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Dr. Sailaja

Psychiatrist, Bangalore

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Dr. Sailaja is a renowned Psychiatrist in Mahalakshmi Layout, Bangalore. You can meet Dr. Sailaja personally at Raksha MultiSpeciality Hospital in Mahalakshmi Layout, Bangalore. Save your time and book an appointment online with Dr. Sailaja on Lybrate.com.

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I have so many physiological problem. I got fear from my past. And always it creates problem in present situation. could I get relief?

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate-user, past is past. Past is dead. Past lives only in your thoughts. In that case, your fear is from thinking about past happening. In that case it is irrational. Irrational obsession. You will be needing rational emotive therapy. I suggest you to consult a psychologist. Take care.
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I have sleeping disorder. I have problem with my relationship from the marriage and I am getting depressed whenever I think about her. I live alone now and I don't get sleep at nights and you had started spending to work at office in late hours, and when I come home I used spend time with TV or smart phones. Which results in sleeping in the morning hours and I m always late to office now a days. I just want to bring me back as I was before marriage. Can anyone help me in resolving this.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I have sleeping disorder. I have problem with my relationship from the marriage and I am getting depressed whenever I...
Obviously the separation from your wife is not going down well with you. If the problem in that relationship is ‘irretrievable’ (as lawyers tend to term it as such only for legal purposes), which I do not endorse that unless you have explored all possible attempts. If it ever goes into divorce without trying every possible means to seek help, then both of you will regret it later when the matter becomes too far gone, and there is no way of turning the clock back. Sometimes it may just be a problem of egos. If that is the case, I advise you at least to put aside your ego and take the initiative without losing any ground in the negotiation. If you have not been for marriage counseling, you are missing a very important intervention. Apart from that I am certain there are a lot of emotions troubling you about the separation. There may be sadness, fear, and anger and it is recommended that you seek the help of a professional to help you process those feelings. You are currently disrupting your biorhythms, which will not only add to stress unknown to you, but will also make your depression worse. Light from the TV and mobile phones will further stimulate the pineal glands and keep you awake. I suggest that you do the following besides going for therapy for marital counseling: Go for regular exercise (breathing through your nostrils only) at a fixed time (at about 6 am) every day, whether you sleep or not. You must develop this habit of sleeping by 10 pm latest every night and wake up at a uniform time by 6 am every morning, even if you do not get sleep. If you do not get sleep, just lie down and if you have a bed lamp (or you could get one) lie down and read something light but not exciting. Your eyes will tire and you will fall asleep. If you like you may also put on light and soft music with the sleep function on. Depending on whether you are a visual or auditory person, you may watch TV in a lying down position until you feel sleepy. Have a warm bath before going to bed (for some people a cold bath at night seems to induce sleep! If you are one of them, please do so). Place the head side of your bed in a North-South position. The room must be as dark as possible and there should be no electronic items that give off even a light LED glow. There must be ample ventilation in the room. Avoid strong odors, except lavender, on your body or in the room, or on your sheets and clothes. There should not be any live plants in your bedroom. Sleep with the lightest of clothes or without any clothing. When lying down to sleep, lie down on your left ear as much as possible, and you could use a pillow between your knees. Do not sleep directly under an overhead fan. You must eat a good breakfast, a fairly light lunch, and an early dinner, which should be a very light meal. Whatever you eat in the other meals, have only a pure carbohydrate meal at night with any vegetables, and preferably before 8 pm. Do not drink much liquids after or near about dinner time. When lying down to sleep you may use the 4-7-8 breathing pattern of sleep-inducement i.e. breathe in for four counts through your nostril only, hold for 7 counts, and exhale with a whoosh sound, through your mouth only, for 8 counts. Repeat this four times in the morning and just before you sleep at night. If you know Emotional Freedom Technique or EFT (check this out either on YouTube or Google), then please practice this too for sleep induction. Self-hypnosis and slow relaxation techniques at night will be tremendously useful. Pray last thing at night before you sleep.
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Dr. If our liver is not good it means we are suffering from some kind of depression? Because of our thoughts were getting so louder nd beyond the box tell me is it true or not?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Dr. If our liver is not good it means we are suffering from some kind of depression? Because of our thoughts were get...
It is not true and liver is not related to depression ans it is a condition of mind .Liver has nothing to do about depression
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I am 21 yeas old. I am very poor in communication due to the feeling of insecurity and feeling that I don't have proper background in communication. This feeling was increasing day by day as I want to reduce it. Kindly provide a solution for this.

PDDM, MHA, MBBS
General Physician, Nashik
It can be made lesser only and only by speech therapy. So you should take the help of a speech therapist. Also, i'd suggest you to visit a psychologist as confidence plays a great role in dealing with this problem. I'd suggest you to speak very slowly, word by word. People may make fun of this but believe me, slowly you'll get better at it.
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Sir please tell me anything to Sharp my brain power by which my brain can become sharp and active?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Your brain is like a muscle. You need to exercise it regularly. The exciting thing is that you don’t have to be a millionaire to increase your brain capacity. All you need to do is invest a little time to regularly train your brain. So what can you do? Here are 10 simple ways you can increase your brain power and improve your intelligence! 1. Do something new When you experience something ‘new’ you actually ‘stimulate’ your brain! Don’t get stuck in a rut doing the same old things – the only way to change the structure of your brain is to do something new. This creates new neural pathways, increasing your intelligence. You could take a new route to work, try a new recipe for dinner, or even a new form of exercise – mix it up! 2. Exercise regularly It’s been proven that regular exercise helps to increase brain function and enhances neurogenesis. This means that every time you exercise you are creating new brain cells! Get off the couch and get moving! Your brain will thank you for it :) 3. Train your memory How often do you hear people say “I wish I had a better memory?’ Yet no-one does anything about this! If you discipline yourself to memorise phone numbers and other important numbers (passport, credit card, insurance, driving license) you will start to see a marked improvement in your memory 4. Be curious Instead of taking everything at face value, get into the habit of questioning everyday things/products, services that you come into contact with. By being ‘curious’ and questioning everything, you force your brain to innovate & create new ideas. Curiosity may have killed that cat, more importantly it created super important things like electricity and computers! 5. Think positive Stress & anxiety kill existing brain neurons and also stop new neurons from being created. Research has shown that positive thinking, especially in the future tense, speeds up the creation of cells and dramatically reduces stress & anxiety. Try and get a handle on negative thoughts and make an effort to replace them with positive ones. 6. Eat healthy Our diets have a HUGE impact on brain function. Our brains consume over 20% of all nutrients & oxygen that we consume – so remember to feed your brain with the good stuff! (i.e. Fresh fruit and veg & plenty of OMEGA 3 oils found in oily fish) 7. Read a book Reading relieves tension & stress (brain-cell killers) because it’s a form of escapism. Research has also shown that using your imagination is a great way to train your brain because you force your mind to ‘picture’ what you are imagining. Reading is a great way to trigger your imagination! 8. Get enough sleep Sleep is like a mini detox for the brain. This is when your body regenerates cells and removes all the toxins that have built up during the day. Get to bed between the hours of 9 pm and midnight to benefit from the most effective hours of sleep! 9. Avoid using the GPS Gone are the days of map reading! Geo Satellite Navigation may have made our lives easier, it has also made our brains lazier and less efficient at the same time! Go back to the old school and use a map to navigate every now and then (this exercises the part of your brain responsible for understanding spatial relationships). 10. Stop Using the calculator Remember back at school when we were taught to use our brains to do simple sums like times tables? It’s incredible how we now rely on devices like smart-phones and laptops to calculate really simple equations. Resist the urge to work things out using an external device – and use the device you were born with – your brain!
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I am suffering from fever for last 3 days and I also have body pain, please help me.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
I am suffering from fever for last 3 days and I also have body pain, please help me.
Hello, first of all you should take rest for 1-2 days so that your body can fight with underlying infection wth its full immunity and start the below medication:- take gelesemium 200, twice daily. Take eupatrium perf 200, 5 drops thrice daily. Take antifebrinum 3x, 2 tabs, thrice daily. Take alfavena malt, 1 tsf, thrice daily. Drink lots of water and take light homemade food like dalia and khichdi, avoid oily, spicy, fried, junk and cold drinks. In case of high uncontrollable fever, don't panic you should do cold sponging to lower down the temperature. If fever does not goes then go for a set of blood tests. Revert me with feedback. Take care of your health. Good day.
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I am 40 years old guy I am gaining weight I do sleep properly pls help to refuse weight and to get proper sleep. Mostly I am stressed pls help.

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
I am 40 years old guy I am gaining weight I do sleep properly pls help to refuse weight and to get proper sleep. Most...
Running walking exercises are helpful to reduce weight. Sleep helps peace in day life it will not help to reduce weight. Because of stress you may take additional food also. Better to stress relieve methods. Be friendly with others. Be happy all the time. Please know stress relief and stress management. Or please consult psychologist. Best of luck.
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Sir I want to know how to fight our depression. I have many type of tension. Example. Exams. Career. Family. Friends etc.

Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda, Bundi
Sir I want to know how to fight our depression. I have many type of tension. Example. Exams. Career. Family. Friends ...
It's not uncommon and happens with most of enthusiastic people of your age. Simply do pranayam, meditation and eat light non spicy food. Keep gut clean by tarunikusumakar chooran. After two weeks of all this, pl get best quality raw herbs like jatamansi, shankhpushpi, brahmi etc processed and prepared in high antioxidants herb juices. This will work as antidepressants and brain toners.
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I am addicted to smoking. I tried to stop it but can't. Can you help me out of this problem? Please help me.

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello,Smoking is injurious to health. Smoking can have serious effects on your life. The longer you smoke, the more damage you do to your body.If you want to quit smoking then take the below treatment:- take tabacum 200, 5 drops once in a week and arnica 30 ch, 5 drops once daily.Daphne indica 1x, 2 tabs twice daily. Revert me after 1 month.
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My husband had extra marital affair. But now he said all is over. But I am unable to trust him. All the time when he is out I thought that he is with that lady. This thinking is spoiling my life, our relation also our kids suffering what should I do?

CBT, Master in Family Counselling
Psychologist, Gurgaon
Dear , relax! I understand how you must be feeling. I understand its difficult to trust in such conditions. But your imagination will definitely will spoil things. Don't feel rejected or dejected or ditched or feeling of being fooled. Sometimes such affairs just happen. These are insignificant events of life. Take charge of your life. And stay happy try to behave normally, meet any counsellor face to face.
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Sir how I reduce my stress. I dogs or exercise daily but if some things is happened than I will take more stress.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Sir how I reduce my stress. I dogs or exercise daily but if some things is happened than I will take more stress.
We generally use the word 'stress' when we feel that everything becomes too much to handle - we are overloaded and wonder whether we can cope with the pressures placed upon us. Nowadays stress is a normal part of life. Almost everyone has some sort of stress. Constantly reacting to stressful situations without making adjustments to counter the effects, threatens our health and well-being. There are steps you can help you managing day to day stressful conditions and take to feel better. 1.Be realistic: If you feel overwhelmed by some activities (yours and/or your family's), learn to say NO! Eliminate an activity that is not absolutely necessary. You may be taking on more responsibility than you can or should handle. If you meet resistance, give reasons why you're making the changes. Be willing to listen to other's suggestions and be ready to compromise. 2.Shed the 'superman/superwoman' urge: No one is perfect, so don't expect perfection from yourself or others. Ask yourself, 'What really needs to be done? How much can I do? Is the deadline realistic? What adjustments can I make? Don't hesitate to ask for help if you need it. 3.Take one thing at a time: For people under tension or stress, their day-to-day workload can sometimes seem unbearable. The best way to cope with this feeling of being overwhelmed is to take one task at a time. Make a list of things you need to get done and start with one task. Once you accomplish that task, choose the next one. The positive feeling of 'checking off' tasks is very satisfying. It will motivate you to keep going. 4.Share your feelings: A conversation with a friend lets you know that you are not the only one having a bad day. Stay in touch with friends and family. Ask them how they have dealt with a similar situation that may be 'stressing you out. Let them provide love, support and guidance. Don't try to cope alone. 5.Be flexible: If you find you're meeting constant opposition in either your personal or professional life, rethink your position or strategy. Arguing only intensifies stressful feelings. Make allowances for other's opinions and be prepared to compromise. If you are willing to be accommodating, others may meet you halfway. Not only will you reduce your stress, you may find better solutions to your problems. Go easy with criticism. You may expect too much of yourself and others. Try not to feel frustrated, disappointed or even 'trapped' when another person criticises you. 6.Hobbies: Take a break from your worries by doing something you enjoy. Whether it's gardening or painting, schedule time to indulge your interest. Exercise: Regular exercise is a popular way to relieve stress. Twenty to thirty minutes of physical activity benefits both the body and the mind. Meditate: Just ten to twenty minutes of quiet reflection may bring relief from chronic stress as well as increase your tolerance to it. 7.Take Herbal Supplement: Herbs like Brahmi, Ashwagandha, Mandukparni, Shankhpuspi, Kaunch are very helpful in managing stress. These herbs work on the brain and help relax you which ultimately empowers you to manage your stressful conditions easily. There are many herbal supplements available in the market that can help you. 8.Consult the Doctor: If your stress level doesn't seem to improve with above tips, it may require more attention and consultation with an Expert. Or consult me on Lybrate privately Physical symptoms of stress include: •Low energy. •Headaches. •Upset stomach, including diarrhoea, constipation and nausea. •Aches, pains, and tense muscles. •Chest pain and rapid heartbeat. •Insomnia. •Frequent colds and infections. •Loss of sexual desire and/or ability. STRESS CONTROL There are many ways to tame your stress and keep it at bay. Here are 20 tips to tame your stress today, and keep the stress monsters at bay. 1.Perform diaphragmatic or deep breathing exercises. 2.Lie face down on the floor and begin breathing deeply and slowly, with your hands resting under your face. Do this for five minutes. 3.Sit in a reclining chair. Put a hand on your abdomen and a hand on your chest. As you breathe, make sure the hand on your abdomen is moving up and down rather than one on your chest. If the hand on your abdomen is moving you are breathing deeply and slowly. 4.Try progressive muscle relaxation or “deep muscle” relaxation. Progressively tense and relax each muscle group in your body. Learn the difference between muscle tension and relaxation. 5.Meditate. Use visualization or imagery to help you learn to be one with your thoughts. Sit quietly with your eyes closed, imagining the sights, sounds and smells of your favorite place, such as a beach or mountain retreat. 6.Exercise regularly or take up yoga. 7.Consult a psychologist about the use of biofeedback 8.Make time for music, art or other hobbies that help relax and distract you. 9.Learn to identify and monitor stressors. Come up with an organized plan for handling stressful situations. Be careful not to overgeneralize negative reactions to things. 10.Make a list of the important things you need to handle each day. Try to follow the list so you feel organized and on top of things. Put together a coping plan step by step so you have a sense of mastery. 11.Keep an eye on things that might suggest you’re not coping well. For example, are you smoking or drinking more, or sleeping less? 12.Keep a list of the large and little hassles in your day versus the major stressful events in your life. This helps you focus on the fact that you’re keeping track of and managing those as well as you can. 13.Set aside a time every day to work on relaxation. 14.Avoid using caffeine, alcohol, nicotine, junk food, binge eating and other drugs as your primary means for coping with stress. While they can be helpful once in awhile, using them as your only or usual method will result in longer-term problems, such as weight problems or alcoholism. 15.Learn to just say, “No” occasionally. It won’t hurt other people’s feelings as much as you think and is simply a method to be more assertive in your own life, to better help you meet your own needs. 16.Get the right amount of sleep. For most people, this is seven to nine hours a night. 17.Cultivate a sense of humor; laugh. 18.Research has shown that having a close, confiding relationship protects you from many stresses. 19.Don’t run from your problems! This only makes them worse. 20.Talk to your family and friends. See if they can help.
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Hi doctor, my heart is beating very fast, I'm very curious about what happening around me. I think I may have a mental disorder. Can you help me?.

Diploma in Obstetrics & Gynaecology, MBBS
General Physician, Delhi
Hi doctor, my heart is beating very fast, I'm very curious about what happening around me. I think I may have a menta...
At 18, one does get affected too soon by fear, flight or freight and it is not a disease, learn to calm the mind through yoga and meditation or any other relaxation like reading good books/ watching tv.
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Some words are not pronounced clearly by me. How I can prounce the words clearly. And that disorder is from my childhood please suggest me how I should do?

Bachelor of Audiology & Speech Language Pathology (B.A.S.L.P)
Audiologist,
Dear lybrate-user which words difficulty pronounce, if you do the place & manner of articulation you can pronounce clearly but first you consult the speech therapist near by your area then apply the technique.
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I am feeling lots of depression in my life why? Unable to move my life ahead with lots of stuffs going in mind. I Am trying to be better but can't y. please help me.

PDDM, MHA, MBBS
General Physician, Nashik
I am feeling lots of depression in my life why? Unable to move my life ahead with lots of stuffs going in mind. I Am ...
Hello, There are many aspects of depression, the more of them you have the more likely you are to have a clinical depression. Some patients feel severely depressed and suicidal. If you have these feelings you should go to the emergency department immediately. Other things that people with depression can feel are sadness, low energy, lack of motivation, poor sleep, irritability, weight gain or loss, poor self image and sometimes even a lack of touch with reality. The more of these symptoms you have the more likely it is that you have serious depression. Treatments for depression include medications, counseling and exercise. Again the more of these you do the better your chance for a successful treatment. Good luck to you,
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I want to make up my mind to study hard. But I am not able to do so. No matter how hard I try I am not able to study. I get too many distractions. And sometimes the distractions are due to myself (like neglecting things. Feeling tired and so.) When I tell this to my parents they just scold me and tell that its due to my negligence. Is their any help you can do? please help me.

BHMS
Homeopath, Raebareli
Yes please practice meditation at least twice if possible - if not then before going to bed is a must. Take morning exercise/walking/running daily. Do not engage your self too much in mobiles/laptops/night watching.
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I am a 43yr old male married with a 5 year old child. I am suffering from depression from last 10months. Before that I was living a normal life. I am a working employee. And during this last 10 months I lost interest in life. I don't feel like doing anything. I stopped going out or meet friends and relatives. I just stay at home on weekends either continuously watching TV or browsing the net. My appetite has gone low. I have disturbed sleep. And feel very low in the mornings. I don't talk to my wife nor spend time with my daughter. I am always worried I may loose my job and my family would be destroyed due to my condition. Previously I had depression in 2009 it was for 6-7 months. I suffered depression for the first time in 1996 for a few months again in 2002 for more than an year. During that period I also tried committing suicide by consuming sleeping pills. I tried medication during all this bouts of depression but never completed the course. I don't find any particular reason for finding myself in dep, session. I have stopped allopathy medication due to side effects. I am on homeopathy medication from last 3 months. But I am not finding any difference. Rather I'm feeling more depressed. I am loosing hope.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
I am a 43yr old male married with a 5 year old child. I am suffering from depression from last 10months. Before that ...
You have been in treatment in fits and starts and so has your illness. The lack of consistency is one major problem in your approach in the treatment of this condition. The second big drawback is that you have not combined therapy with the medication. It is absolutely a must to work with a counselor and deal with so many other aspects f this condition that in isolation medication cannot be give you the total benefits of combined therapies. The third worst thing that you are doing is to regulate the medication on your own. That is very immature and can only lead to regular relapses. You have what is an anger-related depression and so there will be violence towards self in the form of suicide: you have become your worst enemy. This anger may be rooted in your childhood and it will help to investigate that and locate the genesis and treat the same with some therapy. In the meantime you can follow these simple rules too: Have a good night?s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don?t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love: you have a wife and beautiful child. If they don?t experience love from you they may themselves lose the motivation and become depressed. In fact your child is already carrying your genes! Work with a counselor who is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive everyday and learn to be contended with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do calisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly.
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Hello doctor, I dont know why but my hands always shiver especially when i meet some unknown person its very embarrassing to me or my family. Please advice me how to cure it. Thanks

(MRCPSYCH-UK), MD - Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Hyderabad
You may be suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder. It can be treated with medications and or counseling for a short duration of 3 months
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She is not feeling well due to some external reasons like breakup from her boyfriend her mind is completely thinking about that and how to get her to normal stage?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
She is not feeling well due to some external reasons like breakup from her boyfriend her mind is completely thinking ...
It looks like she is pining for him after the break up. You could help her analyze why they had this fallout? If it her fault, then she needs to apologize and see if he is amenable. If not she may have done something quite unforgivable. In any relationship there must be love, respect, commitment, honesty, trust, and freedom in the romantic scene. Now whatever went wrong and if it cannot be helped, then she has to leave all this far behind. Good friends, like you, can make a huge difference by distracting her, making her feel worthy, lovable and above all to not become too negative. If you see that she has serious problems about the break up please take her to a counselor and make sure that she follows that person’s advice. Help her remove all associations of his: gifts, notes, letters, cards, emails, and any reminders to get him out of her system, not mind. Help her keep the good memories but don’t indulge in them. Get back to her old pals and revive those contacts. Normally when we get a boy friend, we drop all our friends and live exclusively with him. This is not a good thing to do, generally. So do help her to get back with them and get into good social circles. They will help her get over him. Do not let her talk ill or malign her ex to his friends or to him, whatever was the reason. That is unfortunately a very bad habit many of us have – we must still respect his reputation and treat him with dignity. Since this break up is so serious for her, do meet up with a counselor and talk about her feelings, openly. This is not the end of the world and he is not the only boy in life. She will find another but teach her not to repeat the mistakes that led to the breakup. This time she needs to choose wisely and behave like a true lady. You must help her do that and improve her self-belief.
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I am 41 and I think I am suffering from social anxiety disorder. Ailments are high underarms sweating- almost all the day. Please help.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, you must be able to distinguish between mental disease and mental disorder. Your problem is a mental disorder. Not a mental disease. These mental disorders are usually treated with a combination of medicines and other means like awareness, meditation, psychotherapy techniques, life style changes etc. I think two or three counseling sessions and psycho therapy techniques should solve your problem. Let me know if you are willing to undergo counseling sessions and tailor made psycho therapy through mobile. Take care.
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