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Mr. Sam P

MASTERS IN COUNSELLING AND FAMILY THERAPY

Psychologist, Bangalore

6 Years Experience  ·  500 at clinic  ·  ₹50 online
Mr. Sam P MASTERS IN COUNSELLING AND FAMILY THERAPY Psychologist, Bangalore
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Mr. Sam P is a popular Psychologist in JP Nagar, Bangalore. He has been a practicing Psychologist for 6 years. He is a qualified MASTERS IN COUNSELLING AND FAMILY THERAPY . You can meet Mr. Sam P personally at Sam in JP Nagar, Bangalore. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Mr. Sam P on Lybrate.com.

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Dear doctor we have a patient of schizophrenia taking clozapine. That is a good medicine but bioavaiability is so low that it has side effects. You are requested to inform us when the nano drug delivery for clozapine can be expected. We will be highly obliged and thankful to you.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
Oral bioavailability of clozapine is around 25-28% which is less as compared to other drugs. However it is a very good medication fir schizophrenia, no doubts on that. Side effects do not necessarily occur in every patient and it may not be related to its bioavailability. Studies on nano drug delivery options for clozapine are ongoing and have shown promising results. There is however no consensus on how long will it take to enter markets and be available for use.
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My son who s 2.5 years old likes children and wants to play with them. But in my home there is no small kids equivalent to his age so he used to play with elder boys but I dnt like it. I feel they are teasing my son and making fun of him. But my son wants their company oly. Pls suggest me to save my son from them.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
Playing with older children is just as important as playing with same age peers. He will still need to learn to mix with all age groups and find his place with them. If these children are making fun of your son, then taking him away from them is a temporary solution. What will you do when he goes to school/ college/office and his friends or colleagues make fun of him? he needs to learn how to protect himself and yet be a part of that group. As his mother, you can talk to the group of boys and tell them how hurtful and scary it is for your son when they tease him. If they are not meaning any harm, then they will stop it otherwise you have the option of pulling him out of that group. Gradually you will need to teach him how to draw his boundaries with bullies and protect himself physically and psychologically. But your problem is that he doesn't have another friend circle. He's of an age when he can join play groups and learn simple stuff along with appropriate social behaviours at that age. I have seen mothers taking their children out to meet cousins, friends who live in other area or go play in a nearby locality park. You could even invite parents with young children to your house so that your son gets company. If none of this works out then you might consider moving house to an area which is catering to your child's current needs. It is important that he mixes with other children so that he learns appropriate social skills and for his mental and physical development. You might risk him feeling lonely, unsociable and cranky if he doesn't find company.
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I feel nervous every time I can't think much I always feel very tired mentally depressed. I get emotional very soon I never feel fresh or happy. I feel sick n tired always.

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
I feel nervous every time I can't think much I always feel very tired mentally depressed. I get emotional very soon I...
I will suggest you to Get your blood checked for CBC and follow up with reports and Apart from taking symptomatic treatment I will suggest you to take injection vitcofol 2 cc intramuscularly every alternate days for five pricks over the buttocks through a health professional.
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MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Mental Health

When your body is broken, you have no problem in seeking doctors help but when your mind is broken, why are you hesitant? Your mind is no holier than your body. 
Always seek doctor's help but never destroy your precious life.

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Sir ,when I get new task fear comes in my mind .How can I remove it .Please suggest me sir.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Sir ,when I get new task fear comes in my mind .How can I remove it .Please suggest me sir.
Dear Lybrate user, Anxiety disorders are a category of mental disorders characterized by feelings of anxiety and fear, where anxiety is a worry about future events and fear is a reaction to current events. These feelings may cause physical symptoms, such as a racing heart and shakiness. There are a number of anxiety disorders: including generalized anxiety disorder, a specific phobia, social anxiety disorder, separation anxiety disorder, agoraphobia, and panic disorder among others. While each has its own characteristics and symptoms, they all include symptoms of anxiety. Anxiety medicines alone cannot cure anxiety disorders mainly because medicines do not alter behavior. Behavior change and Continuous practice of the changed behavior cure anxiety. I suggest anxiety education, progressive counseling and progressive psychotherapy. I assure you complete cure. I need to know more about your anxiety so that I will be able to diagnose it properly and provide you tips to overcome and manage your anxiety. Take care.
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I am forgetting things very easily can any medicine have to improve my memory power.

DHMS (Diploma in Homeopathic Medicine and Surgery)
Homeopath, Ludhiana
Homoeopathic medicine-------------- bacoppa monneri (wilmar schwabe india) chew 2 tab twice daily---------------- bramhari pranayam daily for 15 minutes ---------------- report after 30 days-----------------
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I'm getting angered over a very small issues in my life. Nowadays I'm very obsessed with my career I'm trying my best to earn money and doing a lot of hard work but none I think stars are not in my favour every single day is becoming a challenge for me and I'm getting depressed. I'm trying a lot to go abroad but the process is getting delayed from the past 2 years. Because of this I'm getting extremely angry and my health is getting worse due to continuous anger. Nothing is working out for me, I'm a PhD graduate and I'm not at all satisfied with my career and earnings. My whole day starts and ends with a lot of tension. Is there any kind of past regression recovery therapy through which I'll be mentally stable.

MBBS MD
Psychiatrist, Chandigarh
Meditation and relaxation exercises can help in relieving stress. Many people may not realise how their negative thoughts of one particular area of life can spiral and keep feeding ones stress. The trick is to learn to keep a time for thinking about ones career eh 7-730 pm. Rest of the day, one can set aside time for 10 minutes meditation, 30 minutes brisk walking, spending time with family or friends and hobbies such as music. Remember just as in our diet we eat different foods to stay healthy, the mind also needs different activities. Focussing on one thing like career the entire day is maladaptive. So learn to keep a time to think about stressful areas, and keep your mind free the rest of the day to enjoy other activities.
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I at 53 started my menopause. After which I have seen changes in my self. I am angry. Agitated. Suspicious. generally unhappy. Before this I was just d opposite. .Please tell.

MBBS, MD (AIIMS, Gold Medalist), Diploma in CBT (Glasgow)
Psychiatrist, Delhi
Dear lybrate-user, as you might be already aware, menopause is associated with a number of uncomfortable symptoms like hot flushes, mood swings and other symptoms which you have reported. They gradually go away over a period of time. You can do the following: practice yoga, breathing/ relaxation exercises, listening to music, keeping yourself busy certain antidepressants such as ssris are useful, consultation with psychiatrist will be needed report these symptoms to your gynecologist just to make sure that there is nothing else to worry about. Hope that helps!
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I m a btech first year student living in hostel. I don't ve gud friends to share my feelings and pain. I get angry on small things, lose my temper and cry too much afterwards. I can't speak Wats in my mind to anyone. I just cry in myself. My bf used to support me earlier but now even he is not interested in helping me out. He says I m doing wrong. I m just all alone and feel very lonely I cry too much and develop fever after crying. Wat to do plzz help plz.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry, CE (New York)
Psychiatrist, Delhi
I m a btech first year student living in hostel. I don't ve gud friends to share my feelings and pain. I get angry on...
Hello lybrate-user. You might be having symptoms of depression. The common symptoms include sadness of mood, decreased interest in work, lethargy, irritability, low energy levels, negative thoughts and suicidal thoughts, poor appetite and sleep. In case you have these symptoms, you should immediately start the treatment. Depression is a very common disorder and is easily treatable. A combination of medications and psychotherapy (counselling) is the most effective treatment. And please don't hesitate in meeting a doctor. The longer you wait, the more difficult it becomes to treat. So meet a nearby psychiatrist as soon as possible.
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I remain depressed and I have anxiety. Moreover when I have go to job interview my heartbeat very fast. Now I am unemployed. Please give a quick solution.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I remain depressed and I have anxiety. Moreover when I have go to job interview my heartbeat very fast. Now I am unem...
Anxiety and depression often times go together. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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My 10 years old daughter is unable to concentrate in her studies, teacher recommended psychiatric help for her.

MD - Alternate Medicine, BHMS
Homeopath, Surat
Please do not force such small kids towards studies. Let them be playful. And if possible ask her to do meditation. For her no medicines at this age is adviceable.
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Kisi ko bhulane ke lye kia kre. Koi hame chor kr chala jaye aur bahut yad ata hai bahut koshish krte hain ke wo yad na aye kabhi kabhi to esa ho jata hai ke yad krre krte sir me drd hone lgta hai pagalpan sa lgta hai. Koi dawa koi upay.

BAMS, MD Ayurveda
Sexologist, Lonavala
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as per your concern i would suggest you to do following remedy Natural home remedy using cardamom seeds: 1. Crush 3-4 cardamom seeds to powder 2. Take ½ tsp of this cardamom powder 3. Add to 1 glass of water 4. Mix well 5. Sieve the mixture 6. Drink 1 glass every day This is very helpful for you.
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Doctor this years my entrance exam was not so good n last years also I have appeared for medical entrance bt as need is tough so I was not able to qualify the exam. N nw day by day m going into depression. Now days m suffering from too much anger even at small things n after that tears come from my eyes. Whenever I think abt my future my head counts n sometimes I feel to end up everything even my life. My parents expect alot from me bt I hav not satisfied them. My father has spent all the money in my education. My biggest dream is to become a doctor. Since childhood I have been dreaming o becoming doctor. Doctor please suggest me what should I do if I am not able to qualify this need. As need results have not been given yet. please suggest me what next shall I study if I am not able to qualify neet 2017. please reply. Dctr I rlly need your help.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Doctor this years my entrance exam was not so good n last years also I have appeared for medical entrance bt as need ...
You can become whatever you want if you believe in yourself. You have an anger-related depression that will make it difficult to concentrate. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved. As regards the concentration you are sure to have hormonal imbalances which may impact your memory because of the chemical but also the distractions that come with it; together with depression I can imagine your problems. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling.
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I lost my friend 6 month ago & that depress me. Can you help what should be done.

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Gurgaon
I lost my friend 6 month ago & that depress me. Can you help what should be done.
Hello, I am sorry for your loss. Life becomes hard when you loose your close one. But we need to cope up with the situation. Keeping everything with yourself will increase the burden. You need to talk to people you trust or make new friends even if you don't like it. Try and express your feelings in a way you like. Distract your self to the other activities that you like. You need to support yourself. It will take time but you will come over it. All the best.
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Hello I am a 32 year male I have huge losses in share market I am a very depressed.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
In a situational depression like this you need to achieve more mind control. Yoga and meditation are good. Also read or listen to music if you like it. And divert your mind by talking to good friend or relatives. Is your sleep deprived? you need constant support. Ask privately with all your details. Have you tested thyroid any time? ask privately.
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I really get frustrated due to my work profile hence I am not able to remove frustration in office and even at my home its becoz of my nature pls help me I want to improve in this area I believe this will also help the timing of my ejaculation.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I really get frustrated due to my work profile hence I am not able to remove frustration in office and even at my hom...
Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. FrustrationLife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax, "calm down" or "take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
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I feel alone, I want to study more as I am preparing for jee so I want to stop my mind diversion towards girls and sexual.Please tell.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I feel alone, I want to study more as I am preparing for jee so I want to stop my mind diversion towards girls and se...
Dear lybrate user, welcome to lybrate. The duty of your mind is to think. You cannot control your mind's thinking. Once you just leave your mind without diversion, it always ends up in negative territory. Over thinking leads to obsession, self talking and laziness. But certainly you can divert your thinking. You can make your mind to be always positive by engaging in creative activities, hobbies, games and passionate towards whatever you do. Thereby you can reduce your stress and tension also. Once you can do this, loss of proper sleep and stress also can be made normal. Anyhow, there is nothing to worry. Most of the psychological problems can be cured with scientific therapy methods. Take care.
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I'm 19 years old and taken a drop year for medicine and I got 94 %in my 12th standard but I am not getting marks above 500 out of 720 in my mock test my parents demotivates me regarding the same I really feel depressed after hearing this from them my exams are coming nearer what should I do to come out of this.

M.B.B.S., F.I.C.A. (USA), P.G.D.I.H, F.C.G.P., D.C.A.H
Psychiatrist, Vadodara
I'm 19 years old and taken a drop year for medicine and I got 94 %in my 12th standard but I am not getting marks abov...
It is very very clear that you are a brilliant student. Keep your focus on your goal and use self motivation. You need to know that your parent's intention is good but their method is wrong. Love the intention and ignore the method of your parents. Take it as a self challenge and decide the best for you. Start smiling for yourself as and when you feel 'demotivated' because now you have understood and accepted that their intention is good and they want to challenge you to do good in exams. Take the challenge and move on. If you still need help you can connect with me directly on Lybrate for a direct online or in person talk.
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I feel sleepy all the time. Can't concentrate on my studies. How can I concentrate & also how can I reduce my sleeping habit.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You obviously need exercise and do something to fit into the natural biorhythm. If you sleep early at night you may catch up with lost sleep. Eat more carbohydrates in your last meal at night. Whenever I start studying I feel sleepy and so I can not do my study well. What to do to get concentrated on studies? It is obvious that you are not interested in your studies because it may not be suitable to your aptitude. Please meet with a career guidance counselor and do some tests that will also determine what your natural skills are and then choose an appropriate career and course. It may also be that you have studied these topics already right through the year and find it very boring to do it all over again. You may be just sleep deprived! Perhaps you are not exercising enough everyday! Look into all of these matters and deal with it in an appropriate fashion. In fact every time you feel sleepy, just get up and do some jumping jacks and it will wake you up. If you are feeling sleepy, do some written work. In the worst case scenario, you may have some tea or coffee and that will perk you up. Never have too much carbohydrate meals before studying, it will make you drowsy. In terms of concentration here are a few guidelines: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive or coconut oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that you and the family go for counseling too.
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