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Dr. Kumar

Psychologist, Chennai

Dr. Kumar Psychologist, Chennai
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Dr. Kumar is one of the best Psychologists in Poonamallee, Chennai. You can visit him/her at K.J.Hospital-Research & Postgraduate Center in Poonamallee, Chennai. You can book an instant appointment online with Dr. Kumar on Lybrate.com.

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Dear sir my problem is I can't sleep well some disturbance. My weight is losing looking like a patient. Can't take food pain with stomach. Tension. depression. I'm using alcohol and smoke regularly.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Dear sir my problem is I can't sleep well some disturbance. My weight is losing looking like a patient. Can't take fo...
You need to quit both alcohol and smoking especially with the symptoms you already have, and further you are also being treated for gastritis. You can check with a doctor about your stomach pain when eating. For sleep you will need to do some of the following suggestions: In your case particularly, do not sleep during the day; don’t even lie down. Go for regular exercise (breathing through your nostrils only) at a fixed time (at about 6 am) every day, whether you sleep or not. You must develop this habit of sleeping by 10 pm latest every night and wake up at a uniform time by 6 am every morning, even if you do not get sleep. If you do not get sleep, just lie down and if you have a bed lamp (or you could get one) lie down and read something light but not exciting. Your eyes will tire and you will fall asleep. If you like you may also put on light and soft music with the sleep function on. Depending on whether you are a visual or auditory person, you may watch TV in a lying down position until you feel sleepy. Have a warm bath before going to bed (for some people a cold bath at night seems to induce sleep! If you are one of them, please do so). Place the head side of your bed in a North-South position. The room must be as dark as possible and there should be no electronic items that give off even a light LED glow. There must be ample ventilation in the room. Avoid strong odors, except lavender, on your body or in the room, or on your sheets and clothes. There should not be any live plants in your bedroom. Sleep with the lightest of clothes or without any clothing. When lying down to sleep, lie down on your left ear as much as possible. Do not sleep directly under an overhead fan. You must eat a good breakfast, a fairly light lunch, and an early dinner, which should be a very light meal. Whatever you eat in the other meals, have only a pure carbohydrate meal at night with any vegetables, and preferably before 8 pm. Do not drink much liquids after or near about dinner time. When lying down to sleep you may use the 4-7-8 breathing pattern of sleep inducement i.e. Breathe in for four counts through your nostril only, hold for 7 counts, and exhale with a whoosh sound, through your mouth only, for 8 counts. Repeat this four times in the morning and just before you sleep at night. If you know Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT (check this out either on YouTube or Google), then please practice this too for sleep induction. Self-hypnosis and slow relaxation techniques, at night will be tremendously useful. Acupuncture or acupressure will both be very useful too. Pray last thing at night before you sleep.
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I'm now 23 year and I'm studying MCA then I could not remember any thing in learning at class room and I'm reading notes but I could remember what I do and how can I build my career please give me good suggestion.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, welcome to lybrate. At your age, memory problems like amnesia, dementia or alzheimer's are not common. Many young people do complain having problems with memory. These problems are due to either they are too busy or due to anxiety and stress. Busy people use organizers or employ a personal assistant because they can't remember every task. You need to understand this. If you still say, you are having memory problems, we need to check your memory using memory test. You may contact a clinical psychologist or neurologist for memory test and further investigation. Take care.
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I am a 27 years old married lady, before marriage I was working, now I am totally house wife, after marriage whole day I feel very lonely, often I feel afraid of ghost & dark, also whole day I am thinking about my parents. I know there is nothing paranormal in my house then also I have fear. As whole day there is no one to talk to me now a days I dont like to talk to my husband also, getting irritated in small things. Please help.

M.B.B.S., F.I.C.A. (USA), P.G.D.I.H, F.C.G.P., D.C.A.H
Psychiatrist, Vadodara
Very serious situation, before it turns further dangerous. Move on. Have a positive self talk and introspect and if not possible then meet an expert now.For further help you can contact me privately.
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I am very weak in studies, When I sit for study l can not able to concentrate my self in my studies. What can I do to improve myself? Please help me.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You are going through a very important phase in your adolescence and will experience some distractions. I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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I am premkumar 45 male I am depressed only on financial n business part till now I am not settled.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I am premkumar 45 male I am depressed only on financial n business part till now I am not settled.
I am sure things will get better and you be settled soon, do not lose hope, keep faith. If you are feeling stressed do some exercise, eat healthy but if you have symptoms like, not wanting to do anything, not finding pleasure in activities which were pleasurable earlier, decreased hunger, sleep, suicidal thoughts etc you should consult a psychiatrist for medicine treatment. You should also take counseling from a psychologist. All the best sir, remember every cloud has a silver lining, your present situation is not your final destination.
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I have loss memory power. When I learn something I forget that thing. So how can I improve my memory power.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hi, Take homoeopathic medicine for increasing memory - Anacardium 200/ once daily. Management: -Meditate for at least 15 to 30 minutes each day physically changes your brain, making you less anxious, and more rational and empathetic. -Besides increasing your physical strength and flexibility, yoga changes your brain. Research suggests that in addition to reducing stress, anxiety, and depression, yoga protects the brain from shrinking with age. -Exercise daily as it would can help offset the cognitive decline brought on by aging and increasingly sedentary lifestyles. -Get enough sleep. On average, adults need between 7.5 and 9 hours of sleep each night. When you aren’t getting enough sleep, it affects your brain’s ability to do this, and your memory suffers. -Spend time with people whose company you enjoy, and who make you feel like the best version of you. -laughter can improve short-term memory in older adults. -Cutting down on your use of technology (i.e. sitting in front of your computer, phone, or tablet) for even 30 minutes can improve your brain health and help you think more deeply.
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4 Ways Couple YOGA Can Take Your Fitness and Relationship to the Next Level

BPTh/BPT, MPTh/MPT
Physiotherapist, Noida
4 Ways Couple YOGA Can Take Your Fitness and Relationship to the Next Level

4 ways couple yoga can take your fitness and relationship to the next level

Different from traditional yoga (involving a single person only), couple yoga involves the merging of your body rhythm with that of another person. This sync between partners is achieved through touch, movement, breath and body positions. The benefits that you gain from this practice are not only limited to your body, but extend to your relationship too.

Far from the seriousness that you usually associate with traditional yoga, couple yoga allows the two of you to be more happy and playful. This is because trying to get the right pose with your partner can lead to a fair share of fun and laughter. You not only have to figure how to get into that pose, but also how to hold it.

In terms of how it affects your fitness levels, couple yoga can.

1. Strengthen your core

Couple yoga comprises of poses that strengthen your core, leading to improved metabolism and overall strength. The varied poses that you'll come across in this form of practice strive to engage the muscles of your back and abdomen, which are crucial in building your core strength. Double boat pose and side plank pose are two of such core strengthening poses. You can check out these various poses online.

2. Boost immunity

Whether it's your nervous system or the digestive system, the different yoga poses (like the child pose or the upward dog pose) bring about the stimulation of one or more of the body's systems, leading to a bolstering of your immune system.

Here's how couple yoga can deepen your relationship -

1. It builds trust

The practice of couple yoga can help build trust as certain poses call for trusting your partner implicitly. Difficult yoga poses may require you to hold onto your partner to stay balanced; and this total dependence on the other person creates a sense of confidence and comfort as you realise that your partner is there for you. A case in point is the partner tree pose, which can be both entertaining and challenging. It calls for great amount of trust and balance to sustain this pose successfully.

2. It improves intimacy between the two of you

Apart from all the fun there's to this form of yoga, couple yoga also calls for a certain level of intimacy. While practicing it, you not only get to learn your own limitations, but also those of your partner, helping you to accept all of them. The opening pose (heart hug) serves to do just that, it opens the two of you up so that you can fall in sync. Gestures like placing your hand on the heart of your partner, feeling the other person's heartbeat and keeping pace with each other's breathing serve to strengthen the bond between you two.

While improving your health and fitness levels, couple yoga strives to improve your relationship with your partner, and help the two of your to explore patterns and aims within your relationship.

consult.

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Sir I am a alcohol patients I want avoid this very bad bad habit what I do sir please suggest me please sir I really wanna avoid this habit I hope you understand me tq sir.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Depending on how long you have been drinking there could be other factors that need to be taken into consideration. As long as you need your drink, there could be an addiction. This could lead to increased tolerance levels so that over time you will need to drink more to get the same or greater effect. You need to identify why you need to drink, and go back into your childhood to find out other influences on your personality that makes you prone to addiction. Meet with an addiction counselor and work with them to sort out this drive. Your already display the classic tendency to first obsess about it and then compulsively feel driven to meet that need. The simplest thing to do is to do some other interesting activity during the evening times. Meet your oral need with some other non-intoxicating drink like soups, juices, and sodas with lime, etc. If you think that you will find it very difficult, then admit yourself to a hospital and go for de-addiction: which normally lasts for about two weeks. Then follow that up with addiction counseling from a professional for at least three years to completely get rid of the habit. If this is also not enough, then admit yourself into a de-addiction center and stay there for at least 6 months and after that attend counseling with a professional. There are medicines that help with the drinking just to ease the initial craving. Ultimately, it is your will power and the support that you receive from the medical fraternity and your close and dear ones. You must also learn to substitute and deal with the oral need, a rigid value system, the script issue, and of course look at all the genetic factors to plan a strategy not to get into what is called ‘cross addictions’ i.e. another form of addiction that may appear alright but is in fact as bad as the primary addiction. The center or hospital and the counselor will advise and guide you on several measures and precautions you will need to take to stay with your resolve. Even after the rehabilitation you must attend AA meetings and continue this support for a long time. Your family will also need to attend some sessions and go for Al-anon meetings for their co-dependency issues. You cannot be treated in isolation because the family has gotten used to your drinking and have made some unhealthy adaptations to somehow cope. Make a serious plan with the family and whoever else’s support you can get and act on it fast. As a combination these two therapies (counseling and rehabilitation) will aid in dealing with the addiction. It will however take a long time to completely come off of the enslavement.
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Wt can I do for my anxiety plzz help me sir. I am facing some issues like lack of sleep. Weight gain. Dull skin etc.

M.A. Psychology, Diploma in Psychotherapy and Counseling, Certification in Psychometric Testing, Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Wt can I do for my anxiety plzz help me sir. I am facing some issues like lack of sleep. Weight gain. Dull skin etc.
Weight gain could be die to anxiety however it is not confirmed. Try doing some relaxation methods and yoga etc to relieve your anxiety. However first of all, get yourself assessed by a psychologist to confirm your anxiety disorder and its level.
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Do exercise cause stress?

PhD (Psychology), MSc Psychology, MS
Psychologist,
Do exercise cause stress?
Dear , exercise do cause stress. But such stress is totally positive and beneficial for the body. Exercise also helps you to remove the negative mental stress. Do exercise atleast 45 minutes per day. Take care.
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Understanding Dissociative Amnesia

Ph.D - Child Psychology -, M.Phil. Educational Psychology, MSc. Child Psychology , B.Sc
Psychologist, Mumbai
Understanding Dissociative Amnesia

In many cases, the body responds to a stressful or traumatic situation by disassociating with it. This can result in the development of a dissociative disorder. A dissociative disorder or dissociative amnesia is a mental illness that involves the breaking down of memory, consciousness, identity and perception. It can interfere with a person's general functioning, social life and relationships. People suffering from dissociative amnesia can have long gaps in their memory of the accident and the time before and after it. 

Women are at a higher risk of suffering from this condition as compared to men. It has also been found to have a genetic link as people suffering from this condition often have other members of their family who experience something similar. Manmade and natural disasters such as wars, floods, earthquakes etc that cause overwhelming stress is said to trigger this disease. 

The inability to recall past events is a primary symptom of this disease. Other symptoms include

  • Depression or anxiety
  • Inability to remember personal information
  • Substance abuse
  • Mood swings
  • Sexual dysfunction
  • Panic attacks
  • Obsessive compulsive symptoms
  • Hallucinations and 
  • Social withdrawal

Treatment for this disease is a two step process. The first step involves relieving symptoms and controlling any behavioral changes. The second step aims at helping the person to recall and process their memories. Developing coping skills and rebuilding relationships is also focused on. Depending on the individual and the severity of symptoms showcased a doctor may choose to treat the patient using any of the following forms of treatment. 

  1. Psychotherapy: This form of treatment is designed to encourage communication and give the person insight into their problems. It uses a number of psychological techniques. 
  2. Cognitive therapy: Changing dysfunctional thinking patterns and their resulting emotions and behavior patterns is the focus of this form of treatment.  
  3. Medication: Dissociative amnesia patients who also suffer from depression or anxiety can benefit from medication such as anti depressants and anti anxiety drugs. However, this medication does not treat the dissociative amnesia itself. 
  4. Family therapy: In some cases, along with the patient it is also necessary to counsel the family. Family therapy involves educating the family members about the disorder and symptoms of recurrence. 

Clinical hypnosis: This type of treatment uses intense relaxation and focused attention techniques to access the unconscious part of the mind and allow people to explore their thoughts, emotions and repressed memories.

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M feeling headache whenever my mood off and in night I can't sleep until it's 4'0 clock I can't find out the reason and M not feeling good my mind busy somewhere and still don't know , I can't concentrate my life is not cool or happy don't know what happen to me.

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Psychologist, Delhi
M feeling headache whenever my mood off and in night I can't sleep until it's 4'0 clock I can't find out the reason a...
Dear user due to work pressure and busy life schedule many youths are facing this type of problem. Because of your irregular sleeping cycle you are not feeling well. Try to sleep before 10-11 pm and sleep for 7-8 hours lie down at 10-11 pm and read some book don't consume tea coffee at sleeping time after 4-5 days your condition will improve. Consult any psychologist. Take care.
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Hello, I am taking benadryl as a sleep aid since 4 years and due to depression and stress I increased my dose upto 150 ml a day. I want to know the side effects.

MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Bachelor of Arts - Psychology and English Literature
Psychologist, Coimbatore
Hello,
I am taking benadryl as a sleep aid since 4 years and due to depression and stress I increased my dose upto 15...
Hi lybrate-user, There are treatments without medication to completely overcome depression and stress, why do not you undergo treatment and counselling. Do not use Benadryl for other symptoms. There is a well known proverb that is "Too much of anything is good for nothing" Benadryl overdose causes sedation, tiredness, dry mouth, nose and tongue, loss of coordination, blurred vision and many more. Addiction to anything will weaken your physique, your skin tone, your youthfulness will vanish slowly. Why instead undergo treatment and counselling. If interested contact me for an online consultation so that I could help you better and overcome your problem without any side effects. Take care. Do not use such ways to solve your problem, it is not good for health. Ofcourse depression and stress are normal among others, I do not know exactly what is your problem, if you feel free to discuss this issue, you are most welcome. Take care. Life is short we need to experience both happiness and sadness in life, we cannot run away from natural happenings in our life, but what we can prevent, we can, but not everything. It is part and parcel of our living in this advanced modern world. With regards, Psy. MSV.
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I am 23 years old .I have full stress and i' m getting tense for every thing. I cant spend my time with my family normally

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
Stress is part and parcel of life. Counselling can help you to deal with stress and change the way you respond to it. Click on private chat to consult me for stress management.
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I love a girl who is a friend of mine but I don't know she loves me or not. So many time I scolded her but still she is still with me how can I know she also wants me or not and how can I get rid of addiction of her text.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I love a girl who is a friend of mine but I don't know she loves me or not. So many time I scolded her but still she ...
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. If you want to know whether a girl loves you or not, the best method is to propose her. Immediately you will come to know. There are no short cuts. You can observe her behavior and see whether things are favorable. But such a step is always unsatisfactory for you because you want to know the truth. Propose her and hope for the best. Take care.
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I am a 12 class student. Whenever I study I feel much more stress on my mind. What should I do. Pls help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am a 12 class student. Whenever I study I feel much more stress on my mind. What should I do. Pls help.
Yes, it could be stress that is causing the problem with your studies. Meet with a counselor and deal with that stress effectively to get some relief. In the meantime follow these recommendations: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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Dear madam/sir, I am very stressed and depressed. I am law student and I am in a relationship since 4 years since school time. Now I am in second year law. We are from same town but after 12th grade we moved to different cities to pursue further studies. My relationship is getting worst we fight alot .we abuse each other too. He has abused me several time but now its hurting my self respect. He is a very nice person though when he comes to visit me he take good care of mine. But as soon as he goes back he does not care. Yesterday we fought and he blocked me without caring that I am crying and getting panic so much. Madam I get panic very much and can cry for hours. Its difficult for me to concentrate on my studies I feel very depressed and hopeless my confidence level has also gone done. I am also facing health problem. This relationship is going worst and its harming me emotionally very much. I want to get out of itmadam/sir I am very ambitious person but it feels like I can not do anything. Pls madam/sir advice me. It will b really grateful.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Dear madam/sir, I am very stressed and depressed. I am law student and I am in a relationship since 4 years since sch...
If a relationship is not good for you, then just quit it. There must be respect and definitely no abuse. Whatever he is when he meets you, it is not enough if he is not consistent. And please do not take abuse, ever. When he knows that you will not take nonsense and he becomes remorseful, then he is a good person. If he is not regretful, then just stop the relationship. You can tell him why you don't want such a relationship and see how he reacts. At this juncture in your life, it is very important for you to focus on your studies and do well. Also, you are still very young and there are a lot of occasions to meet many compatible men. So do not panic and get depressed. If he knows you for 4 years, surely he must know your character and trust you. I am assuming that these could be some of your problems since you have not mentioned the exact nature of the disputes. Please follow these measures to improve your concentration: I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember apart from your the stress of your relationship. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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I am a frequent smoker, tried to quit but couldn't? how could it be possible?

PhD (Psychology), MSc Psychology, MS
Psychologist,
Dear, tobacco is addictive. Cigarette also contains 4000+ carcinogenic chemicals other than nicotine. The best method is to leave it and continue with your will power. There are other methods like nicotine replacement therapy and pharmacotherapy combined. If you? re ready to stop smoking and willing to get the support you need, you can recover from nicotine addiction and abuse abuse? no matter how bad the addiction or how powerless you feel. The first step in treating nicotine addiction is accepting that you have a problem. Confronting an addiction and accepting responsibility for your actions isn? t easy. But it? s a necessary step on the road to treatment and recovery. You should then consult a psychiatrist / psychologist who fill follow this treatment. 1. Detoxification using medicines. 2. Behavior modification with the help of therapies. 3. Counseling. 4. Medication to sustain and 5. Long term support. These given steps are essential for any addict to get effectively rid of alcoholism. Therefore, you need to stick to the treatment plan and cooperate with your psychiatrist / psychologist. Take care.
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I am 36 of age. I am suffering from mental and physical weakness from last 3 months. I have a problem of facing bright lights and led lights. What should I do? Please help me.

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Dietitian/Nutritionist, Panipat
I am 36 of age. I am suffering from mental and physical weakness from last 3 months. I have a problem of facing brigh...
It can be due to weakness of muscles, taking a well balanced diet can solve this problem & do concentration exercise daily, initially it will be difficult but build up your muscles gradually, along with exercise it's very important to eat healthy & balanced diet to get rid of the problem.
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I am always tensed about my future? so what is the solution to reduce tension?

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I am always tensed about my future? so what is the solution to reduce tension?
Mind Control and some of its techniques. It?s a term that can have many meanings. Some people think of it as the ability to take control over the mind of other people. I prefer the meaning of controlling your own mind instead. So what does this term mean? As I have understood up to now, it is the ability to understand and control your feelings, emotions and behaviour. As you do this you have full control of yourself and you can achieve many goals in your life. Also you will have great self-confidence which is the key to success. All the methods that are used for mind control have the same results. They bring you to a brain-state where you can reprogram your mind. Most of these techniques, when applied, require being active in order to affect you positively. The truth is that it is you making the changes and not the method you are using. The method just helps you reach the appropriate brain-state. Some benefits of mind control are listed below: o Develop Self-Esteem o Cure Fears o Quit bad habits o Become spontaneous and social o Fight Depression o Overcome painful situations o Become more intuitive o Correct elements of your character o Change your reactions The Silva Method I first read about Mind Control in a book written by Jose Silva. He has developed a method of mind control. This method is very simple and easy to follow. You just have to train your visualization skill (check my Visualization Exercises program) and to enter the alpha mind state, where you can change many things about yourself. The key is that in the alpha brain state your subconscious is accessible. The Silva method is based on the power of positive thinking. While you get into trance you start visualizing positive thoughts. As your subconscious mind is accessible you can pass these thoughts into it. This can have a dramatic effect on the way you feel. Self-Hypnosis Self-Hypnosis is a more general term for a technique that induces you into trance. Silva method uses a Self-Hypnosis technique to induce you into trance. While Silva method follows a standard path for the production of alpha brainwaves (click here for more info about brainwaves), Self-Hypnosis is any visualization technique that can bring you to the appropriate brain-state. While you try Self-Hypnosis you imagine things. You try to imagine and visualize as many details as you can. These details may be colours, textures, temperature, smells and generally whatever sensation you can think of. For example, an example visualization that can induce you very fast into trance is imagining that you are walking in a narrow path with dense vegetation at both sides and far in front of you there is a forest where you can hear birds or animals and the sky is clear with the Sun heating the top of your head. All these sensations that you imagine, as you try Self-Hypnosis, engage yourright hemisphere and accelerate the production of alpha brainwaves. Usually, you can get into trance in a few minutes if you can stay in your imaginary place and feel as many sensations as you can. Well, the difficult part of Self-Hypnosis is to focus your thoughts on the magical place you are imagining. It?s too difficult to stay in just one thought at the beginning of your relaxation. Many different thoughts tend to go through your mind, as the alpha brainwaves are produced. You can think of it as if you are in a boring class room. At some point you stop listening what the teacher says, you feel relaxed and you start daydreaming. This is the desired state you want to be in when you try mind control. Entering the alpha state is a skill which you can improve by training. You might even become able to get into trance in a matter of seconds. After some time a deep breath will be sufficient to bring you into trance. There are many products online that can help you experience self-hypnosis. These are usually audio products like CDs or Mp3s. Their great advantage over the traditional method of self-hypnosis is that you are guided by a hypnotherapist. Thus, you can just follow the instructions and eliminate the multiple thinking distractions. I have tried such products and I can say they are very helpful. They make self-hypnosis easy, maybe easier than the Silva method. You just have to concentrate on the voice and do whatever you are being instructed to. You can of course try alone. Check my free Self Hypnosis Instruction for a complete guide. Another way of reaching and maintaining an ideal brain state for Mind Control is by using Brainwave Entrainment. Brainwave Entrainment Brainwave Entrainment is when your brainwaves are synchronized to external stimuli. This may be auditory, visual or both. There are special devices that are called mind machines and use both stimuli methods to synchronize your brain. But I have no practical experience with such machines. I will talk mostly about the auditory brainwave entrainment which I have also tested. There are three different technologies of brainwave entrainment. These are: o Binaural Beats o Monaural Beats o Isochronic Tones Whatever technology is used, the aim is one: to induce you into trance. Brainwave entrainment is a powerful way to reach alpha brain-state. You can go even deeper reaching theta or delta brain-state. At these states you can Control you Mind effectively. As long as a session lasts you will remain at the ideal mind state having plenty of time to do your changes. Another powerful way to get quickly into trance is to combine self-hypnosis with brainwave entrainment. Your brainwaves will synchronize to the stimuli and in the same time you will help the brain to drop its frequency by imagining things. I think this is the most effective way to reach the ideal brain-state for Mind Control. Controlling the frequency of your brainwaves is also Mind Control. If you are able to alter the brainwaves consciously then you control your Mind. You can become creative, relaxed, alert or sleepy on demand. If you have any experience with brainwave entrainment then please feel freeto post your stories in the comments area. Your contributions are of great value to mind expanding techniques. Active Mind Control Ok, let?s suppose that you reach the ideal state of the mind. What will you do next? It?s a good question if you don?t have a purpose. You are the only one who knows why you want to be in a relaxed state and influence your subconscious mind. You may need to change an annoying aspect of your character, like being anxious easily or being too sensitive. Then, after reaching to the desired brain state, you start imagining yourself how it would be if you had not these annoying elements. You observe your new character and affirming that you don?t have any more these attributes. You close your meditative session always with an action that confirms that you have a new character from now on. This action may be to pass through a door, to step on a particular shape on the ground, to plunge in a pool or anything you like. By doing this often, your subconscious mind gets the message and finally you change your negative behaviour. This is effective Mind Control and is active. There is also passive mind control. Passive Mind Control Passive Mind Control can be achieved using subliminal messaging. You don?t have to think of anything, you just have to listen to relaxation music that has integrated subliminal messages. Subliminal messages are affirmations that are included in the track you listen to and you can?t consciously detect them. Their volume frequency is below the limit that the human ear can perceive consciously. These messages go directly to your subconscious mind. Although, subliminal messages are supposed to be an effective way to change your mind set and control your sensations and feelings, there is a lot of discussion if they really do work. Some people claim that subliminal messages definitely affect them, others believe that subliminal messaging is based on placebo effects. Anyway, we will try and we will see. Another problem is that you don?t know whether subliminal messaging products are credible. As you cannot hear the hidden messages, you don?t know what they say. Don?t try products that you are not sure for their origin. Lastly, the disadvantage of subliminal messaging is that every session is limited to a unique action. For example, if you want to shut your mouth in order to lose fat, you will listen to a subliminal session for weight loss. There are no sessions where you can make multiple changes to your character at the same time. But, using any of the previous Mind Control techniques you are able to make as many changes as you want.
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