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Ms. Mrs. Renuka B.h

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Feeling gloomy all day. I am having low appetite for 5 days. What should I do now? Please suggest.

Phd, Mphil, MSc, Bed, BA (Clinical Psychologist and Parent Child Relationship Expert)
Psychologist, Noida
Feeling gloomy all day. I am having low appetite for 5 days. What should I do now? Please suggest.
Please try to find out what's killing you inside and effecting you so badly. Yes I understand some situations are not repairable but than they make us strong and wiser. Try eating in small quantity and pamper self with your favourite stuff. You are fine. New day new hope new thinking new changes n new you. Smile.
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Hloo now days frequently I am emerging with nervous thoughts (lik am always thinking about un possible situations) I am trying a lot to forget this but I can not, so please give a good suggestion to forget those thinks and make my mind set cool and relif and I should get good thoughts to opose those unposible situations.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, welcome to lybrate. The duty of your mind is to think. You cannot control your mind's thinking. Once you just leave your mind without diversion, it always end up in negative territory. But certainly you can divert your thinking. You can make your mind to be always positive by engaging in creative activities, hobbies, games and passionate towards whatever you do. Thereby you can reduce your stress and tension also. Once you can do this, loss of proper sleep and stress also can be made normal. Take care.
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Thank you for your earlier responses .now I want to say my problem, I studied well up to sixth in my village . But when I changed my school for further education in town I also studied well, my friend who is jealous of me getting rank started saying that I will ' mug up'and all the friends started teasing me that I will mug up and all friends lose interest of doing friendship. It took heavy effect on me and took me in depressed state. When I completed my tenth I became lonely I am unable to move closely with my college friends also. So what should I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Thank you for your earlier responses .now I want to say my problem, I studied well up to sixth in my village . But wh...
You have taken your friends' criticism of your mugging too seriously. I suppose at that age it is likely to affect your more. Now you are grown up some and you can dismiss that affect easily if you met with a counselor. As you grow and as you do well academically, you must grow in confidence. Otherwise, it is more like a qualification and not an education. Education brings about as change in who you are. Use your learning and determine that other's opinion of you is to be taken seriously only if it is true. Otherwise it goes into the wastebasket.
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I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time please help me.

Certification in ADHD in children and adolescents, Clinical Assessment and treatment of depression in primary care, BHMS
Homeopath, Amravati
I lost somebody close last year and since then feel very depressed and prefer keeping to myself all the time please h...
Hi lybrate-user, sorry for the loss of your near ones. Its obvious to feel down. Please try these simple tips to get out of it. 1. Acceptance of fact. Everybody has to exit, its a fact and has to be accepted. 2. Try doing the activity you love to do. Like drawing painting, games, or any thing which you love to do for hours without getting bored. 3. Meet different people. This will bring new contacts and help you to get busy. Do not remain alone. 4. Try to meditate. This will help you focus on the present situation of life. Please follow it and share the response. Take care.
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Hello sir 3 year ago I go in chronic depression for 2 months but after that my memory so weak and brain feel heaviness and difficulty in deep breathing and always feel tiredness and laziness but at present I not take any type of tension so why im feel tiredness and laziness please help its so serious.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hello sir 3 year ago I go in chronic depression for 2 months but after that my memory so weak and brain feel heavines...
These are more to do with depression. You cannot get out of chronic depression in two months and so there is the possibility that you are managing with it without fully knowing it or being aware. The endogenous type of depression will arise from within and so you may mistakenly think that it is over. Also, three years ago you would have been in your late adolescence and depression may have come as a reaction to some unresolved childhood issues and I suspect that that may not have been still adequately resolved. Please meet with a counselor and get some attention to the depression. In the meantime do some of these recommendations very faithfully to improve your memory: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food. You may also include these noted foods that are good for your brain health: Brain-Friendly Foods MIND stands for Mediterranean-DASH Intervention for Neurodegenerative Delay. But the MIND approach “specifically includes foods and nutrients that medical literature and data show to be good for the brain, such as berries,” says Martha Clare Morris, ScD, director of nutrition and nutritional epidemiology at Rush University Medical Center. You eat things from these 10 food groups: •Green leafy vegetables (like spinach and salad greens): At least six servings a week •Other vegetables: At least one a day •Nuts: Five servings a week •Berries: Two or more servings a week •Beans: At least three servings a week •Whole grains: Three or more servings a day •Fish: Once a week •Poultry (like chicken or turkey): Two times a week •Olive oil: Use it as your main cooking oil. •Wine: One glass a day You avoid: •Red meat: Less than four servings a week •Butter and margarine: Less than a tablespoon daily •Cheese: Less than one serving a week •Pastries and sweets: Less than five servings a week •Fried or fast food: Less than one serving a week.
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I am male 46 years, my wife is 39 we belong to very decent family. Recently my wife met a gentleman in a party when I was not in the town. Post that they became very close friends. When I found out this relation I asked my wife why she is connected to this man her answer was just for chat. I told her to stop but it stopped for a short time but she again started when in the office, she often deletes the chat history and call details. I tried to convince her to share if she has any trouble, but she does not have any it seems. We weremarried since past 19 years over these period I have never except in few cases felt this kind of behaviour, most alarming thing is she is now a days more cautious about her phone and she checks if I am checking her phone. I have her wats up live messages which she later deleted call history whch she deleted, I want to deal with this situation if any one can help please advise.

Diploma in Family Medicine, M.Sc - Psychotherapy
Sexologist, Pune
Mr. Lybrate-user, look at this problem objectively. Every body around us chats on whatsapp, and when people connect with each other on chat medias it is interesting experience, because chats provide with privacy as well as availability most of the time. The same environment is not shared by many married couples because at home people are busy with their own self and do not share quality time with each other. Also the thrill involved using electronic gadgets like computers mobiles is almost like a child, so people prefer doing that than dealing with real adults. The more you get suspicious and domineering the more the other person will try to hide and sneak. You should really cool your heels and give her a loose hand. Go out and just share quality time but do not touch" that" topic. Let your partner feel the freedom which she might want to cherish. May be then she will open up.
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My father drink daily and cause many problem tell some type medicine name to stop drinking alcohol.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Alcohol dependence is associated with significant physical, mental and social problems. Physically, there can be liver failure, jaundice, vomiting of blood, passing blood in stools, stomach ulcers, damage to nerves of the body, swelling of legs, fluid collection in abdomen, and many more. Mentally, there is irreversible brain damage, worsening of anxiety or depression, triggering of psychosis and mood disorders, dementia, etc. From a social point of view, there may be isolation from neighbors or family, increased abusive behavior to children or spouses, legal problems, accidents, etc. Anti craving medications are available which will help to reduce the craving. Consult a psychiatrist with experience in deaddiction.
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I have a problem about my mentality. I am getting depressed from few months because of loneliness. please give me some advice.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Faridabad
I have a problem about my mentality.
I am getting depressed from few months because of loneliness. please give me som...
Dear lybrate-user, I understand your condition. Good and effective treatment in form of medicine and counselling are available for your condition. To prescribe any treatment, I need to talk to you to understand you better and formulate a treatment plan. You should start exercise and drink about 3-4L of water per day. Get your thyroid profile done as low thyroid also lead to depression. All d best.
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I have a smoking habit only one for a day when the time of sleeping at 9t it gives any health problem or if I suddenly stops gives any problem or stress to my health.

BHMS
Homeopath, Delhi
I have a smoking habit only one for a day when the time of sleeping at 9t it gives any health problem or if I suddenl...
You can reduce the frequency by smoking on alternate days for a week. Then thrice a week, twice and after a month you will end at once a week and eventually you will give up smoking.
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Mother using nitrosun 10 because of some stress she did not sleep properly she take only one pill in nyt and that pill don't work so how many pills he has to take.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Mother using nitrosun 10 because of some stress she did not sleep properly she take only one pill in nyt and that pil...
Nitrosun is meant for occasional use, suppose if she needs regular medications for stress, she will be requiring sedative antidepressants, which reduce stress, give good sleep and also not addicitve. Consult a psychiatrist and get remedy. All the best.
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Sir I am An nineteen years old Guy, how can I increase my memory power. I can not study more time I become lazy. I forget things after some time. Please suggest me with memory tips sir.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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I am a bank employee 25 years of age. For almost a year I have been dealing with Short temper. I become angry at anything easily. I can not bear even a bad word about me. I feel like killing the other person. I started throwing and breaking things away while im angry. Punching and kicking anything that comes before me. I can not even stand people misbehaving with other people that I know. Its becoming lethal day by day. I was not like that. Since the time I came into this job I have turned out to be like this. My blood pressure started to remain high, brain gets drained. Excessive work load, lack of holidays, lack of job satisfaction plays an important role in it. Shall I seek professional help.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Yu have depression and may need antidepressants and try these tips. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. Anger is good. It protects you. But intense, uncontrolled anger may destroy valuable relationships. Anger is a result of anxiety and fear. When we assume that our expectations will not be met, we become anxious. When we feel unsure about our own capabilities we become anxious. This anxiety creates fear. Anxiety comes from our beliefs. All beliefs can be modified. Anger has lots of energy. Avoid arguments/confrontations when you are very angry. When you are very angry you are likely to use rough language which may damage your relations and you are likely to behave impulsively. All this you might regret later on. Following are a few techniques which will help you to manage your anger in difficult situations: 1.Sit down and have a glass of water, slowly. This will help you to calm down a little. 2.Avoid or go away from that room or situation. Tell the people concerned, that you are angry and would like to discuss it some other time. 3.Deep breathing exercises help a lot. Close your eyes, take 10 deep breaths, turn your attention towards your body. See what is happening to your body. Tell your body muscles to relax. If your heart is beating fast, if you are breathing fast, continue deep breathing, till it normalises. 4.Now understand what is making you angry. Understand your own anxiety and fear related to the issue. 5.Let the other person know how you are “feeling”. Start your statements, “I feel hurt/insulted/let down/neglected etc. When you do this”, instead of saying “You hurt/neglect me”. When you express your feeling in this manner, the other person does not feel blamed, which makes the other person more receptive. 6.Focus on the current issue, don’t bring in past situations. 7.Tell the other person, what you want or expect, instead of telling what you do not want. E.G. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to go out now”, say “I would like you to stay at home today”. 8.Listen carefully what the other person wants to tell you. Give others a chance to voice their opinions. 9.Make an eye contact and be firm but polite while communicating your point of view. 10.Understand everyone’s responsibility in the situation. Try to see, what is your share in the problematic situation? Work on that. 11.Understand what change you want. 12.Have realistic expectations from others and also from yourself. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult me by clicking consult option FrustrationLife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax, "calm down" or "take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
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I have feeling very much sad due to loosing my friend. How can i over come this situation

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, P.G.Dip.in Guidance &Counselling, B.A., Psychology, Dip.in Pharmacy
Psychologist, Theni
Of course it is a painful experience to loose a friend. But, we have to accept a universal fact that everything dear to us is subject to change, decay and separation. Let me give a few suggestipns to manage this situation. 1. If you lost your friend d ue to some conflicts, you take the first step to make a compromise subduing your ego, if any, even if you think it is your friend's mistake. 2. You can make the same level friendship with others too. Except change everything changes.
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Hi i am having lack of confidence & negative for most of the persons. Please help

Diploma in Psychological Medicine, de addiction
Psychiatrist, Ahmedabad
Hi i am having lack of confidence & negative for most of the persons.  Please help
Hi I can understand your worry. This can be a symptom of depression or anxiety or a substance addiction. You need to undergo detailed evaluation and later treatment in the form of counselling of psychotherapy. Thank you.
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Being sad shows as if he is not sad but deep inside he feels alone. He asks to sit alone. He gets frequent mood swings. He gets irritated easily. Is he suffering from smiling depression? Should we allow him to sit alone & sad & cry?

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Being sad shows as if he is not sad but deep inside he feels alone. He asks to sit alone. He gets frequent mood swing...
He seem to be suffering from Borderline Personality or Emotionally unstable personality. The cause is unknown but research suggests there is an interaction between adverse life events and genetic factors. Neurobiological research suggests that abnormalities in the frontolimbic networks are associated with many of the symptoms

There is a pattern of sometimes rapid fluctuation from periods of confidence to despair, with fear of abandonment and rejection. There is a particularly strong tendency towards suicidal thinking and self-harm. They have love-hate relationship with close ones.

Transient psychotic symptoms, including brief delusions and hallucinations, may also be present. It is also associated with substantial impairment of social, psychological and occupational functioning and quality of life.

People with emotionally unstable personality disorder are particularly at risk of suicide.

Its course is variable and, although many people recover over time. Kindly consult a psychiatrist for remedy.
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Hello sir/ madam I'm shafi 22 year old I want to quit smoking please give me a solution thanks.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
Habitual smoking or chain smoking increases the Tar content in our lungs thus decreasing our lungs Air spaces called Alveolar sacs.Due to this decrease in air spaces,we cant exert much as our lungs cant carry more volumes of air due to decreased lung spaces.This leads to shortness of breath when we exert thus loosing our stamina.So to increase stamina,the first and foremost thing a chain smoker should do is ti quit smoking cigrattes and start doing morning cardio exercises or breathing exercises to increase lung spaces.It sounds very easy but my friend it is not that easy as it requires a lot of Determination and will power because you will have to face a lot of challenges while quitting this habit and you must have to be head strong.Once you quit your smoking habit,the things will automatically becomes easy for you. Homoeopathic medicine DAPHNE INDICA 1X( Wilmar Schwabe India) Chew 2 tab 3 times daily AVENA SATIVA Q ( Dr RECKEWEG) Drink 20 drops in 20 ml fresh water twice daily To start with start early morning Brisk walking for 30 minutes and breathing deep while walking. ALOM VILOM PRANAYAM daily for 15 minute any time during the day. Report after 30 days
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Who is god? how will I feel god? I have a lot of curiosity regarding this. What will I do?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am so glad that you have asked this question openly, and are seeking for an answer. I know of a lot of teenagers who are troubled by this quest and are not satisfied with the answers they get from their parents. I hope I can do some justice to your query and even if it is not adequate, continue the discussion either with me or with a spiritual person. I, myself, am a preacher and teacher of christian scriptures. We believe in god as a supernatural creature who has no beginning or ending. He is the creator of this universe and all things that exist. However, he is a spirit being. We humans, who have been specially created by him, have a physical form and a spiritual form: the physical form is temporary and the spiritual form is permanent seeking to reunite with him, eventually. Since god is a spirit being, he is not visible by sight. He is however, visible in his creation: the magnitude and wonder of the universe is spell bounding in its magnificence. Something only a creator could have formed and kept in an amazingly disciplined state. Every creation reflects his design and uniqueness in fantastic detail. In fact it is possible to? feel? him, if you meditate and seek him. If you open yourself just by the desire to want him, he will show himself to you in very many ways, as personal experiences. If you don? t believe anything I say, at least do this much: seek him and he will find you and reveal himself to you. Then do share with me, after you have had that experience. In the meantime, it won? t hurt to speak to spiritual teachers in your vicinity and get to read the loads of scripture materials that will further enlighten you. Your quest itself is a god-given stimulus and I can guarantee, without circumspection, that you are surely going to find him. Do not let yourself get misguided by the wrong people in this holy pursuit, though. You can pray too, as your plea to seek him.
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Scaring to writing in front of new people. And not feel comfortable to write exact spell even though I know well. Please suggest me what is the cause.

MBB, DPM
Psychiatrist, Noida
Scaring to writing in front of new people. And not feel comfortable to write exact spell even though I know well. Ple...
It seems you are thinking what will people think if you write something wrong, they will judge u. If yes you are having anxiety disorder, meet a psychiatrist you will get solution.
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