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Why has your wife turned frigid?

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Dr. Mansi Arya 87% (64 ratings)
BHMS, C.S.D.(Skin Diseases), M.D.(Medicine), M.Sc. In Counselling & Psychotherapy
Homeopath, Delhi  •  13 years experience
Why has your wife turned frigid?

Frigidity is commonly referred to as low sex drive in women. But it is often emotionally mistaken as on Non-responsiveness to partner's sexual advances. It is often considered as the psychological problem in person's subconscious mind. This has to be addressed at the earliest. 

It has been differentiated into two types:

  1. One is the condition where the women fail to respond .
  2. The other is the condition where the women may have difficulty in being aroused. This causes feeling of pain and discomfort. 

CAUSES OF FRIGIDITY: 

Most common causes are menopause-related hormonal changes. Few other causes are : 

Emotional Causes of Frigidity: 

  1. Past traumatic sexual experiences such as sexual assault or rape.
  2. Fear of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases.
  3. Emotional distance from the partner.
  4. Emotions like depression, anxiety or boredom in a relationship.
  5. Communication problems like an unresolved emotional issue that takes place between partners.
  6. Lack of confidence or low self-esteem.

Physical Causes of Frigidity: 

  1. Discomfort or pain during intercourse. 
  2. Lack of foreplay. 
  3. Poor sexual performance in male. 
  4. Fatigue or Exhaustion, Insomnia and Vaginal dryness.
  5. Effects of prescribed medications, alcohol abuse.
  6. Hormonal imbalance 
  7. Menopause.

TREATMENT AND MANAGEMENT:

(I) Natural Treatment 

  1. Intake of avocados, eggs, oysters, olive oil, soy, sesame oil, pumpkin seeds, nuts, sprouts chocolates, Zinc rich food and Vitamin E in your diet
  2. Include Herbs such as Siberia Ginseng, Chive, Damiana, Kava, Muira Pauma, Wild Yam, Ginger root, Sarsaparilla.
  3. Dong Quai are very effective in curing women frigidity. 
  4. Regular yoga and exercises boost overall sexual health. 
  5. Read erotic books or watch erotic movies along with your partner. 
  6. Quality sleeps and de-stress spas and body massage. 
  7. Avoid sugary food items, red meat and poultry. 

(II) Seeking professional help

  1. Eradicating relationship issues with the help of counseling. 
  2. Psychotherapy in order to get rid of your hidden fears. 
  3. If required, do see a gynaecologist for proper examination and assessment. 

(III) How can your rekindle her lost passion

Here are pointers as to how to help a woman know she is loved. From this will flow astounding benefits, including bringing her to the peak of her sexuality.

  1. Praise her. Regularly find things you like about her physical appearance, her character and her abilities, and verbalize your admiration. Appreciate all that she does for you and freely express your gratitude.
  2. Be loyal to her. Don’t say negative things about her behind her back. Defend her if anyone speaks negatively about her. Don?t undermine her authority in front of the children.
  3. If you use humor that puts her down, be extremely careful. She might, laugh but at times your words could be damaging her. Try to wean yourself off such humor.
  4. Seek to discover her inner feelings. Try to be sensitive to her needs. This is a huge challenge for most men.
  5. Giver her time: Recognize and make allowances for times when she is tired or upset or not her usual self.
  6. Respect her opinions. You might not always agree with her, but try to. Thoughtfully consider her views. Never rubbish them.
  7. Consult your wife before making decisions. Share your plans and dreams with her. Be open and honest with her about every aspect of your life
  8. Regularly ask her such things as:
    • What can I do to make you feel more loved?
    • What can I do to boost your confidence and help you feel good about yourself?
    • What can we do to make sex more exciting and fulfilling for you?

Perhaps you are scared to ask such questions for fear she will say something like, “Help more around the house”. Be brave! If this really is high on her priorities for feeling loved, then it is important. More is at stake than a bit of housework. It touches her emotional well-being and your entire marriage. Only she knows the critical elements in making her feel loved.

If you wish to discuss about any specific problem, you can consult a doctor and ask a free question.

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