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Hi this question is for my mother. She is 50 years old. After having she started having problem of skin de pigmentation (jhaiyan) all over her face. She consulted doctors many times but skin remains clear till she is on medication and apply creams. Once leave medication it happens again. Now it is increasing drastically. Her face has black patches which is increasing gradually. Please suggest some solution to it.
Doctor I am feeling loneliness. Some times I cry I smile I attack myself no one knows this. I can not accept the past affair of my husband. He promise he din do but its not true. I planned tonkill myself but wat abt my daughters. I can not even say to any body .life become hopeless for me.
Hello I am 20 year old boy. I am studying in college. For the past few days I am having a pain in my neck, I have tried everything to get rid of it but nothing happened. I have taken pills and also tried some exercises and some Yoga too but nothing helped me. So I tell me how I can get rid of this pain. It usually starts in the morning and last till evening, so please kindly give me the right suggestion to get rid off my neck pain .Thank you.
I feel very lazy & my memory is weaken day by day. I masturbates at least 3 times a time. Is this direct harms or a connection with memory loss or laziness if yes then suggest something to recovery my memory & feels active by mind & soul. Thank you.
I'm in love with a girl from 5 years. Before 3 months we broke up. I can't forget her. I still love her and can't sleep well at nights. Please help me.
I'm 18 year old boy. Im always feeling loneliness due to anxiety and depression. What should I do? I don't want to consume any medicines. Plzz help me.
Sir/madam g I am preparing for IAS exam and I hv a problem of forgetting d things which I hv learnt. Please suggest something.
My husband is confused minded. Takes tension while making decisions. The main problem with him is he has a lot of doubts while urinating. He continuously checks whether some drops are left over or not. He sits in bathroom for 2-3 hrs. He is addicted to checking urine drops and due to this his nature is getting destroyed. He cannot do any work always getting angry and frustrated. I am very much worried about him please give me solution how to console him.
My friend suffering from weight loss. He smoke min 3 cigarettes a day. Is smoking is reason for weight loss.
My father is 46 years old and he drinks alcohol in day and also in night in much more quantity and he also want to stop drinking alcohol but he can't stop. So please help me and give me tips to stop drinking alcohol? thanku.
actually I don't get peace of mind from last 2 years I am suffering. I need counselling. Actually the problem is 2 years before I had daily routine which use to make me tired but I didn't realized that it is bcoz of your routine and that time I used to think something is getting wrong with me and I got habit of that means habit of thinking something is getting wrong and I have lost my peace and now I can't ignore this thinking and suffering from un peace life l. I know that once I'll become positive from my deep heart all problems will vanish but getting tough for me to believe even I can stay peaceful life. I am so sad that I am suffering from this Dr. please help me Dr. I am directionless right now. Please help me. I want to live my life. Earlier my life was great and now it's not I feels bad for that and prays that please God don't let anyone suffers from this.
I was forgetting simple things, which I have carry along with me. From past 1 month even can't remember where my coat is hanged in hanger after 5 mins.
I am 20 years old. Gender female. I cant express any feeling. Specially sad, crying. If I want to crying always with smile. Nobody take it seriously. What can I do?
My friend is 18 years old and he is totally addict of smoking he want to get out from it but can not. What should he have to do for getting out from it?
Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is a disorder found in young children. Some common traits of a kid suffering from ODD include disobedient behavior, vindictiveness, manipulation, anger issues and irritability. These kids are known to have a negative mindset and are very difficult to get along with.
Here is a list of ways to deal with a kid suffering from ODD
- Communicate you expectations clearly: Kids suffering from this disorder feels an irresistible urge to control the environment they are residing in. It helps when you lay down simple, but mandatory house rules such as not raising the voice, being kind to others, refraining from hurting family and friends etc. This will not only keep their behavior in check, but will help them to make better choices.
- Be calm: Make sure you don’t give your kids any room to argue. Remind them that house rules apply for everyone. A back-and-forth argument will give your kids to impose his will on you. Explain in short the parental requirement that is expected. While giving instructions make sure you maintain a calm and collective dialect. Scolding or arguing your kid will do more harm than good.
- Use empathy: Instead of imposing parental will, it is best to be empathetic towards your defiant kid. For instance despite your repeated warnings, if your kid continues to watch TV or hook to the play station, remind them why it is important to go to bed early. Explain to them that you understand his feeling of having to leave the day for the night, but also tell them how his favorite activities can be continued the next day.
- Reward scheme: Kids with ODD reacts wonderfully to a reward system. For instance, if he successfully sticks to the rules laid in the house or behaves the way he is expected, he should be rewarded for the job well done. This reward scheme should be declared well in advance. As a parent, your job is to continuously remind him about the reward if he manages to do a job well. This incentive scheme will force your kid to be obedient.
- Don’t use false threats: Be very precise with your kid about the instruction you want them to follow. If you want him to brush his teeth before going to sleep, make it very clear to him what would be the consequences if the instruction is not followed. Do not use empty threats. As a parent, if you fail to keep your end of the bargain, your kid will not value your word anymore.
- Create a routine: A routine works well with kids suffering from ODD disorder. Every task should be time bound with more than one choice. For instance, between 5 PM to 7 PM allow them to do either of the two things like playing outdoor games or spending time with the play station. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a Psychiatrist.
I am addicted of smoking and drinking. I want to leave it but I can't able. Give some ideas about how to leave smoking and drinking?
Obsessions are unwanted and disturbing thoughts, images, or impulses that suddenly pop into the mind and cause a great deal of anxiety or distress.
Compulsions are deliberate behaviours (e.g. washing, checking, ordering) or mental acts (e.g. praying, counting, repeating phrases) that are carried out to reduce the anxiety caused by the obsessions.
What do “Obsessions” Look Like?
There are many different types of obsessions, and many people with OCD will have more than one type of obsession. Some examples of common obsessions are:
Fear of contamination
This obsession involves a fear of coming into contact with germs, getting sick, or making others sick, from touching “dirty” or “contaminated” items, sticky substances, or chemicals. For example, “I will be contaminated by germs if I pick up this pen off the floor”, or “I can be poisoned by lead if I come into contact with paint.”
Thoughts of doubt
This obsession involves constant doubt about whether you’ve done something wrong or made a mistake. For example, “Did I turn off the stove?”, “I think I made a spelling error on the email I just sent.”, “I think I threw away something important”, or “I might not have answered that question clearly and precisely enough.”‘ Did i drop something”
Fear of accidentally harming self or others:
Adults with these obsessions are afraid of harming themselves or others through carelessness. For example, “If I don’t make sure that the door is locked at night, the apartment might get broken into and I might be robbed and murdered”, “If I don’t immediately change out of my work clothes and wash them with bleach, I might bring outside germs home and cause my whole family to be sick.”
Need for symmetry/exactness:
Adults with this obsession feel a need to have objects placed in a certain order or position, or tasks or events to be completed in a set way. For example, “I need to sort all my clothes by colour and have them face the same direction. Otherwise, it just does not feel right!”; “I just scratched my right arm twice and now I need to balance it out by scratching my left arm twice.” David Beckham is said to arrange his bottles in the refrigerator in order of height.
Repugnant means disgusting. These kinds of obsessions include unwanted thoughts, images, or impulses of doing something horrible to a loved one (e.g., throwing your baby off a balcony, kicking your elderly grandmother; jumping off a bridge); sexual obsessions (e.g., thoughts of touching someone sexually against his/her will, images of molesting one’s baby, doubts about one’s sexuality); and obsessions that violate religious beliefs (e.g., swearing in temple/church, images of having sex with a god). Repugnant obsessions can also take the form of doubts, for example, “Did I run over someone without realizing?”, “Did I become sexually aroused while bathing my baby?”,These kinds of obsessions are particularly unwanted and people with them would never want to act on them. Having them DOES NOT mean you are crazy, dangerous, or evil deep down inside!
What do “Compulsions” Look Like?
Some examples of common compulsions are:
o Washing hands excessively
o Rituals and rules for cleaning the bathroom or kitchen, washing laundry, etc.
o Grooming/teeth brushing rituals (for example, brushing your teeth in a particular order)
o Showering rituals (such as washing a specific part of the body first)
These behaviours are performed in an attempt to stop something bad from happening. However, repeated checking often makes people feel even less sure that they have successfully prevented the bad event from happening. Some examples include:
o Checking to make sure doors are locked, stoves are turned off, electrical outlets are unplugged, etc.
o Checking to make sure everyone is okay and not harmed. For example, calling family members repeatedly to “check” if they are safe.
o Checking to make sure that you haven’t made any mistakes. For example, re-reading emails over and over to “check” for spelling/grammar mistakes or visually checking the environment to make sure that you have not left anything important behind.
This category of compulsion involves arranging items in specific ways, such as clothes, books, shoes, etc. For example, you might line up all the clothes in the closet so that they are arranged according to colour, with all the hangers facing in the same direction. Adults with this compulsion will sometimes arrange things until it “feels right”. Some will do it to prevent bad things from happening; for example, “If I don’t arrange all the books and magazines in the house so that they face east, then someone in my family will die.”
These are compulsions that are performed in your head. For example, you might mentally repeat a prayer whenever you have thoughts about something bad happening, or you might replace a “bad” thought (e.g., mom dying) with a “good” one (e.g., mom smiling and in good health).
Need to ask or confess.
Some adults with OCD are afraid that they have done or thought something “bad”, and therefore feel a strong urge to confess all of their thoughts to friends or family (for example, telling a loved one that “I just had a thought about pushing someone into the street”). Most people who feel the need to confess will also seek repeated reassurance that everything is okay (for example, asking a loved one, “Do you still love me even though I had a bad thought?”).
Some adults with OCD have a very hard time throwing away things that seem to others useless or of limited value. Hoarding can lead to excessive clutter in the home and interfere with daily life. For example, some people are not able to throw away any receipts, financial documents, or old newspapers.
How do I know if I have OCD?
Everyone has thoughts that are upsetting or do not make a lot of sense from time to time; this is normal. Just having an unpleasant thought does not mean you have obsessions. Similarly, it is not uncommon for people to repeat certain actions, such as double-checking whether the door is locked. However, these behaviours are not always compulsions.
When is it an obsession?
1. Obsessions occur frequently, even when you try very hard not to have them. People with OCD often say that their obsessions are intrusive and out of control.
2. Obsessions are time consuming. People with OCD spend at least one hour a day thinking about their obsessions.
3. Obsessions cause a lot of anxiety or distress and interfere with life.
4. Obsessions often lead to compulsions. People who have normal unwanted thoughts will not engage in compulsive or ritualistic behaviours to “fix” or “undo” the obsession.
When is it a compulsion?
1. Compulsions are related to obsessions. For example, if you have obsessions about being contaminated by germs, you will compulsively wash your hands to reduce the fear of being contaminated by touching something “dirty”.
2. Compulsions are repetitive. They are often done repeatedly and in an excessive and very specific way (e.g., washing each finger carefully, using only hot water). If the compulsions are not performed “correctly” or are interrupted, you might need to perform the entire compulsion again. Once is never enough!
3. Compulsions are also time consuming. People with OCD often spend at least one hour a day carrying out their compulsions.
4. Compulsions are deliberate. Although people with OCD describe their obsessions as being unwanted thoughts that “pop” into their heads uninvited, compulsions are carried out deliberately, because compulsions reduce anxiety in the short-term. While obsessions cause anxiety, performing a compulsion reduces that anxiety. For example, if you have an obsession about being contaminated by germs, you will probably feel anxious. However, if you then start compulsively washing your hands, your anxiety will probably diminish.
5. Compulsions cause a lot of anxiety in the long-run. Although people with OCD perform compulsions to “deal with” their obsessions, they often find that they become “slaves” to their compulsions. That is, they need to carry out the compulsions so often that they feel that they have no control over them.
In summary, you have OCD if:
A. You spend a lot of time thinking about (or avoiding) your obsessions and/or performing your compulsions.
B. You feel quite anxious or nervous most of the time.
C. Your daily life is significantly affected by it. For example, your OCD might cause you to take hours to do a small task (e.g., writing a casual email), get in the way of spending time with your family and friends, or prevent you from meeting work deadlines or even getting out of the house