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Dr. Mani

Psychiatrist, Bangalore

Dr. Mani Psychiatrist, Bangalore
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Generally few days before exams & during exam days I face lot of anxiety and that is generally encountered by medicine name zoffer. The same was prescribed by Md Dr. How can I avoid medicine.

M.S. Counselling and Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Bangalore
Generally few days before exams & during exam days I face lot of anxiety and that is generally encountered by medicin...
The medicine will give you symptomatic relief and the root cause will not get treated. To avoid being very anxious before and during the exams, try the following: 1. Devide the entire syllabus in small parts. Count the number of days you have for studies. Depending on the syllabus and available days, make a time table wherein you will have fixed time for getting up, fixed time for studies, meals, rest and relaxation and fixed time for going to bed. Try to follow this time table. Please note that you must have some time for relaxation - either games, tv or meeting friends etc. 2. Set some goals for yourself e. G. How many marks do you want to score in each subject? - have realistic goal. Try to achieve this goal. 3. Do not compete with others. Try to compete with your own performance every time. 4. If sometimes you cannot achieve your set goals, try to see what went wrong, improve upon that and try harder next time. 5. Just before the exam, sit at one place, close your eyes, take 10 deep breaths slowly and exhale little forcefully. While exhaling, imagine, that your are pushing out all your stress, tension and anxiety. Have faith in yourself. Tell yourself that you have been studying and will try your best in the exams. 6. While answering the question paper, concentrate on your own paper, don't look around. If required take 5 deep breaths and calm your mind. Without thinking about how many marks you will get, try to answer each question to the best of your abilities, within the set time frame. Please remember, that most of the people are anxious before any exam. Some anxiety will be there. But with proper planning before the exam and by following relaxation techniques just before or during the exam you can reduce your anxiety. All the best.
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I am 23 year old and feeling stressful since last month about study. The thought which had come in mind about my capability is overcoming me now and due to over stress my neck pains at backside.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
I am 23 year old and feeling stressful since last month about study. The thought which had come in mind about my capa...
Stress during studies is a common phenomena now a days. What you feel as stress is actually a fear of "not living up to your own expectations" that is you have started predicting the results in a negative way. Always remember you can never predict results, but you can study for a better one. So stop thinking of results. If you still, feel uncomfortable and stressed, do some relaxation exercises. Sleep well. If needed consult a psychiatrist for treatment and counselling so as sto reduce your stress levels.
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Hey I'm 19 years old and goes to university. I'm a little good at math because I don't have to remember long paragraphs in math but the problem is I can't remember long answer that's why I failed in computer fundamentals. I prepared very well at home but in examination hall all the stuff that I had learned suddenly disappear. I can't even write a single sentence. Please tell me how can I improve my memory. And give some tips to study better and learn long paragraphs and remember it. Please help. Thanks.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user, welcome to lybrate. Memory and mind power depends mainly on three aspects. Understanding, storage and recollection. To understand what you are studying, you must be able to be attentive or concentrate. Concentration is possible when you are interested in that subject. Creative way of learning can help you concentrate and understand easily. When you are able to understand and concentrate, it is stored within your brain. If you read more and more it will be store in long term memory. Third part is retrieval. Whenever you want to retrive what you learned and stored, your brain gets the request, searches the database and retrieves the information for you. The retrieval may prove to be difficult if you are anxious, stressed, worried or tired physically or mentally. Retrieval is more easy when you are relaxed and healthy. Brain needs nutrients to keep itself sharp. Fruits, vegetables and dry fruits provide much needed nutrients for your brain. Include at least one fruit in your daily diet. Physical exercises, entertainment, hobbies, relaxation, memory games like sudoku etc help keep your memory sharp and active. Take care.
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I am a vegetarian, 42 yrs old. Being a employee in a corporate office, I would like to look sharp, active and composed and feel & show confidence in my face and body language. Though I eat well, I am not able to maintain what I have described above. What should I do to maintain what I like to?

MBBS, Diploma in Psychological Medicine, MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Conditions such as depression, strssors, thyroid dysfunction, sleep disordors, vitamin def such as B12 could be checked out/ruled out
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How to Build your Self Esteem?

MPhil Clinical Psychology, Masters in Psychology
Psychologist, Gurgaon
How to Build your Self Esteem?

Do you believe that the world is a hostile place and you are a victim? Are you the one who often doubts his or her abilities? If so, you might be showing signs of low self-esteem. Interestingly, self-esteem has nothing do with your actual ability or talent. Your looks, weight or skills are not responsible for your low self esteem. It largely depends upon the fact that how you value yourself.

It has been observed in most cases that self-esteem is often affected by a number of reasons, including ill-health, unpleasant memories from the past, and termination of relationships. Low self-esteem is generally marked in survivors of physical or sexual abuse, victims of racial discrimination or people who have had a traumatic past life.

If you don’t pay attention towards this issue, you might end up developing certain serious mental disorders. Low self-esteem is also the root cause behind the occurrence of mental disorders like borderline personality disorder, depression, etc. However, there is nothing to worry about it. There are certain simple things that are useful in building up your self-esteem.

Here’s all that you need to do to start believing in yourself and be confident about your capabilities:

1. Remember your strong points: Make three separate lists of your strengths; achievements and your qualities that you admire. Take help from your friends, parents and other well-wishers for preparing these lists. These lists will help you in understanding your abilities and goodness. You will be able to believe in your strengths. You must read through these lists at least once daily.

2. Be positive: Optimism and a positive approach towards life are the key to success. Your self-esteem is influenced by the fact that how you look at life. Life is not a bed of roses. It is unavoidable that you will have to face critical situations or problems in life. But, what is important is to face them with courage and a faith in your own abilities. Be positive and stop developing negative thoughts about yourself. Get rid of thoughts like ‘I am a loser’; ‘I can’t get rid of this problem’; etc.

3. Take care of your body: Your outward appearance sometimes works wonders in lifting up your inner-self and spirits. Keep yourself clean, trim your beard or hairs; cut your nails; don’t forget to floss your teeth and maintain overall personal hygiene to develop a feeling of goodness.

4. Sleep well: A good night’s sleep is essential for boosting up your self - esteem.

5. Eat right: A balanced diet is a key to good health. Eating the right food in the right way keeps your mental and physical health all right. Include minerals and vitamins in your regular meals. Avoid distractions like television or radio while taking meals.

6. Exercise: Regular workouts keep you away from mental-ill health.

7. Be cool and comfortable first: When it comes to your dressing, try to put on attires that you can carry well. Wear stuffs that you love the most. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a doctor and ask a free question.

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I am 17 year old .I was scared of teachers .reading books in front of whole class .had less frnds .always felt low when compared with others. I always felt I had no importance in society. I feared of facing school and society .my fear started increasing day by day but then I started overcoming my fear and succeeded many a time but it was temporary it always come back .I started taking drugs before facing any situation or people but the problem was limited up to strangers ,teachers. And public places. But it started haunting when I was with my frnd .even parents .small children .almost everyone .I was helpless at home because I was not able communicate with my parents because of uncontrolled blushing I can't make eye contact with them. I don't know what it is but I will tell my symptoms (1) I feel irrational fear and un comfortable near my nose (2) my only and biggest problem because of this fear I get defenseless ,get offended and embrassed easily when some frnd or someone says something I suddenly feel extreme fear which is out of control and I occur always even I am alone or thinking about the situation. (3) difficult to breath ,and chest pain (4) I never never feel comfort even I am alone that fear and uncomfortable at my nose always are with me sometime it mild I am able to control and sometime it is so extreme that I avoid talking to any one .I feel sudden attacks of fear and I get embrassed and some people even whom I know like my frnd intensely try to scares me by threatening me and I get defenseless and panic attack .I feel like dying because of insults I face by this fear. I have left going out of my house 0 frnds left I am all alone not even my family. (5) I can confidentially say that I am not this fear because sometime when this fear and uncomfortable at my nose goes away for sometime then I feel so relief that I can talk to any one fearlessly ,can talk to girl. (6) I have seen that whenever my attention swift from this fear to some work than I feel little relief and able to complete my breath properly. But for short period (7) I feel that I am not shy but this awkward type of feeling make uncomfortable and terror while facing I need help for something which is unknown for me But I will never give up.

M. Phil
Psychologist, Gurgaon
I am 17 year old .I was scared of teachers .reading books in front of whole class .had less frnds .always felt low wh...
Hello lybrate-user, Your issue is self esteem. You need to work on self esteem, find the root cause of it depleting in you, ask relevant questions to yourself for e.g. Since when is this happening and what happens when this anxiety takes place. You have observed yourself a lot though but you need an intervention of an expert who can help you overcome this scientifically and with confidentiality. Try to bridge the gap between you and your parents this will be a huge help. Drugs are not the answer most certainly and it will only put you behind. Take care
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How to manage the damage of liver by the consumption of alcohol. 20 year i have been drinking.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
How to manage the damage of liver by the consumption of alcohol. 20 year i have been drinking.
Hi, Firstly, QUIT ALCOHOL Try this to manage the damage caused to liver. Eat less carbohydrate Poor diet is the leading cause of fatty liver disease. The biggest offenders are sugar and foods made of white flour; they should be avoided. However, a high intake of carbohydrate rich foods in general can promote fatty liver, as the liver converts any excess carbohydrate into fat. Foods that need to be restricted include bread, pasta, rice, breakfast cereals, cakes, pastry, donuts, biscuits, fries, chips, pretzels (and other similar snack foods) and any food made of flour. Drink less alcohol Excess alcohol consumption is the second biggest cause of fatty liver. Alcohol can cause inflammation and damage to liver cells, resulting in fatty infiltration. People with a fatty liver should limit alcohol consumption to seven standard drinks per week, with at least two alcohol free days per week. Eat more vegetables, protein and the right fats Raw vegetables and fruits are the most powerful liver healing foods. These raw foods help to cleanse and repair the liver filter, so that it can trap and remove more fat and toxins from the bloodstream. Eat an abundance of vegetables (cooked and raw salads) and fresh fruits. Protein is important because it helps to keep the blood sugar level stable, helps with weight loss from the abdomen and reduces hunger and cravings. Protein should be consumed with each meal. Good sources of protein include eggs, poultry, seafood, meat, nuts, seeds, legumes and plain or Greek yogurt and cheeses. Healthy fats to include more of in your diet are found in olive oil, oily fish, coconut oil, flaxseeds, hemp seeds, chia seeds and raw nuts and seeds. Most processed vegetable oils and margarines can worsen a fatty liver. Deep fried foods are also bad for those with a fatty liver. Drink raw vegetable juices – these should be consumed 2 to 3 times a week and 250 to 300 mls (8 to 10 ounces) is adequate. Your juice should be comprised of 90 to 95 percent vegetables, with the remainder comprised of fruit if desired to improve the flavor. Citrus fruits are the most healthy for the liver. Take a good liver tonic to support your liver function.
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I have depression problem, I am taking medicine daxid50 last 40 days, in between I have skipped medicine 4 days, now I am suffering from neck stiffness and backside knees joint stiffness and little pain, is this medicine side effect or something else please plz guide.

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
I have depression problem, I am taking medicine daxid50 last 40 days, in between I have skipped medicine 4 days, now ...
David contains sertraline. The problems you have mentioned are definitely not due to sertarline. At your age this can be due to hormonal issues, deficiency of vitamins and minerals like calcium etc. Consult an endocrinologist for the same.
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Hello Sir,he is a CA in Bangalore, bcoz of his busy schedule & work pressure, his memory power is decreasing day-by-day, kindly suggest some Ayurvedic medicines to boost his memory power, thank you sir, will be waiting for your answer.

M.D. - Ayurveda, Post Graduate Proficiency In Panchakarma, Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS)
Ayurveda,
Narasimha Rasayana (Arya Vaidya Sala, Kottakkal) 1-2 table spoon early morning and at 4: 00 PM empty stomach. (Avoid anything by mouth for one hour after Narasimha Rasayana) Bhrungaraja Ghana Vati 2 tablets (250 mg) Sarswatarishta 4 table spoon mixed with 4 table spoon water after meals Stress management, digestive system problems, sleep problems if any need attention.
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Sir I am facing problem regarding remember of cmcepts, please suggest me how can I improve my learning power?

BHMS
Homeopath,
Dear lybrate user, take homoeopathic anacardium 200, 5 drops, thrice daily, in empty stomach. Also take homoeopathic mother tincture ashwagandha q, 30 drops, thrice daily, after meals, in a cup of water.
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I do smoking on regular basis I want to leave but can not suggest me what step should I take to leave smoking permanently.

BHMS
Homeopath,
Dear lybrate user, you may need a bit of willpower to stop smoking permanently. You could easily abstain yourself from smoking during the initial 2-3 days. But after few days of abstaining from smoking you will feel a strong craving to smoke a cigarette whenever you face any tense situation. Here lies your real test. You will need a lot of willpower to resist that craving & face any tense situation without the help of nicotine. However, you can take homoeopathic mother tincture daphne indica q, 30 drops, thrice daily, after meals, in a cup of water. This medicine will help to reduce your craving for nicotine.
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I am 19 years, my voice will be changing ,sometime thin & low and some time hard & loud why it happens? I want all time one type voice.

BSc - Food Science & Nutrition, PGD in Sports Nutrition and Dietitics
Dietitian/Nutritionist, Mumbai
Hello, Check if you are down with cold or any throat infection. Have warm milk with turmeric with it and gargle with warm water twice a day. Simultaneously, also get your thyroid checked.
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My sister 51 years suffering from an acute situation. Few months back she was identified with esophageal varices and beginning of ulcer. Doctor told me that the cause of the ulcer is coming from her head and it is nothing but her tensions. She is a primary school teacher and got transferred to a new school. What she says that she cannot adjust with the new environment, teaching in english medium, students are not obeying her, cannot take class, cannot value papers, cannot prepare food, cannot dress up properly. Now she is saying that she cannot even prepare rice or tea. E feel a special appearance, do not eat well, getting worser every day. Every time crying without tears. Spent hours in kitchen and come back without doing anything. Our elder sister died due to ovarian cancer 1 years back. Her husband and 3 sons are so frustrated and saying her that go and commit suicide if she cannot do anything. She has his own convictions and when we ask her to consult a doctor she says doctors cannot do anything. They cannot cure. Now she is afraid of doing anything and simply spending time and complaining that she cannot do anything. How can we diagnose the situation.

M.Sc - Applied Psychology, P.G.Dip.in Guidance &Counselling, B.A., Psychology, Dip.in Pharmacy
Psychologist, Theni
My sister 51 years suffering from an acute situation. Few months back she was identified with esophageal varices and ...
Your sister has been undergoing stress disorder which if not checked earlier would lead to psychiatric conditions like anxiety neurosis, depression etc., The first thing I would like to suggest is to withdraw from her job role for a particular period of time. Medical leave for a month or two will be enough. This will give her a relaxation from the overwhelming fear/tension/stress. The second thing is to take her to a psychological counselor who can teach her some relaxation techniques and use some couseling techniques to gradually reduce her irrational fears and other psychological issues and adjustment problems. The most impartant part is that her husband and children are in need of counselling in order to give her emotional support to overcome her problems soon. Find a psychological counsellor asap. Certainly there is a way out.
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I am 23 years old and have problem that I often forget thing where I kept By. I am getting lot of problem because of this.please help me

BHMS
Homeopath, Faridabad
Hello, take Anacardium 30, 5 drops once daily for 10 days. Bacopa monnn. Q, 10 drops with water twice daily. Do meditation for half an hour in the morning daily. revert me after 10 days.Thanks.
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I got failed in an exam last year, from then I am very puzzled and feeling depressed, please help me to get normal.

DHMS (Hons.)
Homeopath, Patna
I got failed in an exam last year, from then I am very puzzled and feeling depressed, please help me to get normal.
Hello, relax! * nothing to b depressed at all, it happens in the life. Restart the game with full zeal and courage, you will win. * go for meditation for 30 mnts, to reduce your depression, stress. * meet to your friends, go to library, garden, without, caring for others. To become a new sandeep who can break the rock. *homoeo=medicine.** @ ignatia 30-6 pills, thrice a day. @ gelsemium 30-6 pills, thricde a day *. Positive thinking, positive action, is the only way to over come your depression and you can do it. Report, weekly. All the best.
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I have no best friend now. My best friend is working another place. So, I feel lonely and my confidence to do my work is losing everywhere. And thus my anxiety and depression rising day by day. What can I do. Pls answer. I am very offended in my life.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
I have no best friend now. My best friend is working another place. So, I feel lonely and my confidence to do my work...
There is now whatsapp and many other social media when distance has no boundaries to friendship. Use them healthily without getting addicted. All the best
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I am a bank employee 25 years of age. For almost a year I have been dealing with Short temper. I become angry at anything easily. I can not bear even a bad word about me. I feel like killing the other person. I started throwing and breaking things away while im angry. Punching and kicking anything that comes before me. I can not even stand people misbehaving with other people that I know. Its becoming lethal day by day. I was not like that. Since the time I came into this job I have turned out to be like this. My blood pressure started to remain high, brain gets drained. Excessive work load, lack of holidays, lack of job satisfaction plays an important role in it. Shall I seek professional help.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Yu have depression and may need antidepressants and try these tips. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression. Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it! and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Anger is among the gamut of emotions we exhibit as a reaction to a situation, and it is a 'normal' emotion too as long as it is kept under control. Some people have the propensity to explode when pushed to the extreme. They keep swallowing their emotions until they can finally do it no more, and erupt like a volcano. Others dealing with extreme anger are like a ticking time bomb. You'll never know what you unwittingly say or do can trigger an explosion. In either case, anger that cannot be controlled comes with a physical reaction. Your heart beats faster preparing you for both action and reaction. Your breathing quickens. You may clench your fist, tighten your shoulders and go into a defensive position. The problem arises out of the fact that it is almost impossible to feel anger and empathy at the same time. An angry person is seldom sensitive to the wellbeing of his victim, and hence may lash out verbally and sometimes physically. Such things done in the heat of the moment mostly leaves us with regrets. So here are a few ways to deal with extreme anger. 1.Approve it / Acknowledge it: The first step in solving a problem is recognizing that you have one. The fundamental problem here is that people believe they are on the right track and refuse to budge from their views. It is essential to realize that this step is not about deciding whether you are right or wrong, but acknowledging the fact that your reaction to the situation can be channelled in a better way. When getting someone to acknowledge their anger problem, be careful as to not use negative words like wrong, false and shouldn't. Instead, influence with positive words like can and should. Instead of saying 'You are wrong to react like this' you can say, 'I understand what you are feeling. Is there a way we can resolve this situation? 2.Understand / recognize the signs: Once you know that your problems exist, you can try devising ways that will work for you in dealing with the situation. You can count to 100 to calm yourself or simply decide to not speak until you can calm yourself. Knowing that you may enter into an argument in a situation, you can list down the points that you feel strongly about and discuss each of them one by one. Working your way through a finite list gives a better opportunity to reach closure at the end. 3.Free the mind/Find ways to let it go: Not all arguments end in closure. A lot of unsaid justifications cloud our mind repeatedly leaving us seething from the inside. Research has shown that the normal or neurological anger response lasts less than two seconds. Beyond that it takes a strong will to stay angry. Once you realize how much your anger is consuming your mind, decide to free your mind with meditation and other calming exercises. Tell yourself that some people and issues simply don't deserve your anger, emotion, reaction or time. If you or someone you know is suffering from anger management issues, consult a doctor today. Anger is good. It protects you. But intense, uncontrolled anger may destroy valuable relationships. Anger is a result of anxiety and fear. When we assume that our expectations will not be met, we become anxious. When we feel unsure about our own capabilities we become anxious. This anxiety creates fear. Anxiety comes from our beliefs. All beliefs can be modified. Anger has lots of energy. Avoid arguments/confrontations when you are very angry. When you are very angry you are likely to use rough language which may damage your relations and you are likely to behave impulsively. All this you might regret later on. Following are a few techniques which will help you to manage your anger in difficult situations: 1.Sit down and have a glass of water, slowly. This will help you to calm down a little. 2.Avoid or go away from that room or situation. Tell the people concerned, that you are angry and would like to discuss it some other time. 3.Deep breathing exercises help a lot. Close your eyes, take 10 deep breaths, turn your attention towards your body. See what is happening to your body. Tell your body muscles to relax. If your heart is beating fast, if you are breathing fast, continue deep breathing, till it normalises. 4.Now understand what is making you angry. Understand your own anxiety and fear related to the issue. 5.Let the other person know how you are “feeling”. Start your statements, “I feel hurt/insulted/let down/neglected etc. When you do this”, instead of saying “You hurt/neglect me”. When you express your feeling in this manner, the other person does not feel blamed, which makes the other person more receptive. 6.Focus on the current issue, don’t bring in past situations. 7.Tell the other person, what you want or expect, instead of telling what you do not want. E.G. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to go out now”, say “I would like you to stay at home today”. 8.Listen carefully what the other person wants to tell you. Give others a chance to voice their opinions. 9.Make an eye contact and be firm but polite while communicating your point of view. 10.Understand everyone’s responsibility in the situation. Try to see, what is your share in the problematic situation? Work on that. 11.Understand what change you want. 12.Have realistic expectations from others and also from yourself. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult me by clicking consult option FrustrationLife is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. Internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax, "calm down" or "take it easy. Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
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I have got an anxiety of being suffer from rabbies. I read about it a lot in internet. Every morning I woke up fearing from fear of water. Every moment I spent thinking what would happen if I get rabbies' and this kind of thought .How could I get relief? actually I touch saliva of nilgai in a zoo. No open wound must'nt present on my hand at that time. But not able to convince myself.

M.PHIL - CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY, MA - CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGY
Psychologist, Delhi
I have got an anxiety of being suffer from rabbies. I read about it a lot in internet. Every morning I woke up fearin...
What you are experiencing is called illness anxiety and may take the form of a disorder called hypochondriasis. In this disirder, a person may feel fear or anxiety of getting a disease without any basis. Like in your case too. You need to think rationally that touching saliva may not cause rabies. Fear of disease has occupied your thoughts. For that you need to see how rabies is spread. Then you will understand where you are mistaken. This knowledge will help you to reconsider your beliefs and help you in relieving fear. You need to just start believing that your idea of disease may be wrong and without basis. Only then you will b able to see the contradictory evidence. Otherwise you will always try to reassure yourself of having a disease.
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I am feeling very depressed. All environment whether college or Home or anything else I just feel bad. So there is not a place where I am not under the scrutiny of people. I feel like Someone is Always Watching me. I am constantly anxious. Not a single place is there where I am not tensed. Whether it's eating or listening or driving or whatever. Be it motivational videos, Funny videos, waking up from sleep, music I feel OK for some time but I myself know that this is going to be over. What should I do doctor to have this effect over and be normalized. My parents, few Relatives, Some batch mates and unknown people all aggravate this problem. I am having some sort of ocd and all above mentioned people enjoy it .But I can tackle it. I will undoubtedly 100% follow your instructions.

Masters in Clinical Psychology, Rehabilitation Psychology
Psychologist, Faridabad
I am feeling very depressed. All environment whether college or Home or anything else I just feel bad. So there is no...
Dear lybrate-user, as per details mentioned suggest you to meet a psychiatrist to rule out any medical issue. If yes, then proper medicines can help in a great way in reducing your symptoms. In case medical problem is ruled out, suggest to meet a psychologist preferably a clinical. Hypnotherapist who can help in your coping with the situations and gaining a positive view of your life. You can send me a private message for same after being evaluated by a psychiatrist.
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My age is 40 and my problem is that thoughts stuck in my mind. I think on past events again and again till it is confirmed that what actually happened. My doctor advised me to take paxidep 12.5 cr .Is it helpful? Even if a thought is useless it makes me think again and again, I don't know how to cure this. If there is any medicine plss recommend.

Ph.D - Ph.D in Psychology, Ph. D - Education
Psychologist, Kakinada
My age is 40 and my problem is that thoughts stuck in my mind. I think on past events again and again till it is conf...
Thinking is an inborn ability. Till your mind finds the right answer you will not be in peace. Take a paper and pencil nd write down the problem and all the aspects that is bothering you. Then try to find remedies for each cause. You will be fine.
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