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Dr. Anand Thakker

Psychiatrist, Ahmedabad

Dr. Anand Thakker Psychiatrist, Ahmedabad
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Dr. Anand Thakker is one of the best Psychiatrists in Mehamdabad, Ahmedabad. You can visit him at Satram Phsyotherapist Centar in Mehamdabad, Ahmedabad. Don’t wait in a queue, book an instant appointment online with Dr. Anand Thakker on Lybrate.com.

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Hi my friend has shared his problem with me. He is a porn addictive and masturbate daily while watching porn. He is getting married in 2 months and he is very scared. He is unable to quit this habit. Feels pain in penis after masturbation. He is afraid that he will not be able to have better sex life and thinks that he will not be able to satisfy his partner and himself. He is not getting proper erection and also feels that his penis sensitive has decreased a lot. This is affecting his social and personal life. He is closed to 30 years now. He is also being treated for insomnia which has started almost 16 months back. He has to take a sleeping pill every night before going to bed as directed by neurologist. Please help and advise. Thanks.

Masters in Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Lucknow
Hi, It's not about how often you masturbate, it's about how it affects your life. If you think about it constantly, avoid activities so you can masturbate instead, or chafe your genitals, it's become a problem. But if you can fit your masturbation into a healthy life, there's no limit you need to stay under. Here are few things he can do: Do exercise daily in the evening, this will make you tired at night. And since masturbation is often done at night, so when you are exhausted, you will give preference to sleep not to masturbation. Avoid sitting on your bed. Use a table/chair, and always sit with other people. When the urge is very intense take a cold shower! It is not only shown to calm the mind but have many other benefits to overall health and energy. Think about your family or anyone else and if they were watching you. When you feel the need to masturbate, take a brisk walk or jog. Always try to occupy yourself when the urge arises. Exercise more and get out of the house. This is a great way to take your mind off everything. Motivate yourself by reminding yourself that abstaining will increase sexual performance, because if you don't do it as much you will have more energy and be more easily aroused when you have sex with someone, whoever it may be, and also you will have a stronger orgasm since you are less desensitized to the feeling. For optimum hormone levels, keep masturbation to no more than once a week. Studies in men have shown that not masturbating for up to a week slightly increases testosterone, after this it goes back down. Take your mind off it with (non-sexual) music. Set tiny goals for yourself, start with going three days clean, the third day is the speed bump, get past that and you know that you're committed. Then go a week, then 10 days, then two weeks, then 17 days, etc. Try fasting. Abstain from food or drink in a few hours everyday can distract your mind from sexual urge. Fasting will also act as a diet from stimulating food or drink for a certain period. If you do it regularly you will have better control upon your urge. Not to worry is must. If he keeps worrying about his performance he will have performance anxiety and not perform well as a result of anxiety which will reinforce his belief. Tell him to start doing some meditation and be in control of his thoughts and anxiety. consult for query
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Sir I want to know that for my stammering problem I want to done my mri brain and eeg test. Someone can tell me how much it would cost to me and what I have to do after that. Please your advice is so much valuable for me.

D.H.L.S, B.A.S.L.P, M.A, B.Ed .SE . ( H.I )
Speech Therapist, Delhi
Advice ;- properly speech and language assessment by speech therapist Breathing exercise by different types air.
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takes hukkah once a month. I feel that he is not doing the right thing. Its harmful to his health. Please tell some health hazards keeping in mind that his consumption level.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear lybrate user. Taking hukkah once in a month may not harm his health. You can discourage him from smoking hukkah. But there is nothing to worry about health. Take care.
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Hi. I am 27 years old girl. I have a friend. 10 years of friendship. I am very much possessive on her. And she too on me. But these days past 4 months. She has got other close friend. She is talking and spending more time with her. I can not tolerate the pain. My heart palpitate when I think of the two. Not able to do my regular work even. Always tears on my eyes when I think of them. I want to forget her. Or I need her. What can I do. Please help me. I am dying.

M.Sc - Psychological Counseling, B.A ( Hons) - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
Dear lybrate-user, I am sorry to learn about your situation. Well, it is beyond our control whether a person will stay in our lives or not. Please don't worry. Give yourself some time. In 3 months time it will not hurt so much and in 6 months time you will feel much much better. Some wise person once said" if you love someone truly set them free, if they are your's they will come back to you, if they don't they were never yours. In setting others free we set ourselves also free. Don't be sad about your friend having another friend. Think about the beautiful memories you have with her, smile and wish well for her. Engage in activities like singing, listening to music, reading poetry, writing your thoughts or poems, making painting, drawing, coloring, stitching, knitting, dancing- whatever you like. Doing any of these activities has therapeutic value. Once again, don't worry and please focus over doing things you like to do. You will feel better, soon.
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Is Your Child Under Stress?

BHMS, C.S.D.(Skin Diseases), M.D.(Medicine), M.Sc. in Counselling and Psychotherapy
Homeopath, Delhi
Is Your Child Under Stress?

Is your child irritable? Not eating well or under performing at school?

Relax! Losing your mind and temper won't help. 

There are chances that your child is under stress and needs your support during this testing time. Let's gain better understanding of the problem as a mature step towards positive parenting.

Stress, either intrinsic or extrinsic, can affect your child as easily as it may affect you. There are several causes as to why your child may also be stress-laden even at such a tender age. As pre-schoolers, the major cause for stress stems from anxiety of leaving their parents and spending long hours in an external environment. As a child grows up, further causes of stress may include:

  1. Overwhelming schedule due to large number of academic and extra-curricular activities
  2. High expectations of parents and pressure to perform
  3. Lifestyle or status associated peer-pressure
  4. Conflict between parents / domestic violence / Divorce of parents
  5. Moving to new town or city
  6. Serious illness
  7. Physiological changes during puberty
  8. Worry about getting along with friends

Warning signals that your child is under stress:

  1. Aggression: Children are prone to a high number of aggressive outbursts as they are not as much in control of their emotions as adults are. They may often react with physical aggression (biting, kicking, or hitting) or verbal aggression (screaming or abusing). This can, however, be curbed in a number of ways such as setting firm and consistent limits, and avoiding instilling in them the idea of 'toughness'.
  2. Bed wetting: Though stress and anxiety may not be essential causes that lead to the advent of bedwetting in children, it often accentuates the same. You should reassure your child that you are not angry when he/she has an accident and see the doctor to rule out any other medical causes.
  3. Hyperactive behavior: When children can't handle stress, they release negative energy. Having temper tantrums, running away, or constantly being disobedient are ways to alert adults that there is a problem. Help your child burn off energy in a positive, calming way. Deep breathing exercises, listening to soothing music, stretching, or yoga help.
  4. Withdrawal: Social withdrawal and being frequently moody or irritable can often arise from high levels of stress, social fear and anxiety in children. Offer plenty of positive attention and speak to your child's teacher if you suspect he/she is having trouble with friends at school.
  5. Eating and sleeping disorders: If your child is sleeping less or sleeping more than usual, then it might be an indication that something is not right with your child. Likewise, if there is any change in eating pattern which you find abnormal, then it indicates trouble. This may often stem from stress or anxiety-related issues and hamper the proper growth and nutrient intake in a growing child.

How you can you help your child?  

There are several things you can do to help your child work through his/her problems when it comes to combating stress and anxiety. These include: 

  1. Have friendly relation with kids so that they feel free to share their problems/ feelings. Kids generally hide things out of fear. Motivate them to express and share their worries. 
  2. Try to understand the cause of the stress. Talk about their fears and apprehensions. Make them feel they are understood. 
  3. Do not force them to sleep or eat. Encourage to eat well and sleep in time.
  4. The child should be encouraged to indulge in some physical activities like walk/ jog/sports and relaxation exercises like deep breathing/meditation 
  5. Avoid burdening them with studies and co-curricula activities. Identify their abilities and interest and respect individual limitations. Don't burden them with your expectations. 
  6. There should be sufficient breaks in between studies for rejuvenation. It motivates and enhances productivity.
  7. Avoid demeaning/insulting remarks. Avoid comparisons with other kids.
  8. Avoid negative reactions like scolding/sarcasm/shouting/beating. Teach the child appropriate ways of managing emotions like open communication, sharing state of mind with peers and parents and appropriate anger management techniques.
  9. You should also talk to teachers and peers if you suspect any problem at school and find a solution through their help.
  10. Teach the child about time management. Let them know how to prioritize work according to importance and urgency of task.
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My body pains a lot and there is lot of heat in body due to which more sweat comes out.

PG Diploma in Emergency Medicine Services (PGDEMS), Bachelor of Ayurveda, Medicine and Surgery (BAMS), MD - Alternate Medicine
Ayurveda, Ghaziabad
Take pranacharya allergin capsule 1-1 twice a day. And pranacharya sheetal syrup 2-2 tsf twice a day. Avoid tea. Coffee. Junk food. Spicy food. Fermented food. Walk for atleast 30 minutes a day. Do pranayama early morning. Avoid alcohol consumption. Drink 8-10 glasses of water per day.
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I am 20 years old and I have amenorrhea from puberty and now I have memory loss and blurred vision and depression i am feeling lazy and uncontrolled I am mentally disturbed please help me out.

B.Sc(Hons) Mumbai Univ., ND, MD - Alternate Medicine, Aroma Therap., Bach Flower Rem, Mental Health Cert.
Alternative Medicine Specialist, Mumbai
Hi I will prescribe some harmless but effective flower remedy. The medicine you use should be Original. I supply original Swiss medicines for which I take only Medicine and Courier charge. If you want you can contact me in my website of Lybrate for medicines. Mix 3 drops of Aspen+ 3 drops of Mimulus + 3 drops of Cherry plum + 3 drops of Scleranthus + 3 drops of Mustard. Mix these with 100 ml water and drink it every morning and night.(same dose) on empty stomach. If problem continues consult me online.
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I used to drink more alcohol how to avoid drinking alcohol? And my inside of mouth is suffering with pimples. Side of my stomach was paining, what shall I do? Please advice.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Go for a complete medical check up with a physician. If you think that you will find it very difficult, then admit yourself to a hospital and go for de-addiction: which normally lasts for about two weeks. Then follow that up with addiction counseling from a professional for at least three years to completely get rid of the habit. If this is also not enough, then admit yourself into a de-addiction center and stay there for at least 6 months and after that attend counseling with a professional. There are medicines that help with the drinking just to ease the initial craving, called antabuse. It has to be taken regularly and even a minor consumption of alcohol (like in cough syrups), accidentally or otherwise, will lead to reactions, sometimes requiring hospitalization. Ultimately, it is your will power and the support that you receive from the medical fraternity and your close and dear ones. You must also learn to substitute and deal with the oral need, a rigid value system, the script issue, and of course look at all the genetic factors to plan a strategy not to get into what is called ‘cross addictions’ i.e. another form of addiction that may appear alright but is in fact as bad as the primary addiction. The center or hospital and the counselor will advise and guide y ou on several measures and precautions you will need to take to stay with your resolve. Even after the rehabilitation you must attend AA meetings and continue this support for a long time. Your family will also need to attend some sessions and go for Al-anon meetings for their co-dependency issues. You cannot be treated in isolation because the family has gotten used to your drinking and have made some unhealthy adaptations to somehow cope. Your children will also have to attend meetings to work out their issues because of your habit. In fact, they are all suffering from the Adult Children Of Alcoholics Syndrome (ACOAs), which in effect means that they are genetically predisposed to alcoholism or can have cross addiction problems and they will have similar traits of the abusing alcoholic but in a milder form. There are special support groups for them all over the world. Should they touch or indulge in alcohol or any addictive substances or behaviors, they could also become full-fledged addicts themselves. Make a serious plan with the wife and children and whoever else’s support you can get and act on it fast.
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Pagal ho rha hu bas sochte rhta hu aur nind ni aati ha. Ganja pine se.Please tell.

MBBS
General Physician, Cuttack
You need a psychiatric examination. Consult psychiatrist/psychological counselor for advice and treatment.
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I am 26, male. My problem is comparing to others and deep thinking. Afraiding of crackers. How should I avoid these. Please help me doctor.

MBBS
General Physician, Mumbai
Know who you are, Be who you are! In this way you won't be envious to compare self with others. The crackers of keeping mind and heart busy are much better than outdoor crackers, so so when you keep yourself engaged in service then automatically the crackers won't disturb you.
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I am 24th year old have memory loss issue some time before 2 month. What should I do.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You need to look back two months ago to see what might have happened to stress you. Natural concentration is when the mind can hold a thought for a long time, when thoughts are under our own control. Without concentration the mind goes here, there and everywhere, jumping like a monkey from branch to branch, idea to idea. When there is a natural concentration, we can control our mind and there is peace. This one-pointed concentration on a thought, holding it for as long as we like, gradually collects strength in the mind and in the self. A strong mind is a mind that is peaceful, stable, satisfied and can remain in the deeper meaning of a thought. There is no waste caused by over-thinking, or the high speed of thought: These are the two greatest diseases of the mind these days, which is why there is so much stress and mental breakdown. Stress can foil concentration and learning ability. Although concentration is different to memory, they can affect each other. Concentration precedes memory. If you are under stress your concentration will go for a toss, then naturally memory will be totally foiled. So meet with a counselor to take care of the stress and your memory will happily return. You can follow these simple rules in the meantime: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine.
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My sister has been under medication for the last 15 years and changing the doctors for every three to five years. But there is no improvement. All of a sudden become furious and talks illogically not having connection and scolds either her husband or mother or someone she hates for that moment with all abusive language and continues the said attitude for day or two and thereafter she behaves as if nothing is happend. Whether it can be cured or not

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Is someone monitoring her medication? If she is not taking her dosage as it is meant to be, she will have these relapses. You don?t mention a diagnosis so it is difficult to answer your question about cure. It is also ill-advised to change doctors so often. It is alright to go for alternative consultation and only if the opinion differs drastically with reasons to back that difference, will you need to change doctors. My biggest concern is whether she has been availing therapy alongside the medication. I suspect that that is not the case. In which case, I am not surprised by these developments. Kindly get her to a professional for intense therapy. In case this behavior should continue and it becomes unbearable, she may have to get some ECTs done. I am sure the psychiatrists will consider this as a last option. Please keep the doctor notified of these developments as and when it happens.
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Symptoms of depression? And states how to cure it? When the symptoms are visible.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
Symptoms of depression in women include: • Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood. • Loss of interest or pleasure in activities, including sex. • Restlessness, irritability, or excessive crying. • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, hopelessness, pessimism. • Sleeping too much or too little, early-morning awakening. Depression in women differs from depression in men in several ways: • Depression in women may occur earlier, last longer, be more likely to reoccur, be more likely to be associated with stressful life events, and be more sensitive to seasonal changes • Women are more likely to experience guilty feelings and attempt suicide, although they actually commit suicide less often than men • Depression in women is more likely to be associated with anxiety disorders, especially panic and phobic symptoms, and eating disorders • Depressed women are less likely to abuse alcohol and other drugs • Symptoms of depression in MEN include: • Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" mood. • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism. • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness. • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities that were once enjoyed, including sex. • Decreased energy, fatigue, being "slowed down" If you feel depressed, it's best to do something about it — depression doesn't just go away on its own. In addition to getting help from a doctor or therapist, here are 5 things you can do to feel better. 1. Exercise. Take a 15- to 30-minute brisk walk every day — or dance, jog, or bike if you prefer. People who are depressed may not feel much like being active. In addition to getting aerobic exercise, some yoga poses can help relieve feelings of depression. Two other aspects of yoga — breathing exercises and meditation — can also help people with depression feel better. 2. Nurture yourself with good nutrition. Depression can affect appetite. One person may not feel like eating at all, but another might overeat.. Proper nutrition can influence a person's mood and energy. So eat plenty of fruits and vegetables and get regular meals (even if you don't feel hungry, try to eat something light, like a piece of fruit, to keep you going). 3. Identify troubles, but don't dwell on them. Try to identify any situations that have contributed to your depression. When you know what's got you feeling blue and why, talk about it with a caring friend. Talking is a way to release the feelings and to receive some understanding. 4. Express yourself. With depression, a person's creativity and sense of fun may seem blocked. Exercise your imagination (painting, drawing, doodling, sewing, writing, dancing, composing music, etc.) and you not only get those creative juices flowing, you also loosen up some positive emotions. Take time to play with a friend or a pet, or do something fun for yourself. Find something to laugh about — a funny movie, perhaps. Laughter helps lighten your mood. 5.Try to notice good things. Depression affects a person's thoughts, making everything seem dismal, negative, and hopeless. If depression has you noticing only the negative, make an effort to notice the good things in life. Try to notice one thing, then try to think of one more. Consider your strengths, gifts, or blessings. Most of all, don't forget to be patient with yourself. Depression takes time to heal. If you are happy with these answers please click on "useful” link so that I can know my efforts are not wasted. If you want more clarifications please ask me directly and not in open questions session
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As Naksha is my friend she get headache when she's exposed to Sun for much time and that lasts for long time and she's going into a depression that what's happening to me why I am getting weaker she's afraid of doctors and she has eye sight and she's using spectacles can I know the reason she gets headache regularly when she gets exposed to sun.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
Put a hat on her head, sunglasses and cover her face and body with cloth, while going out in Sun. Make her drink 1 litre of water before going out in sun. Get her thyroid function test (fasting) and electrolytes during the headache, if cause found treat. All the best.
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Hypnotherapist, DCS, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, Advanced Skills in Counselling
Psychologist,
MISUNDERSTANDINGS AND ARGUMENTS? CHANGE THEM INTO FLOWING CONVERSATION
Conflicts and misunderstandings occur at all levels of interaction – at work, among friends, within families and between relationship partners. When conflict occurs, the relationship may be weakened or strengthened. Thus, conflict is a critical event in the course of a relationship. Arguments and misunderstandings can cause resentment, hostility and perhaps the ending of the relationship. If it is handled well, however, it can be productive – leading to deeper understanding, mutual respect and closeness. The health of any relationship is gauged by how the conflicts are resolved, rather than the number of conflicts between the participants.
Conflicts run all the way from minor, unimportant differences to disputes which can threaten the existence of a relationship. Conflicts with a loved one or a long-term friend are, of course, different from negotiating with someone who does not care about your needs, like a stranger or a salesperson.

Principles that underscores all successful conflict resolution.
1. Both parties must view their conflict as a problem to be solved together so that both parties have the feeling of winning.
2. Each person must participate actively in the resolution and make an effort and commitment to find answers which are as fair as possible to both.

We may get so caught up with our own immediate interests that we damage our relationships. If we disregard the position of the other person, if fear and power are used to win, or if we always have to get our own way, the other person will feel hurt and the relationship may be wounded. Similarly, if we always surrender just to avoid conflict, we give the message to the other person that it is acceptable to be bullied and our needs don’t matter. Our feeling of self-worth suffers, resentment surfaces, and we feel frustrated in the relationship. Instead, it is healthier if both parties can remain open, honest, assertive and respectful of the other position. Mutual trust and respect, as well as a positive, constructive attitude, are fundamental necessities in relationships that matter.

SOME EFFECTIVE STRATEGIES TO HOLD EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATIONS:
1. INITIAL AGREEMENT: The other person may be very angry with you and may be having loads of evidence to prove himself right. At that time, instead of arguing your position, simply agree at that time because there will be a grain of truth if nothing else. This doesn’t mean that you are giving up your values and principles. Sometimes its important to diffuse the emotional charge before working out on the differences. Sometimes its ok to “lose” individually in order to “win” together in the end.
2. EMPATHY: Sometimes putting yourself in the other persons shoes and seeing the problem from their perspective helps build bridges. You could say,” I feel that you must be very upset with me for behaving like that with you, I should have been more considerate”. Half the battle is won and the other participant feels validated and will be more willing to listen to your tale of woes more amicably.
3. ASK QUESTIONS: When you ask questions, it shows that you care and are interested to resolve the problem at hand. Please note that while asking questions, be watchful of your words and tone. Asking exploratory questions about the other persons thoughts and feelings rather than probing and insulting questions can take you miles on the way to effective resolution. For eg. “Is there anything that you would like me to know about this problem”?
4. USING “I” STATEMENTS: Take responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings rather than blaming the other person for making you feel like that. This decreases the chance that the other person will become defensive. For example, “I feel pretty upset that this thing has come between us.” This statement is much more effective than saying, “You have made me feel very upset.”
5. COMPLIMENTS: Find something nice and genuine to say about the other person, even if the other is angry with you. Show a respectful attitude. For example, “I genuinely respect you for having the courage to bring this problem to me. I admire your strength and your caring attitude.”

A RATIONAL APPROACH TO RESOLVING CONFLICTS:
Here is a model that may help in resolving interpersonal conflicts.
1. Identify the Problem. Have a discussion to understand both sides of the problem. The goal at this initial stage is to say what you want and to listen to what the other person wants. Define the things that you both agree on, as well as the ideas that have caused the disagreement. It is important to listen actively to what the other is saying, use “I” statements and avoid blame.
2. Come Up With Several Possible Solutions. This is the brainstorming phase. Drawing on the points that you both agree on and your shared goals, generate a list of as many ideas as you can for solving the problem, regardless of how feasible they might be. Aim toward quantity of ideas rather than quality during this phase, and let creativity be your guide.
3. Evaluate These Alternative Solutions. Now go through the list of alternative solutions to the problem, one by one. Consider the pros and cons of the remaining solutions until the list is narrowed down to one or two of the best ways of handling the problem. It is important for each person to be honest in this phase. The solutions might not be ideal for either person and may involve compromise.
4. Decide on the Best Solution. Select the solution that seems mutually acceptable, even if it is not perfect for either party. As long as it seems fair and there is a mutual commitment to work with the decision, the conflict has a chance for resolution.
5. Implement the Solution. It is important to agree on the details of what each party must do, who is responsible for implementing various parts of the agreement, and what to do in case the agreement starts to break down.
6. Continue to Evaluate the Solution. Conflict resolutions should be seen as works in progress. Make it a point to ask the other person from time to time how things are going. Something unexpected might have come up or some aspect of the problem may have been overlooked. Your decisions should be seen as open to revision, as long as the revisions are agreed upon mutually.

Keep in mind that differences will come up in any relationship just because you two are different individuals with different perspectives, ideologies, attitudes and perceptions. Too much similarity in personality and working styles may be comforting but can be very boring and uninspiring overtime. On the other hand, differences can bring change, novelty and an added spice to the relationship. Two very different people can pool their different strengths and work together as a stronger team. Though, extreme differences may overtime sour the relationship and make living or working together difficult. You also need to look out for an emotionally or physically abusive relationship, which is based on power differential rather than respect and trust. A person may then choose to opt out after an amicable “goodbye” or "agree to disagree".





















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Women - Depression and Facts

FRHS, Ph.D Neuro , MPT - Neurology Physiotherapy, D.Sp.Med, DPHM (Health Management ), BPTh/BPT
Physiotherapist, Chennai
Women -  Depression and Facts

Three factors play a big role in women depression:

1.Genes are not inherited from the mother

2. social environment

3.life experiences

Mother daughter transmission is just one piece of it

Hi I am 22 year old female. I am in depression and anxiety. I fell unwanted by my boyfriend and I feel nobody loves me and I can't not do anything in my life. I am always thinking negative in my mind. I have a fear of losing people I love. I don't know what should I do. I love my bf but I don't know he don't even care.

PGDPC
Psychologist, Pune
Dear Lybrate User, Nice of you to write to me about the issues you are facing .Friends are those with whom one shares all the details and joys of daily life. A boy friend is one with whom one can share your intimate personal details. The very fact that he is your boy friend shows that he cares for you. I encourage you to spend some time with friends with whom you can discuss and share interests and hobbies. This will help you to enjoy all that you are passing through. Take some time out for your self and figure out your goals. Live your life according to your goals .Re look at life and all the events you are passing through objectively. Appreciate and take part in all the opportunities that come your way, look at all the hurdles and obstacles as areas where you have an opportunity to learn something new. Do consult well wishers and friends for suggestions and ideas. Do write back if you do require any further assistance. Wishing you all the best! With
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How can I control depression and my emotional feelings. Please help me how can I manage it.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
You need to deal with your emotions and they are perhaps your most important area to focus on. If you have not been on medication and you want to remain so, you will have to work very hard to recover from this condition. You must first of all seek the help of a counselor, ideally. If that person thinks that you need to meet with a doctor you will need to do so and cooperate right through. In the meantime please do the following sincerely because you could resolve the problem better with good cooperation: Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber, nuts, avocado, exercise regularly, eat dark chocolate, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. I suggest you do the opposite of what this depression makes you feel like doing (actually, not doing): you will need to fight this condition. You must become active; stay upright during the daylight time; meet people; never sleep during the day, wake up by 6 am every day, play some active games, especially contact games, do physical exercises, talk to people and join some social clubs, attend Yoga classes etc. Watch sitcoms on TV or comedies and cheer yourself up. Go for excursions in groups, for outings, camps, conferences, and religious conventions. Get a pet dog and spend time training it, exercising it and relating to it. Expose yourself to some sunlight every day, at least 30 minutes but not in the scotching heat. Whatever happens, please incorporate these three important adaptations in your life: always be responsible, be respectful, and be functional. If you did these three, lots of things will go well in life. Please pray and have faith in God to alleviate your sufferings. Don’t wait for others to help. Use your own motivation, which might be at its lowest, but persevere and win this battle. Above all to be really happy, you need to live in love and for love: find someone to love and to love you back, if you are not already married. Learn all about emotions and how to handle them and that will get you out of the depression rather easily and quickly. A counselor is there only to facilitate you, all the hard word must come from you, and your cooperation with that person is very critical for your success. Be positive everyday and learn to be contended with what you have. Do some left brain exercises: it is the happy brain. Here are a few suggestions: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. Whatever happens please cooperate with the therapy and do not discontinue until the condition is completely resolved.
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I am smoking so much. Mai chodna chahta hu but nahi chut raha. Will you help for that bad habits.

MD - Psychiatry, Diploma in Child & Adolescent Psychology , MBBS
Psychiatrist, Pune
If you really want to quit gradually reduce it like one reduce one cigarette in one week use can use nicorette chewing gums three times a day.
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