Hello doctor, am nearing my delivery date. Its just countable days. Our marriage is love marriage. Just now my family accepted me. I came tobmy native. My husband was took care of me well. Some 5 months back he was changed becoz of his ex girl friend. Her family life is not satisfied. So she just started to speak with him. Later, it change as illegal love. After some days they both had fight. Now my husband become mad. He can't live without her messages and calls. He is not thinking about me. My family came to my home last week to take me native. That day morning he didn't even welcome my family members and he was spoke to that lady in video call. Am too depressed. My bp always increased in level. He is telling don't ever drag him here after. Also he is telling he won't come for delivery. Am so much worry about him. Still this second they both are speaking. She knows his psychology. So she is using him for her pleasure. She living in abroad. Doctor please advice me how to make him come over here.

Ms. Kriti VyasPsychologist7yrs exp

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Dear Lybrate user First of all, its important for you to take care of yourself and the baby inside your womb. Its important for you to be physically and mentally healthy. I totally understand that husband's support is very important at this time. But forcing him to come will not help you. Instead open communication will help. so give him time and space and talk to him when he is in a cool state of mind. You can also take help of someone close in your family who can talk to your husband. so that things could be sought out. As if now you try to get some rest and be mentally and physically healthy. you need read good books, have good food and spiritualism may also help you. Once after the delivery you may take out time and have open communication with him. Its important that you both clear your priorities, your husband need to understand that now he has greater responsibilities. But this can only happen when you are in cool and calm state and he should also be in state to listen. arguing and fighting wont help. Take Care 

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