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Can true love happen more than once?
The world revolves around love. Our movies, books, stories, ambitions, desires, anything and everything, is guided by the magical power of love. Shahrukh khan famously said in his movie kuch kuch hota hai, that 'love can only happen once'. Is that true or, can true love happen more than once?
The question occurs more often than not when someone is going through a breakup, or when people wait and stay single, guided by the belief that there is only one perfect person for everyone, who would give them a happily ever after.
Let's see what truth really is.
There is no set algorithm or formula to say how many partners one can actually sustain in a lifetime. That depends on the idea of love individually for different people. Some people after a failed relationship give up the fight, and give up on the idea of love too, thinking that they had gotten once chance, and they blew it. While on the other hand, some people move on from one relationship to another, investing equally in every relationship, and never losing hope on finding their happiness.
The notion of just one love per lifetime may have been imbibed in us by the society that promotes monogamy. Insisting that it is morally correct for a couple to always stand by each other, no matter how incompatible they may be.
But the more pressing reason for the above notion is fear. The fear of falling in love again, and losing at it again, stops many people from even considering that as an option. There is a comfort in thinking that you tried your hand at love, but failed, and thus, never trying again will never let you suffer from the inexplicable pain that the failed love left you with.
However, we as humans, having the ability to connect with our family and friends, are designed to love more than one person in our lives. So it is clear that we are capable of falling in love again. As they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and truly so.
There are many people out there who you will be able to connect with, feel immensely happy around, and feel at home with. The thought that there is only one perfect person for everyone is not just restrictive, but also unhealthy. If you feel too damaged to love again or too scared to love even for the first time, try to look at the feeling logically than emotionally. Try to assess your compatibility with the person; see if your interests match, see what differentiates you both that'll help you both grow; see if you are able to picture a future with them, and so on.
Sometimes our past baggage or our fears clog our judgment. We all deserve second chances in life, and hence, we deserve a second, or even a third or fourth chance at love. So, do not stop at one failed relationship. Go out and seek love again in a person who is able to provide you with a more fulfilling and emotionally satisfying relationship.
I usually forget what I want to do, my memory is too weak and I am lack of presence of mind, please suggest what should I do?
Hello my self dinesh and I has been smoke since 1 year and I have quited it but I want to know that how to clear the lungs from the taar.
My wife age 43 years, she was suffering with fear twenty four hours from two months and not ready to do anything. All works small to big look fearfully. What shall I do?
Hi. Sir iam 19 years old. From the age 16 years I used to smoke cigarettes continuously. Few days back I decided to stop smoking. And I stopped also. Its almost 10days over quiting smoke. Is there any side effects for sudden stopping Cigrates.
Actually from sometime I am getting negative thoughts I am feeling worthless I am not able to do anything and even lost my confidence so what should I do.
I am 72 yrs old, male,and being treated for depression;medicines do not help, docs say it is resistant ,agitated depression,even tried ECT. I feel it is better to suffer without medication than take medication and suffer their added side effects.Ayurveda, homeopathy also did not help.What shall i do?except pray?
Does dreams can predict the future? I had a death dream of my relative and I was totally stressed and feared about the dream, what is the remedy for this?
Mai pechle 4 saal se psychological patient hu. Mai gumsum rahta hu. Ek aam insaan ki tarha nhi lagta. Mere mind me ek vahem hai ya bimari pata nhi mai jab bhi samne vale ka face dekhta hu to mai dought me pad jata hu ki baat ko kanha dekh kar sunu eye ki taraf ya teeh ki taraf mai hamesha lips ki tarf hi dekhta rahta hu baat per nhi dehyaan de pa raha hu mai theek hona chahta hu please mere help kejie.
Hello I won't get sleep in night due to unemployment getting more tensed every day and don't have habit of smoking and drinking how to overcome the problem.
Sir I am 23 years old and I am smoking from last 6 years I am not able to give up this habit I even tried anti smoking chewing gums but it did not help what should I do .please suggest some healthy alternatives for ciggerates that may help.
Hi doctor. I feel alone in the crowed I get attached to people easily and afterwards when their attitude changes towards me I start feel low .and become depressed. Please help me do not know what to do.
What are natural food that a Psychotic or any other mentally ill person should eat which can relieve in the illness?
Sir during erection my pennis not temper properly. At early stages the temper level was good but now the temper level was weak. Suggest some natural ways to get temper and stiff pennis during erection.
What happens if we smoke and drink and what are the best to stop drinking alcohol and smoking cigarette.
Bipolar disorder, also known as manic-depressive illness, is a brain disorder that causes unusual shifts in mood, energy, activity levels, and the ability to carry out day-to-day tasks. A person’s mood and emotions can be altered drastically due to bipolar disorder, but they do not have more than one personality. Split personalities problem is more commonly seen in those with personality/dissociative disorders.
There are four basic types of bipolar disorder; all of them involve clear changes in mood, energy, and activity levels. These moods range from periods of extremely “up,” elated, and energized behavior (known as manic episodes) to very sad, “down,” or hopeless periods (known as depressive episodes). Less severe manic periods are known as hypomanic episodes.
- Bipolar I Disorder: Defined by manic episodes that last at least 7 days, or by manic symptoms that are so severe that the person needs immediate hospital care. Usually, depressive episodes occur as well, typically lasting at least 2 weeks. Episodes of depression with mixed features (having depression and manic symptoms at the same time) are also possible.
- Bipolar II Disorder: Defined by a pattern of depressive episodes and hypomanic episodes, but not the full-blown manic episodes described above.
- Cyclothymic Disorder (also called cyclothymia): Defined by numerous periods of hypomanic symptoms as well numerous periods of depressive symptoms lasting for at least 2 years (1 year in children and adolescents). However, the symptoms do not meet the diagnostic requirements for a hypomanic episode and a depressive episode.
- Other Specified and Unspecified Bipolar and Related Disorders: Defined by bipolar disorder symptoms that do not match the three categories listed above.
The disorder has two strong phases: 1) Bipolar Mania and 2) Depression.
Mania is a state of heightened energy and euphoria - an elevation of mood. It is in direct contrast to depression. Mania can vary in severity from hypomania, where, in addition to mood and energy elevation, the person shows mild impairment of judgement and insight, to severe mania with delusions and a level of manic excitement that can be so exhausting that hospitalisation is required to control the episode.
The mood, energy and other related symptoms define both mania and hypomania, with psychotic features being an 'add on' component experienced by a sub-set of individuals.
You have an intense sense of well-being, energy and optimism. It can be so strong that it affects your thinking and judgement. You may believe strange things about yourself, make bad decisions, and behave in embarrassing, harmful and - occasionally - dangerous ways.
Like depression, it can make it difficult or impossible to deal with day-to-day life. Mania can badly affect both, your relationships and work. When it isn't so extreme, it is called 'hypomania'. In case a person has become maniac, you may notice the following things:
- Very happy and excited
- Irritated with other people who don't share your optimistic outlook
- Feeling more important than usual.
- Full of new and exciting ideas
- Moving quickly from one idea to another
- Hearing voices that other people can't hear.
- Making plans that are grandiose and unrealistic
- Very active, moving around very quickly
- Behaving unusually
- Talking very quickly - other people may find it hard to understand what you are talking about
- Making odd decisions on the spur of the moment, sometimes with disastrous consequences
- Recklessly spending your money
- Over-familiar or recklessly critical with other people
- Less inhibited in general.
If you are in the middle of a manic episode for the first time, you may not realise that there is anything wrong, although your friends, family or colleagues will. You may even feel annoyed if someone tries to point this out to you. You increasingly lose touch with day-to-day issues and with other people's feelings.
The feeling of depression is something we all experience from time to time. It can even help us to recognise and deal with problems in our lives. In clinical depression or bipolar disorder, the feeling of depression is much worse. It goes on for longer and makes it difficult or impossible to deal with the normal things of life. If you become depressed, you will notice some of these changes:
- Feelings of unhappiness that don't go away
- Feeling that you want to burst into tears for no reason
- Losing interest in things
- Being unable to enjoy things
- Feeling restless and agitated
- Loss of self-confidence
- Feeling useless, inadequate and hopeless
- Feeling more irritable than usual
- Thinking of suicide.
- Can’t think positively or hopefully
- Finding it hard to make even simple decisions
- Difficulty in concentrating.
- Losing appetite and weight
- Difficulty in getting to sleep
- Waking earlier than usual
- Feeling utterly tired
- Going off sex
- Difficulty in starting or completing things, even everyday chores
- Crying a lot or feeling like you want to cry, but not being able to
- Avoiding contact with other people.
- Biological Causes: Experts say that patients with bipolar disorder often show physical changes in their brains. Nobody is sure why the changes lead to the disorder.
- Genetic Traits: Researchers are involved in finding out whether or not the causes of bipolar disorder arise out of genes and other hereditary factors. If you have a first-degree relative or a sibling who is/was affected by this condition, you would probably have it too.
- Neurotransmitters: Mood swing disorder is caused by an imbalance in brain chemicals known as ‘neurotransmitters’.
Initial Treatment: The initial treatment method is to take medications to balance and control the mood swings. After the symptoms are in control, one has to start working with his/her trusted doctor for chalking out an effective and practical long-term treatment procedure.
Recovery from substance abuse: Problems related to excessive alcohol and drug abuse are solved by this therapy. Failing this step, this disorder can be unmanageable.
Day care treatment: Day care treatment programs can be recommended by your doctor. This treatment method includes counseling and support which keep the bipolar traits under control.
Hospitalization: Hospitalization or immediate medical support is recommended in case of suicidal thoughts or when a person starts exhibiting erratic behavior (being psychotic).
Medications: Medications include the administration of antipsychotics (such as ziprasidone, olanzapine), antidepressants (usually in combination with a mood stabilizer or an anti-psychotic), mood stabilizers (such as valproic acid, lithium, divalproex sodium) and anti-anxiety medications. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a psychiatrist and ask a free question.