Dr. Mallika Raghavendra

At this age having sexual fantasies are not uncommon. Aapko yeh dekh Na hai kya sexual thoughts aap ka rojana jindegi me baaki kaam kar ne se interest nahin mil raha hai.

Dear Lybrate user, At your age, Memory problems like amnesia are not common. Many young people are having problems with memory. These problems are either they are too busy or due to anxiety and stress. Busy people use organizers or employ a personal assistant because they can't remember every task. You need to understand this. If you still say, you are having memory problems, we need to check your memory using memory test. If you want more of my help in this regard, please contact me. Take care.

Dear, this is the fate of many young married girls across india. And therefore it is quite common. Being common is your motivation. You cannot change your mother in law. Instead, love your husband and do not complain about mother in law to your husband. If you do so, you will get the support of your husband. Understand the situation and get positive motivation from helpless compulsion. Take care.

This is a strange paradox: the people you think you are close to are actually ignoring you. But it is not unique to you alone. Those people who suffer from a rejection issue find themselves in this predicament. Find out why these people are neglecting you. Are you doing something to cause this? there must be a way you behave or present yourself that they are choosing to neglect you. Once you have identified that, change that behavior in you. Before you do so ask yourself, do you love yourself first of all? I suspect that there may be a problem of self-acceptance and self-love. If you don? t love yourself, then you may depend on others too much for the love you need. Inevitably, they will reject you or at least neglect you. You could be suffering from the rejection issue from which all these outcomes will be activated. This is how social priorities are normally set: first you love god, then yourself sufficiently, and then others. If you are full of appropriate love, you will attract others? love by default. As easy as that! you are right, you cannot afford to be ignored by society. But like I said, start with yourself, first.

I believe there may be some genetic predisposition or there has been some childhood issue, related to anger, that needs urgent attention. You must go and meet with a counselor immediately and if that person advises that you meet with a doctor you must do so and cooperate to your utmost. Please visit these professionals along with your parents. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least, 30 minutes but not in the scorching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive every day and learn to be contented with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.

It is better to ahve help as you said and try controlling by yourself with medication and yoga. Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression." Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it!" and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "calm down" or "take it easy." Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.

Please take Dr. Reckeweg's vita c - 15 / two teaspoon thrice a day for one month. Revert back after one month with feedback.

For increase the stamina of body you can do yoga or exercise and for increase the mind sharpness you can do some brain exercise also. Give your brain a healthy workout by learning some thing odd or you want to learn it. You can learn to play any musical instrument, a new language, playing chess, any dance style or you can play some brain games. It will help you to increase your mind power. If you want to take any help from us you can contact us.

"Wondering how will you ever clear that ever growing task list at work or the one at home? Wondering why you are unable to focus and get it all done ? Here are reasons why you might not be able to concentrate.

1) Multitasking: Multitasking is a myth. Everything that you want to do needs your extended focus to bring it to completion. While we might feel we can do many things and achieve a lot within a stipulated time, what we don't realize is that we lose time switching between tasks particularly when the tasks are new or complex. It takes a while to go back to where you left something off. Try avoiding it.

2) Getting bored: You tend to get easily distracted when you are on a dull task. It is difficult to focus if you are not interested in what you are doing.When you are bored, everything else is more appealing. There are two ways to beat it. One, you can bribe yourself into reaching a certain milestone by keeping a reward at the end of it. Two - schedule breaks. It will ensure that you will be refreshed.

3) Living in the past or future: We cannot focus on the present if we keep revisiting what somebody did in the past or do not stop worrying about an event that hasn't even occurred yet. These mental distractions cannot be pinned but take a lot of our bandwidth. They don't let us concentrate. Best way is to make conscious effort at dismissing such thoughts. Training yourself to meditate is also a way out.

4) Gadget addiction: You guessed it right. The biggest distraction of our times is your mobile phone, with all the apps and the blessed 'social media' which was conceived to distract. The urge to respond to that text, post, tweet or email never lets you stay focused. You can beat the electronic interruptions by being strict with yourself. Discipline yourself to check the updates every couple of hours or so.

5) Tiredness: Long hours of work or lack of sleep impairs attention and ability to focus. You start dragging yourself through the day without accomplishing much. Getting at least seven hours of sleep will go a long way toward improving your focus during the day.

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What is ur fear that has to be specfic or grneralize,what is rootcause,then the solution can be given

Apart from symptomatic treatment and ongoing medication I will suggest for your mom to take tablet folvite once a day for six months.

Hello lybrate-user, went through your post and can imagine your plight for the last 20 days. Still I do not know how old are you and are you married. You were exposed to unprotected sex some 7 months ago. What circumstances made you get the test done now. However it does not take 20 says to get the result. Still you may be having some anxiety about the test result and and whether what if you still have hiv. Inspite of obtaing a safe result your persistent symptoms suggest adjustment disorder due to the fear of hiv. I think you need treatment for mixed anxiety and depressive disorder. Better consult a psychiatrist to clarify further doubts and for treatment.

Take Nux Vom 30C one dose now and then from tomorrow start taking Cosmos 30 3 doses daily for 2 weeks. You will definitely start feeling relief from today itself. For any more further queries, please let me know. Take care. :) And yes, whenever you feel stressed, just take 12-15 deep breaths, this will relieve all your stress.

Kindly consult a psychiatrist immediately. She needs proper counseling as she is suffering from some anxieties and paranoia. Do it immediately. There is nothing wrong in visiting a psychiatrist.

Dear friend you are suffering from inferiority complex and depressive thoughts. It is common in your age. Everyone feel that I have only problems others are not. But others also have same type of thinking. So it is common psychological feelings. Feel always confident praising others it will not give any benefit to us, do and feel always your positive points. Friends love your specific qualities better to develop your specific qualities everyone comes to you and praise your importance. Do not waste your time for thinking about others. Think about yourself. Take further steps to develop your self. Feel and enjoy the every movement of life. Best of luck.

If your diagnosis is right, ie msa c, please take second opinion from neurologist. It is bit difficult to treat this illness.

Hello mam. You must contact your doctor without a delay as your condition needs re-evaluation and maybe, your medicines need to be continued. If you want to reduce or stop your medication, it must be done under guidance of your doctor only, as unsupervised change of medication is always harmful. Please take care.

Dear lybrate user, you must be quiet tired and frustrated if you are not able to sleep for 2 - 3 days/night. Sometimes the mind keeps working without break and hence affects the body. Your lack of sleep may be a result of something going on in your mind. Probably you are not aware of it or may be you are unable to express it with someone you can trust. The allopathy medicines will give you only symptomatic relief but will not treat the root cause. Hence, please talk to a counsellor who will help you to understand what is going on in your mind and how you can manage your emotions. Take care.