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Dr. Gowthamam

DNB (PSYCHIATRY)

Psychiatrist, Chennai

14 Years Experience
Dr. Gowthamam DNB (PSYCHIATRY) Psychiatrist, Chennai
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Dr. Gowthamam is a trusted Psychiatrist in Erode, Chennai. Doctor has had many happy patients in his/her 14 years of journey as a Psychiatrist. Doctor is a qualified DNB (PSYCHIATRY) . You can visit him/her at Dr. Gowthamam,Arivalagar Clinic in Erode, Chennai. Save your time and book an appointment online with Dr. Gowthamam on Lybrate.com.

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He failed in last exams. From then he is so depressed that he never talks to us. Wht to do.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Be supportive keep reassuring him that you all are there with him no matter what, normalize the situation by telling him that its ok to fail once twice thrice even the most successful people have failed in exams or were dropouts, tell him inspirational things, take him out for outing to his favorite place, make him join some classes music etc whatever he likes and keep a very positive enviroment at home. Ask him what he wants to do and be encouraging. If it persists take him to a psychologist.
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I have a 12 year old boy with klin (chromosome xyx) syndrome. He cannot speak and walk. He can manage a wheel chair. Active to some extent. Only one testis is visible. Head is slight; y bigger. Fair and lovely. Where can I get right treatment for such a child and what is that?

M. Phil Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Hyderabad
Please identify a multidisciplinary center near your place. They will provide remedial education for your child. If you can tell me the city you're located in, I can try to help.
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Hi doctor! Can you suggest some tips to increase concentration and memory power? Thank you!

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
CONCENTRATION TIPS Here’s some tips to get into a state of deep concentration where work / or studies flow easily so that you can do well in examinations/ and or do your work well. 1) Cut Off the Noise Getting into a state of concentration can take at least fifteen minutes. If you are getting distracted every five, you can’t possibly focus entirely on your work. Request that people don’t interrupt you when working on a big project. If you are required to answer phones and drop-in’s immediately, schedule work when the office is less busy. 2) Structure Your Environment The place you work can have an impact on your ability to focus. Try to locate yourself so you are facing potential distractions such as doors, phones or windows. This way you can take a glance to assess sounds that would otherwise break your focus. 3) Clarify Objectives Know what your goal is clearly before you start. If you aren’t sure what the end result is, the confusion will make it impossible to focus. 4) Divide Blobs. If you have a large project that needs work, clearly identify a path that you will use to get started working on it. If the sequence of actions isn’t obvious, it will be difficult to concentrate. Taking a few minutes to plan not only your end result, but the order you will complete any steps, can save hours in wasted thinking. 5) Know the Rules Get clear on what the guidelines are for the task ahead. What level of quality do you need? What standards do you need to follow? What constraints are there? If the rules aren’t clear from the outset, you will slip out of concentration as you ponder them later. 6) Set a Deadline Deadlines have both advantages and disadvantages when trying to force concentration. A deadline can make it easier to forget the non-essential and speed up your working time. If you give yourself only an hour to design a logo, you will keep it simple and avoid fiddling with extravagant designs. Time limits have disadvantages when they cause you to worry about the time you have left instead of the task itself. 7) Break down Roadblocks Roadblocks occur whenever you hit a tricky problem in your work. This can happen when you run out of ideas or your focus wavers. Break down roadblocks by brainstorming or planning on a piece of paper. Writing out your thought processes can keep you focused even if you might become frustrated. 8) Isolate Yourself Become a hermit and stay away from other people if you want to get work done. Unless your work is based on other people they will only break your focus. Create a private space and refuse to talk to anyone until your work is finished. Put a sign on your door to steer away drop-ins and don’t answer your phone. 9) Healthy Body, Sharper Mind What you put into your body affects the way you concentrate. Nobody would expect peak performance if they showed up drunk to work. But if you allow yourself to get chronic sleep deprivation, overuse stimulants like caffeine or eat dense, fatty foods your concentration will suffer. Try to cut out one of your unhealthy habits for just thirty days to see if there is a difference in your energy levels. I’ve found even small steps can create dramatic changes in my ability to focus. 10) Be Patient Before I write an article, I often sit at my desk for a fifteen or twenty minutes before I put finger on the keyboard. During this time I feel a strong urge to leave or do something else. But I know that if I am patient, I’ll stumble upon an idea to write about and enter a state of flow. Without a little patience, you can’t take advantage of flow when it rushed through you. If you need strong concentration I recommend periods of 90-120 minutes. Any less than that and you will waste too much time getting started before the flow can continue. More than this is possible to sustain focus, but you will probably benefit from a quick break. These are the general guidelines for concentration, studying well or doing your job. Regards.
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I am 45 years old female I am suffering from body pain specially when stood after long time what type of these symptoms are? Your valuable advice please. Thanks.

MBBS
General Physician, Cuttack
1. It could be due to deficiency of vitamin d3/b12, calcium, hemoglobin 2. Get your blood examined for above and connsult physician with report for advice and treatment.
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I am 26 years old and I get angry in seconds on small matters. Actually I had a breakup and am trying to get over it. All I want is to move on in life bt it' s really hard fr me to get into any relation now. I want to concentrate and do my best but all in vain:-( hope you do understand in which situation I am going through).

MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, MPHIL
Psychologist, Mumbai
You need to calm down. You are stressing yourself a lot and maybe thinking much about the breakup. Try to focus your energies and attention to other positive things and involve yourself in activities that help you stay happy. Exercise daily.
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My boyfriend got married to someone else and he is very happy with his married life now. He made so many promises to me saying that he won't change anytime but I feel he has changed a lot and he not at all concerned about me. I feel very depressed and burst into tears and I am suffering with the feeling that I lost everything and he has forgotten everything. I am trying my best to come out of that feeling but I am unable to do so. My mood will change suddenly and my eyes get filled with tears. I am feeling hopeless. Please suggest me what should I do? I love him a lot I am unable to forget him even though he got married to someone else.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
This is the reality and you have to learn to accept it and move on. I know it is difficult to have lived under such assurance and then to be suddenly turned down for another. While there is a lot of grief you must be very, very angry. I do not hear that anywhere in your statement! why are you not angry for someone who has let you down so badly and deceptively? he is happy but you are miserable. You must deal with all the emotions which you will feel quite legitimately. Then you must accept the fact that he is completely gone out of your life, and your spending any time pining, moping or brooding for him will make your life more miserable. In a relation that was not genuine, hearts will be broken. You need to pick up the pieces and reform yourself and as quickly as possible return to your true self and not wallow in your hurt self. Meet with a counselor and talk about all your feelings without restraint. He does not deserve any attention and you may consider him realistically dead to you. You have far greater value if you respect yourself and move on. Remove all reminders of him and do not go to any places, situations, occasions, and companions associated with him. You deserve better. As you talk about these feelings you will get him out of your system soon and will realize some day that he does not deserve you. There could be someone better waiting for you out there. Prepare yourself for that person. The advantage is that you are still young. The memory of him will still linger but with time the emotional association will die down completely.
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I lost my memory due go accident which was happen last year so what Can I do for you sir?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Strategies for Remembering 1. Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2. Find a way to leverage your visual memory. You'll be surprised by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3. Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical.. 4. Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. 5. When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6. Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study—afternoon appearing to be the best. 7. Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night after you've studied but the day, you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam.
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I am always losing memory. Every time I lose my memory. When I am standing in front of anything to do something at that time I forget what to do? And also when I speak anything I can not speak what I want to speak and other words come. if I want to speak the word 'eat' I speak drink. I have no other health problems. Every thing is ok. What I do doctor?

MBBS, MD (AIIMS, Gold Medalist), Diploma in CBT (Glasgow)
Psychiatrist, Delhi
this is a sign of anxiety. You need to practice breathing exercises, listen to relaxing music, exercise regularly or practice yoga. Medicines under expert supervision may be needed if problems persist. Just to be sure get a hemogram, serum TSH and vitamin B12 levels done.
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I'm 22 year old male I have mild tremors in hand since childhood after consulting alots of doctors varying from general physicians to psychiatrists and neurologists my conditions never improved all possible test hv been done and nothing unsual found. For most its anxiety disorder because I have cold hands and feet. Please help me.

DNB in Psychiatry, completed course from Asha Hospital, Hyderbad
Psychiatrist, Salem
Hi . It will be good if you brief your medicatio details. And there are certain conditions where it is inborn, nothing much can be done to cut it down completely.
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MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Meth amphetamine and mephedrone addiction has reached epidemic levels , if there are sudden behavioural changes like aggression, sleep disturbance , withdrawn behaviour , redness of eyes in adolescents , get them screened .

I have a habit of smoking. I want to leave this habit tell me the solution. Thanx.

DNB (PSYCHIATRY), DPM, MBBS,
Psychiatrist, Gurgaon
Nicotine replacement treatment by way of chewing gums or patch is available over the counter. If it doesn't work for you, psychiatrist can prescribe specific medicines that alter craving and therapy to manage cravings.
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I have lost my concentration towards study. There was a time I use to study daily as I am growing up I lost this habit. How can I get it back I tried meditation but I can't even meditate for 10 min with concentration.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You may have lost that since you have just been through the late adolescence and the hormonal imbalance that follows it. If it is too bad you may need some academic counseling and advice. Learn to develop habits which can form by doing something everyday for 21 days. Then continue the reinforcement for another 7 weeks and you will be done. Natural concentration is when the mind can hold a thought for a long time, when thoughts are under our own control. Without concentration the mind goes here, there and everywhere, jumping like a monkey from branch to branch, idea to idea. When there is a natural concentration, we can control our mind and there is peace. This one-pointed concentration on a thought, holding it for as long as we like, gradually collects strength in the mind and in the self. A strong mind is a mind that is peaceful, stable, satisfied and can remain in the deeper meaning of a thought. There is no waste caused by over-thinking, or the high speed of thought: These are the two greatest diseases of the mind these days, which is why there is so much stress and mental breakdown. Stress can foil concentration and learning ability. Although concentration is different to memory, they can affect each other. Concentration precedes memory. If you are under stress your concentration will go for a toss, then naturally memory will be totally foiled. So meet with a counselor to take care of the stress and your memory will happily return. You can follow these simple rules in the meantime: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid all junk food.
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My mind is sometime out of control. My mind thinks every time some unnecessary thinks which I do not like to thinks. What should I do.

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Try to buy original medicines. Mix 3 drops of clematis + 2 drops of mimulus + 3 drops of white chestnut. Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every night. If any problems consult me online.
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My wife aged 38 yrs does house hold work while taking bath. She does not allow anyone to touch her belongings. She spents even 6-8 hours a day pouring water upon her and doing routine job. If someone interrupts she becomes furious. Sometimes she removes her clothes and lie down and becomes very abusive. She doesn't allow anyone to come my house. The problem persists since her adolescence. I feel very disturbed due to her habit. Please help me if there is any medication for her.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear , from the given symptoms it is sure that your wife is suffering from obsessive compulsive disorder (ocd). She needs psychiatric treatment and psychotherapy. Please consult a psychiatrist immediately. Take care.
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Work related stress and anxiety is affecting my personal and family life. Have difficulty concentrating and memorizing. Is it normal? How do I manage? Please suggest effective solution.

MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology, Bachelor of Arts - Psychology and English Literature
Psychologist, Coimbatore
Hi lybrate-user! Yes you are right it does affect your personal and family life. When you have work pressure, long working hours, stressful working environment, continuous work schedule, latest technologies implementation and many more causes tension, anxiety, and therefore affects personal, family, unhappiness, depression and many more as you say lack of attention. It happens in IT companies, I exactly do not know what type of job you are into type of occupation also matters. Yes There is solution, but one needs to volunteer to undergo treatment for the same to overcome this problem, only then it can be solved from a Professional Psychologist or counsellor. If you need further assistance feel free to contact me either through text chat or call me when you find difficulty to manage then consult me. Take care. Come forward for the treatment. Just changing food habits alone will not help you, you will find physical improvement, but not mental pressure related to job stress and anxiety.
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I just searched about the symptoms of depression. And every symptoms match with my symptoms. Therefore I know that I am suffering from depression. I am in class 12. I want to do best result. And want a bright career and thats why I have to study best. But I can not study. I feel dizzy irritating and hesitated most of the times. Nd my father can not understand that m suffering from any problem my mom also. They can not want to accept the fact that I am suffering from any problem. This problem start from when m in class 9.i had fight too much with my mom that time. Can not control my anger. Started crying most of the times, feels lonely, nobody is around without mom and dad. No amazing friend circle. If I start laughing once than I can not stop myself from laughing. thats why my friends all time tells me that I am mad, I have no work to do rather than laughing. What should I do please help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
At your age this claim is serious. If you have depression then there are some major ramifications to take into account. I believe there may be some genetic predisposition or there has been some childhood issue, related to anger, that needs urgent attention. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved. As regards the concentration you are sure to have hormonal imbalances which may impact your memory because of the chemical but also the distractions that come with it; together with depression I can imagine your problems. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling. The counselor can then explain the problem to your parents or you can get a close relative to explain to them too.
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How long will alcohol and marijuana remain in our body and can be detected? Negative aspects of marijuana.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
The THC, the active ingredient in Marijuana will remain in your body for 1 month at least. Alcohol will leave your system within 3 hours for every peg you consume. Just for your information here’s what WebMD has to say: ‘No matter how it gets into your system, it affects almost every organ in your body, and your nervous system and immune system, too. When you smoke pot, your body absorbs THC right away. (If you eat baked goods or another item, it may take much longer for your body to absorb THC, because it has to break down in your stomach before it enters your bloodstream). You may notice changes in your body right after you smoke. The effects usually stop after 3 or 4 hours. Smoking pot can increase your heart rate by as much as two times for up to 3 hours. That’s why some people have a heart attack right after they use marijuana. It can increase bleeding, lower blood pressure, and affect your blood sugar, too. We don’t yet know if marijuana is linked to higher odds of getting lung cancer. But the process does irritate your lungs -- which is why regular pot smokers are more likely to have an ongoing cough and to have lung-related health problems like chest colds and lung infections. Other physical effects of marijuana include: •Dizziness •Shallow breathing •Red eyes and dilated pupils •Dry mouth •Increased appetite •Slowed reaction time (If you drive after using marijuana, your risk of being in a car accident more than doubles.) If you’re a long-time user, you can have physical withdrawal symptoms -- like cravings, irritability, sleeplessness, and less appetite -- when you stop.’ It being a hallucinogen, it can lead to hallucinations and even a phenomenon called ‘cross hallucinations’ i. E. For example, you can see sounds and hear colors!
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5 Ways to Cope With Large Scale Tragedies

MPhil Clinical Psychology, Masters in Psychology
Psychologist, Gurgaon
5 Ways to Cope With Large Scale Tragedies

Tragedies are a part of life and at some point of life, every person undergoes some large-scale tragedy. It may be in different forms like separation, crisis in relationships, financial stress, death of a loved one, some severe disease and many others.

A large scale tragedy can cripple a person and devastate him. However, instead of breaking down, one should stand strong and face the situation. Here are 5 ways to cope with a large-scale tragedy:

  1. Talking to someone, honestly: You are not alone is this world and should not forget that there are many other people all around you. In case of a tragedy, you usually have a lot of pent-up feelings inside you. Instead of keeping them to yourself, you must share these feelings with your friends or any person whom you trust. Venting out will enable you to relax.
  2. Act on truth: Always keep in mind that whatever happens in life, there is a chance to start afresh. Always remember that you are not alone and there are people to help you out, no matter what kind of tragedy you have undergone. There is always some hope left.
  3. Be realistic: You have to differentiate between wishful thinking and hope and get it clear in your head. Wishful thinking might not get you anywhere and eventually you will be more disappointed. However, if you stick to reality and hope realistically, slowly you will be able to come out of your shell and face the world again. Face the reality that you have to struggle a lot for quite a long time and do not think about miracles.
  4. Second chances: In many situations, a tragedy comes with a blame. However, you should not confuse between condemnation and responsibility. Taking responsibility is wise, but self-condemnation takes you along the wrong track. You should give yourself another chance. You must let go of guilt and learn how to forgive and forget. By giving a new start, things will get back to normal. This is applicable in case of relationship-related tragedies.
  5. Have faith in God: When you are in a situation which is too tough to cope with, and you cannot foresee any hope, you have to believe in God. Keeping the faith is the best thing to do, and you should believe that hope is possible. If you have faith in a greater power, you will get through.

Large scale tragedies are difficult to cope with and can make you feel that your life is over. However, instead of isolating oneself and burying the grief, proper measures should be taken to cope with the tragedy for better and peaceful living. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a doctor.

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Sir, I am 19 and all the time thinking about sex and libido since few weeks due to this not able to concentrate on any thing. I am feeling depressed and have headache all the time. Sir,so please suggest what can I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
There is no need to be alarmed to this extent. Between the ages of 16 to 18 years (in your case it is delayed by a year or so), for a duration of almost exactly two years, all boys and girls will have a spurt in the production of the male sex hormone, testosterone. Due to this hormone there are three identified effects, all because of this chemical: you will become sexually active; you will become aggressive and rebellious; and you will all suffer acne and pimple problems. You have no choice because this is a body clock mechanism that gets activated and over the two years that it prevails, it will gradually subside and return to normal. But during this time you could (driven by the hormones) do something inadvertent that there may be no turning the clock back. So you need to exercise control and channelize this energy through games and sports and hobbies. Also you would have developed secondary sexual characteristics and they seek to be used and seek fulfillment. Again this is not a problem but the drive can be very bad for those who do not have sufficiently well-developed value systems or a good conscience. These kids can lose control and become reckless. Most kids have a problem, like you do, around their sexual urges and may resort to acting out in the form of masturbation, pornography, and other sexual exploits. If you indulge in any of these you can get into a guilt trip or develop an addiction that may plague you for a long time. There is no threat to your mental well being. Your character will certainly be tested, and it will reflect your development in this regard. The best thing to do is to get a sex education from a counselor and ask all the questions you wish answered. Otherwise, you will want to experiment or seek information from your peers who are not adequately qualified to really do justice to your queries.
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