Enjoy Your Motherhood - But It Is Important To Find A Balance!

Motherhood is one of the most honourable and challenging adventures of a woman’s life. Every mother in the world has her dreams of being a perfect mother and running a perfectly balanced household. The dream involves a spotless, sparkling clean beautiful home with shiny kitchen faucets, clean dishes, folded clothes, clean happy children and a happy satisfied husband. It would be great if you could all have that perfectly balanced picture perfect life, but unfortunately, that is not the case. Every single day, every mother is faced with a challenging question – what is more important, a clean house or time with the family, or time for herself.

1. Set time aside to take care of yourself. Mothers who do not take care of themselves will eventually have nothing else to give. Investing in yourself is an investment in your family. You have to struggle with sleep deprivation and exhaustion, in addition to not having any time for your own self.
2. You must not waste time on complaining about the heavy load. On the contrary, you should focus on finding ways to make it work. You must make a routine and follow it without fail for one month. Later, you can continue to add other routines one at a time to streamline the things. A regular routine will reduce the stress of last minute thinking and it will free up the time as well as mind for other activity.
3. You must learn to say NO, without apologies, explanations, or guilt, to requests that infringe on family time. It is important for you to realize that by saying yes to one thing means saying no to something like a meaningful conversation with spouse, playing a game with their children, or catching up on laundry.
4. Keep your expectations low as you will be pleasantly surprised when things work out better. Kids like to be kids and do not live their lives according to parent’s dreams. Some of us have always been a little bit of a control freak. We like to do things ourselves and we don’t like to wait for help. If you know that you can be distracted easily then you must try to do the most important thing in the day, before you give way to the other distractions and stresses of the day. If everything seems chaotic and you do not know where to start, then you should set your priorities and do the first things first.

Most of the time it is not the motherhood, it is the attitude. You should not make children an excuse for not challenging yourself to the fullest as you did when you were younger. Your passion for life and your dreams evaporate if you sit back and give up. Clothes will always need washing and the dishes will always need cleaning, but babies won’t always be babies. You would rather want the kids to remember their mother playing with them than remember that clean house was an order of the day.

It can be physically, emotionally and mentally draining to be a mother. It is also not a highly valued position in the world we live in. Your children will probably never be truly grateful for the service you render every day until they are out of the house, on their own and having children of their own.