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Dr. T.s. Chandrashekar

MA - Psychology, MSW, M.Phil - Psychiatric Social Work

Psychiatrist, Bangalore

38 Years Experience  ·  300 at clinic
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Dr. T.s. Chandrashekar MA - Psychology, MSW, M.Phil - Psychiatric Social Work Psychiatrist, Bangalore
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Dr. T.s. Chandrashekar is a renowned Psychiatrist in Rajaji Nagar, Bangalore. He has helped numerous patients in his 38 years of experience as a Psychiatrist. He is a qualified MA - Psychology, MSW, M.Phil - Psychiatric Social Work . You can visit him at Spandana Nursing Home in Rajaji Nagar, Bangalore. Book an appointment online with Dr. T.s. Chandrashekar and consult privately on Lybrate.com.

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MA - Psychology - Annamalai Universtiy - 1988
MSW - Bangalore University , India - 1979
M.Phil - Psychiatric Social Work - National Institute of Mental Health and Neurosciences (NIMHANS) - 1981
Languages spoken
English
Awards and Recognitions
excellence in social work education

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Hi. I am feeling tiredness and also body pain, weakness in my thai. Leg. Pl suggest. Age about 36 yrs. Married.

Masters in Human Nutrition and Nutraceuticals
Dietitian/Nutritionist, Madurai
Hi. I am feeling tiredness and also body pain, weakness in my thai. Leg. Pl suggest. Age about 36 yrs. Married.
Sleep well. Follow a healthy n balanced meal. If it still continues check your hb level n blold sugar level.
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My roommates complaints that I used to speak at night suddenly for two to three minutes. Last night, they complained that I was laughing very loud while sleeping with my hands opened and I was jumping on bed. This is not usual as I don't have this problem previously. Moreover, I don't have dreams on that night too. I think this problem is related to my psycology.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I can see the problem. We usually do not have body movements happening nocturnally. Therefore there is no treatment for this. To get sound sleep, be stress free and work physically well. Drinking a glass of milk before sleep can also help. Take care.
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Iam prashanth and 35 years old and I smoke a lot, from past few days I have cough and lot off flem inside so overcome the flem what is that I have to do, any medicine that I can take to cut the felm.

MBBS
General Physician, Cuttack
1. Do warm saline gurgling 3-4 times daily 2. Take honitus syrup 2tsf thrice daily 3. You may have to take antibiotic along with it if no relief 4. since you are a heavy smoker,I advice you to take X ray chest and consult Physician for advice and treatment 5.consult me for further advice
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4 Ways To Deal With Kleptomania!

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chandigarh
4 Ways To Deal With Kleptomania!

Kleptomania is a form of psychiatric disorder. It is a difficult disorder, and an affected person experiences a lot of shame, remorse, stress or feels guilt, which are associated with stealing. It is categorized as an impulse control disorder which affects the behavior of a patient. Kleptomania may be associated with obsessive compulsive disorder. The patient develops an impulse to steal and cannot control this impulse and later feels guilty.

Here are several tips which you can use in order to deal with kleptomania.

  1. Understanding the situation: It must be clearly understood that a kleptomaniac person does not steal with the intention of becoming rich. It is done only for mental satisfaction and to pacify the urge of stealing that comes from within to an affected person. The patient usually does not care about the object he steals, but he only cares about the act of stealing. Usually, kleptomaniac patients steal insignificant things. When an affected patient becomes extremely nervous or fearful, they tend to steal an object. After the act, they feel much better and relieved. Later, a feeling of guilt arises in the person about his stealing act.

  2. Treat the affected person gently: A kleptomaniac person requires love, care and great understanding from his/her loved ones or family members in order to recover. The problem and the situation must be recognized and perceived carefully. A person close to the patient should deal with him gently and try to make him understand. In many situations, a kleptomaniac may be aware of his actions but does not confess to avoid harassment.

  3. The situation is different from stealing: It must be kept in mind that the actions of a kleptomaniac cannot be exactly termed as stealing. Stealing is an organized activity done by conscious individuals in order to gain something material or money related. Kleptomania is an act of impulse which a patient conducts for psychological satisfaction. The patients are fully aware that stealing is not the right thing, but yet they cannot control their impulse to steal.

  4. Treatment procedures: Once a kleptomaniac person accepts that they are suffering from a disorder, professional help must be taken. Cognitive Behavior Therapy is the primary treatment for kleptomania. This includes aversion therapy where a distraction is created when a person develops the impulse to steal an object. Systematic desensitization is another process where a patient is made to imagine a scenario to get over the urge of stealing. Covert desensitization makes a patient imagine negative impacts of the stealing act such as arrest or harassment.

The social life of a kleptomaniac becomes very difficult and both the patient, and his family are subjected to a lot of trouble and harassment. Necessary measures must be taken for kleptomania.

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I m having a serious hairfall problem. I m scared of washing my hairs because of hair fall. I m not able to concentrate on my studies because of the same reason. I had thick hairs. Now continuously I m loosing them from the tip of hair follicle. please help.

Vaidya Visharad
Sexologist, Narnaul
I m having a serious hairfall problem. I m scared of washing my hairs because of hair fall. I m not able to concentra...
Do not use extra salt in your food as higher values of sodium (from salt) than the recommended daily value can lead to hair loss. Also, always use iodized salt. Iodine is an important nutrient for hair growth. Sea food is also a good and natural source of iodine.
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Dr. I have a problem of thought broad casting I don't know it because of my bad immune system or what but im suffering it around last 2 years and it really so bad to feel it nd I don't know where it comes to me but the problem is what ever I said to my mind it already disclosed to every body nd it's really true sir I not mad sir nd im really bad suffer to do my job so please gave some suggestions to my favour.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dr. I have a problem of thought broad casting I don't know it because of my bad immune system or what but im sufferin...
Dear user. Thought broadcasting is the belief that others can hear or are aware of an individual's thoughts. This differs from telepathy in that the thoughts being broadcast are thought to be available to anybody. Thought broadcasting is considered a positive symptom of schizophrenia. I suggest a comprehensive approach with psychiatric medicines and CBT. Take care.
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I am in too much confusion, I think either I gonna mad or really need a psychiatrist. Sir my problem is that I have a sexual fantasy that includes the threesome sex . Whenever I imagine having sex with my gf with including a other male guy I turns on.I asked for this to my girlfriend initially she said no directly but now she is ready for the same, we also arranged a guy wo will join us, ultimately this guy is her colleague and he is also ready for the same, when everything done, then this time I am stepping back from this fantasy but when again I thought of it it turns me on badly. . Please help me whats wrong with me?Should I go for it?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear,. Sexual fantasies are normal and you can have any type of fantasies. The tricky part is how you are going to fulfill any fantasy. In your case, you tried to fulfill one of your fantasy with the help of your girl friend and another male friend. That is causing confusion. Because you revered your girl friend as only your friend and her deviation from truth gave you jitters. Don't worry. Understanding is the key and answer to many misunderstandings. Take care.
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Anxiety Disorder - How Ayurvedic Remedies Can Help Treat it?

DSM ( Siddha Medicine), BAMS
Ayurveda, Bangalore
Anxiety Disorder - How Ayurvedic Remedies Can Help Treat it?

The concept of alternative medicine is no more a novel proposition. It is a tried and tested way of dealing with physical as well as psychological problems. The aim of “Ayurveda” is to strike a corrective balance amongst three essential kinds of energies present in the human body. Ayurveda classifies these energies as 'Vata', 'Pitta', 'Kapha”. While “Vata” deals with bodily functions related to circulation of blood or breathing, “Pitta” primarily deals with metabolism. On the other hand, Kapha is concerned with regulation of growth in the varied organs and cells of your body. Anxiety disorder is a crushing problem if left unattended; Ayurvedic care and certain significant changes in your way of life can treat the condition.

Ayurveda asks you to adhere to the following guidelines to control anxiety disorder:

  1. Basil has wide ranging effects on your anxiety: Add basil leaves to a bowl of water and let it boil. Once the mixture cools down, drops of this juice can be poured down your nostrils. Basil is known to have calming effects on your mind. It is often advised for its ability to fight stress piling up in a human mind with every passing day. Chewing basil leaves can render the same benefits.
  2. Add these substances to your bath water: Bathing leads to relaxation and plays a key role in controlling your anxiety. You could be anxious due to familial issues or work related matters; a bath at the end of the day soothes your mind helping you to think clearly. Using ginger and baking soda in your bath water can further relieve you from being unnecessarily anxious.
  3. Drink your orange juice with a difference now: Orange juice, when taken in combination with honey, acts on an increased heart rate. It lowers down a person’s heart rate and also treats anxiety disorder. Oranges, as you know, are rich in vitamin C and can tackle stress by decreasing the effects of cortisol. Cortisol is better known as the stress hormone. So avoid sugar and try honey instead with your daily share of orange juice.
  4. Add almonds and saffron to your glass of milk: The one glass of milk that you drink regularly for nutrition and calcium can be made way more nourishing by adding saffron, almonds, nutmeg powder and ginger to it. This concoction helps in curing a frazzled nervous system thus, ridding you of anxiety disorder. Milk with almonds and saffron should be spiced to maintain the myelin sheath on each nerve of your body. This fatty layer does have a very calming influence on you. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult an ayurveda and ask a free question.
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I'm suffering from pms. I delivered a girl 1.5yrs back on a cesarean and my mood swings are dangerous. They make me scream at my kid, beat her, cry for no reason, hate sex. I had painful breasts and I took primrose tablets. My gynaec said it was post partum depression. I'm a working woman and we are a nuclear family. I drop my daughter in my mom's place everyday. Please help. My cycle is also changing though I get it 3-4 days delayed.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I'm suffering from pms. I delivered a girl 1.5yrs back on a cesarean and my mood swings are dangerous. They make me s...
Dear , postpartum depression is usually treated with a combination of psychiatric medicines, psychotherapy, lifestyle changes, meditation and exercise. I hope you are undergoing treatment, otherwise, please approach a psychiatrist. For other four treatment methods, I will help you. Please post a private question to me with all the details. Take care.
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My grand son is uncontrollable. He throws the things on slightest talking. He appears as he feeling unsecured. Doctors say that he is hyperactive for which they suggested to consult a therapist who gave some exercises to him for one hour on weekly basis for about one and a half year but we did not see improvement.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I think that your kid does have hyperactivity. My assessment is that he may have extraordinary intelligence and that he is getting frustrated with the low level of expectation on him. For that level of intelligence, he needs highly stimulating challenges to his mind. I suggest you try higher grade school material and see how he fares. Train him in some simple relaxation exercises from Yoga, to naturally calm himself down. Make him do some active exercises everyday and try to exhaust him physically. Get him some highly challenging jigsaw puzzles, some mechanical toys, and those large 3,000-piece puzzles etc. These will teach him patience, self-control, and help him to slow down too. Give him a lot of physical affection and contact. Reduce high-energy foods from his diet. Give him a lot of fiber food too. Cut out milk for some time as suggested, and see if this has any noticeable effect. If it does, then give him calcium supplements. There are some good concentration exercises that will help him too. His environment must be very stimulating to occupy his intelligent mind. If you can admit him into a Montessori school, that would be the best place for him. I really like your observational comment: ?He appears as though he is feeling insecure?This could after all be an emotional problem where he is learning an early bad habit of dealing with his fear by acting angry. You must talk to him and give him permission to share his fears or insecurities without ridiculing or demeaning him. As he talks about it, he will definitely show remarkable changes.
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Hello . I had some acne problem for the last few years .I consulted a dermatologist and completed the course he provided and it had been cured completely . But as this present season arrives I've noticed it kinda pops out . I get some reddish acne sort of on my cheeks which I am presently noticing the arrival of few .while I cleanse that portion one two even kind of pains . I am really tensed because if it continues it will look bad . Please help me with the best solution please . I have been using cetaphil cleansing lotion for all skin types as prescribed by my consultant .

MD(EH)/AM/Accupressure
Acupressurist, Chandigarh
Hello . I had some acne problem for the last few years .I consulted a dermatologist and completed the course he provi...
Dear lybrate user, Applying of herbal treatments such as sage, lavender, tea tree oil and chamomile. These herbs have anti-pruritic and soothing properties which can relieve severe itch. These can also make the skin smoother upon application. Salt water application. This can be done several times in a day to alleviate itchiness. The salt contained in the solution attracts the water contained in the bumps, thus relieving swelling. Herbal medicines containing camphor and menthol can also be applied to the infected area. Camphor and mint have antibiotic properties. Proper hygiene. Daily bathing and cleansing can prevent as well as treat the painful red bumps on the skin.
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I always feel anxiety for the past 4 yrs. Loss of memory, stomach anxiety, feeling breathlessness always, fear of death. Sometimes it happened at night and become worse. I feel like heart attack or choking. Whatever happens I losing breathe first followed by a rapid heart beat. Also my nose is always sticked. May be there will be different diseases. Also my veins shivered anytime. Losing breathe in stairsteps. Also problem is related piles where spots are developed. Gap in vertebrae also. Is these problem interrelated or different. Kindly give effective medications to get rid of this ASAP.

B.A. Psychology, M.A. Psychology, Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
I always feel anxiety for the past 4 yrs. Loss of memory, stomach anxiety, feeling breathlessness always, fear of dea...
A lot of the physical problems that you have mentioned can occur due to stress. You may need some medication for the stuffy nose - for which you should consult an ENT - because a doctor can prescribe medication only after examining you. For the rest of the issues you should practice pranayama and yoga, do some relaxation exercises and consult a counsellor/ psychologist- who will be in a position to help you reduce your anxiety, build your self confidence, and help you overcome your fears.
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Hello doctor My skin was fair but now from last one year it has become tanned also acne is very much coming on my face. I am becoming darker Please give me anti tan remedy and to remove acne and get my original.

MD - Homeopathy, BHMS
Homeopath, Palakkad
Hello doctor My skin was fair but now from last one year it has become tanned also acne is very much coming on my fac...
Please don't use any creams or lotions. It suppress the sebum secretion and block the pores which leads to bacterial contamination and results in more pimples. The other causes of pimples are hormonal imbalance, dandruff, diet rich in oil and non veg, poor hygiene etc. Treating acne in the right way at the earliest will remove pimples without any scarring and gives a long lasting results. But acne patients are more concern about the pimples and try all creams and soaps available in markets which creates much worse their condition. There are very good homoeopathic medicines for pimples which gives rapid and permanent results without any side effects. Along with the medicines there are some specific food which should be avoided for the effectiveness of treatment. You should take plenty of vegetables and fruits. Drink 3-4 litres of water. Homoeopathic cream topi berberis (wilmar schwabe) daily night apply. Internal medicines are better than external application.
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I am 19 year old student. .Sir when I am taking with my family or my friends then they tell me that I am a mad .Sir/mam I don't be silent and happy and keep focused in my life and my goal so what am I do? My behavior - I am always try to silent don't talk with someone but I am failef. So please help me?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
I am 19 year old student. .Sir when I am taking with my family or my friends then they tell me that I am a mad .Sir/m...
Dear user. Please don't worry about what others say when you have your own view points which you feel are correct, when you are focused on your aspirations and when you are walking towards the goal. Others could try to distract you, never succumb. Take care.
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Don't loose your heart to Stress,,, Wellness series in Metro PLus

MBBS, DTCD, MD, FISDA, Fellow Pulmonary, Critical Care & Sleepmedicine
Pulmonologist, Delhi
A certain intensity of stress is must for productivity but when it goes on for months it affects your health. It may seem that there’s nothing you can do about stress. There is always stress to change or challenge. But you learn to manage by practising healthy ways. In fact, the simple realisation that you’re in control of your life is the foundation of stress management. Managing stress is all about taking charge of your thoughts, emotions, schedule, and the way you deal your situations.

The first step in managing stress is recognising it in your life. Everyone feels stress in a different way. You may get angry or irritable, lose sleep, or have headaches or stomach. You should learn your own body and identify your symptoms and identify the situations that cause you stress. These are called stressors. Your stressors could be family, work, relationships, money or health problems. Once you understand where your stress is coming from, you can come up with ways to deal with your stressors.

You feel stressed, you may fall back on unhealthy behaviours to help you relax. These may include eating too much, smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol or using drugs, sleeping too much or not sleeping enough. These behaviours may help you feel better at first, but they may hurt you more than they help.

Avoid stressful situations. When you can, remove yourself from the source of stress. Change your outlook. Try to develop a more positive attitude towards challenges. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, rather than thinking, “Why does everything always go wrong?” change this thought to, “I can find a way to get through this.” Keep stress from making you sick by learning healthy ways .The first step in managing stress is recognising it in your life. Everyone feels stress in a different way. What are your signs of stress? Once you know the signals, recognize the things you can’t change. For example, you have a spastic child which can’t change. But you should have courage to handle the situation in much more positive way that’s is the wisdom of life. Nurture positivity. Positive people are assertive, confidant, happy and humane and they have right emotional wellness. The negative people have low self esteem, are fearful, unhappy and have poor emotional wellness. These are the people who suffer from stress the most. They are fearful, stressful and judgemental. Stress gives anxiety. Anxiety gives restlessness, depression and poor coping mechanism.

A good stress control is must for optimum wellness. First and foremost one should practice talking to oneself on daily basis for at least 10 minutes. This will help to keep a balance between expressive and repressive emotions. Do a daily auto laboratory check, identify strength, overcome weakness by playing strength over weakness. A daily auto mind body check will control anger, frustration, guilt and fear.

Once you are done with your analysis, practise zero feeling though 360 degree wellness practice. This involves physical, mental, emotional, environmental, social and spiritual wellness practices. Stress management needs a daily programme and it should be a habit. Daily systematic practice helps you start your day from zero.

Start a stress diary. A stress diary can help you identify the regular stressors in your life and the way you deal with them. Each time you feel stressed, keep track of it in your journal. As you keep a daily log, you will begin to see patterns and common themes.

Write down:

What caused your stress (make a guess if you’re unsure). How you felt, both physically and emotionally. How you acted in response. What you did to make yourself feel better.

Dealing with Stressful Situations: The Four A’s

A. Change the situation: Avoid the stressor or alter the stressor

B. Change your reaction: Adapt to the stressor or accept the stressor

Practice following steps to overcome stress

Talk to yourself and say I will, I must and I can do
Think of your strengths and weaknesses and now toss your mind
Set your priorities
Delegate responsibilities
Do a proper time management
See the bigger picture, see failure as an event not as failure. Learn from mistakes
Love and pamper yourself
Focus on fitness, do regular brisk activity. Walking, swimming, tread mill, gardening, sweat adequately. Sweat releases feel good hormone called endorphins. Endorphins improve wellness.
Rest and relax. Breathing techniques help relaxation. Annapani sati, Buddhist meditation, do bramhari or do Om chanting . These practices create resonance in your higher mind and helps release of feel good hormones
Breathing exercises mainly abdominal breathing, Kapalbhati increases your parasympathetic activity and counters your sympathetic activity. Do breathing in exercises like Anulom Vilom and do sequential eye, cervical, spinal and finger a toe exercises. Rest in sharvangasana
Eat right. Eat a diet rich in complex carbohydrates with low glycemic index, high protein, plenty of fruits and vegetables. Drink ten glasses of water. Have a sumptuous break fast, take small frequent meals.
Do an auto cognitive behaviour analysis and remove negative thoughts.
Practise visual imagery, feel good by running through your nostalgic photo album
Talk to people, develop dialogue and seek help.
Play games, games relax and make you positive
Develop a hobby
Listen to music
Follow good sleep hygiene, stick to one time to bed, take bath before sleep
Laughing helps
If your can’t manage stress on your own, consider seeing a therapist or counsellor.

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How can I overcome my mental stress and pressure in my busy schedule of student life.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
How can I overcome my mental stress and pressure in my busy schedule of student life.
STRESS CONTROL There are many ways to tame your stress and keep it at bay. Here are 20 tips to tame your stress today, and keep the stress monsters at bay. 1. Perform diaphragmatic or deep breathing exercises. 2. Lie face down on the floor and begin breathing deeply and slowly, with your hands resting under your face. Do this for five minutes. 3. Sit in a reclining chair. Put a hand on your abdomen and a hand on your chest. As you breathe, make sure the hand on your abdomen is moving up and down rather than one on your chest. If the hand on your abdomen is moving you are breathing deeply and slowly. 4. Try progressive muscle relaxation or “deep muscle” relaxation. Progressively tense and relax each muscle group in your body. Learn the difference between muscle tension and relaxation. 5. Meditate. Use visualization or imagery to help you learn to be one with your thoughts. Sit quietly with your eyes closed, imagining the sights, sounds and smells of your favorite place, such as a beach or mountain retreat. 6. Exercise regularly or take up yoga. 7. Consult a psychologist about the use of biofeedback 8. Make time for music, art or other hobbies that help relax and distract you. 9. Learn to identify and monitor stressors. Come up with an organized plan for handling stressful situations. Be careful not to overgeneralize negative reactions to things. 10. Make a list of the important things you need to handle each day. Try to follow the list so you feel organized and on top of things. Put together a coping plan step by step so you have a sense of mastery. 11. Keep an eye on things that might suggest you’re not coping well. For example, are you smoking or drinking more, or sleeping less? 12. Keep a list of the large and little hassles in your day versus the major stressful events in your life. This helps you focus on the fact that you’re keeping track of and managing those as well as you can. 13. Set aside a time every day to work on relaxation.
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Hi guyz, me 22 yrs old girl. Me bahot pareshan ho please suggest me kya kru. Me meri past life pahile thodi clr krti hu. Me 1 yr ki thi tb mere dad ki death hue by accident n uske baad me 9th me thi tb meri badi sister ne suicide kiya. Abi 4 yrs pahle meri mom ki bhi death hoe bcoz of heath problem. Nw me mere bade bhai k sath rehti. Bt jb mom thi tb it means me chhoti thi tbse hi muze mara bhai nhi achha lagta. Uski mentality uska behavior muze nhi achha lagta bt mom k achhnk death k bajese hum bajboorime sath rehna pad raha hai. Life me etna sab kuch hua n muze jo pasand nhi uske sath rehna pad rha hai ess bajese me mentally bahot disturb ho gye hu. Me engineering student hu. Ess 4 yrs me (aftr ma mom death) me 2 bar yd (year fail) hoe hu. N nw muze asa lagta hai me bhai k sath reh rhi hu essliye me success ni ho rhi hu. Usase muze negative energy aati hai. Me usske sath nhi reh skti (wnt to mention k mera koi bf nhi hai nhi asa kuch krne ki echha hai abi m nt interested) essliye mene decide kiya bhaise se durr hone ka. Meri mom ki pention milti hai muze har month. Me mere bhai se paise or mere finance related koi b relation nhi rkhna nhi chahti. Uski koi tension nhi me bahar rehkr sab manage kr skti hu. Bt nw condition is mene mere bhai ko bola muze usasse dur rehna asa nhi ki relationship hi tod k jana hai bt jo respncbly hai meri usaske kandhe pe wo usase mokt ho. Fir may b hamara relationship achha hoga. Bt wo kuch samj hi nhi rha. Pahile do din usane muze bahot manani ki koshish ki actually wo bol rha hai hum dono hi hai ab or hum dono ekdusare ki care nhi krenge to kon kerega n all. And bol raha hai agr tume kuch prblm hai muzse to bolo me badl jaunga bt ye baat humare bich me bahot barr hue n to asa hi bolata hai k thik hai me badal jaunga n sirf 1 week achha rehta hai n firse pahile jesa. So nw condition is ussase bahot manane ki koshish ki bt muze jana to ussane last bola agr tum abi muze chhod kr chali gae to yaad rkhana me kasam leta hu me marr bhi jau bt tumara face nhi dekhunga. Please bolo me kya kru me usse 1 yr mang rhi thi muze meri lyf track pe lani hai. Muze zagda kr k nhi jana. Ab mere samne do hi optn hai me emotional ho kr usko chodkr nhi jau n dusara thoda emotions side rkh kr meri lyf k bareme sochu meri lyf hell ho gye hai me bahot passionate bindass ladki thi, muze hamesha dist. Milta tha result me bt ab mere 2 saal fail hoe hai. Me kya kru kuch samj nhi aa rha. Life ya bhai please help me.

Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
You seem to have gone through a lot and still managed to do well for yourself. If you wanted to leave your brother and still maintain relationship, then you could have done it without the condition of him improving his behavior with you. Now he's probably feeling guilty as well as upset with you for wanting to change him. If you want to leave, then you leave citing reasons which are about you and not about him. Take responsibility for your decisions and then decide and leave. Also you must weigh your pros and cons of leaving the safety of your brothers house. You must think about your safety, finances etc before leaving his house. If you feel confident on these fronts then go ahead and leave. But the responsibility of your actions shouldn't come on your brother. You can still do well in studies if you live with your brother. It's in your hands. If you let it affect you. It will affect you. There is no guarantee that you will not face negativity somewhere else. It's all in the mind. Some people have done very well while living in very negative environment.
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How to treat psychological disorder problem with proper treatment and with good results?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
How to treat psychological disorder problem with proper treatment and with good results?
Dear, there are two categories of mental problems. You must be able to distinguish between mental disease and mental disorder. Once you do so you are aware. These mental disorders are usually treated with a combination of medicines and other means like awareness, meditation, psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. For mental diseases, usually medicines are used. Most of the problems are curable. Now I would like to get more details from you so that I can diagnose your problem. Take care.
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