Reasons For Lack Of Sexual Interest In Females!

In our study of the females of urban area, the following were the comments made by them when asked as to why they felt lack of sexual interest for their partners:

 Deteriorated sexual self-esteem

Women expressed lower feeling of attractiveness and change in the body image. Such feelings overshadowed their sexual self-steam. “…I’m not happy with my body. I have sagging breasts and flabby stomach bulging out after child birth which made me very ugly ... I don’t feel attractive at all (24 y/o, teacher).

Some participants had experienced being reproached by their spouse and believed that this behavior had reduced their self-confidence. “…He permanently finds faults in my body. He blames my loose vagina, my passivity in sex and…; my self-confidence in sex has been reduced” (44y/o, teacher).

The spouse’s infidelity was also expressed by some women. “I have noticed his relationships for some years. He has not approached me for several months” (45 y/o, govt officer).

Deteriorated feminine position

Sexual desirability was mentioned by some participants. “When I was sexually active, I had more energy and motivation. I felt merriment and lively but I don’t, now.” (36 y/o, PhD).

Feeling as an incompetent woman was very challenging for the women who took part in this research.“Meeting the sexual need of the spouse is the duty of his wife. He wants me to be like other eager women, but I have no interest in sex. I do not act in a feminine manner” (42 y/o, Master of Science).

Being rejected by the spouse was also stated by some women. “He says that he doesn’t want me anymore. When I remember his words, I go mad. I have even cried during intercourse several times” (33 y/o, diploma).

Struggle in sexual issues

Concern about losing the relationship and spouse

Accepting sex to maintain the spouse was mentioned by women. “He also needs sex. Either I have to accept it or he may have desire for other women” (40 y/o, bachelor).

Many of housewife women talked about financial support: “When I need money, I accept the relationship, even an anal intercourse” (30 y/o, diploma).

Concern about continued sexual reluctance was worrying in some women. “If my lack of desire continues, I may see his sexual frigidity and our intimate relationship will collapse… I will get miserable” (24y/o, diploma).

Surrendering to sexual relationship

Half of the women expressed their pretension to be interested in sex and their role playing: “I pretend I am interested in sex, but he knows that I’m not behaving like the past”. I role-play in sex to satisfy my husband’s sexual needs.” (24 y/o, diploma).

Deterioration of the couple’s relationship

Deteriorated marital interactions

Less emotional interactions with the spouse was stated by some women. “I’ve been avoiding him and I don’t get intimate with him” (39 y/o, associate degree).

Women believed that change in the spouse’s behavior reduced his attractiveness. “… If my husband demands sex and I refuse it, he will get grumpy and will find an excuse to begin an argument” (31 y/o, associate degree).

Reduced affection expressed by the spouse was also mentioned “...he doesn’t care about me anymore. If I go to my mom’s house from morning to evening, he even doesn’t call to see how I am doing”. (30y/o, diploma).

Sexual disharmony between the couple

Lack of sexual talk with the spouse was observed among the majority of participations.

“I haven’t talked about my problem with him. We do not talk about sexual issues together” (30 y/o, diploma).

Sexual avoidance of the woman was stated by participants. “When my husband demands sex, I say I’m busy or sleepy…” (24 y/o, diploma).

More than half of women referred to sexual coercion by their spouses. “Sometimes, I have to accept sex. It is very difficult to tolerate it. I feel offended and choked with anger” (31 y/o, bachelor).

Anal and oral sex were considered as annoying or unusual sexual demands by the spouse “anal sex according to Islam, it should be avoided ... I also don’t like oral sex. I feel women are insulted to do so. I feel sick when I talk about it” (22 y/o, diploma).