Are You Sure Its Not A Rebound Relationship?

You just stepped out of a relationship that was awful – or not. Whether it ended on a friendly basis or left you heart-broken and miserable, it did actually end!! Days, weeks, months or even years have passed and you felt that there’s another person you might be able to open up to again. Somehow, you have the feeling that it’s so soon –depending on how deep or intense your past relationship was. You’re afraid it might just be a rebound or that it might be too soon for you to move on.

When is it okay to  venture into the next relationship? Well, it’s not like there’s an exact duration for everybody. It really depends on you and how you’re feeling. Here are some guidelines that will help you determine if you’re really ready:

1-You feel fine on your own.

You reached a point where you feel comfortable in your own skin and capable of handling life on your own. You’re not waiting for someone to help you, complete you or make you feel safe. You’re at a point where you’re enjoying the company of your own self and you know exactly what you want in life. Yes, the right person can add up to your life, however, your life shouldn’t feel incomplete without a partner.

2-You’re not getting into it for the wrong reasons.

If you’re getting in this relationship for any reason other than loving this person, you should definitely abort mission. You shouldn’t get in a relationship to spite your ex, prove something to yourself, boost your self-esteem, or because it feels better than being alone, or because your family is pushing you. Check Getting married for the wrong reasons.

3-You don’t regret your break up.

You never -and by never I literally mean NEVER- think about what if you were still in that relationship or somehow regret that you’ve broken up because that means that you’re not totally over your previous relationship and that’s not really fair for your new potential partner.

4-You don’t think about your previous relationship memories.

And when you do, you don’t feel like reminiscing over it. You shouldn’t feel bitter nor long for it. You should feel neutral when it crosses your mind, only NEUTRAL.

5- You don’t miss your ex-partner romantically

Yes, you might miss your partner occasionally especially if you used to be good friends, but if by any means you miss them “romantically,” then there’s something that doesn’t really add up and you shouldn’t be getting into a new relationship.

6- You feel neutral when dealing with your ex.

Some people think that hating someone means you’re over them. Well, that’s far from being true. Hating someone means you still care about them; if you’re really over the whole thing then you should be feeling neutral. You shouldn’t be angry or resentful anymore.

Hope these tips help you determine if you’re ready to step in a new relationship. However, what will make you even more certain is your gut feeling. If deep inside you feel it’s not a rebound,then it definitely isn’t.