Parenting - What Is It All About?

Hello everyone,

My name is Mala Vohra Khanna. I am a child and clinical psychologist. Today we are going to talk about parenting as a parent these days young parents feel a lot of pressure on. Bohot jyada tanav mehsoos karte hain mother bhi as well as father also jyadatar aaj ke time mein clinic per visits hoti hai jahan per mother and father tension mein rahte hain ki ham bacche ke liye kya karen? aur kya na karen? jo acha rahe. Dekhiye agar main bohot basic baat bolun to aapko kuch bhi bache ke liye special karne ki jarurat nahin hai. Aap apne bacchon ko usi tarike se treat kariye jis tarike se aapki family ka har member hai.

Starting from the first time ma’am ham bache ko kya special khilayen? bacche ko aap kuch special mat khilaiye jo ghar ka khana aap khate ho vohi aapke bacche ke liye achcha hai. Isi parkar se ki ma’am hamen kya karna chahiye jisse hamara baccha achcha rahe. Mothers bohot jyada tension mein rehti hai, pressure mein rehti hai, tanav mein rehti hain ki ham kis tarah se bacche ko treat karen. Sabse pehla tip main aapko dena chahungi ki that as a mother agar main koi galti bhi karti hoon apne bacche ke sath, baccha thodi der mein naha leta hai, bacche ka diaper thodi der mein change ho jata hai to ye sab tanav ke karan nahin hai. As a mother I can also be at fault ki mai ek maa hokar bhi thodi si galti kar sakti hoon is cheez ke liye tanav mein jana, depression mein jana, sochna, apne aapko unnecessary pressure dene wali baat hai.

Second important cheez jiske bare mein baat karna chahungi wo hai apni responsibilities ko share karen as a mother and father both of you aap dono ki jimmedari hai ki aap bacche ko sahi parvarish de or sahi parvarish ki definition yehi hai jahan per mother aur father dono bacche ke sath quality time bitayen. Agar aap bacche ke sath 4, 5, 6 ghante nahi bita sakte it is absolutely normal. Aap bacche ke saath jitni der samay bita rahe ho unke sath quality samay bitayen. Third important point, agar aap ek working mother hai to aapke bacche ki jo maid hai, jo caretaker hai, jo family member hai aapke bacche ka dhyan rakh rahe hain unke saath hamesha touch mein rahiye. Apne bacche ki har jarurat ko pahchane ki kahan mere bacche ko meri jarurat pad rahi hai, bacche ko us jarurat ko pura karne mein hi aap ek motherhood ka role bohot acche se importantly play kar sakti hain.

Fourth very important point, apne liye samay nikaliye, take out some time for you, it is very important for you to take out some time so that you can actually grow aisa nahin hai ki aap char ghante nikale, 5 ghante nikale agar aap ek din ke andar ek ghanta bhi apne aapko de rahe hain, bacche ke sath-sath aap apne aap ko samay de pa rahe hain wo abhi bohot jyada jaruri hai. Mothers samajhti hai ki ma’am ye to meri prior responsibility hai ki main apne bacche ka dhyan du aur apne aapko ignore karti chali jaati hoon aur kahin na kahin dhire-dhire wohi depression ka karan banta jata hai.

So I would request all of you, take out time for yourself, divide your responsibilities and it is okay to make mistakes in any relationship, always seeking for perfection hamesha ye soch pana ki main hundred percent perfect hoon kabhi bhi kisi cheez ka solution nahi hai. I would request all of you to enjoy your parenthood, don't make it a pressure isko pressure main mat jiye isko enjoy kariye.

Thank you.