Tempramental Issues Between Couples

Marriage brings with it a whole new set of living standards. How much ever you know the other person, living with that person as a family is a different experience. There are things which annoy you as much as things that surprise you, leaving you excited and happy at times, annoyed and agitated at others.

It is often the small things that lead to temperamental issues between couples. And, different people have different tolerance limits. While some could ignore the small issues and throw tantrums only when there is some significant argument, for others, throwing their temperament could just be a way out to vent their anger. These bouts may appear and disappear in a matter of seconds to minutes. It is very important for the couple to understand each other’s limits and play accordingly. It is also important to complement each other so that both are not throwing tempers at the same time.

The following are some ways to manage temperamental issues between couples.

1. Avoid arguments in the presence of other family members or friends
2. It is always good to discuss sensitive things when in private
3. Apologise if you know you said or did something wrong
4. A direct conversation always helps clear the air
5. Gradually learn to understand what will irritate your spouse and try to avoid it
6. Be accepting of and respect your spouse as he/she is
7. Learn to ignore the small things and not fight over them
8. Learn to tolerate the negative aspects of your spouse
9. Learn not to talk about the past, it will only add to the hatred and bitterness
10. Try to discuss the problem in an outside soothing environment than at home
11. Listen to your spouse, don’t just vent out your feelings and thoughts
12. Reach an agreement where both are benefited (emotionally)
13. Do not ignore small problems, learn to give importance to your spouse’s feelings and thoughts
14. Give each other space and privacy once in a while
15. Learn and encourage a hobby with genuine interest, whatever be it
16. Always show that you love and care, nothing works like a warm hug

When in a temperamental fit, ask yourself if it is really important, consider the big picture. In 99% of the situations, it would not be. Just let it go. Fight only when you really have to.
For a couple, it is not about who won the fight or the argument. It always pays to be kind and fight only when really important. Almost all differences can be sorted out by talking out responsibly in a mature manner and with love. A sorry here, a thank you there and your love will go a long way in resolving issues and a happy married life. If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a psychologist.