Couples Therapy - Know Facts About It!

Everyone desires to have a partner who can be their strength, a person who can help them sail through when the going gets tough. A perfect, love filled, hassle-free relationship tops the priority list of most people. Of late, the ideal "made for each other" couples have become a thing of the past. Stress, work pressure, the mad rush to be at the pinnacle is taking a serious toll on a person's physical and mental health.       

Many relationships have gone kaput due to irreconcilable differences. At times, the problem is not about infidelity, but compatibility. Love is there, but understanding is long gone. Under such circumstances, a therapist or a marriage counsellor comes as a ray of hope. Couples therapy has been instrumental in getting many relationships back on track.          

Couples therapy cannot miraculously solve the complications and compatibility issues. For a relationship to work, both the partners need to make a conscious and sincere effort. The following tips can go a long way to make couples therapy work.

- No one is born perfect: To err is human. Imperfections will be there. The trick is to create and enjoy small perfect moments out of the imperfections. Do not fall for fairytale love stories. Believe it or not, even fairytale love stories come with their own set of imperfections. Couples therapy amalgamated with this fact can work wonders for your relationship.

- An experienced therapist or counsellor will make the therapy much more effective. Thus, choosing the right therapist becomes a determining factor in the overall success of the therapy.

- A wise man had once said; do not hide anything from your doctor and lawyer. If you want the therapy and your relationship to work, open up to the therapist. Be transparent and honest. To chalk out an effective therapy, the therapist needs to know every detail.

- Couples therapy without the involvement of both partners is meaningless and futile. The partners need to express their point of view. It helps a great deal to ease out the tension and awkwardness between the couple. 

- Couples therapy does not always guarantee 100% success. A lot of factors go into success. A therapist is no magician. This should not demoralise you. Set realistic goals, be patient with the therapy. With time, things will change for the better.

- Be regular with the sessions. Work can wait, but a relationship, once lost, will be gone forever. Give your relationship the time and priority it deserves. A therapist knows what work for your relationship. Both partners should participate in the activities assigned by the therapist. The activities, if practised diligently, will do your relationship, a world of good.  Every relationship goes through a lean phase. Consult a therapist before it spoils your relationship.