Dr. Maikandaan C J

Lybrate-user - you have to realise that not everyone can and will think like you. If you are basing your happiness on what people do according to your wish, then i'm sorry you will be sad always. The key to happiness is - set goals for yourself - do what you can do to the best of your capacity and cherish your achievements. It is good to have a different thinking and choice, but you can not impose your thinking on others. All of us want to be loved by others, but unless you love yourself and love others, it is unlikely people will appreciate what you do. Make a list of all that you want to do - write them on a paper. Pick up something that is easiest for you to do- most achievable, then go on to the next. This will help make you a strong person.

When you quit your drinking habit I can assure you that you will lose weight in the bargain. Alcohol contains empty calories and can easily add to weight gain. It does not matter when you feel like drinking, as long as you need your drink. This could lead to increased tolerance levels so that over time you will need to drink more to get the same or greater effect. You need to identify why you need to drink, and go back into your childhood to find out other influences on your personality that makes you prone to addiction. Meet with an addiction counselor and work with them to sort out this drive. Your already display the classic tendency to first obsess about it and then compulsively feel driven to meet that need. The simplest thing to do is to do some other interesting activity during the evening times. Meet your oral need with some other non-intoxicating drink like soups, juices, and sodas with lime, etc. If you think that you will find it very difficult, then admit yourself to a hospital and go for de-addiction: which normally lasts for about two weeks. Then follow that up with addiction counseling from a professional for at least three years to completely get rid of the habit. If this is also not enough, then admit yourself into a de-addiction center and stay there for at least 6 months and after that attend counseling with a professional. There are medicines that help with the drinking just to ease the initial craving. Ultimately, it is your will power and the support that you receive from the medical fraternity and your close and dear ones. You must also learn to substitute and deal with the oral need, a rigid value system, the script issue, and of course look at all the genetic factors to plan a strategy not to get into what is called ‘cross addictions’ i.e. Another form of addiction that may appear alright but is in fact as bad as the primary addiction. The center or hospital and the counselor will advise and guide you on several measures and precautions you will need to take to stay with your resolve. Even after the rehabilitation you must attend AA meetings and continue this support for a long time. Your family will also need to attend some sessions and go for Al-anon meetings for their co-dependency issues. You cannot be treated in isolation because the family has gotten used to your drinking and have made some unhealthy adaptations to somehow cope. Make a serious plan with the family and whoever else’s support you can get and act on it fast. As a combination these two therapies (counseling and rehabilitation) will aid in dealing with the addiction. It will however take a long time to completely come off of the enslavement.

Dear Lybrate user. I can understand. Here your husband needs to understand your emotions and that will happen soon. I think these are the initial days of your separate life. Your husband will naturally be disappointed. But seeing his disappointed you should not be disappointed. Love him and he will come to you. Take care.

As soon as your body notices a shortage of nicotine — usually in about three days — it will go into withdrawal. You can expect to feel irritable, restless, and moody for about two or three weeks after quitting. The withdrawal period won't be longer if you were a heavy smoker, but it may be especially intense. Exercise. Get out of the house for a walk. Chew gum or hard candy. Keep your hands busy with a pen or toothpick, or play a game in the QuitGuide app. Drink lots of water. Relax with deep breathing. Go to a movie. Spend time with non-smoking friends and family.

Instead of past think of how to get successful and get back your list attention. You can't do what you can't. You also cannot get back the past.

Dear Lybrate user ,In Indian culture sometime it becomes very irritating for girls but every culture has some merit and demerit our society is male dominated society so it happens .all this will change with time only .marriage is magical relation ,everyone needs partner for lifetime to share their feelings, emotions,love, friendship, many research have proven that good and happily married life decreases the susceptibility towards any disease. Everything happens for reason may be god chosen someone so perfect for you so that you should be happy on long term that's why god is testing your patience. We get beautiful rose sorrounded by thorns. Lets come to your problem as much you will think it ,it will become more bigger problem ,have a little faith in god, and do your work and consider all this as a part of life, just like you give exam ,give interview. Try to make yourself busy. If you feel more frustration you can contact me for counselling. Take care.

Dear lybrate-user, blood pressure is one of the conditions that predispose you to heart attack or stroke. The other modifiable condition is smoking which you could quit. Healthy habit of walking you have started. Why don't you continue all - no smoking, walking, bp tablets to keep bp normal - forever to protect your heart and brain? if amlokind gives any unwanted effect, please discuss with your doctor. He will adjust the dose or change the tablets. Stopping smoking and walking are just bp treatment. Happy to know that your bp is normal with just one amlokind. Take care.

From all the complaints that you put up it seems you are too scared of results and hence not able to concentrate due to anticipatory anxiety. As a quick remedy, since you have exams coming week, I would suggest you to take some anxiolytics that will help you concentrate better.

Dear lybrate user mastarbation is a bad habit it will affect your married life in future stop it immediately