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Dr. Surekha Bajaj

Psychologist, Mumbai

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Hi, I had early signs of psychosis and I was treated for 10months.doctor told that treatment was over. But I am still imagining things. I cannot concentrate on my studies. My age is 21 male. Please help me to live better. Please suggest me what to do?

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Homeopath,
You will need proper analysis of your case & will need constitutional homeopathic remedy depending upon your emotional, mental,physical situations. Thanks
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I have a very weak memory! I forget things in some days. What should I do? Please suggest me some ways.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
In the late adolescence there are bound to be problems with unsettled hormonal activity. Once this settles you will recover your remembering ability.I suspect that the adolescent issues with regard to hormones may be affecting your ability to concentrate and remember. When the hormones play up, it lasts for a period of close to two years and during that time you could be influenced by three signs directly impacted by the chemical: you will tend to become aggressive and rebellious, you will become sexually active, and you will have acne and pimple problems. The hormonal imbalances may not only impact your memory because of the chemical but also bring some distractions that come with it. But you may work on the following even if the hormones kick in: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning at least five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There are some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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MBA (HR), D.Sc, MS - Counselling and Psychotherapy, M.Sc - Psychotherapy
Psychologist, Pune
5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

1. First, don’t isolate yourself – When you’re feeling lonely it is hard to go out and be with others who seem to be OK, and don’t really notice how lonely you feel. But putting up a wall and withdrawing from your friends will only intensify that sense of loneliness, and will further undermine your self-esteem.

2. Second, keep yourself busy – Do things that you normally enjoy with others. For example, listening to a band or maybe going to watch a game … or you could always try something that’s new, but interests you! That would allow you to connect in a non-threatening way … as it takes the focus off talking, and off you.

3. Third, be kind to yourself - It’s likely that you regularly beat yourself up, criticise yourself and are unrealistic in the kinds of expectations that you have for yourself. So what, if it goes wrong? You can always try again – just learn what you can from the experience. And notice your successes and the times when it goes well. It’s likely that this happens a lot more than you think!

4. Fourth, recognise that we ALL battle loneliness at times - You’re not some kind of freak – it’s actually quite normal. It something we’ve all known and understand.

5. Fifth, talk to someone you like and trust – It can really help to talk about your feelings with a family member, a friend or counsellor. It relieves some of the painful sense of isolation – and help to get your life back in perspective again.
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I failed in my class test in EC so I am depressed and I am go to for suicide Then suggest what I do?

Ph. D - Psychology, Professional Certified Coach
Psychologist, Ahmedabad
I failed in my class test in EC so I am depressed and I am go to for suicide Then suggest what I do?
My dear friend, life is too precious to loose for one class. It is very normal to feel low and have such thoughts, just hang in there and do not act on it. In order for you to be able to come out of this failure and negative thoughts it is important that you focus on your next goal and target. What do you want to do now. What is important and what kind of help you need to achieve your goal. It is also important right now for you to have a strong emotional support. Your parents, sister or may be friend with whom you could and express your feeling. May be cry and empty yourself. In couple of days you will start feeling better. Go out with friends do something fun. Another better idea is to go and volunteer somewhere. Visiting a ngo where there are so many people who are much less privileged then us will shift your perspective and will rekindle your determination and zeal for life. Hope this helps, wishing you very best in life ahead.
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My 10 years old son lacks concentration in studies and remembers temporarily for exams. Please suggest how can I increase his concentration and help him show much interest in studies.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Constant motivation and appreciation helps them to learn things a perfect way. I hope your son is not troubled by any learning disabilities. If you suspect so, you should consult a psychologist for detailed assessment. Take care.
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I live alone in city for study. I how can I increase ion in my body. Can I take medicine? Or give me advise.

B.A. Psychology, M.A. Psychology, Ph. D - Psychology
Psychologist, Delhi
I live alone in city for study. I how can I increase ion in my body. Can I take medicine? Or give me advise.
I think you want to increase iron in your body - if yes, then take care of your diet. Take natural foods, avoid junk food. Have bananas, cheekos, beetroot, guava - these fruits have more iron content than pomegranates & apples. You can also have a few almonds and raisins everyday.
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I am 22 years old girl and I don't know why I just feel irritated and annoyed from all people around me! I am in a relationship with a guy but I keep fighting from him for no reason or on silly reasons. I had a person in my past in he is there 24x7 in my mind when I am alone or upset, most of the time he is the reason for my sadness, but again as he left me and hurt me badly in my past I don't want him in my life I think of doing suicide all the time and most of the time feel helpless and miserable but I cant express this to others and so I try my best to stay happy. But I think I fake it all the time. Need help. Please suggest.

Fellow Observership, Certificate in Forensic Psychology, MD-Psychiatry, MBBS
Psychiatrist, Akola
Hello. Its indeed a very delicate situation & you do need some expert medical help. The real problem here is your residual feelings of attraction towards him which are making you possessive. You also need to understand here that if your ex managed to move forward in his life; even you can also successfully move forward in life despite keeping your feelings of love for him. At present, the simplest advice I can give is start keeping a diary & start writing your thoughts multiple times a day especially during your times of distress, feelings of possession & when you become tearful. Secondly, you need to consult a psychiatrist & remain in his/her continuous supervision to effectively manage this difficult phase with help of medicines & counselling. Please consult privately.
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I can not remember what I have read just few minutes ago. And I do not remember the things I read.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
Follow these guidelines to make good with your memory: Daily exercise of at least half an hour is a must. Even if you go to a gym, ask for aerobic and/or callisthenic exercises with whatever else you are doing. A healthy body harbors a healthy mind. With regard to memory, it is very important that your brain and body is ideally rested to be able to recall whatever is required, rather comfortably. Puzzles pose problems to the brain that help it to use new pathways and neurons, which give the brain considerable exercise. It taxes the left brain to use logic to solve the myriad possibilities which other activities do not stimulate. Crosswords are excellent for vocabulary learning and use. Jigsaws and Rubik cube stimulate different permutations to finally settle on the most likely one. Picture completion and anagrams help approach problem-solving from several angles. Do Sudoku, and memory co-relation activities and skills. Have a good night’s sleep, have a good breakfast of more proteins, meditate often, remain free of stress, eat a lot of fiber (whole grains, fruits and vegetables), nuts, avocado, eat dark chocolate, consume less of fat and use olive oil instead, do Yoga meditation exercises, etc. You need to check out if you are stronger visual or auditory. The visual is a better mode than the auditory. However, if you combine the two modes, you will get the best concentration. Have a special place of learning, which should be well lit, with soft painted walls, well-ventilated, with no distractions. When you get bored, study by writing. If you repeat learning, at least, five to seven times, you will apparently remember for a longer time. Sit comfortably but do not slouch. The reading material should be of a fairly large print. Study at small intervals of about 40 minutes and then take a break or change the subject. Short-term memory is a faculty of the left brain, and long-term memory is a feature of the right brain. When people are stressed, they tend to favor the right brain and abandon the left brain, where short-term memory resides. So, it is really very simple: deal with the stress and activate left brain functions. Here are a few suggestions to activate left brain function: shut your left nostril and breathe, move your eyes from right to left and vice versa for at least half a minute at a time, and do callisthenic exercises with some form of counting, regularly. There is a new exercise called Super Brain Yoga, which is done by holding the right earlobe with your left thumb and index finger, and the left earlobe with your right hand’s thumb and index finger. In this position, you must squat down and rise up and do this for five minutes every day. There is some memory enhancing techniques and study methods that your teacher will be able to guide you with. If your home life is full of distractions and stress, it is likely to affect your memory, adversely. In that case, I suggest that the family goes for counseling too. The following foods do help too: Blueberries, walnuts, turmeric, Spinach, tomatoes, broccoli, acorn squash, green tea, oily fish, boiled egg, turkey, apples, oatmeal, leafy greens, lentils, pumpkin seeds, avocado, cinnamon, thyme, sunflower seeds, and red wine. Avoid sugar and junk food.
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Since 2011 I have been suffering from a disease. I every time talk with me. Feeling much depression. Will it be cured at all? please sir give me satisfactory answer.

L L. B..,, M.Sc psychy,, N L P, P.G.D.G.C, M.S psychotherapy,, M.A child care, M A, clinical psy, M.A,social psychiatry,, M.Phil., psychology., Ph.D .,psychology
Psychologist, Vijayawada
Since 2011 I have been suffering from a disease. I every time talk with me. Feeling much depression. Will it be cured...
It is curable. It has good medicine in psychiatry. But do not depend on medicine. It has some side effects. You come yourself from this problem. You are introvert. Keep all the feelings internally and suffering very much. It is not good for yourself. When you have feelings it is better to share with others. Do not sit alone and do not think too much about this problem. Do not feel and think about I suffered long time. Do not count years etc. Feel always normal. Today everyone has depressive thoughts. If they think seriously they will become psychiatry patients. So do not think too much. Control yourself to change your personality aspects if not possible to possible to yourself. It is better to take help of psychologist. Psychological counselling has no side effects. It improves your personality. It helps to grow your personality. It changes your style management. Better to share your internal feelings and problems with your close friends and family members. Be friendly with every one. Feel always comfortable and be sociable all the time and be happy. Ok all the best.
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We are newly married. About 3 month ago. My husband promised me take me to honeymoon. But yet he always making reason because of which we are fighting. I have done a lot adjustment but every time he stand with a issue. He don't go out & don't let me to. To enjoy my life. I am alive girl who loves to enjoy roam & live life. He is dull & very lazy kind of person. He gives reason every time in short action are less & reason are more. How to tackle this. Even he don't like me to enjoy with my family.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Dear user. The relationship between a husband and wife is always a two way affair and a two way adjustment for positive results. Therefore you must understand his behavior and he must understand yours. I suggest online marital counseling for you two. Take care.
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A couple was in a relationship since 5 years. They started their love from college days, Facebook has played important role for them. They were happy .girls have done a lots of things for him at the same time boy did same. They have enjoyed a few small moment. From the the college days boy was very a soft kind person, whenever he saw any poor and needy he donated everything. He did not do any bad things. Time has changed, Boy came to Bangalore and girl in Hyderabad. Slowly their relationship went wrong. Girl used to complain that her room mate feel jealous. Boy was very good in writing and done some of film making. He is having his own two books. He has left his bright future in that industry and join IT industry because He wants to live with her and as far as his GF is concerned she did not like that media profession. Thats Why he left that job. Now they broke up. it is 8 months running. He can not forget her and almost every day he saw her in his dream. He wants to continue his job but difficult to continue. He called his ex GF and beg to come and ask to start from beginning. She has insulted and ask him to forget. He can not concentrate in it. His job stays in danger. He is in a very Bad Situation, Will you help him to come out from this Problem. God will bless you. Unfortunately I am that Boy.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
YOu need to forget her as she is not interested in you. To forget you divert mind by reading, music and doing meditation and yoga.
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Respected sir, I am male of 28 years suffering from generalized anxiety disorder since 11 months. Really fed up and getting difficulty in routine life always feeling dreamy, feeling light-headed, irritable bowels, depersonalization. But I am sleeping good after taking sleep medicine, eating good relaxing and left job, jogging. Will anxiety Go away on its own and how many more months my body will take to get recovered. Will it be for life time or what. Reply please I'm in a huge problem.

BASM, MD, MS (Counseling & Psychotherapy), MSc - Psychology, Certificate in Clinical psychology of children and Young People, Certificate in Psychological First Aid, Certificate in Positive Psychology
Psychologist, Palakkad
Respected sir, I am male of 28 years suffering from generalized anxiety disorder since 11 months. Really fed up and g...
Dear , anxiety disorder is not a disease. It is a disorder. Mental disorder not requires medicines. Psychotherapy, life style changes, meditation etc are enough to cure your problem. You must learn and educate yourself about your anxiety disorder. The more you try to" cure" your anxiety, anxiety increases and cure is not possible. You have to change your mindset.
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Used to be a very positive person. Used to trust people blindly. Until a certain point that i started to push everyone far away from me. Everything t came crashing down. I started to realise that i am failure in life education relationships. Cant take it anymore. Don't know what to do. Everywhere i go all i see is backstabbers betrayal dishonesty etc.

Reparenting Technique, BA, BEd
Psychologist, Bangalore
If it is true that, ?everywhere you go all you see is backstabbers, betrayal, and dishonesty, are you suggesting that you just discovered them? And have you just discovered that you are a ?failure in life, education, and relationships? Something went suddenly wrong. You are into your late adolescence, and may be a delayed adolescence too, that at this time the world may suddenly look bleak. This may be how you feel. The truth is that you are still young with a lot of possibilities in life. All this realizations must help you know what to do to reshape your outlook. So many great people have only become famous due to their ability to harness the gains from failure to support success. You can do it for sure, too. However, if you push ?everyone? away, you cannot succeed and may actively jeopardize your whole life. You can still pursue your studies, if you have done proper career guidance testing or aptitude testing. Failed relationships can be a bad body-blow during this time. Check out, if you have somehow been the cause. I strongly suspect that you may have a rejection issue which is precipitating all your woes. This may have some basis from your childhood and family of origin. Talk to a counselor and examine this possibility and get help to sort it out. If you need some understanding of that issue I could send you some information. But take life into your hands, and along with some assistance from a professional, a lot can still be achieved.
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I have a deep stress related problem. Stress produces numerous physical and mental symptoms which vary according to each individual's situational factors. These can include physical health decline as well as depression. The process of stress management is named as one of the keys to a happy and successful life in modern society.[1] Although life provides numerous demands that can prove difficult to handle, stress management provides a number of ways to manage anxiety and maintain overall well-being. How can be reduced it?

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I have a deep stress related problem. Stress produces numerous physical and mental symptoms which vary according to e...
Meditation and yoga are good stress relievers. Physical symptoms of stress include: •Low energy. •Headaches. •Upset stomach, including diarrhoea, constipation and nausea. •Aches, pains, and tense muscles. •Chest pain and rapid heartbeat. •Insomnia. •Frequent colds and infections. •Loss of sexual desire and/or ability. STRESS CONTROL There are many ways to tame your stress and keep it at bay. Here are 20 tips to tame your stress today, and keep the stress monsters at bay. 1.Perform diaphragmatic or deep breathing exercises. 2.Lie face down on the floor and begin breathing deeply and slowly, with your hands resting under your face. Do this for five minutes. 3.Sit in a reclining chair. Put a hand on your abdomen and a hand on your chest. As you breathe, make sure the hand on your abdomen is moving up and down rather than one on your chest. If the hand on your abdomen is moving you are breathing deeply and slowly. 4.Try progressive muscle relaxation or “deep muscle” relaxation. Progressively tense and relax each muscle group in your body. Learn the difference between muscle tension and relaxation. 5.Meditate. Use visualization or imagery to help you learn to be one with your thoughts. Sit quietly with your eyes closed, imagining the sights, sounds and smells of your favorite place, such as a beach or mountain retreat. 6.Exercise regularly or take up yoga. 7.Consult a psychologist about the use of biofeedback 8.Make time for music, art or other hobbies that help relax and distract you. 9.Learn to identify and monitor stressors. Come up with an organized plan for handling stressful situations. Be careful not to overgeneralize negative reactions to things. 10.Make a list of the important things you need to handle each day. Try to follow the list so you feel organized and on top of things. Put together a coping plan step by step so you have a sense of mastery. 11.Keep an eye on things that might suggest you’re not coping well. For example, are you smoking or drinking more, or sleeping less? 12.Keep a list of the large and little hassles in your day versus the major stressful events in your life. This helps you focus on the fact that you’re keeping track of and managing those as well as you can. 13.Set aside a time every day to work on relaxation. 14.Avoid using caffeine, alcohol, nicotine, junk food, binge eating and other drugs as your primary means for coping with stress. While they can be helpful once in awhile, using them as your only or usual method will result in longer-term problems, such as weight problems or alcoholism. 15.Learn to just say, “No” occasionally. It won’t hurt other people’s feelings as much as you think and is simply a method to be more assertive in your own life, to better help you meet your own needs. 16.Get the right amount of sleep. For most people, this is seven to nine hours a night. 17.Cultivate a sense of humor; laugh. 18.Research has shown that having a close, confiding relationship protects you from many stresses. 19.Don’t run from your problems! This only makes them worse. 20.Talk to your family and friends. See if they can help. If these tips don’t help, or you’ve tried a lot of them with little luck in better taming the stress in your life, it may be time to consider taking it up a notch. A mental health professional — such as a psychologist — can help teach you more effective methods for handling stress in a healthy way in your life. Such psychotherapy is short-term and time-limited, with a focus on helping you better deal with stress. Remember — we do have control over the stress and choices we make in our lives. It sometimes takes a little practice and effort to put some of these techniques into play in your life. But once you do so, you may be pleasantly surprised at the positive benefits you’ll receive Regards.
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I am 31years old lady I am getting frustrated very soon? By profession I am a teacher and I have three kids.

C.S.C, D.C.H, M.B.B.S
General Physician,
I am 31years old lady I am getting frustrated very soon? By profession I am a teacher and I have three kids.
Life is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal. Since many of the things we truly want require a degree of frustration, being able to manage frustration is required in order to allow us to remain happy and positive even in trying circumstances. Understanding Frustration Frustration is an emotion that occurs in situations where a person is blocked from reaching a desired outcome. In general, whenever we reach one of our goals, we feel pleased and whenever we are prevented from reaching our goals, we may succumb to frustration and feel irritable, annoyed and angry. Typically, the more important the goal, the greater the frustration and resultant anger or loss of confidence. Frustration is not necessarily bad since it can be a useful indicator of the problems in a person's life and, as a result, it can act as a motivator to change. However, when it results in anger, irritability, stress resentment, depression or a spiral downward where we have a feeling of resignation or giving up, frustration can be destructive. What Causes Frustration? Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying. Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should. The frustration we experience can be seen as the result of two types of goal blockage, i.e. internal and external sources of frustration. Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that get when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations. Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another. The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals. One of the biggest sources of frustration in today's world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you're standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that's one big frustration. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it. It is just the way life is. Our goal in dealing with external sources of frustration is to recognize the wisdom of the Serenity Prayer..."God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." One can learn that while the situation itself may be upsetting and frustrating, you do not have to be frustrated. Accepting life is one of the secrets of avoiding frustration. Responses to Frustration Some of the "typical" responses to frustration include anger, quitting (burn out or giving up), loss of self-esteem and self-confidence, stress and depression. Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper ANGER: There is a saying "Frustration begets anger and anger begets aggression." Direct anger, is expressed toward the object perceived as the cause of the frustration. If a machine does not work, you might hit it or kick it. If someone gets in your way, you could verbally threaten them or push them aside. If the source of the frustration is too powerful or threatening for direct aggression, displaced aggression is often used. The aggression is redirected toward a less threatening and more available object. An angry person often acts without thinking. The person has given in to the frustration and they have given up restraint. Anger can be a healthy response if it motivates us to positive action but all too often the actions we engage in when angry are destructive. Indeed, if we could see a videotape of ourselves getting angry, the humiliation might well help cure us of anger. When you feel frustration building, you have to practice learned responses that lead to healthy actions instead of destructive ones. GIVING UP: Giving up on a goal can be productive if the goal is truly out of reach. However, more often giving up (quitting or being apathetic) is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or move away. Apathy is giving up all of your goals, so you cannot be frustrated by trying to reach them. We live in difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish. Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you're a quitter. LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem, means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities. This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself "It is worth it!" and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds self-confidence. STRESS: is the "wear and tear" our body and mind experiences as we adjust to the frustrations our continually changing environment. Too frequently, extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress strains us and generates distress signals. Our body experiences distress signals in a variety of ways, often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue anxiety, headache, depression, stomach aches, hypertension, migraines, ulcers, heart attacks, or colitis. DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Depression can affect the way you eat and sleep the way you feel about yourself, the way one think about things, and the way you interact with others. While we all feel depression at various appropriate times in our lives, excess or inappropriate depression cannot be easily dismissed or wished away. OTHER REACTIONS: abuse of drugs & alcohol is self-destructive and usually futile attempt at dealing with frustration, as are many eating and weight problems and addictions Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same, or even worse, frustrating situation. Learning To Deal With Frustration It is unrealistic to believe you can rid yourself of frustration forever, but you can learn to do things to minimize your frustrations and to make sure you do not engage in unhealthy responses to frustration. You will need to learn to distinguish between what you hope will happen, what will probably happen, and what actually happened. Life inevitably has its ups and downs -- its moments of relaxation and times of tension. When you learn to truly accept this reality, you come one step closer to being able to deal with frustration in a healthy way. There are several types of problems that we encounter in everyday living: those which you know can be solved, those which you are not sure if they can be solved or not, those you know are totally out of your control, and those you are so confused about that you do not even know what the problem is. You need to be able to accurately assess your abilities to alter situations that prevent you from solving your problems and reaching your goal. Then you will be able to assess which of the types of problems you have encountered, and you will then be able to develop a realistic plan. Learning to take things in stride will also help you to be more content and happy which, in turn, will help you to more easily overcome anger and frustration. If you are upset, sad, anxious, or depressed you will have less patience and tolerance for everything and everybody. Treatment of Frustration Frustration and anger are fundamental emotions that everyone experiences from time to time. From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behaviour they see modelled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behaviour and seeing what they can get away with. We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration, so that it does not control them. The following is a brief overview of types of frustration management programs and resources that have proved helpful in understanding and controlling frustration and anger. I have found several approaches to treatment that have been effective for my clients including: Individual and Group Therapy for Anger Management. A therapist who can observe and analyse your behaviour from an impartial perspective, can help you with your reality testing. A therapist knows many effective frustration and anger management strategies and will be able to help you develop a personalized set of strategies for changing both your thinking and behaviour. Depending on your needs, your therapist may work with you on breathing or meditation exercises to reduce frustration, safe and appropriate emotional and physical techniques to release frustration, communication, or cognitive restructuring (a method for disputing and changing the way you think). Relaxation and exercise Simple relaxation tools such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down feelings of frustration and anger. Breathing deeply, from your diaphragm, will help while breathing from your chest won't relax you. While breathing, you can slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "calm down" or "take it easy." Non-strenuous exercise, like yoga, can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Strenuous and vigorous exercise can also help you to work off frustration and angry feelings. Frustration can have a highly damaging impact on our frame of mind. It can turn a positive person into a person who sees nearly everything as a problem. It can slow you down, inhibit your progress, and at times completely immobilize you. We can become so wound up with our frustration that we do not, and cannot, think or act rationally. Our frustration can often exacerbate a situation and create a vicious circle. If we are convinced that our actions are not working, no matter how hard we try, we are much more likely to reduce, rather than increase, our chances of success. Remember, you cannot eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger. Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can't change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. If you feel that your degree of frustration is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counselling to learn how to handle it better. Please contact me Privately on this site or another therapist.
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I am suffering from nervousness and very low self esteem during certain situation. Afraidnes and depression kill my confidence well during marriage ,group discussion ,and during personal problem. Sexual level also die, Please help me to stabilise my confidence well during this situation. Till now I have suffer four time depression which last for 30 to 40 days.

M. Sc Psychology, MS Psychotherapy and Counselling, Internship Clinical Psychology
Psychologist, Greater Noida
I am suffering from nervousness and very low self esteem during certain situation. Afraidnes and depression kill my c...
Hi, I can see that you have been facing this concern for a seemingly long time now. How have you dealt with feelings of depression in the past? I am assuming that you took medication and though it helped lift your mood maybe it hasn't helped strengthen your self confidence etc. You would benefit from one on one counseling with a psychologist. Please do so, a psychologist can help you work on your areas of concern and deal with them better. Hope this helps.
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I'm very weak. No glow in face. feel depressed. Tired.I can't make concentration in studies what to do?

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Psychologist, Delhi
Vitamin A keeps the skin firm and moist and prevent from drying up, vitamin B helps in colour of skin and nourish the hair, vitamin c is great antioxidants and make skin youthful and helps to fight against disease, it also helps to fight against cancer, vitamin E decreases the spots and lines ,vitamin k helps in bruising and blemishing easily I have written importance because people becomes more aware by knowing the importance ,to search for each source is difficult task so I am telling the general idea of what to eat for glow in skin and also make you strong--eat more green vegetables specially green leafy, eat fruits such as apple ,guava, as you re under weight so you can take banana shake also, chiku it will increase your hb level, cerals, include daal, green salad ,papaya ,sprouts, green salads milk and dairy products ,strawberry. Do not skip lunch or dinner, prefer to take juices instead of coke, avoid junk foods, eat at regular intervals. If you need further diet plan You can contact me.
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My penis is too small and Slim. Sometimes I use to get nervous when I use to think about marriage. Even I'm unable to concentrate on my work and career. Please provide some solutions.

MD - Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Chennai
My penis is too small and Slim. Sometimes I use to get nervous when I use to think about marriage. Even I'm unable to...
Penis size is not the only way to please a woman, otherwise women will be marrying rubber rods. There are lots of things in married life like love, passion, sexual behavior includes desire, foreplay, satisfying the partner which is usually indulging in gratifying behavior after they knowing their needs. Orgasm many times are achieved by woman without penetration. So educate ur self about sexuality, become confident again. Treat your woman as an equal partner, shower her with love and affection, life will be happy
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My wife was in relationship before marriage due to this I live in tension and thing about her relationship every time. What should I do?

MBBS, MD Psychiatry, DNB Psychiatry
Psychiatrist, Nagpur
My wife was in relationship before marriage due to this I live in tension and thing about her relationship every time...
You both need to talk to each other. If you find difficult to sort out issues among yourselves, consult a psychiatrist/ psychologist. The fact that you are seeking help shows you care for your wife and wish to avoid thoughts of her previous relationships. However you need to get clarifications about your thought and feelings that keep haunting your mind.
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