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Dr. Pradnya Shinoy

Psychiatrist, Bangalore

Dr. Pradnya Shinoy Psychiatrist, Bangalore
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I pride myself in attending local and statewide seminars to stay current with the latest techniques, and treatment planning.
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Dr. Pradnya Shinoy is a trusted Psychiatrist in Tavarekere, Bangalore. She is currently associated with Sri Sai Medical Clinic in Tavarekere, Bangalore. Book an appointment online with Dr. Pradnya Shinoy and consult privately on Lybrate.com.

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I'm taking veniz 75 for several years. This was prescribed for anxiety. If I don't take some uneasiness in my head next day. Please suggest .

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear, That is natural. Some medicines act as suppressing agents and if you don't take those medicines, brain craves for it. You should try to manage your anxiety with psychotherapy techniques and then slowly taper the medicine down under the supervision of your psychiatrist or psychologist. Do not stop the medicine suddenly. Take care.
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My memory power is too low I forget things happen one day before r before what to do please help me?

B.H.M.S., Senior Homeopath Consultant
Homeopath, Delhi
Please take following medicine:- anacardium 3x / 4 tabs twice a day for one month. Revert back after one month with feedback.
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I lost my dad last year I very depressed last one month so how to I am very active plzzz give me the suggestions.

B H M S, MD
Homeopath, Thrissur
I lost my dad last year I very depressed last one month so how to I am very active plzzz give me the suggestions.
I understand your feelings for your father. Me too had it. And the feelings remains in us for ever but decreasing in its intensity as we realize the reality of life which is like a coin with two sides ie. Birth and death. Death is only the end of this episode. And its applicable to all of us. So you can do something creative when his memories comes to you. So it becomes a good tribute to your father.
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Hello. Sometimes I have speaking problem. I feel difficult to utter words. But it happens only when I feel nervous. May be its due to stage fear. But what is the solution for this. Kindly suggest.

M. Phil Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Hyderabad
You can gradually get over the fear. Initially, try to rehearse a speech in front of a mirror. Then try to give a speech in front of your parent or sibling, then in front of a friend. Gradually increase the number to two and then three and so on. Try to achieve this over a period of 6 months. Have faith, i' m sure you'll get over it.
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How to Deal With Anorexia and Bulimia

DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
How to Deal With Anorexia and Bulimia

An eating disorder, mostly appears when your food habits reach levels of extremity. Anorexia nervosa and Bulimia are two main and the most common eating disorders found in men and women. One is the lower extreme while the other is the higher extreme in terms of food intake.

1. Anorexia: People who are affected with anorexia think of themselves to be very overweight in spite of actually being very slim and thin. Anorexia inflicted people consume less than a thousand calories per day. They exercise rigorously and try to find more ways to lose weight. They vomit a lot due to the insufficient diet and suffer more. The treatment for anorexia nervosa generally includes a mix of mental treatment, and regulated weight gain program. An anorexia patient should seek treatment as early as possible. The best ways to deal with anorexia are:

Psychological Treatment: Various psychological treatments can be used to cure anorexia of different stages. They are cognitive analytic therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, interpersonal therapy, focal psychodynamic therapy. A family's response is also an important psychological factor. Proper encouragement and effort should be given.

Weight gain program: This measure will guide an anorexic patient to improve his diet habits and slowly gain weight. A patient is monitored carefully, traits are recognized and a likewise diet pattern is given.

2. Bulimia: Bulimia nervosa is another category of eating disorder. The main characteristic of this disorder is  overeating in the highest level. Binge eating is observed, followed by attempts by the affected individual to lose weight. A bulimic patient is constantly trapped in the cycle of overeating and then thinking about losing weight.

Maybe you do not like the idea of binge eating and fear getting obese, but once affected by bulimia a patient cannot follow this and binge eats. Later, they adopt extreme measures for losing weight. The primary methods to deal with bulimia are:

  • Psychotherapy: Psychotherapy, or talk therapy includes examining your bulimia and related issues with an expert. It is proven that these sorts of psychotherapies restrict the symptoms of bulimia. The three modes of psychotherapy include- Cognitive-behavioral therapy, Family-based therapy and Interpersonal psychotherapy.
  • Medications: Medicines such as anti-depressants can be taken by bulimia patients along with psychotherapy. Prozac is a recommended and effective medicine.
  • Proper diet plan: For bulimia affected patients, having a proper balanced diet is very essential. A diet expert should be consulted, who will make the most essential food pattern for you. Undertaking a weight loss program is also recommended.

Eating disorders such as anorexia and bulimia should be avoided, and you should know the best ways to deal with them.

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Hai I am a medical student. Doing my first year. I can't concentrate on my studies properly due to have load. How can I approach each subjects. Anatomy, physiology and biochemistry. How will I study effectively. Seniors told study only important.. Is it enough?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Obviously you are not planning your studies well. Even if you are overloaded, it is possible to carefully make a timetable and follow that meticulously and complete your portions. Please see if these points help: Hints For Planning A Better Study Schedule 1. Plan a schedule of balanced activities. College life has many aspects which are very important to success. Some have fixed time requirements and some are flexible. Some of the most common which you must consider are: • FIXED: Eating FLEXIBLE: Sleeping • Organizations vs Recreation • Classes vs Study • Church vs Relaxation • Work vs Personal Affairs 2. Plan enough time in studying to do justice to each subject. Most college classes are planned to require about three hours of work per week per credit in the course. By multiplying your credit load by three you can get a good idea of the time you should provide for studying. Of course, if you are a slow reader, or have other study deficiencies, you may need to plan more time in order to meet the competition of college classes. 3. Study at a regular time and in a regular place. Establishing habits of study is extremely important. Knowing what you are going to study, and when, saves a lot of time in making decisions and retracing your steps to get necessary materials, etc. Avoid generalizations in your schedule such as “STUDY.” Commit yourself more definitely to “STUDY HISTORY” OR “STUDY CHEMISTRY” at certain regular hours. 4. Study as soon after your lecture class as possible. One hour spent soon after class will do as much good in developing an understanding of materials as several hours a few days later. Check over lecture notes while they are still fresh in your mind. Start assignments while your memory of the assignment is still accurate. 5. Utilize odd hours during the day for studying. The scattered one- or two-hour free periods between classes are easily wasted. Planning and establishing habits of using them for studying for the class just finished will result in free time for recreation or activities at other times in the week. 6. Limit your blocks of study time to no more than 2 hours on any one course at one time. After 1 ½ to 2 hours of study you begin to tire rapidly and your ability to concentrate decreases rapidly. Taking a break and then switching to studying some other course will provide the change necessary to keep up your efficiency. 7. Trade time – don’t steal it. When unexpected events arise that take up time you had planned to study, decide immediately where you can find the time to make up the study missed and adjust your schedule for that week. Note the weekend evenings - most students can afford no more than one of them for recreation, but may wish to use different evenings on different weeks. This “trading agreement” provides for committing one night to study, but rotating it as recreational possibilities vary. 8. Provide space for review. That is, a regular weekly period when you will review the work in each of your courses and be sure you are up-to-date. This review should be cumulative, covering briefly all the work done thus far in the quarter. 9. Practice self-recitation as a device for increasing memory. Organize your notes in a question and answer form and think in terms of questions and answers about the main ideas of the material as you review weekly. When preparing for exams, try to predict the questions the instructor may ask. 10. Keep carefully organized notes on both lectures and assignments. Good notes are one of the best bases for review. Watch for key ideas in lectures and try to express them in your own words in your notes. Watch for headings and bold face type in your reading to give you clues for main ideas in your notes. Take down careful notes as to exactly what assignments are made and when they are due
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How to stop someone who is regularly addicted to alcohol, because if that person is trying not to drink at some particular time he is trending towards taking alcohol. Now this has become a serious issue, by mind he is not willing to take it but by habit he is having it on a regular basis. Please suggest a way to get rid of this habit.

BHMS
Homeopath,
How to stop someone who is regularly addicted to alcohol, because if that person is trying not to drink at some parti...
Dear lybrate user, he can take homoeopathic mother tincture acid sulph q, 30 drops, thrice daily, after meals, in a cup of water. This medicine will help to reduce his craving for alcohol.
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Dear Sir/Madam Life is not as easy as we think. But when someone is with you, its easy to handle things. In my case even my husband is not supportive. I am a working woman and have to manage home.

Clinical Hpnotherapy, M.D.(A.M.)
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Jalandhar
you are right that you need your partner to handle lifes stresses. But you need to understand more about relationships.. many times one feels that other person has some issues but it is always better to accept situations and give instead of expecting..expect less and give more the more you will give the more you will receive .. this the Law of Attraction
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Few months before my daughter met with a girl who is 13 years old and who lived nearby area, but after sometime we came to know that girl is not good by character then we separated our daughter from that girl, even our daughter realised that but after separation my daughter feels very loneliness and she has no interest in anything, I believe she is struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder, kindly help.

MD - Paediatrics, MBBS
Pediatrician, Jaipur
Few months before my daughter met with a girl who is 13 years old and who lived nearby area, but after sometime we ca...
Looks like she is not open to you,make her feel you are her best friend & she can discuss all with you. Talk to her a lot but avoid directing. In some time she will forget all recent past. Take care she is going through her teenage time when some wants real friend. In fact she is confused about all physical & psychological alterations in her life. Be her best friend all will be fine,mind it you should be honest not to share her talks with anyone.
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Ayurveda For Stress And Sleep Disorder

BAMS
Ayurveda, Faridabad
Ayurveda For Stress And Sleep Disorder

Are you suffering from stress and sleep disorders (Insomnia)? Are you looking for Ayurvedic remedies for improving your sleep? The principles of Ayurveda state that sufficient sleep along with a proper diet, and wise utilization of energy are important for maintaining good health.

Ayurvedic Consideration:

According to ayurveda, the vitiation of the three doshas either taken all together or individually may result in to insomnia. All factors, that are responsible for aggravation of vata and pitta ,along with environmental and dietary factors play an important role in sleep disturbances. High vata type of insomnia is caused by Vaata imbalance or mental stress. People, who toss and turn, unable to fall asleep because their mind is spinning, have this disorder. It results with anxiety, worry, and rushed activity during the day. Where as in pitta imbalance there is intermittent awakening. You may fall asleep quickly but wake up frequently with palpitation, body pains, and emotional disturbances such as fear, anger, and sadness. Another pattern is that you wake up before dawn and find it difficult to go back to sleep.

There are certain health principles and ways that you should follow for improving quality of sleep, getting rid of stress and boosting your body’s immune system. They are as follows:

  1. Maintain a disciplined sleep schedule- You should be very disciplined regarding your sleep. Try to sleep early which gives you the time to sleep throughout the night. Wake up early the next morning. Your mind  is stable, slow and dull from 6pm to 10pm. This is a perfect time for getting good sleep.
  2. Mindful eating- It is recommended for you to have your dinner early between 6.30 to 7 pm. The digestive fire starts cooling down after the sun sets. You can improve your digestion by eating light, early meals. This is beneficial for your sleep quality. While eating, you should avoid doing other activities such as reading books, watching television, or involving yourself in conversations. 
  3. Oil massage- Oil massage therapy is a primary part of  Ayurvedic treatment for stress and sleep disorder. Oil massages on your feet are important for improved sleep. There are nerve endings in your feet, which are nourished because of oil massage. Massaging helps in stress relief, makes you feel relaxed, and improves your blood circulation. As a result of all these, your sleep gets drastically improved. You can choose from several herbal oils for massage. 
  4. Pranayama- Pranayama is considered to be very important for improving sleep disorders and stress. Several rounds of alternate nostril breathing or “naadi shodhana pranayama” should be undertaken on a regular basis. This is effective for the mind, and calms down your nervous system. You are bound to get deeper, and longer sleep of high quality. 
  5. Practice self-compassion- You wellness and health depend considerably on a balance among your  mind, body and soul. It is important for you to keep away from negative vibes and always try to be present in a positive environment. You should be mindful over who you talk to right before going to sleep. Ideally, you should switch off your mobile, computer, television, and social media activities, two hours before going to sleep. 
  6. Regular exercise- Regular exercise is very important for you to stay healthy and fit physically, which in turn helps you to maintain a healthy state of mind. This is vital for improving sleep disorder and eliminating stress. Keep away from all types of stimulants during the evening so that your sleep is not affected. 

Ayurvedic Herbs for Insomnia

The useful herbs for the treatment of insomnia are:-

  1. Brahmi: It is a powerful brain tonic, which supports and improves all aspects of mental functioning. It is a calming and tranquillising herb. A cup of brahmi tea or powder or any other preparation with brahmi, taken at bedtime, will induce a peaceful sleep and its regular use will help to cure insomnia.
  2. Vacha: (Acorus calamus) has been used in Ayurvedic medicine for the treatment of various ailments, such as epilepsy, headache,insomnia etc. it can be taken along with Amla, Brahmi powder at bed time.
  3. Aswagandha: This is an overall tonic for greater vitality and longevity. It enhances coordination between the mind and senses which, according to Ayurveda, is essential for good sleep. The recommended dose is half teaspoonful of powder taken at night along with sugar+ ghee or warm milk.
  4. Jatamansi: It has been found to increase levels of neurotransmitters like serotonin. It is a sedative, anti-depressant, and anti-epileptic cardio-tonic and is regarded as one of the most effective remedies for neurosis. 
  5. Valerian: Indian valerian, also known as tagar in Hindi, works on the nerve channels by clearing out toxins from the blood, joints, tissues, colon and nerves. Its basic role is to rejuvenate. However, valerian should not be taken on its own. For, it can have a somewhat dulling effect. It is best used as part of some herbal preparation.
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Doctor, How to improve my memory power I have confusions any time how to clear my problem please answer me.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Intend to remember. Remembering well requires that you want to remember. If you have not made a decision to remember what you are reading/studying, you will forget almost immediately. Describe the place where you usually read. (Is it quiet? No TV? No stereo? No talking?) Are you motivated to remember what you read/study? For example, can you give a reason for remembering these ideas: score of the football game directions for "jumping" a dead battery ? when your battery is dead directions for getting to a job interview textbook material for a test Even though you are not interested in the subject you must read about, are you willing to use good reading strategies? Do you preview before you read? Do you ask questions and then read to answer your questions? Don't overload the memory. Seven items is the most our memories can comfortably handle in one bite, but even seven is too much for most people. Your memory prefers to have only three, four, or five things at one time. Therefore, if you need to remember something that has more than four or five items in a group, you will have to break up the group into smaller bites. Understand before you try to remember. If you don't understand something, your memory will have difficulty storing it. Work on understanding before you try to remember. Select the most interesting points. You can't expect to remember everything you read. Select the most important points by looking for answers to questions you have formed. No one can remember everything. If you try to remember every idea, you will probably not remember much of anything. Organize the material to be learned. Your memory works best when the information is organized. Organize first. Use formal or informal outlines or use mapping, and your memory will work for you. You may understand something when you see it, but if your mental filing system isn't working, you may not be able to find the right information when you need it. Relate the ideas to what you already know. Your memory will store new ideas if you relate them to old ideas. Make an association, create a mental picture, or use mnemonic devices to relate unknown information to information you already know. Use mnemonic devices. These memory devices aid memory, but should be simple, clear, and vivid. You remember the unusual, the funny, or both. Rhymes ? This method uses rhyming words to help you remember. Example: "I before E, except after C, or when sounded like A, as in neighbor and weigh." Acronyms ? A word made from the first letters of other words aids memory. Examples: "I. R. Soul" from the 6 strategies for better memory I ? Intend to remember R ? Relate the information S ? Select important ideas O ? Organize the details U ? Understand the ideas L ? Limit the amount "PRELIMINARY" to help police officers remember what steps to follow when called to the scene of a crime P ? Proceed to the scene. R ? Render assistance to the injured. E ? Effect the arrest of the perpetrator. L ? Locate and identify witnesses. I ? Interview complainant and witnesses. M ? Maintain the scene and protect evidence. I ? Interrogate suspects. N ? Note all conditions, events, and remarks. A ? Arrange for collection of evidence. R ? Report the incident fully and accurately. Y ? Yield Responsibility to detectives. Sentences ? Memory sentences are made where the first letters of words in the sentence are the same as the first letters of words that need to be recalled. Examples: "I Remember So Little Unless Organized."- from the first letter of each of the 6 strategies of memory (listed previously). "Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally."- for the order of operations in a math problem (parentheses, exponents, multiplication, division, addition, subtraction). Mnemonic devices are handy when studying for tests, but they should not be used as a substitute for understanding. Test yourself repeatedly. Memorize the material through repeated self-testing. Look at the first item in your notes; then look away and try to repeat it to yourself. After you learn each new item, go back and test yourself on all the previous items. Over learn the material. If you study a subject beyond the time needed for perfect recall, you will increase the length of time that you will remember it. Study before going to bed, but not ON your bed! Study thoroughly the material to be learned. Then go right to sleep without watching a late movie or allowing other activities to interfere with your new learning. Your mind will work to absorb much of the material during the night. In the morning spend a few minutes reviewing to solidly fix the material in your memory.Ask privately if you need help
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I am 29 years old male, I am alcoholic and taking marijuana also, now I am lost my temporary memory, what should I do?

BHARAT JYOTI, MRACGP, INCEPTOR, MD-PhD, MD - Psychiatry, FIPS, Fellow of Academy of General Education (FAGE), DPM, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Bangalore
I am 29 years old male, I am alcoholic and taking marijuana also, now I am lost my temporary memory, what should I do?
You have organic brain disorder relating to abuse of alcohol and marihuana. Stop both. Your memory to recover you need some time to heal. You can start deaddiction process and then you need b complex plus de addiction medication. Kindly consult me if you need help from me. If not consult a de addiction physician in your area
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Is it normal to marry a person who hvin medication of benign multiple sclerosis frm last 5 year, want to known what it is actually and its consequences.

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Speech Therapist, Mumbai
Is it normal to marry a person who hvin medication of benign multiple sclerosis frm last 5 year, want to known what i...
Multiple sclerosis is a neurodegenerative disease where myline covering around brain axons gets damaged. It's a progressive disorder which can affect body functions at various levels and degrees.
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Performance Anxiety

MS- Gynaecology, MBBS
Gynaecologist, Delhi
Performance Anxiety

It is natural to feel anxiety. Repeated exposure and practice are the best way to deal with them. If it taking control over you take help of psychiatrist or psychologist.

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My son is 8 years old. He not speak only says papa mama. new Delhi doctors says my son is totally medical fit nothing any problem. But my son is not speak what's the region please help me and give me good guide line for my son speaking problem.

M.Phill
Psychologist, Chennai
Most often children just need a little more incentive to get them talking 1. Eat something your child loves in their presence with out offering them any. When your child indicates that they would like some, model a more advanced way for them to make the request, whether it is using a sign, a word or a simple phrase. For example, if your child points and grunts to the candy, model the sign for candy then wait and see if your child will imitate the sign candy. If your child simply keeps pointing and grunting take his/her hand and help him make the sign for candy then reward him/her with the candy. 2. Play with something your child loves but don’t offer to share. For instance if your child loves playing with playdough and wants to participate in the fun, you could model the /p/ sound for “please” or “play,” or you could model the signs for please or play. If your child can already say one word model a two word phrase for him/her to imitate like, “play please.” 3. At meal time and snack time give your child bite size portions, rather than dishing up a whole serving for them, then wait for them to request more. If no attempt is made model the sign “more,” help them make the sign, or model the /m/ sound for them to imitate. 4. Limit your child’s access to things like the t. V. Toys, food, or going outside. Set it up so they have to make a request or ask for help to access these things. You may accomplish this by putting favorite things up high or locked up. 5. Play turn-taking games such as rolling the ball back and forth, or pushing a car back and forth. Once your child expects another turn hold the car or ball and wait. Look at him/her expectantly if no sign or verbal request is made, model an appropriate request such as the sign for “ball,” the /b/ sound, the word “ball” or “ball please”… 6. Use tight containers to store things in. When your child indicates he/she wants a cookie you might hand him/her the cookie jar (tightly sealed of course), when he/she can’t open it and hands it back to you make him/her sign open or help. 7. Use wind up toys or other toys that are difficult for kids to operate on their own. Wind up a wind-up toy your child gets a kick out of then hand it to them when they want a turn, wait for them to request help by using the sign or the word to operate the toy. 8. Blow bubbles then screw the lid on tightly and hand it back to your child for their turn. Wait for them to request help with a a sign or a word. Model the sign or word if necessary Consult Speech Pathologist.
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I am 31 years old. Last few days I am facing my body pain, what shall I do? Please advice.

MBBS, cc USG
General Physician, Noida
I am 31 years old. Last few days I am facing my body pain, what shall I do? Please advice.
Hi, This problem may be due to Any medical disease like Anaemia/ Hypoproteinemia/ Thyroid problem/Vit D deficiency Multi mineral and vitamin Deficiency Stress/ anxiety Over exertion (physical and mental) kindly follow advises given below: 1. Take adequate rest 2. Proper diet 3. I recommend you to take Tablet Daily(Nutrilite) after personal consultation this supplement has shown wonderful result Consult me for further management
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I do not smoke weed regular. May be once in a whil but past few days I smoked it 4 times nd I even smoked cigarettes but in 15-20 day I have my medical test for merchant navy. Will it create any problem for me?

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
No, it may not create any problem unless they are checking for weed consumption specifically. But this is a good eye-opener, do not smoke at all for your own good health. In your excitement of something happening you will want to enjoy that moment and will tend to consume more. Anyway, there is the problem of dependence and tolerance levels, which will grow over a period of time for everybody. You must just quit right away for your own good.
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Hi I am 33 years old, DOM -12/2009, in starting days me and my wife were enjoying the sexual life, but after delivery my wife having Zero interest in sex. I am very upset when ever I request her, she refuse it. After so many times if I request her, she agree, now I am very quickly discharge also. I am shame on very self also. Some time I thought I kill my self due to frustration. I having a son his age is 2+. Please advice me what should I do. I am very depress.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Hi I am 33 years old, DOM -12/2009, in starting days me and my wife were enjoying the sexual life, but after delivery...
Some women may get put off by sex after a delivery. You need to be gentle with her and gradually coax her back into sexual union. Anyway since you have probably harassed her and she has finally agreed, I hope it is a permanent solution. If not please visit a marriage counselor and get some help. That person may recommend a sexologist, if necessary. I still advise you to be gentle with her and gradually induce the sexual desire by simple physical contact but approaching the erogenous zones very subtly. If done with unhurried and soft stroking she could be seduced back to those hey days early in your marriage. You can also openly discuss what is happening with her, and discuss these matters with the counselor too. Your discharge will be premature because of the long and forced abstinence but if you do it a second time soon, there will be a delayed discharge and orgasm. Now I do you know, if your wife has ever experienced orgasm, ever? I strongly suspect that she may not have and that she may have been brought many times to that tipping point but left high and dry because you have already had yours by that time! the reason I say this is that if she had, she would have wanted it more and may not have gone off of sex so easily. Now with your early ejaculation, she may never experience sufficient gratification. This is something for you to explore with a sexologist and learn some skillful means of bringing her close to and satisfying her till orgasmic fulfillment. You will have a different spouse altogether, in my opinion. So if you are ashamed for whatever reason, then this is something that will bring a huge blessing to your relationship with your wife to both your satisfaction. If you want to kill yourself for this reason without knowing all the facts, you are certainly not acting like an educated person. Take my advice and go fulfill her and do justice to meet her needs in all respects but especially in the sexual arena! you will want to live much longer with the fine times that are guaranteed ahead!
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I am 28 year old professionally a software engineer I feel that I procrastinate things ,become confuse with spellings while writing. Finds difficulty in continuously speaking and prompt answering. Rate of thought generations seems slow to me as I compared myself with few other people. My attentions wanders from recent tasks and so I take more time for doing things. Overall it reduces my performance at my work place and I have been asked for performance improvement previously at my work place .How I should control and reduce it to improve my performance . Also I want to improve the way of doing things I closely observed successful people from IITS and NITS , and I want to change my living style as like them. Can study of NLP (Neural linguistic programming ) help me ?Please help. I Want to achieve my dreams.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Dear lybrate user, it is excellent to have a dream and it is wonderful to make sincere efforts to achieve the dream. It is also very important to have rational expectations, so that the goal is achievable. Hence, don't look at iitians and nitians. Focus on your dream and understand what skills will be required to achieve that dream, make a systematic plan, have a detailed schedule for each month/week/day and try to do things as per the schedule. Remember that what you do today is going to affect your future. So you will have to make conscious efforts to get rid of your habit of procasination. You probably are under stress and have fatigue. Try to take healthy diet, lots of water, do some exercise, and try to get at least 7 - 8 hours of sleep every day. Stop comparing yourself with others. Every person in this person is unique. There will always be many people who will be better than you and there will be many people who are not as good as yourself. So stop comparing. Always compare your current performance with your previous performance. Try to improve on that, learn new skills. Nlp would be helpful. You may also talk to a counsellor. Take care.
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Dear sir, I have confusion related to ocd. I d't know I am suffering from ocd or not. But seriously from last 1*1/2 years my mind has been diverted in my mental thoughts. A story of thoughts has been created in my mind and yet I am not fine. For my mental issue I must know you my story of last year to till now. I can't explain in few lines or pages .what can I do?

MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Mumbai
Dear lybrate user...OCD is a disorder consisting of various different obsessions and compulsions. Obsessions usually involve ruminating thoughts, cleanliness, based on religious or sexual themes. While compulsions involved are like counting, repeated checking, avoidance behaviors. It requires a detailed interview about the onset, duration and progression of your symptoms as you have mentioned. Kindly get back with a detailed history so that a detailed management plan can be prepared. Take care
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