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Dr. N. Solayappan

Psychiatrist, Chennai

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Dr. N. Solayappan is one of the best Psychiatrists in Guindy, Chennai. He is currently practising at Sri Balaji Hospital in Guindy, Chennai. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Dr. N. Solayappan on Lybrate.com.

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Dear Sir, Please suggest me I am in big confusion I am living with my aunt and uncle since 1 month and internally I do not want to live here now and want to go back home and continue studying there was here for better study but the situation circumstances I saw here I do not want to live here for a single day it keep putting pressure on my mind and I am getting depressed please mail me answer me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Dear Sir, Please suggest me I am in big confusion I am living with my aunt and uncle since 1 month and internally I d...
Usually, there will some discomfort initially in a new place. The decision to send you there must have been a well thought-out matter perhaps even involving you. So when you look back and consider all the pros and cons of that decision and find somethings terribly wrong only then can your request be considered. If you leave now, it will definitely appear to your aunt and uncle that you do not favor their place and that may be an insult. So if you are absolutely sure, talk to your parents first and see how they react to your desire to leave and if they see good reasons to support you then only it is possible for you to move. If there are things that can be done to make adjustments on either side then look at that option too and see what can be worked out. Only in an impossible situation should you give up on this arrangement. Ultimately, even if these things can be done, it is your studies that are of paramount importance: Nothing should jeopardise your studies. So do reason it out with your folks before making and conveying this decision.
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My husband has ROCD. Is there any therapy to cure it? Also please tell me how I can be supportive.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Yes, he can be given cognitive behavioral treatments. A thorough history would include the presenting problems, background of the problems, and personal history with specific emphasis on relational history and family history and environment. It is of outmost importance to gain a clear understanding of the nature, pattern, and duration of your husband’s symptoms within the relationship context and in previous relationships. Therapists should collect detailed information about triggers of obsessions, their frequency and duration, the expected feared outcome or worry about the obsessions, and the responses to these intrusions. Responses include emotions (e.g., anxiety, guilt), overt compulsions (e.g., checking, comparing, reassurance seeking), covert compulsions (e.g., thought suppression, monitoring of internal states, self-reassurance), and avoidance or safety behaviors. ROCD symptoms have been linked with significant personal difficulties (e.g., mood, anxiety, and other OCD symptoms) and couple difficulties (e.g., relationship and sexual dissatisfaction). The counselor will help him and you in the treatment process. There will be a lot of contaminated thinking and decontamination is a good therapy to use in this context. He may develop an obsession of a particular trait from any old association as desirable not because he really likes it but because he has got familiar to that feature, perhaps from a movie, and just has an affinity to it. He may however imagine it to be the ultimate among all traits and stay fixated to it. He needs a lot of love but not to be overdone. His fears may be discussed and your discernment is very important. You will need to very intelligently show him the reality from fiction. His family background and childhood may help to determine how to counter their influences. It is a long process and tedious too. If there are other OCD characteristics, then you will need to get treatment for them too. Remember that there is a lot of fear and confusion, and decision making will be near impossible. You could be of tremendous help to make decisions and remove that burden. This can only happen if you prove your intelligence and decision making art.
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I do have rough patches in between thighs, I do have throat dries ,head ache, fever, how to quit cigarette?

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
I do have rough patches in between thighs, I do have throat dries ,head ache, fever, how to quit cigarette?
Dear friend, all habits are unconscious. So try being conscious of your smoking habit. Whenever you smoke, just do it with all your senses alert. Right from pulling out a cigarette from the box watching the picture of smokers lungs on the box. Feeling it between your fingers to putting it between the lips, be aware of the smell of tobacco. Watch yourself lighting it and the grey colored smoke entering your mouth touching and passing by the oral tissues to your air pipe to lastly filling your lungs. Make an internal picture of your pharynx and lungs filled with smoke (at this point, you may watch the picture of lungs again). Pay attention to all other feelings including dryness/coughing/ or any other body changes. Finally you are advised not to judge yourself everyday, and be patient to let the habit go on its own quite miraculously!
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I am 25 yes old. Am unable to study for my exams and am unable to concentrate can I help me.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings. If you find answer helpful please click on “helpful” tab for knowing my efforts are useful CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs . If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break.
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Smoking is keeping me stocked to it and I just want to get rid of it. Suggest me ways to put off smoking.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chandigarh
Smoking is very harmful for body. It causes many cancers of body & affects the lungs, heart more. Better you should abstain from alcohol.
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I have heavy body pains from a week, I can't able to sleep daily, I have used many medicines, but it was not reduced?

BHMS
Homeopath, Raebareli
I have heavy body pains from a week, I can't able to sleep daily, I have used many medicines, but it was not reduced?
Please do check if you are having continuous fever or not. Also check if you are sleeping under fan/ac - avoid so. Also check your hb% and calcium levels once. Take rhus tox 200 - twice daily for next 3-4 days only. Get back to me for further treatment.
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MBA (HR), D.Sc, MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, M.Sc - Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Pune
How to Deal with Disappointment 

1. Accept the reality of what has happened.
2. Accept and experience the full negative emotional impact. For example, it’s likely to damage your self-confidence and undermine your self-esteem. You are also likely to experience loss.
3. Talk about it with people who understand and care. This will help you to process the negative emotions so you can start to heal and move on with your life.
4. Change the way you think about yourself and the negative experience. See it as something you can learn and grow from – and not as something that destroys your life.
5. “When one door closes another opens” so get back in the game and embrace life again. Set yourself new goals, and embrace a dream again. Something even better may be waiting for you!
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Why we stress when having sex? Did you know? You can answer this question then reply me at this number. Plz.

Fellowship in Comprehensive Ophthalmology, DOMS
Ophthalmologist, Sangrur
Why we stress when having sex? Did you know? You can answer this question then reply me at this number. Plz.
Hello sex involves many muscles of body and it needs energy when many muscles are at work. So we get tired.
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My father was died by attempting suicide so I am in depression so please help me what to do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My father was died by attempting suicide so I am in depression so please help me what to do.
Your father died due to some problem which he felt he could not handle. All problems can be solved but we may not have as yet found a solution at that given time. Now this is a lesson for you that if you find yourself in a situation where you feel the issues cannot be solved, that is only your perception. If you look for it and if you collaborate with others, a solution can be found. This lesson is very important to learn and use always in your life. Your depression could be anger related with your father for taken his life and leaving you to fend for yourself. You must meet with a counselor and talk about your feelings and you will surely get out of this depression. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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I'm suffer from sex related eye problem for the the past 1 year. When I see women/men my eyes automatically see their sex organs/boobs without my permission. I am hardly trying my eyes to control. But every time it's in vain. Eventhough I'm not a gay. Now I always having so much hesitations to look my relatives/friends/girl friend. Because im afraid of seeing their sex organ/boob. So please help me. Thanks,

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I'm suffer from sex related eye problem for the the past 1 year. When I see women/men my eyes automatically see their...
You may be suffering from OCD. Consult a psychiatrist for controlling the obsessive thoughts. Practice. Mindful Breathing The primary goal of mindful breathing is simply a calm, nonjudging awareness, allowing thoughts and feelings to come and go without getting caught up in them. Sit comfortably, with your eyes closed and your spine reasonably straight. Bring your attention to your breathing. Imagine that you have a balloon in your tummy. Every time you breathe in, the balloon inflates. Each time you breathe out, the balloon deflates. Notice the sensations in your abdomen as the balloon inflates and deflates. Your abdomen rising with the in-breath, and falling with the out-breath. Thoughts will come into your mind, and that’s okay, because that’s just what the human mind does. Simply notice those thoughts, then bring your attention back to your breathing. Likewise, you can notice sounds, physical feelings, and emotions, and again, just bring your attention back to your breathing. You don’t have to follow those thoughts or feelings, don’t judge yourself for having them, or analyse them in any way. It’s okay for the thoughts to be there. Just notice those thoughts, and let them drift on by, bringing your attention back to your breathing. Whenever you notice that your attention has drifted off and is becoming caught up in thoughts or feelings, simply note that the attention has drifted, and then gently bring the attention back to your breathing. It's okay and natural for thoughts to enter into your awareness, and for your attention to follow them. No matter how many times this happens, just keep bringing your attention back to your breathing. Consult psychologist for therapy.
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My question is for psychiatrist I'm 20 year old engineering student I had a girl friend with whom I was in relationship for almost 2 years there we're no misunderstanding or any trust based issues between us. Our relationship was going well intact we both loved each other and were ready for marriage too. But all of a sudden two months back my girlfriend ditched me. And didn't even tell me proper reason or why is she breaking up with me, but after many days of struggle and hard push I got t know some how that she is not even committed to any other boy or she doesn't even like anybody else and she still loves me. But last couple of weeks ago I forced her to tell why was she avoiding me so much being rude too Me so much and no texts and call all of a sudden, and I was shaken by her answer, and I'm completely going mad in my life The reason she gave was that she needs a break till I and she complete her under graduate and later once I'm done with job if I remember her at that time she wants me to approach her parents and ask for her to get married to me, till then she doesn't want t keep any kinda links or contact or relationship with me. She says she wants me in her life but at the same time she tells me that" she doesn't care about me and go to hell idontcare" kinda stuffs Earlier she was having lots of hopes on our relationship but now she has left with 0% hopes idk why. She says to take care of my life and future but I I want to lead my life with her But she is like this. I'm totally going mad and hell lot of stress I can't even study for my exams and not able to concentrate.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
My question is for psychiatrist
I'm 20 year old engineering student
I had a girl friend with whom I was in relationsh...
Hi lybrate-user, its better to let go of people who do not want to stay in our lives. She for sure is giving excuses for a reason she is not ready to disclose. The reason is something else, but someone who does not even owe you an explanation for her behavior and cold attitude you should not chase them. Infact, she has lost you so with time if she wants you she should come back to you not the other way round. To test a person sometimes you need to leave caring about them, leave her on her own terms and focus on your studies its your studies and career that will take you long way, people will come and go but remember right people will stay.
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Reading Can Change Your Life!

BHMS
Homeopath, Hyderabad
Reading Can Change Your Life!
When was the last time you sat down and read a book from start to finish? Does your daily reading center around Facebook updates or the back of a cereal box? If you haven’t picked up a good book in a while you should! I just recently started reading again for fun and to my surprise there are quite a few benefits to daily reading.

1. Mental Stimulation

Just like we have to exercise the body, we also have to exercise the brain. Reading helps to keep the brain stimulated which can slow the progress of Alzheimer’s and Dementia. Doing puzzles and playing games like chess can be just as helpful as reading.

2. Relieve Stress

Reading is a huge stress reliever. A well-written book can sweep you away into another realm, which will allow your tensions to slip away so you can finally relax.

3. Gain Knowledge

Everything you read fills your head up with more knowledge. You never know what you might come in handy. The more you read the more knowledge you will have to tackle future challenges. The best part is no one can ever take knowledge away from you!

4. Memory and mood

I recently finished the book Wicked, by Gregory Maguire, and there was a lot to remember! Each chapter had new characters, towns, and events to follow. Reading will help improve your memory and every new memory you create forges new brain pathways, which strengthens existing ones. This will help assist your short-term memory and stabilize your mood.

5. Stay Focused

Every day we are pulled in a million different directions. The Internet certainly doesn’t help. I find myself working on schoolwork, checking my email, updating my Facebook, and listening to music all at the same time, while getting distracted by ads in my internet browser. Reading can help improve your focus and concentration. When you read a book, all of your attention is focused on what you are reading. Try reading for 15-20 minutes before work and see if you feel more focused throughout the day.

6. Writing

Having more exposure to well written books can improve your writing skills as well. In the same way we learn by watching others we can learn from reading a good book.

7. Free and Fun!

It’s free! Visit your local library or thrift store to find some good books to read. Libraries rotate their stock so you won’t run out of books to read. There are also many sites that will let you download free e-books. So there isn’t any reason not to start reading for fun!
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How can I control on my own mind and heart. ? How can I heart strong some times my full body shake due to heart.

MD - Psychiatry, BHMS
Homeopath, Amravati
How can I control on my own mind and heart. ? How can I heart strong some times my full body shake due to heart.
Get your blood pressure and ecg done. If everything is normal then you might need psychiatrist as symptoms seems to be of panic / anxiety.
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Hi, am 24old guy, I am smoking from my 1pu, from last 2years I am trying to stop it, but I can't stop smoking, (per day I smoke 7 to 8) it ll affect my sexual life. please tell me how to quit smoking.

PG Diploma in Clinical Research, Diploma in Acupuncture, MBBS, College Of Physicians & Surgeons
General Physician, Mumbai
Hi, am 24old guy, I am smoking from my 1pu, from last 2years I am trying to stop it, but I can't stop smoking, (per d...
Since realizations is come, now next step to be determined &execute reforms, councelling &follow up, to get desired result,
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I am suffering from sever headache from past two weeks before sleep , I smoke daily 10 cigarette , any medication or any diagnose for my illness.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
I am suffering from sever headache from past two weeks before sleep , I smoke daily 10 cigarette , any medication or ...
Stop smoking get medical tests done and then start treatment. Without knowing the reason behind headache, blind medicines are not good. Smoking itself can induce headache.
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Pulmonologist/Chest specialist - No Smoking question. I am 34 year old male. I smoke around 10-15 cigarettes in a day. I took Champix 1 mg a day and quit smoking but after stopping the medicine smoking starts again. Now I am taking 1 mg twice a day. What is the normal dosage. Should it be 1 mg once a day or twice a day? How long should be the duration of treatment?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Start taking the tablets one week before the quit date. The aim is to build up the dose so your body gets used to the medicine before the quit date. The usual advice is to start with 0.5 mg daily for the first three days. Then 0.5 mg twice daily on days four to seven. Then, 1 mg twice daily for 11 weeks. Take each dose with a full glass of water, preferably after eating. So, ideally, after breakfast and after your evening meal.
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I was feeling nervous more than month ago I am 18 yr old.what can be the treatment for my nervousness

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I was feeling nervous more than month ago I am 18 yr old.what can be the treatment for my nervousness
It is very significant that you should have this at this time and age. There is something related to fear from your childhood that is surfacing seeking a resolution. Go to a counselor immediately and work out this fear. Nervousness is abnormal fear, or you are reacting to normal fear in an abnormal way. At your age the hormones will also trouble you to cause more difficulties, which is why it is so recent. It generally lasts for two years but if you do not resolve it now, you might carry a permanent negative trait into adulthood. In the meantime please do vigorous exercise of the aerobic kind for the heart’s fitness; meditation for the brain’s fitness; sleep for a well rested mind and body; and a diet with lots of vegetables, fruits, and whole grains. Emotionally you need the help of a counselor and that will help you tremendously to move from anxiety to normal fear. You may ask your parents about your developmental milestones, including that of your prenatal life to help with the therapy. Yo can also attend a personality development course and learn to meet and mix with a lot of people.
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How To Control Extreme Anger

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Delhi
How To Control Extreme Anger

Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction.

Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the well being of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger.

  1. Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channeled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this', you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation?'
  2. Recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 10 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end.
  3. Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time.

If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today.

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50 year lady nervous break down after a very bad loss of temper. Now normal but has heavy head and nausea feeling.?

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Psychologist, Palakkad
50 year lady nervous break down after a very bad loss of temper. Now normal but has heavy head and nausea feeling.?
Dear, nervous breakdown is not critical and people who suffer from it will show some anxiety depression symptoms for some time. Aged people will show more of those symptoms. It is usually treated with a combination of psychiatric medicines, psychotherapy, life style changes, meditation and exercise. I will help you. Please post a private question to me with all the details. Take care.
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