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What To Do If Kids Are Affecting Your Relationship?

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Dr. Akshata BhatPsychiatrist • 12 Years Exp.MBBS, MD - Psychiatry
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It is said that children are a gift and watching them grow up is one of the most joyful things of life. Having said that, many couples initially feel that having a baby will not change the way things are between them and later find out they are wrong. So how do kids affect the bond between a couple and what can be done to make sure that the strain on the parents is not too much to bear?

Having a baby not only changes the equation between the couple but also, in some cases, the equation between the couple and other friends and family. Many parents do receive a lot of support at the time of the delivery and also receive some initial support on making the shift back home from the hospital. After that, in most cases, you are left to fend for yourselves and you have to iron out the details in front of you as you go. In order to do this in the best way possible, it is very crucial for both the parents of the baby to work as a team.

Questions that you need to answer in an objective and frank manner include those which pertain to who does what for the baby, how you will manage adequate rest as well as how you will divide other activities that need to be carried out around the house.


Quite a few couples who, prior to the baby, have amicable relations end up arguing a lot more after the baby is born. The level of exhaustion and responsibility, which comes as part and parcel of not only looking after oneself and providing a level of care to the partner, but also caring jointly for another human is quite a task.

For many couples, the stress shows by the way of strain. Taking a few deep breaths will help tone down anything, which may spark into an argument and will help you solve your issues in a calm manner. Spending time together while running chores for the baby will help you bond better. Taking time out for each other while the baby is asleep or away to a day care or a school is also very important for maintaining a healthy relationship.

As long as there is an effort to adjust to a new normal rather than struggle to deny change, things may be bumpy initially, but it will definitely work out for the better.

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