I am passing through a very hard time. Recently I broke up my 2.5 years relation with my girlfriend. Her mother refused me. I tried my level based to patch up the matter. And I was not in a position to escape her as both of us were determined to marry after compromise from both family. 1 month ago I talked last time with her and we both realized the situation. She tried to contact with me but every time I refused. But recently she is getting close with one of my friend with home I used to study during M. Sc. 5/6 years back. And the matter known to me via fb friend. After listening the matter from that day I am feeling weak to her and repeatedly remembering our sweet memories. I am trying to get rid of this. My sleeping habit also changed and became short. Last night I blocked that friend in fb. My family is searching a girl to marry recently. I am having financial problem too as I am repairing my home to look better for marriage purpose. I listen to music, view movies. But major problem is that I stay alone far from my home due to job. I have been trying to forget everything but when some of friend ask about her I became very emotional and helpless. please suggest me some way so that I can pass this hard time.

Dr. Sushil Kumar S VPsychiatrist13yrs exp

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Good Afternoon ~ I understand your problems and although most of them are social problems in terms of your interpersonal relationships with your ex-girl friend's mother and her refusal to give her daughter's hand in marriage with you, a lot of it is also because of your ruminative thoughts regarding your friends and your relationship with others. The most important part of the whole issue is that it is affecting U and the way U think, feel and behave. It has become a debilitating illness for you. I am sure depression seems to be distressing for you and therefore you are having a hard time accepting the fact that you are unable to cope with the behavior of your friends. One thing is for sure - you have not let go although she has. And you should be doing the same. Moving on will give closure to your previous relationship and maybe open doors to new ones. I am able to help with prescription medications which will help with rapidly improving your mood and start thinking differently. Please pay and book an appointment so that I am able to prescribe medications for you based on your symptoms and condition which needs to be elaborated. Nevertheless, I stronly feel you should visit with a psychiatrist. Look forward to hearing from you. If you need help with booking an appointment online with me on this website either text, audio or video appointment for confidential and private consultation you may do so by contacting the help desk of Lybrate.  

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Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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I think that there were a lot of games played out with hti relationship and that is taking a toll. I feel tah egos may have got in between and messed up the show. I believe that it may not be too late to work out a reconciliation, if you did it right. Often when we play games, we may go the full monty without realising what we are doing and awaken to the nuances much later. However, if this is final, take all measures to get her out of yoru system by removing all reminders, and not visit places you went together in your good time. Keep a safe distance from the friends who used to be yoru circles too. Remove all associations of hers: gifts, notes, letters, cards, emails, and any reminders to get her out of your system, not just the mind. Keep the good memories but don’t indulge in them. Get back to your old pals and revive those contacts. Normally when we get a girlfriend, we drop all our friends and live exclusively with her. This is not a good thing to do, generally. So do get back to them and get into good social circles. They will help you get over her. Do not talk ill or malign your ex to your friends, whatever was the reason. That is unfortunately a very bad habit many of us have – we must still respect her reputation and treat her with dignity. If thoughts of her are still plaguing you, do meet up with a counselor and talk about your feelings, openly. 

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Dr. Ashok Koparday SexologistSexologist31yrs exp

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Breakdown is a chance for break through. Read stories of great people. Inspiring stories catapult change. Some people work intensely so that their mind is engaged in something productive, meaningful and give a sense of fulfillment. Keep a sentry to watch your thoughts. Politely tell, "Go away" to unwanted thoughts. Reading good books, engaging in hobby helps tide over sour patches of life. Best, 

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