EMPOWERING YOURSELF - YOU CAN CHOOSE NOT TO BE SAD

1. Avoid thinking about the people who has hurt you

Another person’s hurting words and actions can certainly trigger sad thinking and feelings but remember over thinking on those words will lead you nowhere. Putting your energy to think another people’s actions and behaviour, on which you have no control, can lead you in a state of sadness, self-compassion and hopelessness. Psychologist Shivani Misri Sadhoo suggests on such conditions when another person hurts you, remember yourself that you have no control on another person’s actions and mindset, be it good or bad. So don’t waste your time or energy thinking about the incident. Instead of that, focus on inner conversations, self-analysis and put efforts to improvise things in your life and its goals.

2. Embrace optimism in your life:

Often when people get hurt they explain things to themselves in a pessimistic way. AVOID that. Remember very often pessimistic thinking approach leads to self-isolation, depression and withdrawal. What is required rather - being optimistic, try to adopt a way of thinking like, “the person talked to me roughly, did I wrongly intervene in his/her personal space? , I should take care of this next time”, or “something might not be right at that person’s end and his/her rough behaviour is an outcome of that situation”. Such kind of thinking style will always help you to become a better observer of life and will improve your interpersonal skill and the way you handle yourself.


3. Friends and relatives VS Telephones Mobiles and computers

Sitting in front of TV, Mobile and laptop screen for hours reduces brain stimulation. Remember humans are designed to do whole body movement, to move our muscles that stimulate our cerebellum, which in turn stimulates our cortex. So tell yourself if you want to be happy in life, then choose family outings, relative visits, friend gatherings, exercises over TV, mobile and PC.