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Briefing on masturbation, semen and sex education

Hello everyone I am Dr. Vikash Deshmukh, neuro-psychiatrist and sexologist practicing Washi. Today I am here to discuss about some myths about sex and sexual life.

1st myth is about masturbation, most of the patients ask me that, 'Is masturbation wrong?' Or is it hazardous to health? Masturbation se weakness aata hai kya? My answer to that is NO. Masturbation is a healthy way to release your sexual tensions, provided that you do it in a hygienic way, you should not harm your sexual parts during masturbation, and it should not be the only way to sexual satisfaction or you should not prefer masturbation over sexual act.

The second most common myth is, 'does sex cause weakness or decrease your physical stamina'. Most of my patients ask that agar kuch performance hai, sports performance hai toh use pehle sex nahin karna chahiye kya? Aur kuch din sex nahin karengey ussey pehle toh hamara performance badh jayega kya taqat zyada rehgi kya? Answer to this is no, sex does not decrease your physical stamina or performance on the contrary like exercise it can increase your physical stamina, and mental health as well as physical health.

Some patients also ask that, 'What if you feel weak or tired after sex?' I say, After exercise also you feel some weakness or some tiredness, but that only increases your further stamina but does not make you weak as a person. So like exercise after sex you can feel weakness, but that is a healthy weakness.

The next most common myth my patients come with is 'whether you should not lose your semen at all?' or semen is very precious thing and 'should you preserve your semen?'. They say doctor please give me some medicines to preserve my semen. My answer is semen is a fluid like any other body fluid, majorly 2/3 glands secret semen by vesicles and prostrate glands. So these glands work continuously 24/7 to produce semen and this produced semen should go out of body within 2/3 or 4/5 days. So its not that semen is very precious and you shouldn’t lose it. There are many misconceptions like “ek boond dhat ka aur sau boond khoon ka” which is a completely false thing. Semen is like any other body secretion, who banta hai toh body ke bahar nikalni chahiye. So nothing wrong in losing it.

Other misconceptions patient come with is the size of penis, most patient ask me ki normal size kya chahiye? Mujhe size badhane ka kuch dawa do so that I can give pleasure to my wife, keep one thing in mind that only upper one third that is 3 cm of vagina is sensitive after that there are no sensation in vagina. 3 cm ke upar agar apka penis raha toh usse vagina se senses nahin aatey hai, matlab 3 cm ka aagey jo part hai who apke female partner ko feel nahin hota hai sex ke dauran. So there is no truth in more size gives more pleasure, and this is proven by many experiments.

Last myth I will talk about is 'whether sex education can ruin a child’s behavior?', or the child can be ruined by early sexual education. First of all I want to clear that sexual education of child doesn’t mean teaching him act of sex. Sex education to children under 5 years means teaching the child what a bad touch is and what a good touch is, and how to differentiate between a bad touch and a good touch because most common sexual abusers are near ones or relatives of that child. So child should be aware about what is good touch, what is bad touch and how to prevent bad touch. Secondly, when they are in pre-teenage the children should be aware of puberty changes in body. Like breast changes in female, menstrual cycle initiation in female, or in males the pubic hairs or increase in penis size. Because if he or she is not aware of these changes there can be certain trauma in them. Like if there is some 13-year-old girl, she is not aware of the menstrual cycle and she suddenly starts bleeding she will be very much fear that she is bleeding from her private parts and that will be traumatic for her, so sexual education is very important for teenage. Also, post-teenage or teenage practices about safe sex preventing self-sex methods as well as the use of condoms and very important to avoid sexually transmitted diseases as well as unwanted pregnancy.

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