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Dr. Malaiappan M

Psychiatrist, Chennai

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For e. G I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time please help me.

BHMS
Homeopath,
For e. G I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time...
Dear lybrate user, try biochemic kali phos 6x tablets to get rid of your depression. Take 4 tablets, thrice daily, with a cup of lukewarm water.
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BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief

The 5 Stages of Loss and Grief The stages of mourning and grief are universal and are experienced by people from all walks of life. Mourning occurs in response to an individual’s own terminal illness, the loss of a close relationship, or to the death of a valued being, human or animal.
In our bereavement, we spend different lengths of time working through each step and express each stage with different levels of intensity. The five stages do not necessarily occur in any specific order. We often move between stages before achieving a more peaceful acceptance of death. Many of us are not afforded the luxury of time required to achieve this final stage of grief.

The death of your loved one might inspire you to evaluate your own feelings of mortality. Throughout each stage, a common thread of hope emerges: As long as there is life, there is hope. As long as there is hope, there is life.

Many people do not experience the stages in the order listed below, which is okay. The key to understanding the stages is not to feel like you must go through every one of them, in precise order. Instead, it’s more helpful to look at them as guides in the grieving process — it helps you understand and put into context where you are.

All, keep in mind — all people grieve differently. Some people will wear their emotions on their sleeve and be outwardly emotional. Others will experience their grief more internally, and may not cry. You should try and not judge how a person experiences their grief, as each person will experience it differently.

1. Denial and Isolation

The first reaction to learning of terminal illness or death of a cherished loved one is to deny the reality of the situation. It is a normal reaction to rationalize overwhelming emotions. It is a defense mechanism that buffers the immediate shock. We block out the words and hide from the facts. This is a temporary response that carries us through the first wave of pain.


2. Anger

As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready. The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger. The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family. Anger may be directed at our dying or deceased loved one. Rationally, we know the person is not to be blamed. Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us. We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.

Remember, grieving is a personal process that has no time limit, nor one “right” way to do it.
The doctor who diagnosed the illness and was unable to cure the disease might become a convenient target. Health professionals deal with death and dying every day. That does not make them immune to the suffering of their patients or to those who grieve for them.

Do not hesitate to ask your doctor to give you extra time or to explain just once more the details of your loved one’s illness. Arrange a special appointment or ask that he telephone you at the end of his day. Ask for clear answers to your questions regarding medical diagnosis and treatment. Understand the options available to you. Take your time.

3. Bargaining

The normal reaction to feelings of helplessness and vulnerability is often a need to regain control–

If only we had sought medical attention sooner…
If only we got a second opinion from another doctor…
If only we had tried to be a better person toward them…
Secretly, we may make a deal with God or our higher power in an attempt to postpone the inevitable. This is a weaker line of defense to protect us from the painful reality.


4. Depression

Two types of depression are associated with mourning. The first one is a reaction to practical implications relating to the loss. Sadness and regret predominate this type of depression. We worry about the costs and burial. We worry that, in our grief, we have spent less time with others that depend on us. This phase may be eased by simple clarification and reassurance. We may need a bit of helpful cooperation and a few kind words. The second type of depression is more subtle and, in a sense, perhaps more private. It is our quiet preparation to separate and to bid our loved one farewell. Sometimes all we really need is a hug.


5. Acceptance

Reaching this stage of mourning is a gift not afforded to everyone. Death may be sudden and unexpected or we may never see beyond our anger or denial. It is not necessarily a mark of bravery to resist the inevitable and to deny ourselves the opportunity to make our peace. This phase is marked by withdrawal and calm. This is not a period of happiness and must be distinguished from depression.

Loved ones that are terminally ill or aging appear to go through a final period of withdrawal. This is by no means a suggestion that they are aware of their own impending death or such, only that physical decline may be sufficient to produce a similar response. Their behavior implies that it is natural to reach a stage at which social interaction is limited. The dignity and grace shown by our dying loved ones may well be their last gift to us.

Coping with loss is a ultimately a deeply personal and singular experience — nobody can help you go through it more easily or understand all the emotions that you’re going through. But others can be there for you and help comfort you through this process. The best thing you can do is to allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you. Resisting it only will prolon
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My father's age is 53 had undergone heart surgery last year what all the tests he need to do every year. He is still smoking. Can you tell the health tips he need to follow sir. Please answer sir.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
My father's age is 53 had undergone heart surgery last year what all the tests he need to do every year. He is still ...
You should get your father a book written by Dr. Dean Ornish entitled, 'Reversing the Heart Disease'. It will give you all the guidance and more about dealing with heart disease. As for smoking I am sure he would have been told strictly to avoid consumption of tobacco smoke by the heart surgeons. Here are the things you can do for your father to quit smoking: Ideally you must spend a lot of time convincing him to stop the smoking. Of course he will agree sometimes and sometimes he will change his mind. Giving up is difficult but if you highlight the dangers of smoking regularly he may one day decide to quit. Never give up on him. Because of his age and quantity of cigarettes smoked and the length of abuse, he will find is even harder. When quitting, he must take one day at a time. If he looks too far ahead he will get discouraged and will give up. If he sits and counts the number of days he has given up, that will also focus too much on achievement. He must focus on the here and now, on that day to be precise. After all quitting is not that easy due to many factors. So even if he fails one day, he must try and try again. Very few people succeed in their first attempt. His persistence and yours will eventually pay off. The urge to discontinue is hampered by many factors but the worst of them is the conditioning. In fact these conditions can exist all through the day unlike other addictions. But his desire to want to stop is the most important factor. It is important to find out about the ill-effects of smoking to have a reason that alarms him about continuing in the habit. The information is really scary but true and he must remind himself about this every day. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heart beat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. Having had a heart surgery can you imagine the extent of damage he still doing to his heart?! So he must avoid it like the plague: it is just very bad medicine for him. In fact it is highly toxic too. He will need to stop smoking or consuming any tobacco related items with immediate effect. He should start exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time he feels like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need. He may also take hard candy or chewing gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. He may also join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep him occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i.e. at least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that he has quit smoking. Here’s a piece of very good advice: even if he accidentally/willfully takes a cigarette, it is not the end of the world – he can start the cessation all over again. He must persevere with the best support until he defeats this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest. Everyone who can help him should be involved until he succeeds. If all this does not work, you can admit him into a rehabilitation center and let him stay there until he has completely quit the habit.
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I can't understand and remembering fastly anything and I forgot anything whenever I do something.

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
Hello, * go for meditation to reduce your stress. * take, plenty of water to eliminate, toxins. * your diet b easily digestible and taken in time. * avoid, junkfood, dust, scorching sun, smoke alcohol. **home-care** # anacard 30-6 pills, thrice/dly. # nux vom 30-6 pills, thrice/dly. Report wkly.
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I lost somebody close last year and since then fell very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please help me.

MBBS, M.D Psychiatry , Diploma in Psychological Medicine
Psychiatrist, Navi Mumbai
I lost somebody close last year and since then fell very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time. Please ...
Lybrate-user you are suffering from depression. There are chemicals in our brain that control our emotions, thought's, behaviour. Depression is caused by decrease in chemical called serotonin. Consult a psychiatrist for your treatment.
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I am a regular smoker. I am trying to quit smoking but it is so difficult. Tell me the way to quit it easily or what should I take so that it dies not affect my health too much.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello,Smoking is injurious to health. Smoking can have serious effects on your life. The longer you smoke, the more damage you do to your body.If you want to quit smoking then take the below treatment:- take tabacum 200, 5 drops once in a week and arnica 30 ch, 5 drops once daily.Daphne indica 1x, 2 tabs twice daily. Revert me after 1 month.
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I am a cigarette smoker. How to avoid cigarette. And how to clean throat kafa (dust) by a cigarette.

BHMS
Homeopath, Malappuram
You can take Following Homoeopathic medicine 1.Nux vom 1m/ 2D BD 2. Caladium 30 TDS 3.Dafine indica 1x by schwabe TDS. Inform me after 15 days.
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Is there a permanent cure for depression and other mental issues, what medicine is without side effects.

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
Is there a permanent cure for depression and other mental issues, what medicine is without side effects.
Unfortunately ant-depressants have lots of side-effects. You should go to the roots of depression. If possible, visit a counseling psychologist near your place. You must change philosophy of your life to change the thought pattern loosely called depression introspect, what are your expectations. Expectation bring frustrations. Chasing happiness gives unhappiness!
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I have been suffering from headache since 3 days and unable to concentrate on my studies so please help me out of this.

MBBS, Diploma in Psychological Medicine, M.D Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Kolkata
I have been suffering from headache since 3 days and unable to concentrate on my studies so please help me out of this.
You can take Paracetamol tabs on S.O.S basis. Not more than 3 tabs per day. If persists consult a local doctor.
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Sir I amresh kumar want to know about symptom of depression, and how I overcome on it please tell me about it.

DNB, DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Sir I amresh kumar want to know about symptom of depression, and how I overcome on it please tell me about it.
Five (or more) of the following symptoms have been present during the same 2-week period and represent a change from previous functioning; at least one of the symptoms is (1) depressed mood or (2) loss of interest or pleasure. Note: do not include symptoms that are clearly due to a general medical condition or mood-incongruent delusions or hallucinations. (1) depressed mood most of the day, nearly every day, as indicated by subjective report (e. G. Feels sad or empty) or observation made by others (e. G. Appears tearful). Note: in children and adolescents, can be irritable mood. (2) markedly diminished interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, activities most of the day, nearly every day (as indicated by subjective account or observation made by others). (3) significant weight loss when not dieting or weight gain (e. G change of more than 5 percent of body weight in a month) or decrease or increase in appetite nearly every day. Note: in children, consider failure to make expected weight gains. (4) insomnia or hypersomnia nearly every day. (5) psychomotor agitation or retardation nearly every day (observable by others, not merely subjective feelings of restlessness or being slowed down). (6) fatigue or loss of energy nearly every day. (7) feelings of worthlessness or excessive or inappropriate guilt (which may be delusional) nearly every day (not merely self-reproach or guilt about being sick). (8) diminished ability to think or to concentrate or indecisiveness, nearly every day (by subjective account or as observed by others). (9) recurrent thoughts of death (not just fear of dying), recurrent suicidal ideation without a specific plan, or a suicide attempt or a specific plan for committing suicide. B. The symptoms do not meet criteria for a mixed episode. C. The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
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I am 27 years old male and I am suffering from depression from my job because of Sale pressure and breakup with my life partner, Kindly suggest What to do?

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
I am 27 years old male and I am suffering from depression from my job because of Sale pressure and breakup with my li...
Hello, take Kali phos 30 ch , 5 drops once daily. If your BP is normal then take Ginseng 1x, 1 tab once daily after meals. Revert me after 10 days.
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Hi sir mai b. Sc kar rha hu par mai jab b yaad krta ho to kuch der baad sb kuch bhule jata ho.Please tell me best treatment.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , please understand your abilities. Learning and gaining knowledge is an art. You should try effective learning methods. Take care.
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One year back, I had suffered from great depression because of which now I am not able to be again happy and healthy. Now I forget things and I have got discouraged. I have fear from meeting people. Please help me.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Hyderabad
One year back, I had suffered from great depression because of which now I am not able to be again happy and healthy....
Homoeopathy has good treatment for your problem, without causing adverse effects. It requires study of your case and symptoms in detail. To start with, take homoeopathic medicine kali phos 30 daily in the morning and in the evening and give feedback after 4 days.
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Hello doctors. I need a help from your side. My brother is judge drinker of wine. We are trying our best to withdraw this habit but we are fail. So need help from your side. Kindly share some tips will help to leave this habit. Thank you.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Only strong will power, determination, attending AA meetings and diverting mind when tempted will help you stop alcohol or may need professional help from a psychiatrist or de addiction centre. Try to do meditation and yoga. Read good books and listen to music and if you are believer attend Bhajans Alcohol causes 7 types of cancer, including breast, mouth and bowel cancers. When you drink alcohol, cancer-causing chemicals are formed. Alcohol also affects hormone levels and makes cells even more likely to be damaged by smoking. The less alcohol you drink, the lower the risk of cancer. No type of alcohol is better or worse than another, it is the alcohol itself that leads to the damage, regardless of whether it is in wine, beer or spirits. And drinking and smoking together are even worse for you. Not everyone who drinks alcohol will develop cancer. But on the whole, scientists have found that some cancers are more common in people who drink more alcohol than others. Every year, alcohol causes 4% of cancers .Tips to cut down on alcohol. There are lots of simple ways to cut down on the amount of alcohol you drink. It can help to work out if there are particular times or situations when you tend to have a drink, whether that’s a bad day at work or a weekly pub quiz tradition, and plan what you’ll say and do differently next time. Have more alcohol-free days a week. For liver health it’s best to have at least 2 days off alcohol in a row each week. Try agreeing on certain days with your partner or a friend and help each some wi other and stick to it. If you are planning to drink alcohol, decide on a limit in advance and make sure you don’t go over it. Swap every other alcoholic drink for a soft one – starting with your first drink. Try shandy instead of a pint of beer, or swap ne for soda and have a spritzer. Don’t stock up on beer, wine or spirits at home. Finish one drink before pouring another, because topping up drinks makes it harder to keep track of how much you’ve had and when you planned to stop. Avoid buying drinks in rounds, that way you don’t have to keep pace with anyone. Tell a friend or partner that you’re cutting down on alcohol, they can support you – or even join you.
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I am 20 years old boy. I easily get angry & hurt if someone says even a small thing against even in a humour. Please suggest some tips to cure this & become very strong mentally.

M. sc Psychology, BHMS
Homeopath, Hyderabad
I am 20 years old boy. I easily get angry & hurt if someone says even a small thing against even in a humour. Please ...
Its just an attitude problem. Due to high sebsitivity/emotional mind is the cause of all these expressions. Urs age also a bit significant to get easily excited. If you plan to follow few tips regularly without fail, then your all emotions will come under control. **try to follow regulary yoga **breathing exercises/pranayaama **meditation **try to go for art of living's sessions where thar sudarshana kriya would b thought is very effective in balancing mind&body equilibrium. **whenever you feel like you got hurt, try to grt engaged with friends r with your family members to get deviated from that incident. Or try to watch movie r with your favourite hobby, work whatever. But do not sit alone in that situation. Brooding will upset you more. *try to share everything (especially that bitter feelings) with your trusted one. That will reduce the intensity. If you want to cry. Cry alone in a room without hesitation.
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Sir/madam I am feeling weakness. My body is getting lose. I am also feeling anxiety. My body temperature is normal, and there is no any other problem in my body. So please advice me what is the problem and how to recover it. thank you.

MA - Psychology
Psychologist, Navi Mumbai
Sir/madam
I am feeling weakness. My body is getting lose.
I am also feeling anxiety.
My body temperature is normal, a...
Hey lybrate-user, thanks fr your query. Nowadays anxiety has been an everyday used word. The 1st step I would suggest to know more about your anxiety, fr eg. D reasons, timing, if any specific situation when you feel anxious etc. N then we can work accordingly.
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What is the reaction of smoking effect on men's body and how we can leave the smoke.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear . Smoking is addictive as well as dangerous. Cigerette or beedi contains more than 4000 cancer causing chemicals in it. Even a single cigerette can increase the risk of cancer, heart attack, stroke, brain problems, throat problems and lung disorders. The best option to leave smoking is to have better will power. You should yourself get motivated to leave smoking and quit it on a fine day. Don't restart it. Take care.
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6 Symptoms Of Depression And Its Treatment!

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, Senior Resident Psychiatrist
Psychiatrist, Ahmedabad
6 Symptoms Of Depression And Its Treatment!

Feeling tired all the time? Do you feel that you can’t focus on things anymore? Have you lost interest in things and people you once loved spending time with? Does your temper fly off the hook at the drop of a hat? If it is a ‘yes’ to the questions above, then you might be slowly but steadily succumbing to depression. Depression is a psychological disorder that is characterized by symptoms of extreme sadness, worthlessness and hopelessness over a prolonged period of time.

Symptoms

  1. Lack of Interest: This is probably the starkest of all the symptoms. Hobbies or activities that you used to enjoy once no longer catch your fancy. You do not find little or no pleasure in social activities or any other hobby of yours anymore.
  2. A constant Feeling of Hopelessness: You tend to develop a negative outlook towards life in general, as you feel that the current situation will never get better and will only worsen.
  3. Loss of Appetite: Loss of appetite is a common feature of depression; it can also lead to rapid weight loss. If engulfed by depression, one generally tends to ignore food completely, remain hungry, both of which contribute to the vicious cycle that depression is.
  4. Changes in Sleep Patterns: Insomnia is a condition that is marked by a sheer inability to sleep, no matter how physically exhausted one is. Depression tends to exhibit this particular symptom in maximum cases. However, oversleeping, or sleeping more than the sufficient hours is also common.
  5. Reckless Behavior: Depression makes one more prone to reckless behavior; one generally develops an angry and irritated persona; this in turn, may make one to exhibit reckless and rash behavior.
  6. Lack of Energy and Focus: Depression causes one to feel fatigued and sluggish the entire day. Factors such as a total loss of appetite contribute to this particular symptom. Stemming from these symptoms are two other major occurrences; an inability to focus on anything and an inability to decide on anything.

Self-help, Coping tips and Treatment-

  1. Connect with different people: Being isolated from the rest can and usually aggravates symptoms of depression. So, reach out to other people and your loved ones; talk to your loved ones and try to empty your mind when you are having a one-to-one with them. Interacting and talking to others will make you feel better and should go a long way in taking that huge rock off your chest.
  2. Try to ditch that sedentary lifestyle; go out in the open: An early morning jog can feel daunting at first but the benefits are immense. Exercising regularly has been proven to be as effective as anti-depressants in combatting depression. Even a 20 minutes jog early in the morning releases ‘endorphins’ in the body, also known as the ‘feel good hormones’. These hormones induce a feeling of happiness and relaxation, thus taking your mind off any particular event or circumstance that has been ruining your sanctity of late.
  3. Avoid Alcohol and Drugs: Avoid alcohol and drugs to come out of your sadness; they have never helped and will never help. Taking these substances provides a temporary solution to depression, as it will again show up once the effects of the intoxicants wear off. It will also interfere with other medications that you may be taking to combat depression, thus reducing their potency.
  4. It’s high time you bought the meditating mat: Sleep has a beneficial effect on your mental health as it has been proven to improve memory and other cognitive and brain functions. Another way to improve brain function and be more relaxed is to meditate regularly. Meditation induces a state of relaxation, and if done on a regular basis, can be an effective treatment for depression. Meditation also helps with an improved focus and reduced anxiety.
  5. Medications can always help: Medications such as anti-depressants are administered to treat depression. Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), including citalopram, fluoxetine and sertraline are the most commonly administered medications to cure this condition. However, it is advised to try the abovementioned methods first so that you do not have to depend on medications alone; the reason being that these medications do have their fair share of side effects.
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Due to some my personal issues I am in stress from last 15 days how can I reduce it.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Due to some my personal issues I am in stress from last 15 days how can I reduce it.
Solve the personal problems to ideally remove the stress. Stress beyond your capacity in either the intensity or long duration is never good for any person. The stress that you feel is not dependent on the stressor i.e. the time-bound work. It is entirely dependent on your perception of stress. Life is difficult no doubt, as a general rule, but what we do adds to the stress in our response. We add to the stress of life instead of reducing it or learning to deal with it. Many of us follow a policy of avoidance. We cannot do that all of our lives. So the first thing to do is to change your perception. For example, look at it as a challenge that you would like to meet with a positive outlook. See everything as a gift from God to perform as though you are doing it for Him. God never gives us work to do beyond our capacity. Build a good constitution mentally, emotionally and physically to combat stress. Eat healthily, sleep well, and exercise regularly. Talk about your emotions regularly to a good friend every day. Learn stress management techniques. Do Yoga and meditation. Pray every day to God to give you the strength, and offer your work as a prayer to Him – you will give your best and you will feel so satisfied when you do it well.
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Help me get rid of the negative influences and challenges that are making my life difficult. I am suffering from too much laziness, getting angry over anything with wife and my children, due to this beheavior my wife and childrens also gets angry (chid chide zale ahet) I am trying to be strong with issues but it wont works. I never use eye to eye contact with others. Every time its time to do work or study, I always thinking to do it afterwards (aaj nahi kal karenge), it never comes or its too late to do work or study. Every time time I think to do work no I will do itself on time but it wont done even not start. Same situation at Office, all are says that you have ability to work very strongly, only I have ability to do some specific work. Some collegaues embrasses me I never have power to fight with them. Also I cant remember even small instruction from Home and office, study work is also not done and not remembered, Every time the work asked from home missed due to non remembering. I am suffering from acidity and headache, my health is weaker bones are not strong, even anyone press my bones lightly i will suffer from pain. Pimples in scalp comes out regularly hairs are also falls and are white since 15 years. I have Dark circle under my eyes. Also in fear that how can I handle some hard situations in future with self and family issues. I gets fear with anything happens around my. I have ability to do work excellent but lazyness and lack of confidence takes me out from doing it. Every times it happens that I needed to complete the work and study but it never happens. Please help me to find out solution. Also my family members (Father, Sisters Brother) are not supporting my wife & children, even me and my wife will do everything for them but they can not support us. Everyday this issue becomes fighting reason with my wife. Even I have ability to Lead It is all frustration comes. There is always a tense moments with me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You have an anger-related depression and the incidents around your family may be great contributors towards it. I suspect you are not expressing this feeling and therefore the depression. Sometimes you act your anger out with your wife and children making them hapless victims of your inability to express to the elder family members for their gross indifference towards to and your wife and kids. Procrastination is also indicative of anger not expressed. Headaches are directly related to anger. All this stress is causing acidity in your system. This is not laziness in the traditional sense but a lethargy or inertia prompted by unexpressed feelings of anger. You must do regular and vigorous exercise every day. Yoga and meditation is also good to calm you down. Force yourself to do the opposite of what your mind and body feel like doing or not doing. Depression is the only condition I recommend that you must fight with all your might. Work with a counselor and particularly learn to express your anger at home. Many years of suppressed emotions are playing havoc in your system. If none of these have the desired effect, do go to a psychiatrist and seek medical intervention to help with the depression. Whatever happens please do continue with the counseling.
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