Reasons For Early Divorces!

6 reasons why indian couples are divorcing earlier and earlier! 

1. Failed sex

Recently there was news of a couple deciding to go for a separation immediately after their honeymoon in thailand. The reason, no sex,when queried further it was found that the lady had fear of sex, which had never been addressed. 

2. The robot phenomenon 

The new age city couples thrive on experiences. They want to have new experiences and adventures.This doesn't leave scope of robotic lifestyles. Lifestyles where everything from your work schedule, to your eating pattern and even sex-style are predefined. More and more partners are revolting to the same. Many ladies no longer want to be" home-makers. Many revolt against being sex objects. 

3. Shock of" staying under the same roof"

While dating or during the so-called courtship period, couples meet at a place. Spend sometime together and then go back home. This lets them preserve their individuality. This individuality and the nuances involved are shielded from the partner till marriage. Staying under the same roof, means adjusting to each others nuances and accepting each others individuality. This is very difficult for many. Recently a tv channel showed the case of a guy, who decided to divorce his wife within 6 months of marriage, ironically they had been dating for 3 years. On being asked what went wrong, he said" while we were dating she would listen to all I said, so I presumed she would be the perfect wife and perfect daughter-in-law. But after marriage she had a set of rules for me and my mother. This wasn't something I could accept"

4. Cellphone - the third person

Cellphones have become major intruders in marriage. The occasional whatsapp/call from friends and family is acceptable. But what if your partner is all day long talking to a specific friend, sibling or parent - there is no privacy! Intruding 3rd persons are now an invisible enemy that takes tougher to fight.Recently a local newspaper reported that one of the major reasons for divorce was excessive talking and sharing of personal life with mother. Now this could be happening from the husbands or wife's side. 

5. High stress, zero tolerance

Most people don't even know that they are suffering from high levels of stress. They never take corrective measures to battle the stress. They just live with it.Work schedule, travelling, office politics, home politics, economic difficulties, lack of space to stay, lack of privacy, facebook, whatsapp, media, soap operas, all these add excessive stress onto the mind. The stress increases overthinking which eventually decreases tolerance levels. 

6. Time to grow

Even if you dated for 10 years before marriage, you will take the same time to grow as a couple as those who had an arranged marriage. Couples grow together. It takes 4-5years of marriage before their bonding strengthens to one life long. Marriage is a work in progress, and both need to work for the same.