I am Dr. Priyanka Srivastava, Psychologist. In my private clinics, a lot of patients come and they raise the issue of their teenage. The moment they visit my clinic, they say, Ma'am, it is a clarifying experience and a nightmare for us to raise our teenage child. Last year, my child has stopped eating well. He has started raising his eyebrows, showing his anger, doesn't want to listen to me, not coming out of his room. So, please tell us the solution. Let me just brief you, how to handle the teenager if you have in your family. First of all, a teenager is going through a transition in their life. Which means they are having a change in their physical, social and emotional needs. They are trying to discover their own self, they want to know who they are or who am I. So, as a parent, we need to understand this conflict happening in our teenage. Now how to handle them and make them comfortable. There are 4-5 points which need to be taken care of.
1. We just need to talk, talk and talk. We need to communicate with our child. Communication should be open. Whenever a child comes from school, he/she should be entertained by a parent. You should enquire what has happened in the school, what is happening in the social circle, how are the friends behaving and acting? Or we can talk about different activities like supports, music, movies. What generally what happens, we are only focused on academics. We ask what are the marks they got in tests. You have to study for 2 hours. You can't watch television. This puts a strain on the child. And the child starts moving away from the parent. So, never ask only such kind of questions always.
2. Spend quality time with your child. It is very important where you can teach values to your child. Try to narrate different stories, happenings what has happened to you. This will make the child comfortable. You have to be a child's friend despite being just a parent.
3. Always respect your child's self-image. This is the very common thing which I see. Never compare your child with the other child and we scold the child anytime and every time. So, do not insult your child in front of others. The child always wants self-respect. So, parents are the more important pillars in a child upbringing process.
So, if you try to understand these parameters then for sure we will have a good and memorable bonding with our child during this teenage and maybe a child will be a forever friend. If you have any further queries regarding how to handle this because each child is different and individual, in a clinic we give generalize the solution to each parent. So, if you have any query regarding your teenager, you can visit my clinic. Thank You.