anger is a sign of strength or an instrument of self-defence. It is true to some extent BUT when anger gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to all kind of problems —problems at work, in our personal relationships, worsens our BP & heart condition and in the overall quality of your life. It can make you feel as though you are at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. Remember that unless we accept extreme anger is BAD no matter what we practice or think, we cannot improve ourselves and lead a healthy and happy life.

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    Has your child started saying “NO” too frequently? Here are some effective parenting tips
    As a parent, it's not uncommon to sometimes ask yourself, "Am I doing this right?" especially in situation like you child starts replying “NO” frequently, like not to stop watching television, will not finish the meal, saying no to study etc. Then the question comes to every parent's mind if this is normal or not or how can we fix this issue, generally parents conclude that his will get fixed with time as the child grew up or it’s a common phenomenon in every house, we are no exception.

    Shivani Misri Sadhoo (Psychologist) suggest parents not judge your child’s refusals and before you trying to make your ‘NO’ stronger or violent, think on the following points:-

    a. Avoid disciplining kids when they are hungry or tired: When kids are tired or hungry, they won’t be focused on what you are trying to teach them. Like if your child is tired after coming back from the school and started watching television, at that moment if you tell them to switch off the TV, they will consider your instruction baseless because at that moment the cartoon is providing them a way to ease their mental fatigue. It’s best that you tell them the benefits of sleeping vs. watching TV when they are in a joyful mood.

    b. Appreciate your kid frequently and specifically: Kids really do want to please their parents and they expect positive feedback. We parents often focus a lot of time and energy on pointing out things our kids can improve. It's important to balance those messages with acknowledgements of things kids are already doing well in.

    Plus, it’s important that we praise our kids more specifically. Instead of just saying "Good job!" we should think about what exactly we are appreciating and tell them about it. Like, if they have made a good painting, instead of just saying “wonderful painting” you may add “I really love the way you have drawn the flowers and you have colored the sky”. This will make your child understand they you are seriously appreciating him or her and will respect you more.

    c. Practice positive touch: Research consistently shows that positive touch (e.g. hugs, loving pats, cuddles) is absolutely critical to the children’s development. So take time out every day to give your kids a long hug or a cuddle. If your older child doesn't want to cuddle anymore, you can still give them a loving squeeze on the arm or a pat on the back.

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    How to brush off stress from your life

    Current lifestyle is such that stress becomes inevitable. But you might be aware how disastrous stress can be, it does take control of our lives. What one needs to consciously do is, take steps to address the stress that they are under.
    Here are simple and effective ways to do it.

    1) indulge in physical activities - most of us have sedentary lifestyles which add to stress. While indulging in workouts won't take away your stress, what will happen is that there will be clarity in your thoughts, and your emotional intensity will come down, calming you.
    2) believe every problem has a solution - it is easy to be scared of the problem and let it take control of your mind & your life. Take control of them. Try to actively address your problem and look for solutions. When you act towards solving your problem, irrespective of the solution, your mind has more positive in it than stress.
    3) give it away - meet people, socialize, and connect with other lives. This is actually going to solve half your problem. Not only will more things occupy your mind, and you will know of other people's problems too, but at times, sharing your stress problem warranties a quick solution!
    4) treasure yourself - take some time for yourself and do what you love to do the most. Go to the spa, go shopping, read or just sleep. But make sure you have time away from work and daily chores, where you can rejuvenate your sense by doing what makes you the happiest. If nothing, meet up with friends.
    5) indulge in volunteering work - helping others not only preoccupies your mind with problems of others rather than staying immersed in your own, but also helps you be more resilient. You will come out stronger and with more will to address your own issues.
    6) try to stay positive all the time - appreciate what you have rather than concentrate on what you don't. Be thankful.
    7) accept what you cannot change - however much we try to solve our problems, some things we cannot resolve right at the time. And there is no point in pondering over them. Accept that this is how things will be, and move on.

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    It's Not Just Phone Radiations, Smartphones has other means too, to harm our emotional and mental health
    Today we use smartphones in every possible moment of life; it makes our life easy in every imaginable situation from managing professional contacts, to ordering food, to getting navigational assistance, to paying bills etc. But have you ever wondered, what is the price we would pay if we turn completely dependent or addicted to our smartphones? Smartphones can increase the chances of sleep disorders, lack of concentration, slows a child's socio-emotional growth, can cause compulsive nature etc.

    Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests that apart from harmful phone radiations; smartphones and tablets has other ways too, to harm our mental & emotional health.

    1. Smartphone Causes sleep disorder: When a person stares at the backlit portable screen of the phone or tablet, it shines short-wavelength, blue light, into the eyes. This stimulates the brain, telling it to stay alert and when Smartphone is used extensively post evening time, the chances are high that body will not release the hormone melatonin, essential for maintaining body’s biological clock. Hence depending on the person’s body sooner or later the chances are very high that person will suffer from the sleep disorder. Prolonged inadequate sleep, not only degenerate the brain cells, but it also causes high blood pressure and heart-related diseases.

    2. Smartphones affects’ the social and emotional development of child: when a metropolitan child (generally they are burdened with school homework) is regularly allowed to play with smartphones, their opportunity to learn from face to face interactions or from physical activities get shorter. This affects their brain development as well as hinders their socio-emotional growth.

    3.A smartphone gives an instant access to social networking sites and emails; these features sometimes can build compulsion among a person to constantly keep checking updates and emails. Such a compulsion can create lack of concentration, unnecessary mood swing (if the person find an unpleasant update or email at wrong hours of the day, like before sleep).

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  • Ms. Shivani Misri Sadhoo
    answered 8 months ago
    Difficulty concentrating is a normal and periodic occurrence for most people. Tiredness and emotional stress can cause concentration problems in most people. Hormonal changes at your age can also affect your thinking and concentration capabilities for some time. However if you are suffering from an excessive degree of concentration problem then you should consult an expert. There are certain psychological conditions that cause concentration problems too, like attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (adhd), bipolar disorder (bpd).
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  • Ms. Shivani Misri Sadhoo
    answered 8 months ago
    Difficulty concentrating is a normal and periodic occurrence for most people. Tiredness and emotional stress can cause concentration problems in most people. Hormonal changes at your age can also affect your thinking and concentration capabilities for some time. However if you are suffering from an excessive degree of concentration problem then you should consult an expert. There are certain psychological conditions that cause concentration problems too, like attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (adhd), bipolar disorder (bpd).
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