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Dr. Kalpana Suryakumar

Psychologist, Chennai

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Dr. Kalpana Suryakumar is a renowned Psychologist in Chintadripet, Chennai. She is currently practising at Sunrise Consultants in Chintadripet, Chennai. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Dr. Kalpana Suryakumar on Lybrate.com.

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My friend Is a bixesual male. He used to have physical intercourse with both his Females n Male friends. And he enjoy doing so. But since 6-7 months he is attracting more n more towards male as compared to girls n wish to have sex with them (if not possible for sex then he used to watch gay porns n masturbate. He masturbates almost daily. His Sperms quantity is also decreased.) He really wanna get rid of this male attractions n sex fantasy for them. Guide him with proper knowledge. Masturbation daily is harmful. How to increase sperm quantity n tym period for long sex.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
My friend Is a bixesual male.
He used to have physical intercourse with both his Females n Male friends.
And  he enjo...
Hi, Avoid overheating your testicles. There's a reason our testicles rest outside our bodies: they need to stay a bit cooler than the rest of our internal organs. When testicles get too warm, they aren't able to produce as much sperm. There are a number of ways to make sure your testicles don't get overheated: Don't wear tight pants and jeans. Wear loose, cotton boxer shorts instead of briefs. Sleep without underwear so that your testicles stay cooler. Avoid hot baths and saunas. Massage your body with herbal oils. This, along with regular exercise, improves overall blood flow and circulation. Increased circulation means healthier sperm. Reduce stress levels. Stress can decrease your sexual function, leading to reduced sperm production. If you work 12 plus hour days and never give yourself a chance to rest, your count might be down as a result. Try practicing relaxation techniques throughout the day to keep yourself feeling calm. Keep your mind and body healthy by regularly practicing yoga and meditation, or take up running or swimming. Stress hormones block Leydig cells, which are tasked with regulating testosterone production. When your body experiences too much stress, it can actually stop producing sperm altogether. Make sure you're getting enough sleep every night. Exhaustion can also lead to increased stress and cause decreased sperm production. Stop smoking and taking alcohol immediately. Ejaculate less frequently. Frequent ejaculations can lower sperm count. Your body produces millions of sperm each day, but if you already have low sperm count, consider storing them up longer between ejaculations. If you have sex or masturbate daily, cut down on the frequency for increased sperm production. For lasting longer: The technique involves stimulating the penis and stopping just before you feel you are about to ejaculate. Stop the stimulation for 30-60 seconds and start again once you feel that you have regained control. Repeat this process 4-5 times, stopping and “resting” every time you feel that you are about to have an orgasm. Finally, let the ejaculation occur, so that you can identify the “point of no-return”. The" start-stop" and" squeeze" technique prove more effective when combined with these techniques: Think about something else: something distracting, boring or annoying Take a deep breath before ejaculation: this can delay orgasm by slowing ejaculation and stimulation Then there are many food and lifestyle changes you can incorporate. Bisexuality can also be addressed. Your friend can consult me or any other psychologist for the same. Good luck.
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I am 32 years old. I am facing obsessive compulsion disorder. I am having three types of problem they are 1. I am getting two thoughts at a time like while crossing road my mind gets puzzled and not able to take decision to cross the road 2. I am getting obsessive. Thoughts and fear of useless thoughts for example I will die with headache. 3. I am not satisfied with my work. There is repetitive questions arises in my mind. These all things makes me irritated, anxiety, and I fail to enjoy my day to day life. Please doctor help me.

Masters in counseling psychology, Counseling psychologist, Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapist
Psychologist, Mumbai
Frankly speaking you need to take proper counseling for this problem as its not so simple. Please consult a psychologist or a psychiatrist. Your problem can be treated with proper counseling. Please don't hesitate and get help. A professional will be able to help you find the root cause of your anxieties which are causing these symptoms. And please do not self diagnose. Not necessary you have ocd. Many people go through such a phase.
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I don't want to be a gay. But I m interested to men? what I have to do?

MBBS, Msc Psychiatry, DPM
Psychiatrist,
I don't want to be a gay. But I m interested to men? what I have to do?
Well, it's okay that you are interested in men. This means either you have more female members in your family or you have less unisex friends. It is natural that anybody is attracted towards handsome men and beautiful ladies. One another interpretation of this behaviour may be that you unconsciously feel uncomfortable with women due to whatever reasons ; or you feel inferior at some issues. All you do is to boost up your self confidence. Once you would start feeling handsome and confident internally you would be behaving with everybody normally. Don't think that others are looking at you and what they would be saying, instead think that you are looking at others and you are awesome. I hope this works for you.
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Feel depressed feel like committing side not interested to live becoz of love failure. Can't concentrate in anything life getting frustrated. Hate advicising from others.

psychologist
Psychologist, Delhi
Lybrate user ,when we are in love its amazing feeling but understand one thing every one has some role and some time upto which he/she can be there and when that time will be over that person has to leave .what happened is past no one can change that neither we can do anything regarding that .you should proud of yourself that you loved some one deeply and truely ,its his fault that he did't value it but true love will never end. We can not make any change in past its just impossible what any one can do is to make himself happy, we cannot change the thinking and approach of others but its in our hand that we can make ourself happy. We get only one life after that we don't know what will happen in future, what we can do is to live every second of life ,enjoy every moment of life ,is it really right that for some one else you are upset? This is the time that you should start thinking about yourself only about yourself what do you want to be, what do you want to eat, to do, your career, your friends, your likings etc. Develop some hobby, make some good friends, make yourself busy, as much you will think you will get frustrate and will gain nothing, live only for yourself, and this can be possible when you will involve yourself in some other things first start from joining any hobby class and make any good friend with whom you can share everything .you can take help of any counsellor ,you can also contact me regarding this. Take care.
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I always get negative thought and get nightmare and fell pain in left occipital lobe. On this hole I drank bhang incidentally but that gave me a severe trauma I think sometime I become blank and what are we why are we etcc and sometime it disturbs in daily activity sir please help me. Is this is related with tumors.

Diploma in Psychological Medicine, de addiction
Psychiatrist, Ahmedabad
I always get negative thought and get nightmare and fell pain in left occipital lobe.
On this hole I drank bhang inci...
Hi lybrate-user, your anxiety is not under your control. We need to assess and diagnose at first. Rather tahun experimenting by substances like bhang which itself will increase anxiety, kindly take an appointment for online consultation. Thank you.
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I am 17 years old female. Am in std 12 sci stream. I am facing a problem. Which is really strange. I study very hard and do a lot of practice. But even after practicing so much I can not recall them during tests. What should I do? please suggest.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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I have low testosterone symptoms like less muscle mass, I am always confused, my mind is not stable, I am always low energy levels ,can't even sleep, always lethargic I got my Total Testosterone test done and it came 210ng/dl ,the Laboratory told me it's very less can you suggest what should be done I can consult privately and visit also in Delhi NCR.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
I have low testosterone symptoms like less muscle mass, I am always confused, my mind is not stable, I am always low ...
In general, the normal range in males is about 270 to 1070 ng/dL. The lab test needs to be confirmed from another lab, before proceeding on evaluation and treatment.
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I want to know how to improve my concentration sir because im a student I want to make my studies

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Basically you should develop interest in yourself to improve and shine in Life. You have to be self luminous, that is genious, no exernal force is necessary for this. However guidance is necessary. Prioritize/ concentrate on important thing -studies/ play/food/ sleep/ sociaizing. Then your mental and Physical helth is maintained and will support you to remember bettter, Nothing else is required, Remeber even a rank student is not sure if he passes or fails the exams. So you be thorough. Spend time with family discuss with your teachers and parents and friends and share your knowlege to improve subjects, Write always points in a log book and read repeatedly everyday everthing say PCBMHE E K etc. Or professional course. Be thorough. Start from day one. If not also dont panic. Concentrate and jot down what your teachers teach so that you will concentrate on every sentence the teacher speaks till the end and it will have many references. You be quick. Dont think Negative.
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I lost somebody close last year and séance then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to my self all the time. Please help me.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I lost somebody close last year and séance then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to my self all the time. Pleas...
Dear prabin. Welcome to lybrate. I can understand. Loosing someone near and dear is called grief and depression related to grief is pretty normal. But this sort of depression does not stay for long. This depression gets cleared within a span of some weeks. Take care.
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Is it smoking cigarette. Cause sexual erection problem? Also there is burning sensation in my chest all time . ?

PGD Maternal Child Health, MBBS
General Physician, Akola
Is it smoking cigarette. Cause sexual erection problem? Also there is burning sensation in my chest all time . ?
Yes, smoking leads to erectile dysfunction and impotence. Burning sensation in the chest is also caused by injury to broncial mucosa at very high temperature of the inhaled smoke. Quit smoking at the earliest for your own benefit and of your near dears.
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I am feeling very depressed and cry all the time and it is because one person is hurting me too much. Someone that I love so much. What should I do? I am feeling lifeless these days.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I don? t know your age to see if that has any bearing on your situation. However, you seem to know why you are depressed. So the answer is that you do not have to continue that relationship, if it is so hurtful. Your love is totally misplaced: how can you love someone who just hurts you? if this continues, both of you will develop a pattern for the rest of your lives to live in a manner where one is the abuser and other is the abused. Do you really want to live like this? introspect on this seriously and make a decision that is good for both of you. If he changes through some form of therapy, then there is some hope and scope. You also need to examine yourself to see whether you do some things to attract the abuse, or are you attracted to abuse, or have gotten used to it as well. I suggest you meet with a relationship counselor and clear all these issues before making a decision, either which way. Love is a two-way process and there is give and take of good stuff, always. The relationship must bring the best out of you.
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I feel bad sensation (anxiety) of nervousness at time to sleep in to the head, my focus would be goes to heartbeat as well. What kind of precaution you advise to me?

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I feel bad sensation (anxiety) of nervousness at time to sleep in to the head, my focus would be goes to heartbeat as...
Practice deep abdominal breathing. Inhale on count to 4 stomach should ride. Hold for 4 seconds. Breathe in like blowing a candle for 4 seconds. Repeat it till you feel calm and relaxed. Consult with me for anxiety management.
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My name is manpreet I have a non concentration problem. Whatever I read I can not make concentration.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs . If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards.
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How To Bounce Back From Failure - Tips From A Pyschologist

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
How To Bounce Back From Failure - Tips From A Pyschologist
HOW TO BOUNCE BACK FROM FAILURE

“It's fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure,” Bill Gates said. We always shower praise on those who have triumphed. Very rarely do we examine all the times the successful people have failed, and analyze how they turned their “luck” around. In this tip, you will understand how to turn failure into success and bounce back with more fervour.

1. A SUCCESSFUL MINDSET: If you’re striving to achieve anything then failure is inevitable. “Whenever you’re trying a new experiment, whether it’s a new job, a new product, a new hobby, a new boyfriend or girlfriend–whatever it is–you need to give some thought to what is your strategy and which are the possible ways to achieve it. Do you have any plan B or plan C if plan A fails? What will you do if nothing works out...and how to minimise the losses as well as taking advantage of the opportunities that you have. Assessing your opportunities and threats to success is very important. When a newly wedded girl comes to stay with her In laws, she might need to have a number of ways in her kitty to make her place in the new household rather than just stick to a few traditional ones. If one technique doesn't work, try something else. Disaster strikes when creativity is not given a place and failure was not factored in. Feeling helpless doesn't add upto success. Optimism is what people need to bounce back with.

2. LEARN AND IMPROVE WITH EACH FAILURE: Failure is just an opportunity to learn and improve. It’s a teaching moment that should be analyzed with a practical, clear mind. It helps to see mistakes as stepping stones to learning and improving and using it as an opportunity to bounce back. Every person should behave like a scientist with a mind open to exploring, assessing, making mistakes and changing. Mistakes must be embraced as being part of the process of success. If we don’t make mistakes it means that we’re not trying, and if we’re not trying then we’re not learning and getting better. Your self-worth should not rest on perfectionism, but rather value your ability to accept and learn from your mistakes. Not everyone is willing to admit when they’re wrong, which can hamper progress and relationships. When Meena and Arun started dating each other, they didn't know each other well and tried to impress each other in ways that was not working out well for both of them. It was very frustrating for them to see that their relationship was not working out. In counselling, they realised that they were not asking what each can do to impress the other. Meena told Arun that she would like to be taken out to plays and theatre by her future partner and Arun told Meena that he would like to take weekend trips to nearby destinations to get to know his partner well. When they both started doing what the other appreciated, they got to know each other better and relationship started blooming. Thus Arun and Meena assessed the situation, were open to discussion and found an amicable solution instead of thinking of their previous efforts as failure and giving up.

3. LOVE YOUR CRITICS: How do you feel when your work gets criticised repeatedly by your boss, manager or your husband. It mighty be hurtful and demeaning to hear critical feedback, but if many people are saying the same things about your work or behaviour, then maybe it's time to give it a serious thought. When Saira was often told that she wasn't cooperative enough in team activities and tends to slacken and pass on work to other members, her mind started working. She had got the same comments in her previous organisations. She started seeing a grain of truth in this feedback and took steps to rectify complaints that stood out common in all the feedbacks and reworked her way back to become a sought after team member. Her next years' appraisal was better and got her an increment. Saira triumphed, because she knew how to learn from criticism.

4. ACCEPT FAILURE AS AN IMPORTANT PART OF LIFE: Shivani was heartbroken when her 15 year old perfect son started doing badly in exams. Her world fell apart when she came to know that he had secured 73% in 10th grade. She felt that she had failed as a parent and her son as she had not devoted enough time to her son as she was a working mother. In counselling, she was asked if she knew any parent who had never failed their kids and were always there for them. Shivani couldn't come up with any names of such mothers who had been perfect to the core. Yes, that's how real mothers are...you will fail sometimes and you will win sometimes. Every moment you are real with your child, you are succeeding as a mother. Accepting failure as a part of life and knowing that you gave it your best shot is good enough. There's magic in feeling genuine regret rather than overkilling guilt and shame. Own your failure openly, publicly, and you'll reap a harvest of forgiveness, trust, respect, and connection—the things you thought you'd get by succeeding. Ironic, isn't it?

5. GO WITH YOUR GUT: When you see a red flag, pay attention. How many times in life have you kicked yourself for not listening to that little voice in your head that says, “Something is wrong here”?. Preetam gave an interview with an organisation, going by their market reputation. Yet during the interview, he picked up feelings of dissonance within the company. After joining them, he realised that his gut was right..the company was going through major shuffle and policy changes, which were not working out for Preetam.

6. BE A PROBLEM SOLVER AND STAY CALM: In a crisis, people tend to get anxious. Maintaining a sense of Zen will not only allow you to think more clearly but will also set the tone for those around you. Kapil used to get tensed over small details. He realised that in the larger scheme of things they were really not that important. He focussed his energies on things that were more important for him to reach his monthly targets. This started calming him down.

7. FIND A SOLUTION: You need to figure out how to address and remedy the situation. Start by considering your end game — what’s the ultimate outcome you’d like to see? — and work backwards from there. Daya wanted to be a good father to his children. He wanted them to remember him as a gentle and loving father. He started working backwards and his daily actions and behaviours showed to his children that Daya was a loving father. He played with them, took them for cricket coaching, went swimming, shared personal success and failures and most of all listened to them when they had to say something.

8. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OF YOUR MISTAKES AND FAILURES: If you screwed up, don’t make excuses — just apologise genuinely for any errors on your part. Remember, that no one is perfect and it's human to err. Prema was a caring mother. She had many dreams about her daughter and wanted her to do well in studies and be a well behaved child of the family. But when her daughter started showing disinterest in studies and marks started falling, Prema used to beat up her daughter in her anxiety to do well. In counselling Prema understood that her intentions were good, but the way she communicated were not helping the situation as Prema's daughter hated her mother and maintained distance. Prema owned up her mistakes and apologised for her errors to her daughter. She also took remedial action to be accepting of her daughter and gave her the space to make her own mistakes and learn from them.

9. BECOME PROACTIVE: Don’t let a small mistake linger and turn into a bigger one. That’s not to say you should simply be reactive, but i f you know you did something wrong, deal with it right away. Say, for example, you stuck your foot in your mouth during an important business meeting and inadvertently offended your boss or a client. Acknowledge the gaffe, apologize and try to move on without beating yourself up. Remember that, “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.

10. DEFINE YOUR OWN SUCCESS AND FAILURES: Its important to have your own definition of both rather than how the world sees and defines success and failure. Find answers to questions like: How would you be behaving when you have succeeded, what must happen to feel successful, how will your life change when you are successful? Every person has a very different view and definition for success and making it your own definition can spell failure. Don't let the world tell you whether you have failed or succeeded. It's also excellent for self esteem and works as a protective shield from potential damage.

So, next time there’s that misstep, mistake or misunderstanding, remember to take a deep breath and be your own best publicist by remaining calm, seeking the solution and seeing the challenge as an opportunity to lead and learn.







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Overview of sex addiction

Bachelor of Unani Medicine and Surgery (B.U.M.S)
Sexologist, Chennai
Overview of sex addiction
Overview of sex addiction

An addiction is a dependence on a certain substance, activity, or behavior. There are many different types of addictions, including dependencies on over-the-counter (otc) and prescription medications, illegal drugs, alcohol, and tobacco products. Sex addiction is a psychological disorder that involves an unhealthy preoccupation with sexuality or an obsession with sexual activity and/or romantic love.

Sex addiction also is called
Sexual addiction
Love addiction
Hypersexuality
Compulsive sexual behavior
Sexual compulsion
Nymphomania

The term erotomania is used to describe a delusion (false belief or expectation) of being loved by a particular person.

Sexual addiction usually begins as normal, healthy sexuality; however, sex addicts experience chemical and physical (i. E, physiological) changes in the brain that result in an inability to control sexual urges and behavior. For people who are addicted to sex, sexual desire (arousal) and sexual pleasure often replace close, loving (i. E, intimate) relationships. In many cases, sex addicts use sexual behavior to avoid dealing with painful feelings, such as loneliness, low self-esteem, and fear of rejection.

Differences in the way human sexually is viewed in various cultures, societies, and religions throughout the world make it difficult to develop a universal definition of sex addiction. Therefore, overall incidence and prevalence of the condition is not easy to determine.

Sexual addiction occurs in both men and women. It is diagnosed more often in men, but this may be because women seek treatment for sex addiction less frequently. Sex addiction may be more common today than in the past. This may be related to the widespread availability of the internet, which provides easy access to pornography (i. E, pornographic websites) and opportunities for cybersex (i. E, virtual sexual relationships conducted through computers), and sexual images in the media (e. G, television, movies, music videos).

Sexual addiction can occur in people of any sexual orientation (also called sexual preference). People who have sexual relationships with members of the opposite gender (i. E, heterosexuals), people who have sexual relationships with members of the same gender (i. E, homosexuals), and people who have sex with members of both genders (i. E, bisexuals) may develop an addiction to sex.
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I am a student and I am not able to focus on study how to focus on study for long time.

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Homeopath, Ludhiana
Hello...... For concentration start yoga or meditation.... Eat healthy diet...... Nuts are good for brain.. Eat almonds and walnuts daily...... Take 8 hrs good sleep...... For more advice or if you want medicine you can consult me........ Good luck......
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I AM 40 YEARS OLD. MY WEIGHT NEAR 100 KGS. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE. COME anxiety IN EVERY TIME. PLEASE SUGGEST ME HOW I RELIEF THIS PROBLEMS?

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Psychologist, Kolkata
I AM 40 YEARS OLD. MY WEIGHT NEAR 100 KGS. HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE. COME anxiety IN EVERY TIME. PLEASE SUGGEST ME HOW I R...
Overweight problems are always related to high blood pressure and anxiety. Anxiety is one of the most distressing emotions because of the co related physiology is so severe - heart pounding, stomach churning, shaking, dizziness and variety of other symptoms give you further cause to worry. The physical symptoms of anxiety play a great part in this over estimation of threat perception, as they are seen themselves as significant indicators that something is seriously wrong. Participating in physical activity reduces these symptoms. Meditation and relaxation therapy are also useful. Mindfulness exercises help a lot in anxiety related issues.
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What happens if two or three avil 25 mg tablets are taken at night time before going to bed. Not on a regular basis as my friend suffers from love failure and she had it and told me. What will be the symptoms? Will there be any side effects later in future. Please tell me so I can do help her from problems.

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
What happens if two or three avil 25 mg tablets are taken at night time before going to bed. Not on a regular basis a...
She will feel drowsiness so suggest her not to go out or drive. Once the drug is put of her system she should be fine and will not have any other side effect. I would also request that you suggest her to seek help outside for few months. See a counselor or psychologist who could help her cop with her current state and lead healthy life ahead.
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Dentist, Hyderabad
Smoking or consuming smokeless tobacco is very harmful for your teeth. It can lead to various oral diseases like oral cancer, gingivitis, periodontitis and tooth decay. 
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