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Ms. Vimala

Psychologist, Bangalore

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Ms. Vimala is a trusted Psychologist in Malleshwaram, Bangalore. You can meet Ms. Vimala personally at Srinivasa Neurologics in Malleshwaram, Bangalore. You can book an instant appointment online with Ms. Vimala on Lybrate.com.

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My son is 6 years old has problem very less concentration. What to do?

D.P.M, MBBS
Psychiatrist,
May have issues with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, please contact a psychiatrist immediately
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I am seeing porn videos everyday! Is this a good thing, will it cause any effect to the mental behaviour?

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
I am seeing porn videos everyday! Is this a good thing, will it cause any effect to the mental behaviour?
Watching porn once a day is not much, and definitely isn't addiction (unless it goes for hours and hours every time). A good indicator whether it's healthy or not, it's your feelings afterwards: if you feel good, then it's likely ok; if you feel bad or sad then it might be harmful. Porn can peacefully coexist with real life (and that's what happen for most people using it); you could even have a partner and still enjoy porn" on the side" every now and then. But, if you're escaping into porn instead of living real life, that's a problem. When we use something (anything) to escape from life, we're in trouble; if that's your case, seek help: talk with some friends, your parents, a mentor, or some professionals. On the other hand, if you enjoy porn a lot and - at the same time - you have a fulfilling, active and thriving real life, then do not worry and enjoy what makes you happy. And" happy" is the key here. Notice your feelings (both emotional and bodily) after you've watched porn: if you feel good, then it's most likely okay. If you feel bad, sad or unhappy, then it's a sign porn may not be healthy for you. Lastly, keep in mind porn doesn't represent reality. Yes, it's fun and you might learn some trick from it, but a good chunk of what you see in porn will never happen in your life. That's because porn is the visual representation of (average) male sexual fantasies. And fantasy is (more often than not) different from reality.
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I want to leave alcohol. But in evening, I can't control myself. So kindly help me by telling some measure which I can take.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. Quitting alcohol is easy for a person with willpower. Use your will power. Otherwise I suggest online deaddiction therapy. Take care.
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Hi. I just got back on citalopram after switching to Escitalopram on Dec 8 of last year. I was on Citalopram for many years for anxiety and I was pretty much stable with bouts of anxiety here and there but was always able to bounce back. I experienced a very anxious event in early Dec which.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
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Hi. I just got back on citalopram after switching to Escitalopram on Dec 8 of last year. I was on Citalopram for many...
Just taking medication will only correct the chemical imbalances in the brain. While you also need to learn techniques to handle situations with ease and aplomb without losing your mental and emotional equilibrium. Stress has always been a part of life ans will be. It is always better to equip yourself with such tips and techniques. Counselling is such a non judgemental space whwere ou can explore the causes of your anxiety and get to more about your unhealthy outdated beliefs and replace them with healthier and updated beliefs which will leave you feeling more confident about yourself, your relationships and situations which earlier caused you stress. 2. Learning a skill which could help you feel confident is a good way of handling stress. Eg. If you are teaching young kids and you do not know how to teach them. Then it will cause you anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. The b. Ed course will give you all those skills and info that you need for teaching children. 3. Exercise everyday to manage anxiety. A good run, swim, jog will help you to calm down and relax, feeling good about yourself. Breathing exercises will help you to calm down and relax at the time of stress. Anulom vilom and bhramri are 2 pranayams which are very good for anxiety reduction. Do these everyday for 5 mins before sleeping. 3. Avoid junk like fried, processed, refined etc as it is linked to stress and anxiety. Eat more of fresh, raw and whole foods with minimum processing.
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I am feeling very laziness since last 4-5 months. Feel like sleeping all the time and tiredness all the day. Mentally also feeling frustration.

Doctor of Medicine
General Physician, Surat
I am feeling very laziness since last 4-5 months. Feel like sleeping all the time and tiredness all the day. Mentally...
Such symptoms could be due to stress and anxiety, try to come out of this, try some relaxation therapy, control your thought be positive.
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How to cope up from depression and obsessive compulsive disorder, constant thinking n lack of focus and concentration.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
How to cope up from depression and obsessive compulsive disorder, constant thinking n lack of focus and concentration.
Being depressed can make you feel helpless. But Along with therapy and sometimes medication, there's a lot you can do on your own to fight back. Changing your behaviour – your physical work, lifestyle, and even your way of thinking -- are all natural depression treatments .these tips can help you feel better -- starting right now. 1. Get in a routine. If you’re depressed, you need a routine depression can strip away the structure from your life. One day melts into the next. Setting a gentle daily schedule can help you get back on track. 2. When you're depressed, you may feel like you can't accomplish anything. That makes you feel worse about yourself. To push back, set daily goals for yourself. "Start very small,” "Make your goal something that you can succeed at, like doing the dishes every other day." As you start to feel better, you can add more challenging daily goals. 3. Exercise- It temporarily boosts feel-good chemicals called endorphins. It may also have long-term benefits for people. Regular exercise seems to encourage the brain to rewire itself in positive ways. How much exercise do you need? You don’t need to run marathons to get a benefit. Just walking a few times a week can help. 4. Eat healthy. There is no magic / special; diet that corrects depression. It's a good idea to watch what you eat, though. If depression tends to make you overeat, getting in control of your eating will help you feel better. Although nothing is definitive, there’s evidence that foods with omega-3 fatty acids (such as fish) and folic acid (such as spinach) could help ease depression. 5. Get enough sleep. Depression can make it hard to get enough sleep and can make depression worse. What can you do? Start by making some changes to your lifestyle. Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Try not to nap. Take all the distractions out of your bedroom -- no computer and no TV. In time, you may find your sleep improves. 6. Take on responsibilities. When you’re depressed, you may want to pull back from life and give up your responsibilities at home and at work. Staying involved and having daily responsibilities can work as a natural depression treatment. They ground you and give you a sense of accomplishment. If you're not up to full-time school or work, that’s fine. Think about part-time. If that seems like too much, consider volunteer work. 7. Challenge negative thoughts. In your fight against depression, a lot of the work is mental -- changing how you think. When you're depressed, you leap to the worst possible conclusions. You might feel like no one likes you, but is there real evidence for that? You might feel like the most worthless person on the planet, but is that really likely? It takes practice, but in time you can beat back those negative thoughts before they get out of control. 8. Check with your doctor before using supplements. "There's promising evidence for certain supplements for depression," Those include fish oil, folic acid. Always check with your doctor before starting any supplement, especially if you’re already taking medications 9. Do something new. When you’re depressed, you’re in a rut. Push yourself to do something different. Go to a museum. Pick up a used book and read it on a park bench. Volunteer at a soup kitchen. Take a language class. "When we challenge ourselves to do something different, there are chemical changes in the brain, "Trying something new alters the levels of [the brain chemical] dopamine, which is associated with pleasure, enjoyment, and learning." 10. Try to have fun. If you’re depressed, make time for things you enjoy. What if nothing seems fun anymore? "That's just a symptom of depression," You have to keep trying anyway. As strange as it might sound, you have to work at having fun. Plan things you used to enjoy, even if they feel like a chore. Keep going to the movies. Keep going out with friends for dinner. When you're depressed, you can lose the knack for enjoying life, you have to relearn how to do it. In time, fun things really will feel fun again.
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I have brain problem. When I read some, I expert on this subject but some month later I lost my memory.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
FOr memory you follow these steps Research-based strategies to boost your memory and keep it strong 7 Strategies for Remembering 1. Become interested in what you're learning. We're all better remembering what interests us. Few people, for example, have a difficult time remembering the names of people they find attractive. If you're not intrinsically interested in what you're learning or trying to remember, you must find a way to become so. 2. Find a way to leverage your visual memory. You'll be surprised by how much more this will enable you to remember. For example, imagine you're at a party and are introduced to five people in quick succession. How can you quickly memorize their names? Pick out a single defining visual characteristic of each person and connect it to a visual representation of their name, preferably through an action of some kind. Remember: Memory is predominantly visual. 3. Create a mental memory tree. If you're trying to memorize a large number of facts, find a way to relate them in your mind visually with a memory tree. Construct big branches first, then leaves. Branches and leaves should carry labels that are personally meaningful to you in some way, and the organization of the facts ("leaves") should be logical.. 4. Associate what you're trying to learn with what you already know. It seems the more mental connections we have to a piece of information, the more successful we'll be in remembering it. This is why using mnemonics. Write out the items to be memorized over and over and over. 5. When reading for retention, summarize each paragraph in the margin. This requires you to think about what you're reading, recycle it, and teach it to yourself again. Even take the concepts you're learning and reason forward with them; apply them to imagined novel situations, which creates more neural connections to reinforce the memory. 6. Do most of your studying in the afternoon. Though you may identify yourself as a "morning person" or "evening person" at least one Study. suggests your ability to memorize isn't influenced as much by what time of day you perceive yourself to be most alert but by the time of day you actually study—afternoon appearing to be the best. 7. Get adequate sleep to consolidate and retain memories. Not just at night after you've studied but the day, you study as well. Far better to do this than to stay up cramming all night for an exam. 10 Study Tips to Improve Your Learning Study Tip 1: Underlining Underlining is one of the simplest and best known study tips. It’s easy to highlight the most significant parts of what you’re reading. One key sentence per paragraph and a few important phrases here and there. You can only retain a certain amount so it’s best to retain the most important information. Study Tip 2: Make your own note and taking notes is one of the most widespread study skills out there. Essentially the aim of note-taking is to summarise lectures or articles in your own words so you can easily remember the ideas. Study Tip 3: Mind mapping A good Mind map can save you many hours of study and further consolidate your knowledge for your exams. Mind Maps are an extremely versatile tools. They can be used for brainstorming, outlining essays or study topics and for general exam preparation, ExamTime offers the ability to create Mind Maps quickly and easily which makes them the ideal tool when it comes to exams. Study Tip 4: Flash cards:- Using these are a particularly effective method of learning when trying to assimilate different facts, dates, formulas or vocabulary. Subjects such as History, Physics, Maths, Chemistry, Geography or any language are made much easier if you incorporate Flashcards in to your study. Study Tip 5: Case Studies Sometimes it can be difficult to grasp the implications of some theories. This is where studying case studies can be a big help. Case studies can help you visualise a theory and place it in a more familiar and realistic context. This is especially useful in business or law subjects. Study Tip 6: Quizzes are an excellent way to review study notes in the weeks and days before an exam. Quizzes can show where your strengths and weaknesses are, so it allows you to focus your efforts more precisely. Moreover, if you share your Study Quiz with your classmates and test each other as much as possible you can discover even more details and areas you may have overlooked. So before any exam, make sure you create and share a bunch of different Quizzes with your Friends. Study Tip 7: Brainstorming This is another study technique that is ideal for studying with friends and/or classmates. Brainstorming is a great way to expand every possible idea out of any topic. Just get a bunch of friends together and shoot the breeze, there are no wrong answers when brainstorming – just talk and capture the ideas, you can review afterward. Study Tip 8: Mnemonic Rules Mnemonics are especially useful when memorising lists and sets. Mnemonics rules basically work by associating certain concepts with other concepts that are more familiar to us. There are many different ways to make mnemonics and these can be individual to the person. Study Tip 9: ORGANISE your study One of the most effective study skills is also one of the most often overlooked; this is organising your study. Creating a TIME TABLE gives you goals and a time in which to achieve them. Having a study timetable as you study is greatly motivational Study Tip 10: Drawing Many people find it easier to recall images rather than text that is why they are better able to memorise concepts if they associate them with pictures or drawings. If you find answer helpful please click on “helpful” tab for knowing my efforts are useful
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I am mother of two kids one is of 3 years and other one is only 3months(on feeding). Both born by operate. Just because of domestic issues I am in so much depression right now. Sometimes I think I amlosingmy memory. Even do not want to live. There is no respect or lv from life partner. Feeling depressive and mad. Now I can not control myself I am full of anger. Sometimes I do not lik to talk wd anybody. I like to run away from all this. Suggest something thus I ignore others and I can control my anger and also come out from depression. My diet and sleep is o. K. Help help plz.

M.Sc - Psychological Counseling, B.A ( Hons) - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Dear lybrate-user, during pregnancy and for about a year after your delivery you have certain hormones that are in excess in your body which make you feel more emotional. Don't worry, your condition will improve, slowly. First focus over your body's healing and take care of your baby well. Walk for 10-15 minutes, everyday and take light, non-oily and non-spicy food. You will see a differnece in a couple of months. Good luck.
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I sm feeling depressed dance my mother passed in 2014. How I need to overcome this.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
I sm feeling depressed dance my mother passed in 2014. How I need to overcome this.
It is natural to feel low and miss the person you have lost. However if it is interfering with your sleep, studies or general well being, or if you feel suicidal, you need to consult a psychiatrist. It is common to feel low, cry, feel like you are alone, or lose your self confidence. Usually time is the best healer. However if things are too difficult to handle you should talk to a psychiatrist or counselor. Confide in someone close to you, who will support you in this difficult time. Don't cut off from friends or family, even if you feel like you want to be alone.
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Hello, My age is 19 years. I am the student of B. E. I am suffering from mental problem. I think its an ocd. I always repeat the actions and thoughts. For example- if I have thought of buying a new purse. Then after sometime I will have doubt that did I actually thought of buying a new purse or not. So I again and again repeat that what actually have I thought. And the worst situation is that I always have that sensation that if I will not repeat something bad will happen with me or with my family. So I repeat and repeat. After when I clear that yes the thought was of the purse buying then immediately I should remember god. If god not came in my mind I repeat again until god comes in my mind or my family members. I also have negative thoughts. Bad thoughts. Violent thoughts and images. I am even not able to concentrate on my studies. Please help me what should I do to avoid such things?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hello, My age is 19 years. I am the student of B. E. I am suffering from mental problem. I think its an ocd. I always...
Yes, these are the classic symptoms of ocd. You must immediately meet a counselor and a doctor for follow-up treatment. Since you are young the possibilities are immense if you cooperate. Ocd is a fear based reaction and can be quite debilitating if neglected. So you could see where this fear has originated and your parents help and involvement is recommended. They will have an insight as to how and where the fear came about. If you deal with the fear, the ocd which is a symptom of that fear can be dealt with more effectively. In the meantime you can build your constitution and your emotional make up with some regular physical exercises, proper sleep, and a healthy diet. Your emotional fitness can be developed with the counselor.
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I really get frustrated due to my work profile hence I am not able to remove frustration in office and even at my home its becoz of my nature pls help me I want to improve in this area I believe this will also help the timing of my ejaculation.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I really get frustrated due to my work profile hence I am not able to remove frustration in office and even at my hom...
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. FrustrationLife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax, "calm down" or "take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
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I have auditory hallucination a symptom for schizophrenia what medicine should I take.

MD - Psychiatry, Diploma in Tuberculosis and Chest Diseases (DTCD)
Psychiatrist, Ghaziabad
It is not a normal symptom. U might be right or confusing with other conditions. Try not to diagnose oneself. Meet nearby psychiatrist and tell the problem. He will guide you.
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I am 21 years old and have anger problem for so many years I can't control it. Please suggest some remedy?

D.P.M(psychiatry) [Diploma in Psychological medicine] , MBBS
Psychiatrist, Jalna
Hello, you could be suffering from intermittent explosive disorder which is an impulse control disorder in which small upsetting events could trigger an anger outburst during which person does not have much control over his behaviour. This is followed by a sense of relief and guilt for whatever is said or done during the anger outburst. There are anger management techniques as well as effective medicines for this condition.
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My girl friend is not like before when it come to sexual activities it's been close to a year v kissed each other I really wanna knw whats goin on and y is she not showing any interest in me. Every time I ask her anything all she tells me is she is very stressed to think abt all this.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
My girl friend is not like before when it come to sexual activities it's been close to a year v kissed each other I r...
Dear lybrate-user. It is possible that she is dtressed. Please do not force her. You may talk to her and approach a psychologist if needed. Take care.
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What are symptoms of phobia? What are home remedies? What is diet? What is medical treatment?

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Phobia is different than fear. Mostly people are scared of water, dark, heights, insects etc. Such people may try to avoid such triggers. But this is only normal fear and this is not phobia. Phobia is a morbid and unnatural/irrational fear about something, experienced by some people only, which generally does not create such intense emotions in other people. E. G. If someone might be very scared to see a lizard to the extent that it almost paralyzes that person and can make that person dysfunctional for some time, then it is called phobia. Someone might be very very scared, just to see a piece of" cotton" - then this is called phobia. The triggers for phobia can be totally non-threatening. The general symptoms of phobia are: 1. Very intense, morbid fear about something which is non-threatening. 2. The person with phobia is almost paralyzed for some time, with the trigger. 3. Other people may not be affected at all by the trigger. 4. The person with phobia feels completely helpless at that time and behaves irrationally. 5. The person may experience increased heart beat, shivering, loss of voice, sweating etc. There is no specific diet for phobia. The best treatment for phobia is psychotherapy. A psychotherapist uses different techniques depending on the patient's emotional make up and needs and help the person to come out of it, systematically.
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How can focus to study please help me because I'm 12th class student. I scored 80% in exam so please help how can I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid junk food.
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Sir mera mind bahut disturb rahta h and becheni bahut hoti hai thoughts bahut aate hai,sar dard bana rahta h normal work karne me bhi problem aati h mujhe 5 year se problem hai.pls help me

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Sir mera mind bahut disturb rahta h and becheni bahut hoti hai thoughts bahut aate hai,sar dard bana rahta h normal w...
Dear Lalit. Welcome to lybrate. Becheni anxiety disorder hai. Aapko ek psychollgkst se milna padega. Counselling ke liye. Take care.
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Hi, I am 24 years old. Does smoking marijuana causes weight loose and what all others health hazard caused due to smoking marijuana?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi, I am 24 years old. Does smoking marijuana causes weight loose and what all others health hazard caused due to smo...
Just for your information here’s what WebMD has to say: ‘No matter how it gets into your system, it affects almost every organ in your body, and your nervous system and immune system, too. When you smoke pot, your body absorbs THC right away. (If you eat baked goods or another item, it may take much longer for your body to absorb THC, because it has to break down in your stomach before it enters your bloodstream). You may notice changes in your body right after you smoke. The effects usually stop after 3 or 4 hours. Smoking pot can increase your heart rate by as much as two times for up to 3 hours. That’s why some people have a heart attack right after they use marijuana. It can increase bleeding, lower blood pressure, and affect your blood sugar, too. We don’t yet know if marijuana is linked to higher odds of getting lung cancer. But the process does irritate your lungs -- which is why regular pot smokers are more likely to have an ongoing cough and to have lung-related health problems like chest colds and lung infections. Other physical effects of marijuana include: • Dizziness • Shallow breathing • Red eyes and dilated pupils • Dry mouth • Increased appetite • Slowed reaction time (If you drive after using marijuana, your risk of being in a car accident more than doubles.) If you’re a long-time user, you can have physical withdrawal symptoms -- like cravings, irritability, sleeplessness, and less appetite -- when you stop.’ It being a hallucinogen, it can lead to hallucinations and even a phenomenon called ‘cross hallucinations’ i.e. for example, you can see sounds and hear colors!!! If you are finding it very difficult to give it up on your own then admit yourself in a rehabilitation center and go through the 12 steps to recovery. After that attend NA meetings and keep yourself clean forever. You will need to alter your lifestyle, change your friends, your haunts, your habits, etc. You must learn to have fun in clean ways. You must exercise regularly, eat well and sleep well. Emotionally you must be able to handle your feelings by expressing them appropriately. A counselor will teach you about emotions and how to handle them.
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I alwayd remain sad without any reason.That effects my health so worestly.Can u plz give any suggestion regarding this?

B.H.M.S., Senior Homeopath Consultant
Homeopath, Delhi
Please take Dr. Reckeweg's vita c - 15 / two teaspoon thrice a day for one month. Revert back after one month with feedback.
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I am 54 years old and I lost 23 years old son and 57 years old brother. Within a span of 5 months. My mind is blocked I am trying to come out of it pl guide me how to control my mind and body. Please note I am doing meditation and yoga since 25 years regularly. Thank you.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
In a situation depression like this you need to achieve more mind control. Yoga and medication are good. Also read or listen to music if you like it. And divert your mind by talking to good friend or relatives. Is your sleep deprived. You need constant support. Ask privately with all your details. Have you tested thyroid any time?
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