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I am 21 years old girl. I love a boy of my age. N we were in a relationship for 2.6 yrs.bt he doesn't want this relationship. He dislikes me a lot. I tried to convince him but he doesn't want this relationship. So we break up. N I am trying to move on. Bt I can not. What to do to frgt hm? Btw we r not in physical relationship. N most important thing is there is no fault of mine.
I am feeling very depressed I can't even trust my family. I am feeling hopeless regarding my future I am not able to c any hope coz I hate my family.
Language disorder is commonly known as language impairment, it is a common childhood disorder, which makes it difficult for kids to understand what the people around them are saying to them and to face difficulty in following simple directions, it also includes difficulty in expressing the thoughts and feeling through speech.
Language disorder can be classified as:
- Receptive language disorder: This disorder makes it difficult to understand what the other person is saying to the one suffering from it.
- Expressive language disorder: Kids suffering from it are not able to express themselves and their thoughts.
- Mixed receptive expressive disorder: These kids have combined symptoms of receptive language disorder and expressive language disorder, making it difficult to understand and to make someone else understand.
Symptoms of language disorder:
- Difficulty in understanding: The ones suffering from language disorder, finds it difficult to understand what the people around them are saying.
- Limited vocabulary: It is one of the prominent symptoms, in which the vocabulary of the kids is very limited as compared to other kids of that age.
- Trouble learning new things: Learning new things is a difficult task for the kid suffering from language disorder
- Repeat usage of certain phrases: Kids tend to use the same phrase again and again, which is one of the basic symptoms.
- Frustration: As the kid is either not able to understand or to make other understand or both, kids with this disorder tend to remain more frustrated in comparison to other kids, as they are unable to do things.
- Sentences which do not make sense: Making incomplete or senseless sentences is a key indicator of language disorder.
What you should do?
- Speech therapist: The treatment may include speech therapy, in which the speech therapist will work towards building the vocabulary and improving the grammar of the kids suffering, making the kids more confident and feel good about themselves.
- Psychotherapy: If the kid is also suffering from emotional issues because of the language disorder, then one should also undergo Psychotherapy, as it not only improves the morale of the patient, but also provides the guidance on how to keep improving further from the language disorder.
- Positive Atmosphere: The kids suffering from such a disorder should be made comfortable enough to enjoy their being, giving plenty of time to your young ones is the best way to cure such disorder, so one should always communicate well with his kids and make them learn new things, sing to them, listen to various sounds, show different pictures, colours, shapes to make them learn.
- Parental Support: The parents should also understand the issue well, be patient, and should support the kid to work out on the disorder. Parents should also interact with other parents, who have been there, to learn more about the language disorders and how their kids overcome the disorder.
As language disorder is one of common issue in kids, this can be managed and cured well to improve after all the required knowledge and best practices to follow. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a psychologist.
From the last one year I am facing a situation, I can control my dreams. In my dreams I pinch myself and get to know its a dream. When I feel no pain I start enjoying dream. I do whatever I want to do, I fly in dreams, kill people, hav sex, use magical powers, buy things, visit places so, every night is a excitement for me and as a result I like dreams more than reality. But during day I am all right. I do my daily tasks job, study and family responsibilities. Why this? I am afraid some day I might become a psycho? please explain.
I feel very depressed sometimes, I feel myself as a dead walking man with nothing to do in my life. Everybody have so many wish on me that I have to fulfill. Sometimes my mind stops working totally, I feel I am for someone because someone love me as my mother or else who want to leave this life. Is there any way to control these feelings? Day by day its engulfing my mind totally. What to do?
Unconsummated marriage (UM) is a condition where the couple in spite of being married and living together is unable to engage in sexual activity and have successful intercourse. This condition may exist among a couple for a variable duration. While medical and therapeutic intervention is available, many people still suffer in silence and feel embarrassed about their condition.
UM can have detrimental effects on the psyche of the individual partners, it can lead to low self esteem in individuals, blames games can result in frequent fights among partners,extra marital affair, fights within family or both the families. Also in a place like India predominantly for not being able to conceive and give birth to a child, frustration, depression, and if appropriate help isn't available, it may lead to annulment of marriage and divorce.
Various factors are responsible for this condition, many a times individuals may not seek help at the right time from appropriate person due to lack of awareness and taboo to talk about sex life and shame it will result in after discussion.
- There can be several reasons for UM: psychological, organic or even both at the same time.
- In a developing country like India, most individuals have nil or inadequate (may not know ‘how to proceed’) or even negatively presumed knowledge about sex (especially in females that intercourse will be very painful); so many individuals are unable to have sex after marriage. The only way they can get this information is from the net, but a lot of this sexual information comes from unreliable pornographic sites, which often end up confusing the couple even more. Some may have a negative image about sex (based on the early teachings by their family or religion, but fail to understand that it's an important and integral part of marriage), hence may not indulge in and nor allow the partner to proceed.
- Women rose to place most of their self-esteem and identity in virginity can have a tough time.For them taking on a new role as a married woman and a new identity as a sexual human being, is difficult. In the conservative middle-Eastern societies and in the developing countries, couples are strongly prevented by religious rules and cultural taboos from sexual experiences before wedding.
- For some the performance anxiety; the intense social pressure to accomplish hasty coitus with an unfamiliar woman (some men having had no social contact with their new bride), and in the presence of relatives waiting nearby for evidence of the bride’s virginity and confirmation of coitus; may lead to unsuccessful attempts. Sources of performance anxiety includes fear of sexual failure, fear of mistakes, sexual myths about sexual performance, demand for sexual performance, fear of being rejected by the partner, living in the same house with family/ lack of privacy and misconceptions and beliefs about sexuality. Unreasonable expectations, traumatic early sexual experiences, restricted foreplay, impaired self-image and poor communication, also may contribute to performance anxiety.
The current competitive lifestyle, working couples are under constant tremendous work pressure to meet deadlines leading to excessive mental stress and fatigue. They are practically available for each other only on weekends and that too, if one of them has different work schedule then it’s really difficult to spend time together. This results in “no mood tonight”, “have had a hard day, want to sleep”, “am tired, have to complete project, and get back to work early” and such other excuses and situations, affecting their sex-life. This also increases performance anxiety and later due to avoidance behaviour, partners enter a vicious cycle where they lose sexual interest altogether.
It’s hard to get to the truth in the first few minutes of a hurried consultation, and requires a lot of gentle and careful probing. Patients need to be able to be trust the doctor, before they are willing to volunteer such sensitive information.
Sexual dysfunction like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, performance anxiety in males and vaginismus in females has been predominantly reported in several studies and reviews over the years. Vulvodynia, an often unbearable pain when the genitals are touched is also one possible reason.
Little research has been conducted about UM. A trend that is seen in these studies is that in western countries lately there have been lesser reported cases of unconsummated marriage compared to eastern developing countries. Also a positive trend visible is: increased reporting among people in developing countries, this could be attributed to the fact that discussing or seeking help for sexual problems may no longer be a stigma.
- It’s essential to assess and evaluate both the partners and their sexual history along with their current relationship & psychiatric history well in combination with physical examination and diagnostic testing. The socio-cultural and psychodynamic factors pertaining to the failure to consummate the marriage should be investigated in detail and addressed. An empathetic attitude by Qualified Sexologist is required, so that patients know that they are not being judged as incompetent nincompoops. Educating a couple to take their time, experience sexuality and intimacy rather than view it as a performance or a test, or as a task you either pass or fail, often takes the pressure off.
- Premarital sex education can prevent UM arising due to wrong/inadequate knowledge of sex. Frequent meetings during courtship can lead to better understanding and comfort level between couples, thus preventing the condition. Couple counselling on sex and physical relationships including sex education can be availed after marriage.
- Marital therapy is done to resolve interpersonal issues, make each other understand faulty behaviour, to work hard to strive the relationship, develop trust and emotional bonding, to spend quality time together eventually to save the relation. Behaviour therapy where first couple should be encouraged to explore their own sexuality. Once they are comfortable with their own sexuality, gradually they can progress to having intercourse.
- Sexual dysfunctions like Vaginismus & low desire in females & Erectile Dysfunction and premature ejaculation, low desire in males and infertility due to UM should be treated.
- In conclusion, identification of the etiological factors of UM may be essential for the proper management to achieve a successful outcome. In addition to proving explicit sex education and behavioural counselling, Sexologist often find prescription medicines useful.
- It's time for the unconsummated marriages to come of the the closet!