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Dr. Virudha Girinathan B S

Psychologist, Chennai

Dr. Virudha Girinathan B S Psychologist, Chennai
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Dr. Virudha Girinathan B S is a renowned Psychologist in Nungambakkam, Chennai. You can meet Dr. Virudha Girinathan B S personally at Psycho Diagnostic Clinic in Nungambakkam, Chennai. You can book an instant appointment online with Dr. Virudha Girinathan B S on Lybrate.com.

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How helpful will yoga be in enhancing my focussing power?

Post Graduate Diploma in Psychological Counselling, Master of Clinical Psychology
Psychologist,
Yoga helps you to focus on each aasanas. When you practice it regularly, you get used to focus on what you do. Along with Pranayam it also gives you strength to think positively.
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Sir I used to have sharp memory but now a days I think that I forget whatever I study instantly. N I am studying. So what should I do for increasing my memory.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
7 Ways to Remember Anything Research-based strategies to boost your memory and keep it strong 7 Strategies for Remembering 1. Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2. Find a way to leverage your visual memory. You'll be surprised by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3. Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical.. 4. Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. 5. When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6. Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study—afternoon appearing to be the best. 7. Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night after you've studied but the day, you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam.
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I haven't been able to sleep for long hours and I have a heavy mind stress. I can tried to many ways to decrease my mind stress. But finally all are failed. So that How to cool my mind And how to change mood of my mind? Please help me.

PHD Psychology, MSC Clinical Psychology, BSC Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I haven't been able to sleep for long hours and I have a heavy mind stress. I can tried to many ways to decrease my m...
You should try some relaxation technique like shavaasan, yognidra or jpmr. Bhastrika and bhramari pranayam will also help you to getting out stress.
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I have been suffering from depression. Can you give me any suggestion?

PhD (Psychology), MSc Psychology, MS
Psychologist,
I have been suffering from depression. Can you give me any suggestion?
Dear, you should be able to distinguish between disappointment and depression. Disappointment also brings on symptoms identical to depression but they are short lived. Were your wife disappointed in the near past? please post a private question to me with every detail. I will help you. Take care.
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Stress, its effects on overall health and how homeopathy can help

BHMS
Homeopath, Mumbai
Stress, its effects on overall health and how homeopathy can help

Off late, stress has started to take a toll on the health of most people. Irrespective of your age, you are burdened with work issues, disputes, household chores and other unplanned work, which comes your way everyday. These are what contribute the most to your stress building on a daily basis. Too much of stress accumulation in your body can be fatal for your health. It would lead to various side effects and disorders. Thus, it is important to treat stress in its earliest stages, lest it develops and degrades your health more.

What Causes Stress?

Stress is a natural reaction to psychological and physical threats. In small doses, stress improves our performance under pressure, helps us stay focused, and protects us from exhaustion. Unfortunately, in today's hectic, achievement-driven world, almost every individual experiences larger doses of stress several times per year. Many of us encounter regular stress-causing situations — negative and positive, large and small events — including job pressure, substantial life changes, promotions, financial hardships, daily hassles, deadlines, and grief over illness and death.

Constant stress causes our inner alarm system to remain turned on too long at a time, and it becomes more and more difficult to shut if off. When not assessed and managed, stress can lead to serious illnesses such as heart disease and high blood pressure. It also takes a toll on the quality of our life, work, and relationships. Natural homeopathic stress medicines support your body's need to calm down, relax, focus, and avoid agitation and exhaustion.

How can homeopathy help?

To start with, the homeopathic enquiry is a very profound one and very often during a consultation various factors come to light, which may be creating some degree of anxiety or stress in the patient’s life. A discussion as to how they may be overcome, removed or mitigated, can often be very helpful. Discussion itself can be extremely therapeutic. In many cases, the patient is anxious or worried because nobody has taken time to talk to them. The homeopathic physician spends a lot of time with patients. It is however very important that the practitioner should have a sound knowledge of conventional medical diagnosis because during the discussion signs and symptoms of disease which need conventional (sometimes urgent) treatment may emerge and a qualified doctor with a knowledge of diagnosis knows when to refer a patient urgently to the appropriate specialist and is able to do so.

Having carefully assessed the patient, taking into account not only his illness and how he is reacting to it, but his whole make-up, the homeopathic physician then tries to work out the patient’s constitutional remedy. If he succeeds in selecting the right remedy, the patient’s well­being, resistance, resilience, general health and ability to cope are enhanced and many stress symptoms can be helped.

Homeopathy has been seen as an effective natural remedy to treat the problems of stress. Many have tried homeopathy as a treatment and have got wonderful results out of it. 

Stress Absorber helps mind and body to relax, stabilizes temper, reduces feelings of irritation, and increases a  person's need for rest, good food, and good company. The balancing homeopathic ingredients also ease stomach and colicky pains, soothe minor muscle and joint aches, and calm rapid pulse and irregular palpitation.

Conclusion

Stress is an emotional and physical strain caused by one’s response to pressure exerted from the outside world. Long-term stress can sometimes turn into anxiety and cause an array of behavioural, mental and emotional symptoms. Constant stress increases blood pressure as well as the risk of a stroke. It can also increase the danger of heart attacks, particularly if anger and mistrust is involved. It triggers addictive behaviours that contribute to death and disability, such as smoking, alcoholism, drug abuse, and overeating.

Addictive habits and superficial attempts to change one’s lifestyle may not work in severe cases of anxiety or stress because they fail to address the root issues that lead to symptoms. Homeopathy, on the other hand, is one of the best ways to address underlying issues and ultimately remove stress and anxiety, which in turn brings physical health if the remedy is prescribed professionally.

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Hi am 27 years old married and I have a Short temper issue I am not able to control my anger during a fight I curse and get very abusive My head starts aching and it feels like it's going out of my control I am unable to control my emotions during a fight with my wife either I tend to over power unknowingly and I always hurt the other person Please help in suggesting how I can control my anger and temper issues Please am desperately seeking advice to quit my anger problems

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , Anger and temper tantrums are always the after effects of stressful life. You must be stressed in your office or home. Naturally your stress takes its toll as emotional outbursts. Your family members are also unable to understand you. Anger management therapy and meditation will be suitable for you. You may ask a private question to me. I will help you. Take care.
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I am 35 years old, and loosing temper all the times at home, I am not happy at home what should I do?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Some of the" typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper anger: there is a saying" frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. Giving up: giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. Loss of confidence: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that if we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself" it is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. Stress: is the" wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. Depression: depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. Other reactions: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1. Approve it / acknowledge it: the first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying'you are wrong to react like this' you can say,'i understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2. Understand / recognize the signs: once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3. Free the mind/find ways to let it go: not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. Learning to deal with frustration it is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of frustration frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: individual and group therapy for anger management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as" relax" calm down" or" take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me privately on this site or another therapist.
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Hello respected doctors, Around 1.5 year I have smoked at least 7 cigarettes daily. But now from last 7 months I have quit smoking And I havn't smoke a single cigarette And I only 18 now How to clean my lungs totally? I am having a happy life now:)

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), Masters in psychology counselling
Psychologist, Hyderabad
Dear excellent that you stopped smoking don't worry about cleaning your lungs have normal life. A normal human takes oxygen into lungs 15 -20 times per minute (15 - 20 breaths) lungs mixes oxygen in blood and it purifies our blood and lungs.
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I'm angry natured person and if someone speaks with roughly I also speaks with same as every reaction there is equal and opposite reaction. But it irritates me lot and for some longer period of this I can't come on my original stage and feel good. please tell what can I do to overcome this?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
None of the feelings are to be controlled. So in that sense what you are doing is good except that you must express your feelings appropriately. Now anger is pure energy and people mistakenly think that they must express anger violently, or aggressively, or they can damage something, or throw a fit, or kill, or hurt, or withdraw, etc. These expressions can be followed, if they are appropriate to the situation. You can instead simply talk about the feeling, write about it and share it with someone who understands; scream and shout in a situation which warrants it and so on. When the expression is most suitable, the repercussions are minimized and the other person tends to understand and is willing to apologize and sort out the matter. Many of us are inclined to worry about the consequences of expressing anger and use fear to suppress the legitimate expression. You can exorcise your anger out of your system by exercising, but it is the energy that is expended not the feeling. Unexpressed feelings will hurt you back by clinging on to a favorite organ and troubling it enough to cause it to malfunction or lead to its total dysfunction. You can also hand over the feeling to God, if you are a spiritual person, and very effectively too. All feelings must be expressed without exception.
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Sex issue. I am not able to penetrate for more than a min. I some daily n even I consume alcohol. I am 24 years old. My girlfriend is not happy with our sex life.

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Sex issue. I am not able to penetrate for more than a min. I some daily n even I consume alcohol. I am 24 years old. ...
Dear lybrate-user, the problem with alcohol is it gives too much desire and takes away the performance. If you are consuming daily, probably you are dependent on alcohol. You need to stop alcohol with the help of doctor and medicines. Your sex life will improve after that. Don't say that your friends are having sex after alcohol. Each one has different way of reacting to alcohol. This is your way. Your sex life will improve once you get married to your girl friend. Lot of things, like less time, urgency, guilt of making her pregnant, inferiority complex etc may be playing a role. All of them will improve once you get married. Don't worry - you are able to get erection, you are able to penetrate - these things show you are normal.
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I am in a relationship with my girlfriend for the last 2 years. Both of us were in India till now. And now she would be going to Germany next month for PhD. Owing to the time difference between India and Germany we would be getting hardly 2 hours everyday, due to our busy schedule. These thoughts of separation has sent her in a depression and this is taking a toll on our relationship. Please suggest us what to do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , please understand she is not depressed. You should be able to distinguish between disappointment and depression. Disappointment also brings on symptoms identical to depression but they are short lived. She may not be mature enough to solve the problem fast. But it will be solved as time passes. You told that her depression takes the toll in your relationship. That may not be the case. She can always choose not to go to germany if she really loves you. She has to decide, whether career or you. Even if she chooses career and goes to germany, once there, her disappointment will be short lived. Being in conflict is the problem. I suggest you to advice your girl friend to consult me online. One or two counseling sessions should set her mind straight thinking. Take care.
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Me 28 year mera gussa bhut jada baadjata hai maar ne ka man kar jata hai to mujhe kya karna chiye please tell me meri ek bachi hai or husband or meri love marriege hai.

BHMS, PGDM (Emergency Medical services)
Homeopath, Pune
Me 28 year mera gussa bhut jada baadjata hai maar ne ka man kar jata hai to mujhe kya karna chiye please tell me meri...
Do some Yoga. Start Morning walk and little exercise. Concentrate on your breathing while you are angry. For restlessness, irritability with angry ness Homeopathy has excellent different medicines which can be used on case details. Good Day.
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Hello. I am. 18 years old and. I am in depression. My mental health is not so good. I am suffering from headache. What I do. Plz give full daily routine chart for this.

Master Of Science In Counseling & Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hello. I am. 18 years old and. I am in depression. My mental health is not so good. I am suffering from headache. Wha...
Hi lybrate-user, start your day with outdoor walk, deep breathing exercise, good diet, reading inspiring/self help books, listening to music, talking to your friends, feel happy for all your positive qualities, good friends and supportive people. Have a good sleep relaxing your mind. Have a talk with a counselor for identifying your feelings and engage yourself in positive things.
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Mujhe bohot gussa ata h or mai usko control kaise karu, mujhe har choti baat me gussa a jata h ormeko jb gussa ata h tb aisa hota h k pta ni mai kch bhi kehne lagti Hu or samaan fekne lagti Hu or jb aisa na kr pau na to mai rone lagti Hu to mai aisa kya karu ki mujhe itna gussa na aaye or aaye to mai use control kr saku.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Anger and aggression are emotions. Anger and aggression comes when you are frustrated, disappointed, stressed or anxious. These emotions are common and therefore nothing to worry about. I suggest anger management therapy and cognitive therapy. Take care.
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How to reduce negativity and imbibe positive thinking

MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
How to reduce negativity and imbibe positive thinking
How to reduce negativity and imbibe positive thinking

These are some basic steps that many of us know but forget to think when in emotional distress sometimes. I am collating that for a quick recap.

Thoughts constitute an important part of one’s life. Those thoughts can be favourable or unfavourable. For a few people, those thoughts are unfavourable most of the times. They often keep thinking about the negative outcomes of a work. Their friends and people around them who keep hearing the same will also start wondering if that work can ever be successful. To come out of such situations, it is better to follow a few basic steps.

1. Do not speculate that that something might happen and start looking at the facts. Never come to a conclusion without any proof.

2. If an untoward incident happened in the past, don’t think that it will repeat itself again. For example if you have failed in an exam, it doesn’t mean that you will fail in every aspect of life.

3. Stop worrying about what is not happening and start focussing about what is happening. Many of us have faults in our thought process. Because of that, we tend to forget about the favourable incidents happening and only worry about those that didn’t happen.

4. Don’t spiral any incident out of control. For instance, if you call a friend and if she didn’t answer it, it doesn’t mean for sure that she is not interested in talking to you. If you are thinking like that, it means that you are also worried about petty issues. Inculcate patience. Just leave a message to your friend and forget that incident and start looking at what other better activities to do.

5. Lot of people keep saying that they are not intelligent and that they are not fit for anything. If you think like that, your results will also become the same. So, stop thinking like that and perhaps start thinking that you have some weaknesses and you have other strengths that will make you fit for several other activities. There are no 100% bad or 100% good people in the world. Don’t speculate forever about what your weaknesses are and talk to people around you to understand what they think about you.

6. Emotional thinking in negative circumstances can lead to lowering your self confidence. Instead of generalising that you are unfit, it is perhaps that you are unfit for a certain task or at a certain time only.

7. When problems occur in one’s family, you may think that you are the reason. Instead of blaming yourself, look for a solution and solve the problem. With the outcome, you will feel better.

8. When you hear remarks from someone, do not treat it as untoward attitude towards you. Everyone makes mistakes and you have committed a mistake which is not an anomaly. All that you have to do is to learn from the mistakes and try to not repeat such mistakes in future. It will not help to reminisce about the mistake forever.

It is highly important to realise negativity. Immediately after, think comprehensively about the issue analysing the facts and try to mitigate your negative thoughts. Try to talk to a friend or a family member or a counsellor to help you reduce such ill thoughts.
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My sister will get angry for silly things she don't have child for past three years married on 2012 will this anger have any effect on her pregnancy

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Yes. May be she might have not conceived. She is upset and find out why she gets. I need full history before proceeding to treat her for anger. She can get Psychotherapy instead.
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I drink heavily on fridays and then I don't drink all week I only drink once in a week but around 350 ml of whiskey so is it too bad or are 6 days enough for my body to recover.Please help sir .

BHMS
Homeopath, Gurgaon
Alcohol is always bad. So, you need not to drink at all, if you want to have peace of mind and become successful in your life. Thanks.
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My body is not growing as I think I take a lot of stress, how to overcome from stress, so that I do work and study peacefully.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My body is not growing as I think I take a lot of stress, how to overcome from stress, so that I do work and study pe...
The stress that you feel is not dependent on the stressor: It is entirely dependent on your perception of stress. Change your perception, there is no stress: it’s like looking at a glass half full or half empty. Life is difficult no doubt, as a general rule, but what we do adds to the stress in our response. We add to the stress of life instead of reducing it or learning to deal with it. Many of us follow a policy of avoidance, like your question seeks. We cannot do that all of our lives. So the first thing to do is to change your perception. For example, look at it as a challenge that you would like to meet with a positive outlook. See everything as a gift from God to perform as though you are doing it for Him. God never gives us work to do beyond our capacity. Now you may argue that it is the Government that is giving all the work. That is true in the overt sense, but if you look at it with spiritual eyes, you know that it is ultimately given by God. Secondly, build a good constitution mentally, emotionally and physically to combat stress. Eat healthily, sleep well, and exercise regularly. Talk about your emotions regularly to a good friend every day. Learn stress management techniques, which is all about expressing your feelings in appropriate ways. Do Yoga and meditation. Pray every day to God to give you the strength, and offer your work as a prayer to Him – you will give your best and you will feel so satisfied when you do it well. At work you must learn to delegate much or some of your work to subordinates. If you do not trust, you will find it difficult to delegate.
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What is the best way to control cigret smoking and alcohol, its there any solution from dr, or from and medication? my close friend and my bro drink and smoke allots, which I want them to stop all this for there health and long life. Please suqquest anything if there is solution. Badly in need of saving thier life from smoke and drinks.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear Drinking and smoking comes under addiction or substance abuse. If the problem is chronic, de-addiction therapy is required. Otherwise simple psychotherapy should help your friend regain his lost health. You must be able to distinguish between mental disease and mental disorder. Your problem is a mental disorder. Not a mental disease. These mental disorders are usually treated with a combination of medicines and other means like awareness, meditation, Psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. I think two or three counseling sessions and psycho therapy techniques should solve your friends problem. Let me know if your friend is willing to undergo counseling sessions and tailor made psycho therapy through mobile. Take care.
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