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Dr. Prabhakaran is an experienced Psychologist in Mylapore, Chennai. You can meet Dr. Prabhakaran personally at Mind & Soul Care Clinic in Mylapore, Chennai. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Dr. Prabhakaran on has an excellent community of Psychologists in India. You will find Psychologists with more than 37 years of experience on You can find Psychologists online in Chennai and from across India. View the profile of medical specialists and their reviews from other patients to make an informed decision.


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I am a regular smoker, and I am having an urge to quit smoking, and it is getting difficult day by day to end it, I have heard about vaporizers which help quit smoking, what would you advise to go for it or not? And which one?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, Tobacco is addictive. Cigarette also contains 4000+ carcinogenic chemicals other than nicotine. Smoking can affect your mouth, throat, lungs, heart, stomach and brain in many ways. Cancer is one among the potential diseases smoking can cause. The best method is to leave it and continue with your will power. There are other methods like Nicotine Replacement therapy and pharmacotherapy combined. Nicotine chewing gums too help as an alternative for cigarettes. But still you will need will power. You may consult a physician or deaddiction therapist or a rehabilitation facility for further advice. You can also opt for online deaddiction therapy. Take care.
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Good evening sir Sir I really feel jealous from my younger sister. I don't know why? please help me to overcome from this problem..

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Good evening sir
Sir I really feel jealous from my younger sister. I don't know why? please help me to overcome from ...
Sibling rivalry is very much a part of growing up together with your sister. When she was not born, you got entire attention and love from the parents. After her birth, suddenly you became" senior" and" didi" you might not have liked the reality that your parents attention and love got divided. As we all grow up, we start losing our innocence. So when you started losing your innocence may be she was still small and hence parents were more attached to her. There is a possibility that there are certain physical or emotional traits in her, which you probably think you do not have and hence that can be one reason of your jealousy. Please understand that you may not have certain things that she has, but then you also may be having certain strengths which is lacking in her. Each person is unique. Understand you strengths. Try to improve upon your skills so that you feel more confident and feel good about yourself. Observe your parents, they might be expressing their love for you in a different way. As an elder sister you will have certain privileges and responsibilities - enjoy that. Try to make a strong emotional bond with your sister by taking an initiative to help her. You will see how she will learn to reciprocate and then there will be no reason for jealousy.
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I am nearing 70 yrs. Very active in all respects, attending daily office activities in a test lab. For the last two months I had four morning incidences, like loosing memory totally, may be for an hour or so. I do not suffer from any sugar or bp, only during june 2012 I had been operated for by pass.

M.Phil clinical Psychology, MS Psychotherapy and Counseling, PGDGC, MSc Psychology
Psychologist, Chennai
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The possibility is that you may be in the initial phase of dementia if all other vital such as bp or sugar |(low)
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My mother is suffering from bipolar disorder-mania for many years starting from age 18. Now around 49. It's normal most of the time but will happen many time in a year and will continue for one or two weeks. Is there any permanent solution or new findings or medicins for this problem sir. I'm at 27 now. there any possibility of inheritance for me in any manner in future sir? I have a sister at 28 also normal now.

General Physician, Jalgaon
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Please Less chances of inheritance Please give her Saraswatarishta 20 ml twice a day for 3 months Cap stresscom by dabur 2 2 for 3 months Consult me regularly on Lybrate till she feels better Take her for morning and evening walk regularly Tell her to do meditation regularly.
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Hello doctor! I am suffering from a lot of negativity inside me. I always take out a negative meaning from everything, every matter of talk, etc. I think I am wrong always. I am a bad person. I have no self confidence inside me. I always doubt myself. Right now, I am not even to explain you how it feels like. I'm very much depressed and feeling restless. Please help me out before I get mad. I'm feeling like my brain is going to get burned because of these negative thoughts.

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
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Unfortunately you have taken the social conditioning of "how one should be" to your heart. You need counseling asap Take Bach flower remedies pine, gentian and crab apple. Two drops each mixed in some water thrice daily for few weeks.
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I am feeling scared of sleeping alone because I feel that because of yesterday I told Bloody Mary in front of the mirror 3 times ?Please suggest any solutions to sleep without fear.

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy
Ayurveda, Jammu
I am feeling scared of sleeping alone because I feel that because of yesterday I told Bloody Mary in front of the mir...
Hello XAVIER dont beleive in roumours be positive n have faith in god n speak the name of your God 5 times before sleep n think about your best moments of your life n be happy .so trust me nothing happens
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Hi sir/mam, I am suffering from Anxiety and Depression from Last 5-6 months and I had tried all Medicines including Allopathy, ayurvedic & Now m Taking Homeopathy! But not the bttr result! I always think Negative and due to that I get in depression and feel alone and helpless! I always feel Worried that whats going to happened with me in negative way! Please help me and suggest me some natural ways to Kill Anxiety and Depression! Coz I want to live Happily With My 2 children! 1 is of 3 years old girl and anther is 20 day old boy! thanks Alot in Advance.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Hi sir/mam, I am suffering from Anxiety and Depression from Last 5-6 months and I had tried all Medicines including A...
“Anxiety is a normal, predictable part of life. However, “people with an anxiety disorder are essentially phobic about the feeling state of anxiety.” And they’ll go to great lengths to avoid it. Some people experience generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), excessive anxiety about real-life concerns, such as money, relationships, health and academics, Others struggle with society anxiety, and worry about being evaluated or embarrassing themselves, he said. People with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) might become preoccupied with symmetry or potential contamination. “The bottom line is that people can experience anxiety, and anxiety disorders, related to just about anything. Most of these steps contribute to a healthy and fulfilling life, overall. For instance, “making some basic lifestyle changes can do wonders for someone coping with elevated anxiety,” Take these steps from today. 1. Take a deep breath. “Deep diaphragmatic breathing triggers our relaxation response, switching from our fight-or-flight response of the sympathetic nervous system, to the relaxed, balanced response of our parasympathetic nervous system,” according to, clinical psychologists. Who have suggested the following exercise, which you can repeat several times: Inhale slowly to a count of four, starting at your belly and then moving into your chest. Gently hold your breath for four counts. Then slowly exhale to four counts. 2. Get active. “One of the most important things one can do [to cope with anxiety] is to get regular cardiovascular exercise,” For instance, a brisk 30- to 60-minute walk “releases endorphins that lead to a reduction in anxiety.” You can start today by taking a walk. Or create a list of physical activities that you enjoy, and put them on your schedule for the week. Other options include: running, rowing, rollerblading, hiking, biking, dancing, swimming, surfing, step aerobics, kickboxing and sports such as soccer, tennis and basketball. 3. Sleep well. Not getting enough sleep can trigger anxiety. If you’re having trouble sleeping, tonight, engage in a relaxing activity before bedtime, such as taking a warm bath, listening to soothing music or taking several deep breaths. And, if you’re like many people with anxiety whose brains start buzzing right before bed, jot down your worries earlier in the day for 10 to 15 minutes, or try a mental exercise like thinking of fruits with the same letter. 4. Challenge an anxious thought. “We all have moments wherein we unintentionally increase or maintain our own worry by thinking unhelpful thoughts. These thoughts are often unrealistic, inaccurate, or, to some extent, unreasonable,” Thankfully, we can change these thoughts. The first step is to identify them. Consider how a specific thought affects your feelings and behaviours. Is it helpful or unhelpful? These are the types of thoughts you want to challenge. Therefore it is suggested asking yourself: “Is this worry realistic?” “Is this really likely to happen?” “If the worst possible outcome happens, what would be so bad about that?” “Could I handle that?” “What might I do?” “If something bad happens, what might that mean about me?” “Is this really true or does it just seem that wa Then, “reframe or correct that thought to make it more accurate, realistic and more adaptive.” Here’s one example: “I would feel embarrassed if I tripped on the stage, but that’s just a feeling; it wouldn’t last forever, and I would get through it.” 5. Say an encouraging statement. Positive, accurate statements can help to put things into perspective. See these examples: “Anxiety is just a feeling, like any other feeling.” and “This feels bad, but I can use some strategies to [cope with] it.” 6. Stay connected to others. “Social support is vital to managing stress,” Today, call a loved one, schedule a Skype date or go to lunch with a close friend. “Talking with others can do a world of good.” Another option is to get together and engage in an activity that improves your anxiety, such as taking a walk, sitting on the beach or going to a yoga class. 7. Avoid caffeine. Managing anxiety is as much about what you do as what you don’t do. And there are some substances that exacerbate anxiety. Caffeine is one of those substances. As said, “The last thing people with anxiety need is a substance that makes them feel more amped up, which is exactly what caffeine does.” 8. Avoid mind-altering substances. “While drugs and alcohol might help to reduce anxiety in the short term, they often do just the opposite in the long term,” Even the short-term effect can be harmful. Experts have treated countless clients whose first panic attack occurred while they were taking drugs such as marijuana, ecstasy or LSD. “Panic attacks are bad enough if you are straight and sober, so imagine how bad they are if you are high, and can’t get un-high until the drug wears off.” 9. Do something you enjoy. Engaging in enjoyable activities helps to soothe your anxiety. For instance, today, you might take a walk, listen to music or read a book, 10. Take a break. It’s also helpful to build breaks into your day. As it is said, this might be a “simple change of pace or scenery, enjoying a hobby, or switching ‘to-do’ tasks.” “Breaking from concerted effort can be refreshing.” 11. Problem-solve. It is suggested considering how you can address the stressors that are causing your anxiety. Today, make a list of these stressors and next to each one, jot down one or two solutions. 12. Pick up a book. There are many valuable resources on anxiety, which teach you effective coping skills. Some recommended are Dying of Embarrassment for people with social anxiety; The BDD Workbook for body dysmorphic disorder; The Imp of the Mind and The OCD Workbook for obsessive-compulsive disorder. It is suggested Stop Obsessing for adults with OCD (and Up and Down the Worry Hill for kids with OCD). For people with panic attacks, it is suggested Don’t Panic: Taking Control of Anxiety Attacks. For a general overview of cognitive-behavioural therapy for anxiety, 13. Engage in calming practices. “Meditation, yoga, or other calming practices can help minimize anxiety in both the short and long term.” Sign up for a yoga class or watch a yoga video online. (Curvy Yoga is a wonderful and sizes.) Meditate right now for just three minutes resource for yoga for all shapes 14. Contact a therapist. “Sometimes anxiety can be difficult to manage without professional help,” Many organizations include databases of providers who specialize in anxiety (along with helpful information). 15. Accept your anxiety. “If you really want to effectively manage your anxiety, the key is to accept it,” This might sound counterintuitive. But anxiety, “in and of itself,” isn’t the real problem. Instead, it’s our attempts at controlling and eliminating it, he said. “Not accepting these unwanted inner experiences is the actual source of so much of our self-induced suffering.” Accepting anxiety doesn’t mean “resign[ing] ourselves to a life of anxious misery. It simply means that we are better off recognizing and fully accepting the existence of anxiety and other uncomfortable emotional states that are inevitable, but transitory,” So if you experience anxiety today, simply observe it. “Think of it like a wave of the ocean; allow it to come in, experience it, and ride it out.” Anxiety can feel overwhelming. It can feel like chains around your feet, weighing you down. But by taking small steps – like the ones above – you can minimize your anxiety and cope effectively.
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Mine is not a medical condition. My problem is I wasn't able to get people attention and turn them into my way. I need to what is the best practice to do that? Even a girl that I wanted to impress considering me as brother. I want to change back the things in my way. Can you suggest me something. I know this is a strange thing. But expecting a reply.

Homeopath, Raebareli
Mine is not a medical condition. My problem is I wasn't able to get people attention and turn them into my way. I nee...
Please note that why are you expecting so much from others ....when you are not fit for the same. Rise from your normal life see the world with open eyes it has different shades that needs to be felt and understood. Do your studies work hard to be a successful man in life and you will/can easily draw attention of others - its very simple. Be the man you want in life. BELIEVE IN HIM - even if the humankind pays no attention to you - HE will be always with you forever forever grasp his hands............................ Do meditation daily to relieve stress from your life Eat well and stay healthy
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My age is 31 due to stress and work load I feel a lot of weakness inside and my hands shiver I feel sexually weakness also m not able to give my 100%.

General Physician, Chennai
My age is 31 due to stress and work load I feel a lot of weakness inside and my hands shiver I feel sexually weakness...
You seem to be very upset you must learn to discard the thought of your office when you leave office and this should will apply when you leave home do compartmentalise your mind and brain this you must train your mind to do this and it is not easy but try to apply and train yourself and you will be at peace.
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Male, 39 Hi I am Jaydev I have breathing pro blame when I am free (alone), otherwise nothing happened when I am in work .I also suffering fear - anxiety last few days Is it panic attack or lung pro blame? I am very much worry about this Pls suggest me.

Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Male, 39
Hi I am Jaydev
I have breathing pro blame when I am free (alone), otherwise nothing happened when I am in wo...
Hi lybrate-user, Your problem can be panic or lungs. Why don't you get it checked up instead of suffering. A psychiatrist is a medical MBBS doctor. She/he will be able to diagnose it properly by history and examination alone. Some time she/he may ask for lung function tests. It is nice to know that it does not affect your work. Your quality of life will improve with proper treatment.
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Sir, I am studying b tech 2 and years age 18 my mood some times changes without reason and I am thinking bad about my life all bad thoughts and I use phone daily 6 hrs a day.

MBBS, MD psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Gulbarga
Sir, I am studying b tech 2 and years age 18 my mood some times changes without reason and I am thinking bad about my...
Plan and execute a time table for yourself. If you still continue to have the above problem, consult psychiatrist.
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Hi Doctor, I tend to forget things. And recently its happening a lot from last 6 month ? My age is 21 what should I do ?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. At your age, memory problems like amnesia, dementia etc are not common. Many young people are having problems with memory. These problems are either they are too busy or due to anxiety and stress. Busy people use organizers or employ a personal assistant because they can't remember every task. You need to understand this. If you still say, you are having memory problems, we need to check your memory using memory test. If you want more of my help in this regard, please contact me. Take care.
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Hi I want to discuss this issue with real seriousness that my friend Rene has been suffering for quite a long, long time. It's actually very agonizing when you notice you are different from the others and yet you have to deal with it as you have been suggested by your elders that it will be okay when you are 18. But that okay never happened. Being his childhood friend, he shared everything with me and so I came to know that he has been suffering from micropenis syndrome all throughout his life. His hormonal changes were bit late too. His voice started breaking at 15 years while he started growing beard at late 17. Most importantly his penis never grew after 8 years or nine years. Is there any treatment for this type of medical problems. Now he is 19 and doing engineering and I feel it's high time to see a doctor. I would be highly grateful if you could provide with me some informations regarding this because its really a grave situation for me and my friend. Every one at his age is having girlfriends and he is scared of getting into any type of relationships. Sometimes a person need someone more than a friend but he is too scared and embarrassed with his own self. He have been bullied quite a lot in school. Recently it's hitting him really bad. He feels depressed whenever we, our friends start talking about our lives, our future. It's really hard for him to swim through the awkwardness of his own life. Please look into the matter. I would highly appreciate your views.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi  I want to discuss this issue with real seriousness that my friend Rene has been suffering for quite a long, long ...
Dear lybrate user, thank you for the detailed information. I really appreciate the love and care you have for your friend. I think you both are unnecessarily worried. His voice started breaking at 15 and he started growing beard at the age of 17 - then it is perfectly normal. Some people have early physical changes - at the age of 12 -13 some have late at 16 - 17. His growth will depend on his genes. Do not compare him with you or any of your friends. If at all, look into his family history - enquire about his father, uncles, brothers - at what age did they started showing physical signs of sexual maturity and then you will understand that, probably they all have matured at the same age. And now at the age of 19, if his voice and beard is like any other boy, there is nothing to worry about. Now regarding the micropenis syndrome - you both need to understand that men have penis in different sizes (like women have breasts in different sizes) and you need not worry so much about his small size. Penis size increases automatically on sexual arousal. I will strongly recommend you both to see a sexologist. You both need more sex education which will include human anatomy. Please do not feel shy and please consult a renowned sexologist, who will give you more knowledge about your bodies and sex. Worrying about it all the time, will damage your friend's self confidence. You both consult a sexologist so that you both can gain more knowledge and support each other. All the best.
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I am feeling like choking because I have left smoking is it normal. I was smoking like from last one year almost 10 cigarette daily.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
It is probably a sensation that makers you want to remember your smoking days and hound you back to the addiction. You were smoking heavily and os the addiction will act like an entity to entice you back to it. Stay with your decision and if you wish you may visit an ENT specialist and examine this sensation in your throat. I am glad you have quit and you must do everything you possibly can to keep this resolve. You will be tempted by circumstances and people many, many times inadvertently to relapse but do not succumb and stick to your resolve come what may.
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I can not pronounce some words properly. My tongue will not support. I can not speak fast! How to overcome from it?

General Physician, Nashik
Breathe deeply and exhale on a hisssssssing sound. Repeat 10 times. Proper breathing is the foundation for a healthy voice AND control over nervous energy that can make the voice quiver. Say “Mm-mmm (as in yummy) Mmm-hmm (like yes) ” Repeat 5 times. This develops mask resonance, which creates a clean and vibrant sound by creating a clean approximation of the cords and a resonance that will sound great and project easily. Say “Mm-mmm. Mmm-hmm.” up and down your vocal range, from low to middle to high and back again, 10 times.
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I am 27 years old. I was preparing for government job for last 2.5 years but could not able to succeed mind is always diverting here and there. Negative thoughts are always pouring on my mind. I could not able to concentrate properly. Unnecessary thoughts always break pace of my study. Smoking is another factor I think that affects my study. Plse give solution.

Masters in Clinical Psychology & Certified Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Practioner, Certified Neuro linguistic programming Practioner, Masters in Clinical Psychology, Post Graduate Diploma in Child and ADolescent Counselling
Psychologist, Pune
Environment Your personal work environment plays a large role in your ability to concentrate. The more comfortable and welcoming your environment is, the easier it will likely be for you to stay there and focus. Here are some ideas for improving your physical environment: •Make sure you're comfortable – Start by ensuring that your chair and desk are at the right height for you to work comfortably. If your chair is too high or your desk is too low, you'll be uncomfortable, and you'll be tempted to use this as an excuse to get up and walk away. •Put up pictures – Viewing a natural scene or watching wildlife can help improve concentration. If you're able to put up pictures in your office or work area, then choose landscapes or natural images that you enjoy. This can help your focus, especially if you can see the pictures from your desk. •Shut out distractions as much as possible – Listening to music can help, especially if it's instrumental music. Some people even use" white noise" apps – these produce a steady, non-distracting sound like ocean waves or falling rain. This steady background noise can drown out other noise, helping you focus better and ignore distractions. Nutrition Follow some simple nutritional tips: •Drink water – Many of us don't think about drinking water while we're at work, yet dehydration can make us feel tired, irritable, slow, or even sick. When our brains don't have enough fluid, they can't operate at peak performance. Staying hydrated is an easy way to help improve your concentration during the day. •Eat breakfast – Start your day with a healthy breakfast. It's much harder to concentrate when you're hungry, so eat a well-rounded meal before you go to work. You can also help your concentration throughout the day by keeping healthy snacks at your desk. Almonds, whole-grain crackers, fresh fruit, and vegetables are good choices. •Get up and move around – Do you walk around during the day? If you're like many people, you probably don't move around enough. Research has shown that regular walking can help increase your focus during the day. Follow some of these guidelines to help focus your mind: •Set aside time to deal with worries – Many of us have trouble concentrating during the day because we're constantly worrying about other things. It could be an approaching deadline for a project you haven't started, a new colleague who's causing problems, or just the amount of work on your desk. If you find yourself distracted by worries, then note these down so that you don't need to hold them in your mind. Then schedule time to deal with these issues. •Focus on one task at a time – It can be much harder to focus if you take minibreaks (15–30 seconds) to answer emails, send text messages, or take quick phone calls. Some researchers believe that it can take up to 15 minutes for us to regain complete focus after a distraction. •Close your email box and chat program – Let your voice mail do its job. If your office allows it, close your office door or put up a" Do Not Disturb" sign to let colleagues know you need to focus. (If you're a manager and you want to operate an open door policy, then consider working from home or from elsewhere for times when you need to focus.) •Switch between high- and low-attention tasks – This can give your brain a rest after heavy concentration. For instance, if you spend two hours working on your department's budget, you'll probably feel tired afterward. You can recharge your energy by working on a low-attention task, like filing, for 15 minutes before going back to your budget. •Prioritize – Having too much to do can be distracting, and this sometime causes procrastination. Or, you may quickly jump from task to task, creating the illusion of work – but in reality, you're not accomplishing very much. If you're not sure which tasks to start or which are most important, take 10 or 15 minutes to prioritize your To-Do List. Our article Overcoming Procrastination can also help. More Tips for Improving Your Concentration •Take short breaks – We can be masters at focusing, but eventually we're going to need a break. Our minds can struggle to focus intensely on tasks for eight hours a day. This is where it can be better to divide your work into one-hour segments, with a 5–10 minute break between tasks. This short break will allow your mind to rest before focusing again. •Use a phone headset – If you have a headset for your phone, consider using it for a few hours each day. If your colleagues think you're on the phone, they're less likely to interrupt you. •Promise yourself a reward – For instance, make a rule that if you focus intensively for 45 minutes on one task, you can take a break to get a cup of coffee when you're done. Little" self-rewards" can often be great motivators. •Schedule email downloads – It can be tremendously distracting to have emails pinging into your inbox every few minutes – you're tempted to stop what you're doing, and answer them right away. If you can, schedule your email to download only a few times each day, and deal with all of your emails in one go.
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I lost someone very special last year. I prefer to stay alone thereafter, please help me out.

MA - Clinical Psychology, P.G. Diploma in Guidance and Counseling, BA In Psychology
Psychologist, Mumbai
I lost someone very special last year.
I prefer to stay alone thereafter, please help me out.
Opt for counselling near you or book online appointment here. If it is hampering your self too much. Or then time is best healer give your self time. Don't stay aloof. Try and do things that you enjoy. Life is very beautiful do your best.
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MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
When Swapna had come to the office, she had bruises over her neck and hands. Her friend immediately realised that it was physical abuse probably by her husband. But, she kept quiet as she thought questions about the bruises can embarrass Swapna, and she will again relive the pain which would cause her more anxiety. The whole day, though Swapna was sitting near her desk she never mentioned about her bruises.

It happens with most of us, especially when we come across victims of physical abuse wherein the injuries are evident but we hesitate to question them. The reasons could be:

People think that the person can get embarrassed.
People do not know how to start the conversation.
People think that it is their personal life and so they should not intervene.
All of us should help our friends and family, at least those who are victims of physical abuse. But how to help?

Before that we need to first know whether the person is a victim of physical abuse/ domestic violence. One need not be an expert to talk to one suffering from physical abuse. These are some tips –

Ask the person privately.
Victim of abuse can feel embarrassed when things about the abuse are asked in a group of people.
Accept the fact that a victim of physical abuse would probably try to hide the abuse.
The reasons for hiding could be embarrassment, being blamed, not being believed etc.
Show concern while starting the conversation.
In the above case, Swapna’s friend could start the conversation in private by saying “I noticed these bruises on your hand Swapna. I am really concerned about you. Can I help you in any way?”
Or she could also say “I think you are stressed out today, you can talk to me now or another time about it, I will keep it confidential”
A victim will always remember that you offered help though they might not open up immediately.
The first time you offered help and if the person has not told you anything, it is okay. They will definitely remember that you offered help and whenever the stress becomes too much you might be the person they will remember and share their worries with.
Do not feel that by asking your friend might think that it is not your business or she won’t need help.
You lose very little if your friend says that it is not your business but chances are very little that she would say that.
Do not hesitate to show concern and ask for help.
Reinforce to the friend that it is not their fault and at the same time do not overtly scold or bad mouth the partner in front your friend.
Listen patiently without judging and respond supportively like supporting their decisions and trying to tell them that the feelings of anger or guilt, they are experiencing, are normal in their situations.
Believe the person and do not belittle their traumatic experience.
If the person is telling that her husband beats her up quite often, DO NOT SAY “I know your husband, he is not like that, you are mistaken”
People who abuse partners behave differently when in public and when in private, with partners.
Take them seriously if they are fearful about their safety.
At least tell them that “What you said seems definitely dangerous and I am really concerned about you”
You can discuss a safety plan with her in case of an emergency.
Try to offer help appropriately.
Help could be also giving her information regarding social services, legal help, if needed.
If your friend asks you to do something you can do, do it.
If you can’t do or don’t want to, say that to your friend and try to identify other ways where she can seek for help. Later you can see the other ways in which you can help.
For a person being abused, just the fact that someone cares enough to at least ask her about her physical abuse can make her feel wanted and will be supportive. Talking is the best form of therapy.
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I am 19 years old I am suffering with lack of concentration how to over come that problem.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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I am 18 years old girl, I am preparing for entrance exam of engineering. I have found out symptoms of daydreaming, I am unable to concentrate in present moment and reality that I haven't prepared anything for exam. I am just loosing time again and again. I am at the extreme stage of daydreaming. I have found some blog on maladaptive daydreaming, it has not specified treatment, what should I do?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, You must be able to understand Concentration, attention span, recollection and distraction. If you are able to watch a movie for two hours continuously, if you are able to play a game for an hour, then you do not have any concentration problems. You can't be attentive towards your studies because you are not interested in it. You are able to watch movie and play game because you are interested in it. Human cannot be attentive towards anything for more than 10 minutes. Then you should study in such a way that your attention is continued and make the subjects are interesting to you. Effective learning techniques should help you. Recollection depends on anxiety, stress and other physical and circumstantial factors. Distractions while studying are plentiful. You should be able to overcome distractions or avoid distractions. Please understand the above. Change your study style and attitude accordingly. Please post a private question to me and I will help you with "effective learning" techniques. Avocados, Beetroots, Blueberries, Broccoli. Celery, Coconut Oil, Dark Chocolate etc are good for improving concentration. Take care.
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