I really need solution please help, I am forcly married by my family before 6 months, I am months pregnant by my husband, my husband is not here his out of india now, my in laws and my husband are nice they don't give any trouble me but I love someone else since last 4 year and still continue the relationship because of cast issue we didn't marry, but now his joining office and his having affair with another girl and I am not handling the situation, I am trying to breakup with him but I can not forget him, I blocked him with every sides in my contact but still I can not stop thinking about him, I do not understand how can I forget all that things, I am just gonna mad and also feeling not well please help please I want to out of this relationship I want to stop I do not want to cheat on my husband but I can not getting out from him please any suggestion any medicine any think can get help me out of this please.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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There is no medicine that can help you in this matter. Let me tell you of a more disturbing concern: the more troubled you are, the more you are likely to disturb the well being of the unborn child. You need to feel calm and enjoy your pregnancy to the maximum to give that child a good foundation in life and feel welcome to this world. Now, regarding this person whom you still love. You need to meet a counselor or talk regularly to a friend who is highly reliable and trustworthy. This will slowly purge this boy out of your mind bit-by-bit every day. You say that your husband and in-laws are good people and that is a blessing for you. So, you must never step wrong with them in any way and indulge in this relationship even in the mind. It looks like you are pining for him after the marriage and especially because you loved him. But you are in a good family and with time you will be able to forget this fellow and love your husband well. There must be love, respect, commitment, honesty, trust, and freedom in the marriage. Since this marriage is final, then remove all associations of his: gifts, notes, letters, cards, emails, and any reminders to get him out of your system, not just the mind. Keep the good memories but don’t indulge in them. Get back to your old pals and revive those contacts. They will help you get over him. Devote a lot of time and affection towards the pregnancy and focus on good health both mentally and physically. You need to be gainfully occupied to keep your mind engaged with interesting activities. 

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