Boyfriend (31) and I (27) have been together for almost five year Then, on the other hand, we had a couple of fights/discussions where I started crying. The times I cried was when he hurt me a lot or because of�sadness�and desperation of the situation.� Every time I cried he didn't seem to care at all. His reactions are every time totally cold. completely ignoring my feelings. Sometimes he even lays down and falls asleep while I'm still crying. Or he sometimes reacts to my words and tears with even more anger and is being even meaner to me.�If I�imagine to see him crying, that would be the worst for me. I love him so much that I hate to see him in pain. I had past I have discussed every thing to him but still he makes comments on it. My mistake was my ex was working in company where I went for an interview and I didn't tell him bcs he was on vacation but I informed my parents bcs they knew abt my past and I am a girl who never conflict there professional and personal life.

Ms. Rachna KothariPsychologist14yrs exp

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I understand it is very upsetting when your beloved doesn't reciprocate in a loving way, especially when you're experiencing your lows in life. However, you need to know that just because we would respond in an x way when our partner is crying doesn't mean he 'must' respond in the same way! Many a times, men are known to be not so expressive and caring like women species. But that in no way means that he isn't concerned about you. May be he has other ways of expressing his concern. He might not be cold in real but this could be him, in reality. That's the way he probably is! Not sensitive and not emotional. But if this fact is taking a toll on you that he doesn't react appropriately when you cry or you're upset, tell him. Express it to him that you'd like him to console you, care for you and pay attention to you when you're upset. If he genuinely loves you, he wouldn't hesitate to change a little bit to put a smile on your face. Communication is the universal solvent. Well, abt your interview, you're justified from your perspective but probably not from your boyfriends viewpoint. He might be expecting you to share about your ex much before you went for the interview and that would have hurt him & he could be wondering why you had to hide the same from him if you'll share a committed loving relationship currently. So you need to clarify this with him & apologize if the need be. 

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