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Marriage - When Should You Do It?

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Dr. Sudhir Bhola 91% (973 ratings)
MD - Alternate Medicine, BAMS
Sexologist, Gurgaon  •  20 years experience
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Namaskar,

Main Doctor Sudhir Bhola aaj main aap logon ko bataunga ki hamein shaadi ek acche time par karni chahiye kyun ki jyada umar hone par hamein kafi problems ka samna karna padta hai. Jaise agar aap shaadi jitni jaldi umar mein karenge itna hi aapko uska benefit milta hai na sirf aap ke aage ki jo married life hai uspar balki aapke aane wale agge jo bacche hain unke upar bhi us cheez ka asar padta hai. To kab shaadi karni chahiye? To uske liye the best age for male is maximum up to 27 years of age joki aaj kal bohot kam dekhne ko milta hai because career ke piche itna bhag rahe hain sabh marriage is always kept on a backstage ki career mein ye achieve kar liya tab karenge, ye achieve kar liya tab karenge, business mein yahan tak pahunch gaye tab karenge but that is all nonsense from my point of view. Aapki professional aur commercial growth shaadi ke baad rukti nahi hai balki aur jyada accelerate hoti hai. You can do much better in your career after your marriage you're getting the support of your spouse.

So jitna jaldi aap shaadi karenge it is better for you like ek sabse Jo badi cheez hai ki hamari ek jarurat hoti hai sexual activity ki shaadi nahi hoti to person goes for the masturbation ladkiya bhi or ladke bhi masturbate karte hai which in fact is a need because sexual urge has to be satisfied but that is not very healthy. Uske apne nuksan hai jisme se jo sabse important cheez hai it leads to premature ejaculation or premature orgasm in case of girls, premature ejaculation of course in case of boys this is the effect of masturbation. Yadi aap ki marriage time par ho jayegi to aapko masturbation nahi karna padega aur aap un sab disorders se bach sakte hain. Iske alawa jo aapki fertility hai wo bohot acchi hoti hai aapko early stage ke upar koi compulsion nahi hogi from family mein baccha nahin hua, abhi tak conceive nahi hua, ye nahi hua. So aapke upar pressure nahi aata jahan aapne shaadi kari 30-32 saal ki umar mein to immediately sabki nazar (aapki family ki) hoti hai ki jaldi se conceive ho jaye us time par sabse bada pressure aata hai male ke upar aur wo lead karta hai performance anxiety pe.

Bohot se cases mein maine ye dekha hai us case mein the person starts seeing erectile dysfunction, jab usko perform karna hai uska erection hi nahi aata this is one of the biggest reasons yahi ager aap time par shaadi karte hai to aap us tarah ke pressure se bachte hain because you got enough time let that be in a natural way. Aaj ki date mein main dekha hai ki 30-32 saal ke jo couples hai they have been suggested by the gynocologist go for IVF, I have seen a number of patients in my clinic they are coming after doing 1 or 2 IVFs, unsuccessful IVF, that is not good at all for your physical health as well as your mental health so the best thing to get married at the right age and If you have already crossed that right age still you should be married at the earliest and don't take any kind of pressure even if your family is behind you to just go for conceiving of pregnancy and all that be it a girl or boy you should never take pressure in regard to conceiving a child because that will make things worse for you, take it easy. Do love making in a natural way let that conception be the fruit of god given to you, let it come, let it happen naturally. One day you will come to know that you are pregnant so let that kind of activity be there, just keep loving in natural way.

If there is any kind of issue in regard to sexual activity be it a man or a girl you should immediately seek the help of any doctor, urologist, sexologist or psychosexologist whosoever you feel can your problem.

Thank you.

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