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Ms. Neele Lakshmikanth Relekar

Psychologist, Bangalore

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Ms. Neele Lakshmikanth Relekar Psychologist, Bangalore
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Ms. Neele Lakshmikanth Relekar is a trusted Psychologist in Jayanagar, Bangalore. He is currently associated with Kasturba Clinic in Jayanagar, Bangalore. Save your time and book an appointment online with Ms. Neele Lakshmikanth Relekar on Lybrate.com.

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I get depressed easily and I also get angry easily I am aggressive and I think all this behaviour is due to temperament but can we change our temperament, I know there are four temperament like choleric. Sanguine, melancholic, phlegmatic. Please give me a detail explanation so that I can improve myself. I face a lot of problems due to my temperament. But I am helpless as we can't change our temperament.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
I get depressed easily and I also get angry easily I am aggressive and I think all this behaviour is due to temperame...
Temperament or personalities are just a collection of repeated and learnt behaviours that we practice right from our past. Yes it is logically difficult to change personalities but not practically impossible to control unwanted and harmful behaviours. If your temperament or personality is casing problems that become uncontrollable at your end and you wish to prevent such untoward behaviours you may consider consulting a psychiatrist for evaluation, behaviour therapies and treatment with medications if necessary.
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I had an surgery in my spine during December, 2009 Now my problems are I cannot sit in office constantly for 10 to 5 am nor I can't walk constantly for 10-15 minutes & right leg have some mile pain, less power, as result I am suffering from mental depression. Any pain management is there to reduce the pain or any treatment to overcome the pain. please advice me.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, P.G.Dip.in Guidance &Counselling, B.A., Psychology, Dip.in Pharmacy
Psychologist, Madurai
I had an surgery in my spine during December, 2009  Now my problems are I cannot sit in office constantly for 10 to 5...
You need some lifestyle modifications. Better avoid sitting or standing for a long time. Take a small walk every 30 minutes. Selected yoga postures by a good and experienced yoga therapist can help. Ayurvedic massage will help a lot for such problems. Above all, physical and mental relaxation is most important than any other treatment.
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I am 25 years old and suffering from frustration because recently girl friend left. I can not focus on anything always remembering her. I can not sleep at night for her. Please suggest me.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. FrustrationLife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax, "calm down" or "take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you.
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Hi. I'm 24 year old woman. I'm married from past 3 years. I'm under a severe stress due to both work and family. Because my husband is also my boss. He is a workaholic and I am not. I don't like bringing my work to home. And he says I'm unworthy and lazy. This breaks me. I love him. But he sees me more like an employee not like a wife. He doesn't agree for counselling. He says it's waste of time and money. I think I am going crazy.Please tell sir.

BDS, Certification in hypnotherapy, Certification in N.L.P, Certification in Gene and behavior, Psychology at Work
Psychologist, Gurgaon
Hi. I'm 24 year old woman. I'm married from past 3 years. I'm under a severe stress due to both work and family. Beca...
The best thing for you would be to not work at the same place. If you can try, go for some other working option. Difference in work attitude will interfere in your domestic well being.
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I have problem of forgetting everything no matter how much I carefully observe or understand or see or else try to memorize I just forget them even I m unable to remember 1 day ago talks.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You must be under a lot of pressure that is causing so much of stress that your memory is highly compromised. Here are some things you can do to get back your concentration and memory: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid junk food.
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I am always thinking and disturbing myself, it won't stop thinking. what should I do? Should I meditate!

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am always thinking and disturbing myself, it won't stop thinking. what should I do? Should I meditate!
Yes, this may be true because of your age. I suspect that you are going through a spurt in the production of the male sex hormone, which affects you in three ways quite unknown to you. First, there will be a sexual agenda that it will kick off, secondly, there will be aggressiveness and rebelliousness, and thirdly, you will suffer from acne and pimple problems. This is the effect of the hormone that has a duration of almost two years and you will have no control over it. But if you have a good value system you will tide over this phase without significant damage. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring along some distractions that come with it. Since you are in a transition stage from adolescence to adulthood, a lot of physical, hormonal, emotional, and social changes will take place. The mental changes are perhaps the most challenging: there is bound to be confusion, indecision, mental turmoil, strife, stress and conflict. Do not be too alarmed by these unless they are getting quite out of hand. If so, you must meet with a counselor and share all your thoughts and feelings. That person will help you tide over them and will be able to discern if there are any concerns in your thoughts. You will probably need some therapy on emotions to help you stabilize in that area. This will definitely help you tremendously. You must relate to the therapist as a confidante until you grow out of the influences of the adolescent phase. Sometimes childhood issues that have not been resolved will also come up for the last time seeking a resolution. If that is the case, this is a good time to identify them and sort it out for good. It won?t be easy because the hormones are also acting up and it might frustrate you no end. But stay firm with the therapy until it is resolved.
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I cannot stop thinking, my head always think something, I cannot concentrate my work, my study. I don't know what exactly I thought, they are automatically played one bye one, or together. I feel disturbed all time. I tried meditation, but I failed every time after 2 mins. When I trying to sleep I can feel that I am dreaming, may whole body sleeped but not my head, he's still think something, I don't know what, but about people, the universe, time, science, birth and death, everything, I just want to stop my brain. I want to sleep. Please help me.

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
I cannot stop thinking, my head always think something, I cannot concentrate my work, my study. I don't know what exa...
Hi I will prescribe you some harmless flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Buy from a shop who sells original medicines. Mix 7 drops of white chestnut + 5 drops of cherry plum + 7 drops of aspen + 5 drops of mimulus. Add this to 100 ml water and take by mouth every 12 hours. Take this for 2 months. If any problems consult me online. Ok do not worry.
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I feel someone is always rounding me and am getting very scared, I always feel sick and not interested in any matter before I like more.

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
I feel someone is always rounding me and am getting very scared, I always feel sick and not interested in any matter ...
Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy available in homoeopathy shops. Try to buy original medicines. Mix 3 drops of mimulus + 3 drops of cherryplum + 3 drops of white chestnut + 3 drops of aspen. Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every morning and night.(same dose).
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I am feeling depressed for my study pressure n even I need to get a job. I am suffering in insomnia. Please help me.

COMT, MPTh/MPT
Physiotherapist, Surat
I am feeling depressed for my study pressure n even I need to get a job. I am suffering in insomnia. Please help me.
I can understand how disturbing an interuppted, inappropriate or disturbed sleep can affect your day to day life. In india it has been found 55% of patients are suffering from insomnia just because of stress, distractions and anxiety. So the best way to get rid from insomnia is to reduce the stress level. A physiotherapist can help you to give you the ways to relax your mind and give you comfort and stress full sleep. Consult some neurologist/neuropyschiatric and start taking medicine if it is due to some neurological discorder. And consult nearby physio who can make a perfect routine and daily life styl chart to make you relax so that you get an appropriate sleep. Please follow some points that will help you in such condition along with medical treatment: 1) use of ice packs over your eyes or frontal area for some time to give relaxation. 2) massage your head especially forehead area using levander oil or clove oil as it removes toxins from body 3) regular intake of healthy dietry food rich in proteins and vitamins. 4) avoid fasting - eat breakfast, lunch and dinner at fixed timings 5) make yourself busy by fulfilling your hobby as it will give you freshness and your mind will be diverted from normal life which help in pain reduction. 6) before sleeping time do some relaxation exercises. - sit on chair with both the hands placed on the pillow placed over thighs. - deep inhale from your nose, mouth should be closed. - hold your breath for the count of 5. - exhale completely from mouth making a loud sound. Continue to do this exercise for 10 times. Before going to bed make a habit of doing this daily. Modified technique of same exercise is while inhaling extend your arms, hold for 5 count and then exhale making your arms back in the rest position. 7) room modification while sleep - make sure room should be dark with no noise. Avoid sleeping immediately after dinner or food. Take a walk for 15 min and then come back, bed should be not too soft not too hard. 8) it is recommended to drink at least 8 to 10 glasses of water per day. It is also a very good habit to start and finish your day by drinking a good glass of purifying water. 9) exerices like aerobics (running) can be done to make your muscles active. Many other ways are there in order to maintain your life stress free and active so that you can continue to sleep on time and it does affect your life. Good luck and get well soon.
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Pre-marital Counselling - Why is it Necessary?

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Pre-marital Counselling - Why is it Necessary?

Marriage is a life-long commitment. Premarital Counseling is a therapy that serves to help couples prepare for their wedlock. It aids in ensuring that you and your partner forge a healthy and a strong relationship in the long run making way for a successful, happy and a satisfying marriage. It also helps you in spotting out the weaknesses early that can later magnify into troubles muddling up your conjugal life. The sessions are usually conducted by licensed and qualified therapists when a couple is considering marriage or are about to get into marriage.

Why is pre-marital counseling at all necessary?

  1. Matching all Aspects: Through this sort of counseling, couples are motivated to initiate conversation pertaining to marriage such as anger management, devoting time for each other, decision-making, family relationships, parenting and children, sex and affection, marital roles, ethics and beliefs, communication and finances.

  2. Communication and Conflict Resolution: Pre-marital Counseling helps partners in improving their ability to communicate with each other, setting sensible marriage goals, as well as skillfully resolving conflicts. In addition to these, premarital counseling also seeks to create a positive attitude for your conjugal life.

  3. Acclimatizing: Remember that you carry your own history, opinions, and values in a relationship and they might vary with your partner who has had an entirely different life with their own and unique experiences. Adjusting to each other as different human beings can be quite a task in itself. Marriage counseling helps in acclimatizing, accepting to the bad and good parts of both the partners.

  4. Becoming a support for each other: Most people rush into marriage to gratify their financial, social, emotional, and sexual needs, but such a mind set is always a gamble. You may hit it off greatly with you partner and then have troubles later on. Clearing out your expectations and bridging the differences prior to marriage would enhance your understanding of each other. This way you can become a source of great support for each other.

  5. Break the pattern: Both or one of you might belong to a divorced or a dysfunctional family where manipulation and fighting was the norm. Premarital Counseling can actually help you to come out of your fear and make peace with your past so that the mistakes of your parents aren’t repeated in your life.

  6. Averting divorce: Owing to the modern lifestyle, the chances of divorce are rising with each passing day. Therefore, early intervention is indeed the need of the hour. Premarital counseling can help you pinpoint areas of major concern and work to resolve them or work around them to avoid issues which may balloon and end up in a worst case scenario for a marriage, which is divorce.

If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a specilized psychologist and ask a free question.

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My father is a TB patient and is taking medicine for second treatment, from 2months, Today he forget to take the Before breakfast medicine named RCINEX capsules, so when he realized that he hadn't taken Medicine he take that medicine immediately, and his stomach was not enough full. So is there any risk of taking RCINEX just after breakfast? It just happens once today.

Md ayurveda
Ayurveda, Bangalore
My father is a TB patient and is taking medicine for second treatment, from 2months, Today he forget to take the Befo...
Hello, nothing to worry much - he may feel bloated abdomen or fullness in abdomen. - ask him to take a walk if he s able to do - or ask him to do some movements in sitting posture only. - give him a glass of warm water - next follow timings correctly. Thank-you.
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My wife is suffering from Bipolar disorder. She had had an episode of Mania in August after which this condition was diagnosed. Doctor had prescribed Divalpro 750 mg as maintenance drug which was later reduced to 500 mg as she was experiencing dizziness. She is facing weight gain and hair fall which is probably the side effects of this. Can we have some other alternatives to this to avoid these side effects?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
My wife is suffering from Bipolar disorder. She had had an episode of Mania in August after which this condition was ...
The most common side effects with Depakote include nausea, vomiting, extreme drowsiness, dizziness, weakness, abdominal pain, stomach upset, rash, diarrhea, increased appetite, pain, tremor, weight gain, back pain, hair loss, headache, fever, loss of appetite, constipation, double/blurred vision, side-to-side eye .. Hair fall is not due ths and can be due to dandruff, anemia , hypothyroidism etc..
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I am a smoker. I want quit smoking and also has rid of side effects. What should I do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Wanting to get rid of this habit is a very good beginning. There will be no side effects and most of the damage incurred so far can be reversed. It is indeed very harmful even in small quantities. So you must quit it immediately and abruptly. The best way to quit is to know more about the ill-effects of tobacco. That is why there is so much discussion about the displays on the packs: it does have an effect. The knowledge is astounding and scary. That information itself should help you to stay out of it. The tobacco tar in cigarette smoke lines your lung with huge patches that make that portion dysfunctional. Your oxygen carrying capacity is jeopardized, and breathing is impinged. The nicotine in tobacco smoke stimulates the heart beat to raise the blood pressure in no time at all. There are more than 4000 harmful chemicals in cigarette smoke! Then you need to identify why you smoke: there is an oral need, the nicotine effect, the psychological effect of covering up some other issue, for style, to impress, etc. You may discover that the reasons may be unimportant at this stage because you have become too addicted and the habit has become compulsive. You should start exercises, gradually increasing it over a period of time. Do deep breathing exercises every time you feel like smoking (try Yoga), and replace the oral urge with some healthy food substitute to satiate the need, for a little while. You may take hard candy or chewing gum. If the urge is too strong, then use nicotine chewing gum or nicotine patches, for a little while until the smoking drive reduces, substantially. You may join Smokers Anonymous in your city where the support is really extraordinary for like-minded people who are also in the same situation. Keep yourself occupied or engaged with interesting activities during the times when it is most tempting. Keep the company of non-smokers for some time i. E. At least for the first 21 days. Above all announce it to everyone that you have quit smoking. Here? S a piece of very good advice: even if you accidentally/willfully take a cigarette, it is not the end of the world? You can start the cessation all over again. You must persevere with the best support until you defeat this addiction. Counseling is very useful in the initial stages and when temptations are at their highest.
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Hi, I was not able to think positively , its irritation to think something bad happening around me, thinking of something not needed to me, I do not know how to get out of it Please tell.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Hi, I was not able to think positively , its irritation to think something bad happening around me, thinking of somet...
Dear lybrate user. I can understand. The duty of your mind is to think. The mind will continue thinking unless you provide it some creative task. If you don't give, it will wander into negative areas. As you are unable to pinpoint the reason behind your obsessive thinking, it has to be in your unconscious mind. I suggest online psychoanalysis and counselling. Take care.
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My child is 4 year old. And his behavior is not normal. He can not constraints in any task. Always angry. Always arguing with us. Speak too much but that related to nothing. What should I do?

BHMS, VLIR Belgium, Canadian Academy Of Homeopathy
Homeopath, Navi Mumbai
This is a a very common child problem. You should not think that he is doing it purposely. This anger and agitation is a problem which needs medical attention. It can be definitely treated with homeopathy. Make sure that the parents do not have conflicts and and anger scenes in front of the kid. Many times they copy the same. Homeopathic medicines can calm down such kids very naturally without any side effects. You can contact for further help. One home remedy you can try is massaging him with sesame oil in the evening and putting it on the head before bed, it can calm down his nerves and he may feel a bit calmer.
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Dear concern, I am a 25 year old guy having some some problem related to my mental health, Actually I am unable to control my mood and emotions. I do not when and why I become violent or sometime fell like alone in the world. Please help.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Dear concern,
I am a 25 year old guy having some some problem related to my mental health,
Actually I am unable to co...
Hi lybrate-user, You may be having difficulty in regulating your emotions. Although I can provide you few solutions to manage it well, but its necessary to know the underlying cause of it to eliminate it completely. Consult psychologist for same. When your body experiences intense emotions, you may enter the body’s “fight or flight” mode. This response activates your sympathetic nervous system by sending adrenaline and other chemicals racing through your body, raising your heart rate, making your breathing shallower, and causing your muscles to feel tight and tense. Breathing deeply and evenly will help you feel calmer and will provide much-needed oxygen to your body, helping you relax. Place one hand on your chest and the other on your abdomen below your rib cage. Inhale slowly and deeply through your nose for a count of 4. Feel your lungs and abdomen expand as you fill them with air. Hold the breath for 1 or 2 seconds, then slowly release the breath through your mouth. Aim for 6-10 deep breaths per minute. If a full 4-count is difficult for you, you can start with a 2-count and work your way up with practice. Just try to make your breaths as deep and even as you can Try progressive muscle relaxation. Progressive muscle relaxation, or PMR, can help you calm down by systematically tensing and releasing your muscles in groups. It’s a good way to relieve stress and tension. PMR can also help you learn to recognize the signs of physical tension in your body If you can, give yourself 15 minutes in a quiet, relaxing environment. If you can’t find this, though, you can do a few PMR techniques even while you sit at your desk. Sit and make yourself comfortable. Loosen any tight clothing. Take deep, cleansing breaths. You can start at your forehead and work your way down, or start at your toes and work your way up. In this example, we’ll start at the toes. Begin by curling your toes as tightly as you can. Hold this tension for 5 seconds, then relax. Enjoy the relaxing sensations for 15 seconds, then move to the next group of muscles. Tighten your calves by pulling your toes toward your face as hard as you can. Hold the tension for 5 seconds, then relax. Again, allow yourself to relax for 15 seconds, then move on. Continue tensing each group of muscles for 5 seconds, then releasing them. Take a 15-second break in between each group, noticing what it feels like when that tension is released. Progress through each of the following groups: toes, feet, thighs, hips and buttocks, stomach, back, shoulders, upper arms, forearms, hands, lips, eyes, forehead. If you don’t have time to tense and relax all the groups, focus on the ones in your face. Relaxing your facial muscles can ease feelings of stress. Studies have even shown that relaxing your muscles and smiling can make you feel happier and calmer. Write down the evidence which supports or contradicts the thought that produced the emotion. Start connecting the dots about why you reacted the way you did. When you begin to think about it, you might realize that since nobody gets along well with this particular boss, he can't afford to actually fire anyone, because the department is too short-staffed. For example, you may have let slip something that you should not have said which angered him, but which it is too late to retract. His reaction at lunch may not be what you originally thought it was. Ask yourself if this thing would matter to you 1 year down the line? Is it worth spending your energy on?
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Hello sir how to develop my thinking skills upgrade my brain is pain so what I do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hello sir how to develop my thinking skills upgrade my brain is pain so what I do?
Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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I have a boyfriend and we both love each other very much, we cant stay without each other, we were very happy before but this days we argue for every small things. Everything starts from me, he never do or say things that hurts me but sometimes when I get angry I use 2 take out all ma frustrations n anger @ him. I feel very guilty for all that I wana stop all this bt I just cant control my anger, it hs happened many times bt each time he excuses me n overlook ma mistakes. He is very very sweet. But few days ago in anger I said him things that I dint mean at all n he is so hurt that he dont talk 2 me nicely now. I cant see my relation gettin broken like this. I feel very bad. I appologised alot for that n tried 2 console him but he is very hurt. I love him very very mch I cant see him this way. I want our relation to be like before. Please help me soon. I dont wana looe him.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
If you are angry, then you need to manage your anger and channelise it properly. You lose your temper on him because you know that he is sweet and will not retaliate back. This is called displacement of emotions. You need to take out your anger on the person with whom you are actually angry. Sort out your issues with that person. If you continue to behave like this, you might just lose him completely. When you are apologising, try to be genuine without giving justification of your actions. Listen to what he has to say. Give him time to accept your apology. Don' t expect everything to happen the way you want it to be. Counselling helps in assertive communications and mending broken relationships. Click on private chat to connect with me.
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I have a mental problem I was a topper in my school days but during my 2nd year in college a traumatic incident happened since then I have been having so many negative thoughts in my mind. I was not able to focus in my college days. Presently I am working in an it company even here I am not able to focus on what I do. My performance have been degraded poorly. I believe my issue is solvable kindly help me and I hope I cud explain my situation thanks.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, definitely your problem can be solved. No negative thinking and obsession please. Obsessive thinking and negative attitudes are mental disorders. Mental disorder can be successfully treated with the help of awareness, meditation, psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. I think two or three counseling sessions and psycho therapy techniques should solve your problem. Let me know if you are willing to undergo counseling sessions and tailor made psycho therapy through mobile. Take care.
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I am patient of depression since last 5 yrs. I take fludac 20 for 5 years and still continue but now I want to terminate this but when I try to terminate I got depression again. So please give me some suggestion to be free from depression and fludac . I consult too many doctors but non of them able to improve my situation. So please help me. Thanks.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am patient of depression since last 5 yrs.
I take fludac 20 for 5 years and still continue but now I want to termin...
I suspect that you are one of many who have been taking medicines but not working with a counselor in tandem. You need both counseling and medical intervention. The combination is ideal for the cure to be complete. In fact counseling will need to go on for a long time to develop skills and techniques to cope with everyday challenges of your life. If you remain episode-free for three years at least, you can be weaned off of the medication. So I assume that for all of these many years you have been letting the medicine do all the work on your depression and very little effort from your side. This will not do at all. So please start counseling immediately. In the meantime please do the following that can be done all by yourself as you desire: You must be active and work towards your reformation. Many lifestyle changes need to be made to progress away for the condition. When you are depressed, you will feel lazy though I would like to call it lethargy. There is an inertia and lack of energy to even think, let alone act. You are required to literally do the opposite of what you feel like doing. Depression makes you want to withdraw, lie down, sleep, become lethargic, slow down, make you too lazy to even think etc. So when I suggested doing the opposite, you will need to fight this disease. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, eat more of proteins and vegetables, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three things, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. If you are young and you can do it with some commitment. The doctor and counselor are there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with them is very critical for your success.
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