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Dr. C Anbu Durai

Psychiatrist, Chennai

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Dr. C Anbu Durai is an experienced Psychiatrist in Tambaram West, Chennai. You can meet Dr. C Anbu Durai personally at Hindu Mission Hospital - Tambaram in Tambaram West, Chennai. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Dr. C Anbu Durai on Lybrate.com.

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10 Tips to Help You De-Stress

M.Sc - Dietitics / Nutrition, B.Sc. - Dietitics / Nutrition
Dietitian/Nutritionist, Delhi
10 Tips to Help You De-Stress

Rent a funny movie, go to a yoga class, keep a journal — these proven stress relief methods work. Not only will you feel better, but you’ll be happier.

These days it seems everyone is living and breathing stress. Trying to undo the tension can just add more stress if you take the wrong approach. But there’s no need to do that; there are many healthy, proven ways to get stress relief.

Here are some tried and true tips to get stress relief:

Exercise
“Run, do some yoga, punch a bag at the gym,”. Exercise is a way to manage stress that doesn’t have to add to your financial woes. For example, a 20-minute walk or jog around your block can yield up to 12 hours of improved mood. The main thing is to find a physical activity that you enjoy, whether it’s dancing or fly fishing.

Socialize 
Spending time with friends and family who give you a sense of belonging, purpose, and fun may provide all the stress relief you need.

Write
Dedicating a period of time every day to write about a situation that is bothering you may reduce tension and give you stress relief for the rest of the day. Keeping a journal can also help you solve problems or find positive angles amongst the stressors.

Laugh
Laughter really is the best medicine. It is proven to lower tension, and at the same time, improves blood flow and the health of your heart. Rent a funny movie or hang out with that wannabe-comedian pal, and forget about your worries for a while.

Take care of yourself
W'hen tension spikes, it can be tempting to put yourself last — but prioritizing healthy eating, physical activity, relationships, and sleep is necessary if you want to avoid making your stress worse.

Get some fresh air
If you are cooped up inside all day, take a few minutes to get outside and see the sun. A little time in the great outdoors can improve your mood and help you relax.

Be kind to yourself
Think about positive affirmations daily. Thinking negative thoughts only makes you feel bad and will increase stress. Tell yourself you are doing a good job, and believe it!

Meditate
Practice deep breathing and meditation exercises daily, and when you feel tension rising.

Be thankful
Showing thanks for your family, friends, and loved ones and being thankful for the positive aspects of your life has a calming affect. Not only does it give you perspective, it makes other people feel good, too.

Make a change
Sometimes the best way to obtain stress relief is to remove your source of tension. “for example, if you are in a job working at a certain pace in an environment that is objectively painful because of your boss, coworkers, and so on, and you’re doing it because you can earn 10 percent more money than doing something else, you could calculate that you might be better off doing something else,”.

Many people turn to unhealthy choices in an attempt to cope with tension, says goodstein. These include:

Substance abuse
Smoking
Overeating
Drinking alcohol to excess
Gambling


Even a seemingly harmless source of stress relief, such as computer games, can add to your problems if it cuts into the time you need to take care of yourself. Chances are that if you play computer games more than seven hours a week, you could be losing two hours of sleep a night — which will actually add to your tension in the long run. If you notice that you are starting to depend on unhealthy sources of stress relief and you can’t make a change on your own, seek help.

Some stressors are chronic and unremitting. “you may want to take a broad overview of your life to see if you have allowed yourself to be encumbered by factors that are making your life unpleasant.” if so, consider making a lifestyle change.

If you’ve been hiking, socializing, and taking care of yourself and you still have high levels of stress, talk to your doctor. Your tension could be a sign of another health issue.

Remember, you don’t have to live with tension. In fact, not only is tension unpleasant, but it is unhealthy. Keep trying out stress-relief techniques until you find the ones that work for you.

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I had been on medicine for few months now for auto immune problem. Hence was prescribed HCQs300 for this. My doctor has told me that these medicines might make skin little dark as a side effect to this medicine and this has happened to my skin esp my face. Suddenly I see my lips also little dark. I don't smoke at all. Is there a way to get my original color back esp of my lips.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
I had been on medicine for few months now for auto immune problem. Hence was prescribed HCQs300 for this. My doctor h...
when the medicine is stopped I think the colour change will reverse. These doubts are better answered by the prescribing doctor, who has experience with the side effects of the medicines
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Which doctor will help me to avoid alcohol problem? Please suggest me? i'm very depress due to alcohol. My father drink every day.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Which doctor will help me to avoid alcohol problem? Please suggest me? i'm very depress due to alcohol. My father dri...
You need to identify why you need to drink, and go back into your childhood to find out other influences on your personality that makes you prone to addiction. Meet with an addiction counselor and work with them to sort out this drive. Your already display the classic tendency to first obsess about it and then compulsively feel driven to meet that need. The simplest thing to do is to do some other interesting activity during the evening times. Meet your oral need with some other non-intoxicating drink like soups, juices, and sodas with lime, etc. If you think that you will find it very difficult, then admit yourself to a hospital and go for de-addiction: which normally lasts for about two weeks. Then follow that up with addiction counseling from a professional for at least three years to completely get rid of the habit. If this is also not enough, then admit yourself into a de-addiction center and stay there for at least 6 months and after that attend counseling with a professional. There are medicines that help with the drinking just to ease the initial craving. Ultimately, it is your will power and the support that you receive from the medical fraternity and your close and dear ones. You must also learn to substitute and deal with the oral need, a rigid value system, the script issue, and of course look at all the genetic factors to plan a strategy not to get into what is called ‘cross addictions’ i.e. Another form of addiction that may appear alright but is in fact as bad as the primary addiction. The center or hospital and the counselor will advise and guide you on several measures and precautions you will need to take to stay with your resolve. Even after the rehabilitation you must attend AA meetings and continue this support for a long time. Your family will also need to attend some sessions and go for Al-anon meetings for their co-dependency issues. You cannot be treated in isolation because the family has gotten used to your drinking and have made some unhealthy adaptations to somehow cope. Make a serious plan with the family and whoever else’s support you can get and act on it fast. As a combination these two therapies (counseling and rehabilitation) will aid in dealing with the addiction. It will however take a long time to completely come off of the enslavement.
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Hi sir, I am from erode in tamilnadu and my age 29. i have problem from afternoon time my body is paining and have no power for work, urine pass normal type, I can't work properly. what is the problem for me? how to solve it? please help me.

MBBS, cc USG
General Physician, Noida
Hi sir, I am from erode in tamilnadu and my age 29. i have problem from afternoon time my body is paining and have no...
Hello, Body pain may be due to 1. fever 2. abrupt start or stop of exercise 3. Any other medical disease like Anaemia/ Hypoproteinemia/ Thyroid problem 4. Vit D deficiency 5. Multimineral and vitamin Deficiency 6.Stress/ anxiety 7. Over exertion (physical and mental) kindly follow advises given below: 1. Take adequate rest 2. Proper diet 3. Measure your temperature and tell me reading 4. Bathing may also reduce body pain 5. Avoid stress Kindly consult Physician for further management
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My lower part is paining over 3 days what can I do ?

MBBS
General Physician,
My lower part is paining over 3 days what can I do ?
Hello, kindly specify you are having pain in which lower part of body so that I can guide you further
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Hello Doctor, I haven't been able to sleep from past 6 months. I am a student pursuing CA. It's affecting my health as well as my studies as I am unable to concentrate and retain studies. I also suffer from severe headaches. I over think and worry a lot. Please suggest me a remedy. Thanks.

DHB
Homeopath, Sagar
Hello Doctor,
I haven't been able to sleep from past 6 months. I am a student pursuing CA. It's affecting my health a...
Dear take homoeopathic medicine 1- passiflora incarnata q 30 drop's with some water at night 2- avena sativa q 15 drop's twice daily report after a week.
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My mother doesn't sleep more than 4 hrs throughout in a day. I noticed that she tried to sleep but she couldn't. She looses temper very quickly, and she got very angry and become very happy within a short time.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
This does not sound too good and she must meet a doctor and a counselor in tandem for a long time for treatment. So without wasting time do take your mom to a doctor and to a counselor for diagnosis and treatment immediately. You must make sure that she cooperates because many times they do not believe that there is something wrong and would love to quit the medication. Complying with all the medical prescriptions and working in tandem with a counselor for a long time and learning coping skills and techniques to handle the daily challenges your mom will face is very important. There are certain adaptations that will suit her during the elation phase and there are certain behaviors that are required during the depressed phases. In the meantime she can do certain things that will give her benefits anyway. Emotional therapy will alleviate a lot of the problems faced in this condition because it is a mood disorder. She needs to particularly look at her levels of anger both for its reasonableness and to express it in appropriate manner. I suspect that much of this anger may have origins in early childhood that she may never be aware of it now. Let her talk to her parents and explore that angle. This information will help the counselor too. Also she will need to check whether there is any genetic factor involved. She must exercise regularly, eat healthily and sleep normally too. If her motivation and cooperation is good much can be achieved. She must have a time-structured schedule filled with interesting and reasonable activities and it must be monitored for compliance and delivery. The reason I say this is that many times she will be inclined to have grandiose notions and confidently believe that she can do without the medication. This will set her back many months in the treatment and delay and sabotage the recovery: forewarned she is forearmed. If this combination of medication with therapy is maintained for at least three years without any episodes or breakdowns, it is possible to taper the medication in consonance with the doctor. This condition is characterized by two extremes i.e. feeling very high and suddenly feeling very low. You can ask the doctor for the symptoms he noticed in her for a personal understanding.
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Sir am addict of smoking, when any tense situation came before me. I suddenly run towards the ciggerate. Sir please suggest me some ways to leave this bad habit. Please sir. If you do not guide me I will be ash of ciggrate.

MD
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
Hi, I understand how frustrating it can be, but there is hope. We have nicotine replacement therapy in the form of nicotine gums or lozenges. Nicotine gums are available over the counter without any prescription. It occurs in two strengths, 2mg and 4mg. You can take each gum in every 1-2 hrs for 6 weeks and every 2-4 hrs for next 3 weeks and subsequently twice daily for another 3 weeks before slowly tapering it. All this should be done only if you stopped smoking completely. However a lot of motivation is required throughout the process. It would be apt if this is carried out in a proper clinical set up under the guidance of a professional where other comorbid issues can be taken care of.
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During meditation should I close my eyes, on what picture should I concentrate my mind. Or Should I concentrate on a point on wall or chart?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
During meditation should I close my eyes, on what picture should I concentrate my mind. Or Should I concentrate on a ...
Dear lybrate-user. Welcome to lybrate. During meditation you should close your eyes. You should concentrate within your body like heart beats, ups and downs of stomach or lungs etc. Learn meditation from a master. Take care.
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My age is 27 and I have developed very bad habit of smoking, some times I smoke more then 2 packs, please let me know how can I reduce the effects of Smoking. please help.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Rather than reducing the effects you need to stop smoking as the number of cigarettes are dangerously high. Consult a psychiatrist to reduce craving and get withdrawal treated. All the best.
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Can it can be possible to detect that, from how many past years one is suffering with depression diseases.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Can it can be possible to detect that, from how many past years one is suffering with depression diseases.
No not possible, unless the patient or family member tells. But psychiatrist can find approximately if it s chronic one or recent one.
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I am 38 years old lady. I am very short tempered. I have high anger specifically in menstrual days. I feel depressed, irritated and angry in periods. I can't control myself. I had too many break ups in relations because of my depression and anger. Now I feel insecurity. Life becomes tough for me. What should I do to control my anger? I don't know what I say during my anger. Then I feel guilty but it would be too late. Please help me to save my relationship.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
During Menses mood changes is common and you can only control it . But for depression you need antidepressants and do meditation and yoga. Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression." Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it!" and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "calm down" or "take it easy." Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
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I have a habit of thinking too much for any thing. And scared from future. I cannot fell freely please suggest me some tips to overcome these negativity and live life happily.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I have a habit of thinking too much for any thing. And scared from future. I cannot fell freely please suggest me som...
Dear user. The duty of your mind is to think. Your mind will start thinking if you are idle or if you don't give any challenging / engaging tasks. That thought process should always lead to negative thoughts. You should keep yourself engaged. Positive attitude too helps. I suggest online counseling. Take care.
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I am 34 year old. My brother passed away in the month of May and my husband left me for silly reasons. I am all alone have not said anything to my parents as they are already in trauma because they lost their son and I don't want to add mine, but until when. I feel like killing myself.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am 34 year old. My brother passed away in the month of May and my husband left me for silly reasons. I am all alone...
You need to face the situation in life boldly and suicide is not a solution. You can seek the help of good friends or a counsellor and do meditation and yoga, read books and listen to music and go to women's club if possible
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Solutions That Can Save a Relationship

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
Solutions That Can Save a Relationship.

Communication

All relationship problems stem from poor communication, You can't communicate while you're checking your BlackBerry, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section"

Sex

Even partners who love each other can be a mismatch, sexually,lack of sexual self-awareness and education worsens these problems. But having sex is one of the last things you should give up. "Sex" "brings us closer together, releases hormones that help our bodies both physically and mentally, and keeps the chemistry of a healthy couple healthy"

Problem-solving strategies:

Plan, plan, plan.

Money

Money problems can start even before the wedding vows are exchanged. They can stem, for example, from the expenses of courtship or from the high cost of a wedding.

Problem-solving strategies:

Be honest about your current financial situation. If things have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.Don't approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead, set aside a time that is convenient and non-threatening for both of you.Acknowledge that one partner may be a saver and one a spender, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each other's tendencies.Don't hide income or debt. Bring financial documents, including a recent credit report, pay stubs, bank statements,policies, debts, and investments to the table.Don't blame.Construct a joint budget that includes savings.Decide which person will be responsible for paying the monthly bills.Allow each person to have independence by setting aside money to be spent at his or her discretion.Decide upon short-term and long-term goals. It's OK to have individual goals, but you should have family goals, too.Talk about caring for your parents as they age and how to appropriately plan for their financial needs if needed.
Struggles Over Home Chores

Most partners work outside the home and often at more than one job. So it's important to fairly divide the labor at home.

Problem-solving strategies:

Be organized and clear about your respective jobs in the home, "Write all the jobs down and agree on who does what" Be fair so no resentment builds.Be open to other solutions, she says If you both hate housework, maybe you can spring for a cleaning service. If one of you likes housework, the other partner can do the laundry and the yard. You can be creative and take preferences into account -- as long as it feels fair to both of you.

Not Making Your Relationship a Priority

If you want to keep your love life going, making your relationship a focal point should not end when you say "I do" "Relationships lose their luster. So make yours a priority.

Problem-solving strategies:

Do the things you used to do when you first met. Show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each other. Schedule time together on the calendar, Say "thank you"appreciate" It lets your partner know that they matter.

Conflict

Occasional conflict is a part of life. . The same lousy situations keep repeating day after day -- it's time to break free of this toxic routine. When you make the effort, you can lessen the anger and take a calm look at underlying issues.

Problem-solving strategies:

You and your partner can learn to argue in a more civil, helpful manner . Make these strategies part of who you are in this relationship.

Realize you are not a victim. It is your choice whether you react and how you react.Be honest with yourself. When you're in the midst of an argument, are your comments geared toward resolving the conflict, or are you looking for payback? If your comments are blaming and hurtful, it's best to take a deep breath and change your strategy.Change it up. If you continue to respond in the way that's brought you pain and unhappiness in the past, you can't expect a different result this time. Just one little shift can make a big difference. If you usually jump right in to defend yourself before your partner is finished speaking, hold off for a moments. You'll be surprised at how such a small shift in tempo can change the whole tone of an argument.Give a little; get a lot. Apologize when you're wrong. Sure it's tough, but just try it and watch something wonderful happen.

"You can't control anyone else's behavior. "The only one in your charge is you"

Trust

Trust is a key part of a relationship. Do you see certain things that cause you not to trust your partner? Or do you have unresolved issues that prevent you from trusting others?

Problem-solving strategies:
Be consistent.Be on time.Do what you say yent.Be sensitive to the other's feelings. You can still disagree, but don't discount how your partner is feeling.Call when you say you will.Call to say you'll be home late.Carry your fair share of the workload.Don't overreact when things go wrong.Never say things you can't take back.Don't dig up old wounds.Respect your partner's boundaries.Don?t be jealous.Be a good listener.

Even though there are always going to be problems in a relationship you both can do things to minimize marriage problems, if not avoid them altogether.

First, be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs -- and will be able to figure them out without your asking -- is a Hollywood fantasy. "Ask for what you need directly"

Next, use humor -- learn to let things go and enjoy one another more.

Finally, be willing to work on your relationship and to truly look at what needs to be done. Don't think that things would be better with someone else. Unless you address problems, the same lack of skills that get in the way now will still be there and still cause problems no matter what relationship you're in.

Good Luck
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Hello everyone. My question is to psychiatrist. Umm may be you am suffering from phobia. My frnd discussed that he had a chapter of phobia in school days nd I observed that the same kind of problem is there with me and it's name is phobia. So can anyone tell mi how to get out from this.

Master Of Science In Counseling & Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hello everyone. My question is to psychiatrist. Umm may be you am suffering from phobia. My frnd discussed that he ha...
Hi lybrate-user, please don't come to self diagnosis of any disorder without a professional counseling from a counselor or psychiatrist. Take the help of professional counselor to identify the issue and necessary steps to overcome that. Take an online counseling session so that I can help you out. Take care.
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Pediatrician,
We must teach our children by example" when we are good to others, we are best to ourselves"
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My wife is now suffering mental illness. But now ok doctors prescribed olanzo 5 mg and nexito 5 mg past 2 years My question is that will this medicine be continued for lifetime or not.she is now perfectly alright will there any health effects ?

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Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
My wife is now suffering mental illness. But now ok doctors prescribed olanzo 5 mg and nexito 5 mg past 2 years My qu...
For mental illness the allopathic medicine is to be taken for a long time of 5 years even if they seem to be allright.
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I am 24 yr. Male. Facing problem of ocd disorder. Have habits which I find unable to change. It has affected health and brain. I find myself poor in decision making. What to do/take? How/where to start?

BHMS, CGO
Homeopath, Pune
Obsessive-compulsive disorder is characterised by unreasonable thoughts and fears (obsessions) that lead to compulsive behaviours. Ocd often centres on themes such as a fear of germs or the need to arrange objects in a specific manner. Symptoms usually begin gradually and vary throughout life. Treatment includes talk therapy, counselling, medications, or both.
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Maine 10/saal tak smoking ki hai. Or agar daily ki average lgai jaye to 2 cigrate daily ki average niklegi. Now I quit smoking. Maire lungs ko pehle jaise normal hone main kitna time lagega. Now my age is 25 years.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user. Nice to hear that you quit smoking. Your body starts its repair process immediately on your quitting. In your case, it should take less than 6 months for the body to completely repair your lungs provided you don't restart smoking. Take care.
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