Today I gone through with such a situation that I don't know how to react on that. One of my office friend her mother is suffering from breast cancer and she is under treatment from last 6 month approx. So every time I used to ask with my friend about her health n recovery whenever I meet her. My first question was always that ki wat is your mother whats going on. Wat doctors say etc. My friend she is also suffering from thyroid that too shared by her. Last Friday I met her in our office washrum. When she opened the door n enter inside the washroom I was standing we greet each other n I asked that wat going on your neck. Dere was some blackish spot. then I came closer to her that was a hair growth. Which was coming come. Earlier she also discussed about dat with me. Dat she is deciding to go with laser treatment for unwanted facial hair. But today she came n saying to me that I want to say something. Don't interfere in my personal life. I can understand your intention. Dat wat she said. I said wat I did. She said the way you said to my black spot I don't like. Every time you r saying something to me. Etc. Please help where I wrong.

Dr. Chayanika SarmaPsychiatrist10yrs exp

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Your friend is most likely undergoing lots of mental pressure. Her mother is suffering from breast cancer & she herself is not in good health. For a female, problem like abnormal hair growth in any parts of body, especially in visible parts is very stressful, difficult to accept & becomes a sentimental issue. Everything accumulating, your friend might be suffering from great emotional turmoil, with which maybe she is not able to cope with. Because of this she might have reacted the way she did today. The hair growth might be disturbing her so much that she does not want to talk about it, as more she remembers it her frustration grows more. So stay calm & try to understand the stress your friend is undergoing, putting yourself in her shoes. She may also have some misunderstanding regarding you or might have misinterpreted your concern. Deal with the situation patiently. Give time to your friend & do not linger the topic now by discussing about it further. When you meet her next time, greet her & just have routine talk without discussing anything. When she will calm down definitely she will think over it again. If it was a reaction to the stress she is undergoing, she will understand & assess this incident better when she calms down & then might talk to you about it. That time you talk your mind openly to her in a cool way & explain to her that you asked her out of concern as a well wisher & nothing else. If you now come to know that she is having some misunderstanding regarding you from either her behavior or through someone known, still do not react nor talk to her about it immediately. Let some days pass by & let the present situation calm down. After some days when she calms down & is at ease, have an open discussion with her. Initially start with a routine conversation & make her at ease. Then tell her that you wanted to discuss something with her if she does not mind. If she is relaxed & responds well, continue the conversation further & discuss this present incident. Explain to her that you asked out of concern only, & if she minds talking anything regarding her personal life, apologize honestly & assure her that you will respect her feeling & will never discuss such topics anymore. If while discussing, you find out that there were some misunderstanding, try to clear it. After discussing this serious topic, again switch back to some routine topic & ease the situation. After that politely take leave, putting an end to the conversation. Most problems have some solutions & every misunderstanding can be solved through healthy discussions. 

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