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Dr. Sivaji

Psychologist, Chennai

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Dr. Sivaji Psychologist, Chennai
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I pride myself in attending local and statewide seminars to stay current with the latest techniques, and treatment planning....more
I pride myself in attending local and statewide seminars to stay current with the latest techniques, and treatment planning.
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Dr. Sivaji is one of the best Psychologists in Hindu Mission Hospital, Chennai. Doctor is currently practising at Sri Chakra Multispeciality Hospital in Hindu Mission Hospital, Chennai. You can book an instant appointment online with Dr. Sivaji on Lybrate.com.

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I have pain in my abdomen from last two week. I usually have less vision since last I get directly contact with the sun. I. Also have loose motion since last I attended a party of my brother marriage anniversary to reduce the the pain I had an Aristozyme though it relived a lot but it again started to pain it also causes anxiety which lead to the tension and depression all time whenever I get into study my head pains a lot and also I could not able to remember any term gor long time.

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you may be having infestation of intestinal parasites like hook warms, round warms, tape warms, normally one should get dewarming done at least once a year if not six monthly it isva single dose medication like albendazole or mebendazole. so get it done in consultation with a doctor near your locality. have plenty of water by mouth go for morning walk followed by free hand exercises. have balanced diet with lot of leafy vegetables, cereals and fruits. it will be alright.
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Hi I want ask with you question for me I have mentally problem when any one hearting me than I was cry and so angry and I feel I am alone in the world and I think about subside and I want live alone always any one not complete my wish than I was feeling sad actually in my childhood my parents left me in a hostel please give me a solution please.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Hi I want ask with you question for me I have mentally problem when any one hearting me than I was cry and so angry a...
Lybrate-user be strong, you have to live yourself, we come alone we go alone and therefore make the most of it. There is no point ending your life just because other people are not sensitive, everyone is different some will hurt you criticize you back bite you but you need to ignore it and keep your focus on your goals, be successful in life and work hard towards it thats the best thing you can do to yourself. You can consult a psychologist and take some counseling. It will benefit you. Consult with me for same. All the best.
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What have to do to increase the memory power of a man who had suffered a accident.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If his memory has been affected by the accident there is very little you can do because there may have been some organic damage. However, if he does extensive physiotherapy along with neurological exercises he could probably recover some of it.
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Hi, my name is Abhishek, I am suffering from stress and depression now a days. I am 30 years old, done MCA and recently working as a freelance music producer which came out of my interest in Music. Work is ok but not getting enough money to entertain my family n daily needs. I need psychological help.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, CE (New York)
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Hi, my name is Abhishek, I am suffering from stress and depression now a days. I am 30 years old, done MCA and recent...
Hi lybrate-user. As I understand that you are under stress due to some financial troubles. First of all, having depression or anxiety disorder is different from having stress. Anxiety disorder and depression are disorders in which there is significant impairment. The symptoms usually include sadness of mood, poor interest in work, negative thoughts, poor sleep and appetite. Your treatment will depend on the symptoms, you have. You can take either medications or psychological counselling or best a combination of both. Meet a nearby psychiatrist who will evaluate you in detail and will guide the treatment.
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How to Survive Depression Relapse

CST Psychiatry, DNB (PSYCHIATRY), MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Delhi
How to Survive Depression Relapse

Depression is defined as a mental state, which is typified by pessimistic sense of insufficiency and a hopeless lack of activity. This state could be so severe that it may require clinical intervention. 'Relapse' is the term coined for the reappearance of signs of depression within six months after the patient has been cured of depression. The time period of depression relapse may be smaller than depression recurrence, but it is equally frightening in both the cases. It becomes very difficult for the patient to combat all the signs of depression and cope up with gloom, fatigue, bad temper etc. The person starts alienating himself from the rest of the world. So, it becomes necessary for him to follow an apt strategy to survive a depression relapse.

First of all, the patient suffering from depression relapse should immediately consult his or her therapist or psychiatrist and get an adequate treatment for the same. The treatment procedure may include intake of antidepressants and psychotherapy. While the treatment is carried on, you may require some tips to survive that time interval. Below are some guidelines for the same: 

  1. Accept the Truth: Though it is never easy to acknowledge the state of mental illness, but it is the key to cope up with depression relapse. Accepting that depression would strike again and again would help you to deal with it.
  2. Identify the Symptoms of Depression Relapse: Instead of neglecting the initial signs of depression relapse, it is necessary to accept that depression has hit you again. It is better to leave your shame or guilt aside and consider it as a normal event. Immediately go and make your therapist aware of the symptoms you identified, so that remedial action could be taken accordingly. The first sign of depression relapse may differ from person to person. It may be lack of sensation or any sudden surge of energy. Although these changes may appear subtle but should be noted down and conveyed to your therapist.
  3. Seek help from others: Depression relapse gets easier to survive with the help of friends, family and loved ones. Open up about your mental state and talk freely to others. You will find that you are not alone. Constant support from your nearby people will prove very beneficial. They will keep reminding you the fact that, 'this too shall pass away'. Do not alienate yourself, instead try to socialize. Hang out with your friends and indulge in activities which bring you pleasure. Primarily it will be hard to seek joy by socializing but it will prove fruitful in the long run. Pursue your hobbies and try to relax.

Depression relapse occurs again and again, no matter how hard one tries to run away from it. So, it is better to accept this harsh truth and start following the above measures to survive Depression Relapse.

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I was a very good student with sharp memory power. But ftom last 2 3 years my memory power is decreasing I am not able to remember things properly even not lectures. It is effecting my studies my exams my grades. Please give me some suggestions so that I can bring my memory power back. It is effecting my mental as well as social life.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, welcome to lybrate. Memory and mind power depends mainly on three aspects. Understanding, storage and recollection. To understand what you are studying, you must be able to be attentive or concentrate. Concentration is possible when you are interested in that subject. Creative way of learning can help you concentrate and understand easily. When you are able to understand and concentrate, it is stored within your brain. If you read more and more it will be store in long term memory. Third part is retrieval. Whenever you want to retrive what you learned and stored, your brain gets the request, searches the database and retrieves the information for you. The retrieval may prove to be difficult if you are anxious, stressed, worried or tired physically or mentally. Retrieval is more easy when you are relaxed and healthy. Brain needs nutrients to keep itself sharp. Fruits, vegetables and dry fruits provide much needed nutrients for your brain. Include at least one fruit in your daily diet. Physical exercises, entertainment, hobbies, relaxation, memory games like sudoku etc help keep your memory sharp and active. You may consult a psychologist online or in person for advice, counseling and therapy. Take care.
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I have a deep depression problem I am not able to concentrate on work and my friends and family not support to me. Please advise.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, you should be able to distinguish between disappointment and depression. Disappointment also brings on symptoms identical to depression but they are short lived. Were you disappointed in the near past? please post a private question to me with every detail. I will help you. Take care.
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Improve Your Relationship With Your Partner in 5 Simple Ways

M.D Psychiatry , Diploma in Psychological Medicine, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Navi Mumbai
Improve Your Relationship With Your Partner in 5 Simple Ways

Quarrels are an integral part of any healthy and serious relationship. However, an overdose may lead to severed ties. It bruises your memory and leaves you too distraught to engage in an emotional attachment.

If you are struggling in your relationship, you might find it helpful:

  1. Empathize with your partner: The ability to empathize is what inhibits us from just going through life doing whatever we want, without any regard for others. It is what makes compromise in a relationship possible. If you realize that something you have done has hurt your partner, you will hesitate to do that again.
  2. To complain as least as possible: Keep low expectations from your partner. The most common reason for conflict in relationships is the list of expectations, which when left unfulfilled leads to complaining and nagging. What you do for your partner is what'you think is the right thing, but your partner may not hold the same perspective.
  3. Stop using labels: labeling is an indecent way of identifying the problem with your partner or with the relationship in general. You should neither brand yourself as something or your partner as something else. Associating critical adjectives with one another is a way of demeaning your lover and can dissuade your partner from communicating his or her viewpoint.
  4. Express yourself: Express thoughts, feelings, and wishes. Resentment can build when couples sweep things under the rug, so be vulnerable and don't bury negative feelings, but try to express them in a respectful way. Opening up to your partner can make you feel vulnerable and exposed, but it is the most important part of an intimate relationship.
  5. Try to rekindle the spark: Time, overburdening responsibilities or workload can make your relationship a routine affair. An element of secrecy and excitement is important. Therefore, desire should never take a backseat in your relationship. Try to fulfill your partner's desire and let him or her know about your expectations as well.
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I am constantly having tired feeling, experiencing excessive daytime sleepiness. And in night I can't sleep until 3 o clock, I have no motivation to do things, I am able to concentrate for only small time, all times I am worrying about my condition, I used to hesitate or postpone my works. Why this happening.

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), MD - Ayurveda
Sexologist, Haldwani
I am constantly having tired feeling, experiencing excessive daytime sleepiness. And in night I can't sleep until 3 o...
Hello- your symptoms suggests of excessive mental exhaustion. Try these tips and medicines (ayurvedic)- a) at no situation condition try to sleep at day time. B) massage your scalp with plain amla oil daily before going to bed. C) massage your foot soles with cows ghee at bed time. D) drink milk with a sweet before going to sleep. E) use kalyanak ghritam 1 tsp twice daily after meals.
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I'm getting very tired during my study. I fall sleep several times a day. I feel weak. I don't do exercise, I want to active more and more . How can I make me strong?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
There is some stress that needs attention from a professional. Meet with a counselor and get some help. In the meantime do some of these recommendations very faithfully: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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What is a bad effect on body if we use mobile phone excessively? Why we are so addicted towards mobile phone ? Is it our mental or psychological power get harm?

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
What is a bad effect on body if we use mobile phone excessively? Why we are so addicted towards mobile phone ? Is it ...
If you use mobile phones continuously for more than 40 minutes near you brain or heart these organs can be affected due to harmful radiations.
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I am 57 years old. I use spectra 75 to now a lesser dose spectra 10 from last 16 years for depression. Now I want to know about for four habits to help in depression. I want to close the medicine of depression. Help for this & weight loss. Thanking you. Ashok kumar kedia.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I am 57 years old. I use spectra 75 to now a lesser dose spectra 10 from last 16 years for depression.
Now I want to ...
Exercise regularly, meditate eat fresh fruits and green leafy vegetables write down any negative thoughts and maintain a dairy. Talk to loved one if you feel stressed.
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Hai I'm ramu suffering from the brain (studying after 3 minutes forget) so how to improve the knowledge please kindly any suggestion or treatment.

BHMS
Homeopath, Delhi
Hello, you can take homoeopathic medicine ancardium orient. 30 (4 drops in little water) twice a day for 15 days and update.
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I am a 42 year women, I am unable to bear the -ve thoughts because of which I am unable to sleep and these thoughts are continuously suffering and some times thinking my self to end life also. Please suggest to over come.

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
I am a 42 year women, I am unable to bear the -ve thoughts because of which I am unable to sleep and these thoughts a...
Negative thoughts comes based on our thinking nature. What we give the mind think and react like that. You want innerly negative thoughts. Negative thoughts and words are giving much excitement. But it influences on our behaviour. I like vulgar language. If I use with my friends. I may enjoy with my words. But some times in counselling. It will come automatically with out intention. So I care much about using any words with my friends also. You are getting negative thoughts internally you like. So it is better to avoid negative thoughts. Think always positive aspects. Behave like a positive women. For time pass also do not think about negative aspects. That you cannt have a capability of digest. Read good books. Inspirational books. Watch good channels. Share your internal feelings with your close friends and relatives. Develop busy work schedule. Always involve any other work. Do not sit alone. Do not maintain calmness. Better to visit new places, movies, temples, relatives homes, when you feel bore call and talk with your friends. Do not think alone. It is better to share always. It is good to you. Ok all the best.
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I have cold allergy. It comes once a week. Iam totally disturbed by the this. I can not concentrate in my studies. What should I do.

MBBS
General Physician, Hyderabad
Hi! Yoga yoga It can only save you Don't waste your time but join in some yoga and practice daily Otherwise you will have lot of suffering in the future Yoga builds immunity and corrects the system Thank you.
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How long depression cause?

PhD (Psychology), MSc Psychology, MS
Psychologist,
How long depression cause?
Dear, clinical depression is usually treated with a combination of psychiatric medicines, psychotherapy, life style changes, meditation and exercise. I hope you are undergoing psychiatric treatment, otherwise, please approach a psychiatrist. For other four treatment methods, I will help you. Please post a private question to me with all the details. Take care.
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Hello, I'M studying in engineering 2nd year. Since from my childhood I am not people person. I don't talk to anyone much. I'm mostly alone all time living in my dreams. I am passionate about science till my SSC. Upto SSC I have a feeling that I'm the most talented and always felt like king. During intermediate I was in hostel .there I did not adjust first. I was hyper active that time I thought I was special and talked to everyone. While talking I talked nonsense too. Many thought I was stupid, as I was in top section many thought I was topper .then I met a person who was silent and decent we because frnds .I saw how people respected him and how I was treated. So I also wanted to be like him and because silent. Which failed my confidence. So I thought when I leave this campus and go to another CLG I will be like him .my studies too fell I felt alone, depressed. Some how I completed my intermediate with 96%. I went to hyd for EAMCET coaching. I was there in my aunt's house. Got a seat in Mohan babu CLG in Tirupati. I took cse, because I thought I can talk well and I have interest in coding. But when l in CLG I did not made any frnds. I was very egotic for 2 weeks then I realized I need frnds but they were habituated to CLG so I thought what if I create a situation that I have made frnds correctly, this is my stupidity I know some where in me telling this is wrong, I locked myself in my hostel room and started thinking that. I know there is much world which I should know days passed I didn't changed I not even talked to many if they will know I did not group so I acted Daily thinking of my past. Small things became big to me .I don't know what I am doing. Its like if I slept for 2 years and just woke up. Condition became worse I forgot myself I was not talking to anyone that they will know I did not group to things. Many boys became friends with girls some fell in love .(In school I was talking well with girls in fact I used to talk mostly with them. I thought playing outside was nonsense so I only watched TV. During school days ,and also my parents made me to study all Time. My dad didn't have a job my mom is a school teacher. My dad did not want smaller jobs to do so he did not do any .they were fighting all time because of that I full of ego .)now I don't know what to do all got frnds I am single. All came to I am stupid. So tell how to get out of this.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Jaipur
Hello, I'M studying in engineering 2nd year. Since from my childhood I am not people person. I don't talk to anyone m...
Hi lybrate-user, First stop telling yourself that you are stupid. Second Stop thinking too much. And third start speaking about your thoughts to someone who is older and mature. I think you need to speak to some professional. You can contact me too. Thanks
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Hi madam this problem is related to my mind. One of my close friend is failed in his love his lover loved him a lot but she attracted by some other person and she now rejected my friend so he told every thing about his girl friend to me because he want some relaxation from those thoughts and tried to reduce the stress but in this way I was addicted by his behavior and caring then I loved him a lot but now he rejected me so my mind diverted unexpectedly that some one must love me as my loved one loved his lover and this leads to my time pass love actually now the person who loving me have so many hopes on me but my heart doesn't want him only my mind satisfied by his words I know I am wrong but what can I do? the person who is my close friend loved her lover so I want that type of love from some one of course but my heart doesn't accept any one except my close friend what can I do to reduce my wrong thoughts.

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
Hi madam this problem is related to my mind. One of my close friend is failed in his love his lover loved him a lot b...
You are getting indirect satisfaction from your friend. Your friend loved one person and failed. He revealed to you and get benefit from you. Then he feels. You also not needed. Then stop friendship to you. But you are unable to control of yourself. You wants to guide to him in all times. But it is not happen in all times. Friends are like that. When they need they come to you. After getting relief they leave to you. You also take it easy. Do not think too much about this aspects. You are getting much satisfaction when you listen and guide him. You feel supreme and your internal ego also satisfied. But the ego cannot tolerate when he leave to you. This is not good. He is not feel to you as a good friend. For that reason he leaves to you. So also think like that. Stop the indirect process of satisfaction. Internally you feel he wants to love to you. But he vexed this process and stopped with you also. You are getting very good experience based on that do not develop too much expectation from others. Take it easy. Better to concentration on your studies. Anyone comes to you and express their problems. Just listen and help to them. Do not think they are my all time friends. Better to change your thoughts process. Be friendly and be sociable. All the best.
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I am in stage of depression. My mother was the patient of Schizophrenia. I am feeling I have some symptoms of this as per I read about Schizophrenia in Internet.

MBBS, DPM
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
I am in stage of depression. My mother was the patient of Schizophrenia. I am feeling I have some symptoms of this as...
Dear lybrate-user, There is no way of knowing exactly who will get schizophrenia. However, about 1 in 100 people worldwide will develop the illness. Since schizophrenia tends to run in families, your chances may be higher because you mother has the disease. It is estimated, the risk factor for you is about 10%.(10 in 100) Depression is a part of negative symptoms of Schizophrenia. With other symptoms and mental status examination, any psychiatrist will be able to diagnose you. Please remember that if schizophrenia is diagnosed and treated in first 2 years, it will not become chronic, needing life long medicines.
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Hello doctor, Am married but its my 2nd marriage. I don’t have any family support. Now am 8 months pregnant. I and my husband crossed many problems in life. But we stabilised every problem. Suddenly I found my husband mind get diversion towards his old college mate. I already warned him that his mind diversion is not good. But he didn’t listen what I said. My husband has 9 year old girl child from his first wife. So he has to take care of that child too. I guess he feel tired of taking care of us. He is gong behind his girl friend. Early, she sent seduced videos and messages. His girl friend has 2 female kids. She is living in abroad. She came here last month. My husband went to her place and they both met each other. They tried to do physical contact. But situations didn’t allow them to go any privacy place. I and my husband had severe fight and argument. I come to know he want to leave us and he want to marry her. But that girl not ready to marry him. Because she is too rich. She is not ready to take risk in her children life. But definitely my husband cannot give good life to her. She knows all trues from our end. She need good companion to share her feelings. She was his ex lover. Past 2.5 months my family life spoiled. I could’t complain to anyone. If I do anything he ll do worse. Its very easy to get separate. Now problem is she don’t need him. Because he is trying to get her in his life which is not possible. I don’t know how to recover him from his illogic wish. Now his mind full of her thoughts. Always he is chatting and speaking. He is begging her for life. I don’t know how he is taking this kind of decisions and escaping from reality. Last week he told, he has to go sabari malai. I don’t know its true or not. 2 days back he told, he wants to stay with his friend home. Also he told he ll get back here 2 days. May be he ll come today or this week end. But as per his statement he told, after get salary he has to go to his native and do some procedures to go sabari malai. Also he told, he can not stay here for 1.5 months. I seriously could’t believe his any of things right now. I seriously have many doubts whether he want to stay away from me or really he is going to sabari malai I don’t know. Do ctor please advice me how to handle this. What is his mindset right now? How to recover him from this? I need my life back. Am nearing to my delivery. January last week my due date. At this situation he is leaving from here. Am so scare of everything.

psychologist
Psychologist, Delhi
Dear Sasi , Thanks for the query, please Don't take any type of stress at this point,it will be harmful for you and baby.talk with your husband with cool mind and ask his opinion.its time that you must consider for any step,involve your in laws and your family in this matter if things will go like this it will create problem in your married life.As you have said there are strong chances that may be for some time he may live with her but this is doubtful whether this will last longer.upto your delivery ask from your inlaws side to come and live there upto your delivery if possible. May be in there pressure he may not go somewhere with her.but its very important that he should away from her.take care.
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