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Anger is good. It protects you. But intense, uncontrolled anger may destroy valuable relationships. Anger is a result of anxiety and fear. When we assume that our expectations will not be met, we become anxious. When we feel unsure about our own capabilities we become anxious. This anxiety creates fear. Anxiety comes from our beliefs. All beliefs can be modified.
Anger has lots of energy. Avoid arguments/confrontations when you are very angry. When you are very angry you are likely to use rough language which may damage your relations and you are likely to behave impulsively. All this you might regret later on. Following are a few techniques which will help you to manage your anger in difficult situations :
- Sit down and have a glass of water, slowly. This will help you to calm down a little.
- Avoid or go away from that room or situation. Tell the people concerned, that you are angry and would like to discuss it some other time.
- Deep breathing exercises help a lot. Close your eyes, take 10 deep breaths, turn your attention towards your body. See what is happening to your body. Tell your body muscles to relax. If your heart is beating fast, if you are breathing fast, continue deep breathing, till it normalises.
- Now understand what is making you angry. Understand your own anxiety and fear related to the issue.
- Let the other person know how you are “feeling”. Start your statements, “I feel hurt/insulted/let down/neglected etc. when you do this”, instead of saying “You hurt/neglect me”. When you express your feeling in this manner, the other person does not feel blamed, which makes the other person more receptive.
- Focus on the current issue, don’t bring in past situations.
- Tell the other person, what you want or expect, instead of telling what you do not want. E.G. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to go out now”, say “I would like you to stay at home today”.
- Listen carefully what the other person wants to tell you. Give others a chance to voice their opinions.
- Make an eye contact and be firm but polite while communicating your point of view.
- Understand everyone’s responsibility in the situation. Try to see, what is your share in the problematic situation? Work on that.
- Understand what change you want.
- Have realistic expectations from others and also from yourself.
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I keep felling like suiciding sometimes and when I get too excited I can't sleep at all and I keep going into depression.
I am a 61 years old male. Since the last 7-8 months I am passing through lot of stress due to disharmony with my brothers and mother as well as due to stress in the professional life. I feel very secluded. My mother who is 81 years old and paralytic and staying with us plays dirty roles and makes everbody quarrel in the family and tells al lies. Due to her presence there is an unexplained stress. We cannot also move out of our house because of her sickness. One of daughter has had a seperation from her husband and divorce with consent has been filed without any financial claim from either side. My younger daughter was recently married in a very high profile family. There was lot of stress because of arrangements of her wedding. However, the wedding took place and everything went of very well. In fact it turned out to be dream wedding. Despite that I feel that the pre-wedding stress is still causing depression. Both daughters are very well settled professionally and satisfied also despite elder daughter being seperated. We are four brothers and and all of us have misunderstanding amongst ourselves mainly because of miscommunications and lies by our mother thus creating misunderstanding in the family. I had suffered depression due to these family problems and disharmony in the family about 35 years back also when I was young. I had undergone psycatric treatment for about 6 months. I was on a drug called depsonil from 3 tabs a day which went upto 6 tablets a day and was slowly withdrawn. I feel very low and dont feel like meeting anyone or talking to anyone. I suffer from a cardiac condition hocm for which I am taking 1 tab atenolol -50 and 1 tab amlopress 2.5 od. Please suggest a remedy.
Though technology has progressed so much that many diseases are getting cured, people still have myths in their minds about mental illness. Mental illness is not considered as an ailment, but often considered as just a passing phase. In fact, having a negative perception of people with psychiatric issues is a matter of concern, known as stigma.
Due to the stigma around psychiatric issues, people suffering from such issues face a multitude of problems, some of which are:
- Patients may feel afraid to disclose their problems and to seek help,
- Miscommunication may happen between the person and his or her friends and family members,
- Lack of opportunities in case of academic as well as professional fields,
- Facing of both physical as well as emotional bullying by people around,
- Health insurance does not cover mental illness yet,
- The myth that such conditions and situations can never be dealt with completely.
Stigma is not a short term problem, and there can, of course be, solutions for people with psychiatric issues to deal with it.
Get Education and Treatment
It is very important for both the patients as well as the people around to get educated about their psychiatric issues. Today there are some options and ways through which patients can be successfully and adequately managed for many psychiatric issues. If people around you are not able to understand this, you need to ignore them and get proper treatment yourself.
Do Not Let Stigma Affect You
If you get affected by the stigma around you, you may get affected by other issues such as depression that may become even more serious. Hence, you need to learn to avoid such people and to gain confidence in yourself. If you have confidence in yourself, you will be able to perform all such activities in life that are performed by any person in an academic, professional or any other field.
One of the most common problems that you may face is getting isolated. It is your right to lead a normal life, and hence, you need to go out and socialize. If you are not comfortable around your friend circle, you can join a support group that has members similar to you.
There are many associations that run workshops and seminars to educate people for decreasing the stigma around mental health issue. You can also become a part of such associations, but of course, before that, you need to gain confidence in yourself. For doing this, some of the steps such as the ones given above can be of great help. Consult an expert & get answers to your questions!