I've muscular dystrophy (means limited movements). I've a loving girlfriend and a wonderful life. We had good sexual life too. Everything ws going fine bt since few months my gf has started denying to hv sex. She doesn't wnt to leave me, not even hs any interest in someone else. But she always try to stay away from any type of conversation on sex. Even she stops me touching her. She got angry. Our relationship is in great danger. I become helpless. I can't help going close to her. I know she loves me a lot. I don't want to let her go. But what (sex) has already been done between us, it makes me feel bad when she denies any type of sexual favour. I've tried a lot to persuade her but in vain. She loves me, she truly devoted to me but only one thing (sex) is destroying our lives. What should I do. I'm scared. please do help me.

Dr. Saul PereiraPsychologist46yrs exp

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How has the muscular dystrophy limited your movements? This could throw some light as to what could be troubling her GF. Because of this physical impairment she may have gone off of sex and is not as interested in it as before. Any way you must have a talk to her and be very frank. However, I wonder if your interest in her is too much focussed on the sexual and that may put her off too. Girls want to be loved for various reasons and do not like the focus on sex alone. When you get talking to her she may reveal the truth that can help you understand her and love her for other reasons too. If she loves you, as you say, do not jeopardise that situation by making undue demands. It may also happen that since you are physically 'handicapped' (I am just assuming having no proper information) you may fear that if it gets worse you may not be able to have sex at all and may be rushing sex because of that!!! You should meet with a counselor in that case and sort out your fears. Since this girl sounds like a fine person, treat her with a lot of respect. love, concern, and put no pressure on her. Communicate with ehr and see if you can identify reasons and give them all the respect, if they are reasonable. 

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